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Simple question: Should I go to this party that's on friday?

Big problem: Brother is graduating from college the next day.

Therefore, I can't get wasted.. buzzed.. but not wasted..

The party is a prom party so it's going to be down the breaker (http://coalregion.com/Speak/speakB.htm) so it's not going to get busted and what not.. But, if I go I have to be home before 3am so I can get some sleep for the next day. I have to be up for 5am so I can get ready and go to the college.

Well anyway.. should I go? Or just stay home and post whore here?

I don't see why you can't do both, as long as you keep track of the time later on and you're responsible about how loaded you get at the party (which you should be doing anyway).

Have fun and drink plenty of water.

Well anyway.. should I go? Or just stay home and post whore here?
Yes.
:D

But, if I go I have to be home before 3am so I can get some sleep for the next day. I have to be up for 5am so I can get ready and go to the college.

That doesn't make much sense. You'll get what, 90 minutes tops. That's just going to leave you feeling even shittier than before. Go and stay out all night is what I say.

Your brother will graduate once in his life (if it means what i think it does) whereas there will be thousands (literally) of possibilities to party.
Do the responsible thing and stay home to be able to give your brother the respect he deserves.
Then party the following night.

Whether you understand or not your brother graduating college is magnificent moment for him. Your participation in that moment is out of respect and honor for his moment. This isn't a birthday that will happen again next year so you can make it up to him, it is once in his life.

Of course if you don't care about your brother, party on!

That doesn't make much sense. You'll get what, 90 minutes tops. That's just going to leave you feeling even shittier than before. Go and stay out all night is what I say.
Agreed. As long as you don't turn up to his Graduation drunk/stoned, no worries.

It would be interseting to know if the people posting here have graduated or not. This may affect their perspective on the importance of the act.

I have graduated.

It would be interseting to know if the people posting here have graduated or not. This may affect their perspective on the importance of the act.

I have graduated.
I'm a year from graduating. Actually, when you put it that way I question my previous answer.

Your brother will graduate once in his life (if it means what i think it does) whereas there will be thousands (literally) of possibilities to party.
Do the responsible thing and stay home to be able to give your brother the respect he deserves.
Then party the following night.
I agree... BTW, is it common in the West for family members to attend graduation from college and not from school? I graduated from university in 2001 and, well, I wouldnt've liked if my family had seen me in the morning after the graduation party, ambing around the Kremlin with my friends, a bottle of wine in my hand and traces of a piece of cake upon my back...

I say go, as long as you think you can keep sober enough to realise when you should go home.

I agree... BTW, is it common in the West for family members to attend graduation from college and not from school? I graduated from university in 2001 and, well, I wouldnt've liked if my family had seen me in the morning after the graduation party, ambing around the Kremlin with my friends, a bottle of wine in my hand and traces of a piece of cake upon my back...
It's common for family members to attend graduation ceremonies for both university and secondary school. In some U.S. families, relatives will travel a considerable distance to be there for a university graduation.

I agree... BTW, is it common in the West for family members to attend graduation from college and not from school? I graduated from university in 2001 and, well, I wouldnt've liked if my family had seen me in the morning after the graduation party, ambing around the Kremlin with my friends, a bottle of wine in my hand and traces of a piece of cake upon my back...

Normal for universities, in the UK, is for the parties and debauchery to happen between the results being announced and the graduation ceremony. The ceremony itself is normally a highly formal event - on a par with weddings and funerals - that is attended by the entire family.

I say go, as long as you think you can keep sober enough to realise when you should go home.
I was thinking six beers is my max intake, maybe a lil weed too..

Normal for universities, in the UK, is for the parties and debauchery to happen between the results being announced and the graduation ceremony. The ceremony itself is normally a highly formal event - on a par with weddings and funerals - that is attended by the entire family.
I see. Our graduation ceremony slipped into a wild celebration quite smoothly...

I was thinking six beers is my max intake, maybe a lil weed too..

Not good thinking. This is a once only occasion. Don't screw up.

Not good thinking. This is a once only occasion. Don't screw up.

But one-time-only events are the most fun to screw up!

In twenty years, nobody'll be going "hey, remember that random thursday that got screwed up?" But, "hey, remember when lil' Ruffi screwed up his brother's graduation? Damn that was funny as hell" is the kind of thing that can, should and will be said

Not good thinking. This is a once only occasion. Don't screw up.
I know where you're coming from, and I agree. But, if I *could* get to the party, drink a few beers (6 and I'm still able to think properly), sit there and talk and sober up a bit, then come home sleep it off.. would I still be doing the wrong thing?

I would stay home, stay sober and not high, out of respect for your brother.

Dude, live your own life.

Your brother's is up to him.

I would stay home, stay sober and not high, out of respect for your brother.

But, Il Ruffino, do you actually respect your brother?

Go sober to your brother's graduation, only getting drunk on pride of his accomplishments. then both of you party hardy after. WHA WHO!

Dude, live your own life.

Your brother's is up to him.

Yea but comon, it still would be nice for him to show up at his brother's graduation sober and clean.

Yea but comon, it still would be nice for him to show up at his brother's graduation sober and clean.

You're assuming he can't do both. Party a little and show up sober enough to slap his brother on the back and say 'well done'.

only getting drunk on pride of his accomplishments.

Anyone else feel a little nauseous when they read that line? :p

But, Il Ruffino, do you actually respect your brother?
Of course. Why would I question going to the party if I didn't?

You're assuming he can't do both. Party a little and show up sober enough to slap his brother on the back and say 'well done'.
Exactly

Of course. Why would I question going to the party if I didn't?

It didn't have to be about respect. I was just wondering.

I still say that there's no problem with you going to the party, if you can keep it together for the next day.

Yea, but a piece of self control goes away with ever can, or cup, or bottle of beer you drink. You may go in intending to only drink six beer. But by the fifth, you decide to get three more and so on and so on.

Anyone else feel a little nauseous when they read that line? :p
*raises hand*

:p

Yea, but a piece of self control goes away with ever can, or cup, or bottle of beer you drink. You may go in intending to only drink six beer. But by the fifth, you decide to get three more and so on and so on.
Meh.. I think I can keep control with six.

Your brother will graduate once in his life (if it means what i think it does) whereas there will be thousands (literally) of possibilities to party.
Do the responsible thing and stay home to be able to give your brother the respect he deserves.
Then party the following night.
i agree. but then there'll only be one prom party for your year (i guess - thats how it is in the UK at least) so you don't want to miss that either. i say go but don't drink and leave early, at least so you've been, and can still make the graduation thingy next day no problems :)

if you're anything like me drinking is an either-or affair: either you get toattly shifaced and ratarsed, or you don't drink at all. through experience i wouldn't trust myself to only have a few (or get "just buzzed") so by some twist of crazy logic, neither should you :P

*shoves Vodka at Ruffy*

Go, don't get too drunk is all. Well, indulge in one or the other. Only. Else you won't have a fine head for the next morning...

Youve got to grow up sometime, and being an adult is about responsibility. You cant let your friends down, or yourself, or your brother. THerefore the only thing to do is to go to the party and not even go to bed. just drink shitloads of redbull and pray.

Go get smashed. Absolutely wrecked. In fact, show up for your brothers grad thing wasted. He'll understand, in fact he'll probably thank you for providing to everyone a demonstration of the aftermath of the average collage party. Besides, it's collage, not like this is the greatest moment in his life (I can think of many things greater than collage, ie. becoming a father - don't show up wrecked for that). Hundreds of thousands of people around the world graduate from collage, university, school every year, might as well make your brothers one to remember (for everyone else, chances are you won't).

I think you can go to the party and not get hammered so you can be there for your brother. I'm sure you can show some self-restraint Ruffy, no matter what other people may say. ;)

And 5am? How far away is the college? :eek:

I say save your strength and party with your bro on Saturday night. Or at least take care not to be too tired/hung-over to go. There is always the option to go to the party and not drink, too.