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Love Trouble

Hniz
27-04-2006, 22:02
There's this girl at my school who I think is kind of into me. She shows she likes me all the time (rubbing against my leg with hers, back rubs, resting her head on my shoulder, etc. etc.), but the thing is she kind of does this with other people too, but not nearly as much with me.

Also, she's a senior and I'm a freshman (high school), and I believe she's going to college somewhere very far away.

The thing is, I'm absolutely crazy about her, and I don't think this is "puppy love."

Any advice? Please expand on what you decide in the poll, or if you have a different opinion.

And please be serious. I came here for help, not comic relief.
Megaloria
27-04-2006, 22:02
She's a big flirt. Pay it no mind.
Kyronea
27-04-2006, 22:04
There's this girl at my school who I think is kind of into me. She shows she likes me all the time (rubbing against my leg with hers, back rubs, resting her head on my shoulder, etc. etc.), but the thing is she kind of does this with other people too, but not nearly as much with me.

Also, she's a senior and I'm a freshman (high school), and I believe she's going to college somewhere very far away.

The thing is, I'm absolutely crazy about her, and I don't think this is "puppy love."

Any advice? Please expand on what you decide in the poll, or if you have a different opinion.

And please be serious. I came here for help, not comic relief.
I think you should go after her and have a passionate, steamy two month romance till she moves, then forget about her for the rest of your life, except when you talk to your grandkids, then you can mention her as "the one that got away."
Smunkeeville
27-04-2006, 22:05
meh, go after her in a nonthreatening, non stalker like way.

although, some people are "touchy feely" for no reason, she could be one of those.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 22:06
although, some people are "touchy feely" for no reason, she could be one of those.

I agree. That's exactly what I'm worried about.
Nadkor
27-04-2006, 22:09
There's this girl at my school who I think is kind of into me. She shows she likes me all the time (rubbing against my leg with hers, back rubs, resting her head on my shoulder, etc. etc.), but the thing is she kind of does this with other people too, but not nearly as much with me.

Also, she's a senior and I'm a freshman (high school)
What does this mean? What ages?
Smunkeeville
27-04-2006, 22:10
I agree. That's exactly what I'm worried about.
why? if you make a fool of yourself she is going to college far far away and you won't have to see her again.

Besides you are a freshman, which means you have 3 more years to bounce back, and even if you don't then you can go to college far far away.

nothing to fear, nothing at all.

just something to be aware of. :)
Smunkeeville
27-04-2006, 22:11
What does this mean? What ages?
freshman 14ish, senior 18ish
IL Ruffino
27-04-2006, 22:13
Become an EMO and carve her name in your arm.. or something..
Nadkor
27-04-2006, 22:14
freshman 14ish, senior 18ish
Ah, ok, thanks. :)

You're 14 and she's 18? Seems like a long shot to me.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 22:16
No no no. I'm 15, she's 17.

And Ruffino, sarcastic comments aren't needed dude.

Smunkee, I agree with you again, I've thought about that too.
IL Ruffino
27-04-2006, 22:22
And Ruffino, sarcastic comments aren't needed dude.
Gah, no respect.

I'll give you my thoughts; either go up to her and ask her if she wants to hang out some time.. or be lazy like me and just.. can't be arsed to finish that..

I say don't go for it.. why try when you only have such little time? It's just high school mushy-mushy..
Lord Hollingsworth
27-04-2006, 22:35
go for her you never know who will be the right one till you ask. I should know im 17 and engaged.
Smunkeeville
27-04-2006, 22:36
go for her you never know who will be the right one till you ask. I should know im 17 and engaged.
eww....... why the heck would you get engaged at 17?!
Bearded_sevie
27-04-2006, 22:37
you should go after her, and get her into bed. Then, when she does move, forget her, except for some great stories for prosterity.:cool:
IL Ruffino
27-04-2006, 22:40
eww....... why the heck would you get engaged at 17?!
Because it's true love!.. that won't last..
Tarayshia
27-04-2006, 22:42
Bearded_sevie, that's a real dick thing to say..if this guy has any kind of respect for her and himself he won't listen to you.
LeidenschaftlicheLiebe
27-04-2006, 22:45
I agree. That's exactly what I'm worried about.
um, that shouldn't matter to you if you are crazy about her!!!!!!!!!


Gosh people are so dense sometimes......:rolleyes:
Hedolisam
27-04-2006, 22:45
You never know if you don't try, and you've not much to lsoe by tryign have you?

And whatever happens you'll be better prepared for next time, experience = skill increase weather you win or lose.
Tarayshia
27-04-2006, 22:46
I say to try and give it a chance..you never know what will happen. I once had a long distance relationship with someone in michigan and I'm in Pennsylvania. We stayed together for about 2 years..then I met someone down in my state and we've been together for 2 in a half years.
I'm telling you that cause if you do decide to go with the long distance thing, it's a risk you take..
However the bigger risk is never knowing what could've been and always wondering what if.
LeidenschaftlicheLiebe
27-04-2006, 22:49
eww....... why the heck would you get engaged at 17?!
there is NOTHING "ew" about it.
If you truly love the person you shouldn't wait a whole life time... You aren't promised your next breath. Live your life to the fullest....
Dinaverg
27-04-2006, 22:49
remotely familiar...

Anyways, I'd imagine go for it...but...When you're around her, do you really spend a lot of time thinking about the fact she'll be going away soon?
German Nightmare
27-04-2006, 22:51
Give it a try. Go after her in a friendly way - who know's what's gonna happen?
And if nothing comes out of it - so what!
Just have a good time as long as it lasts, highschool is over quicker than you think.
I could tell you stories when I was a senior... which I... better keep to myself! :p

Anyway, give it a shot. Who knows, maybe she thinks you're cute - some really like that :D
Powster
27-04-2006, 22:52
go for her you never know who will be the right one till you ask. I should know im 17 and engaged.

Almost every (the "almost" is ONE) couple that I know that married before 20 is divorced now. I'm not trying to be patronizing (I'm only 18) but I know that people change a lot between 18 and 25. I just don't think it's a good idea to get married so soon - why can't you guys just date seriously for several years before making that giant committment leap?
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 22:55
I know a girl kinda like that, pretty touchy feely. She's pretty odd though, she claims she gets turned on by the sound of cars/motorbike/anything with a powerful engine revving. She's a bit of a slut too.
Frangland
27-04-2006, 22:55
well you can forget about her actually telling you if the body english is indicative of her obsession with you, or if it's by chance that she bumps into you... something in the wiring of Female Homo-sapiens prevents her from actually ever telling you how she feels.. at least until you're actually in the relationship. Then she won't shut up. hehe


And if you ask, and the answer is, "Ugh, i'm just clumsy," you end up looking like a knob.

in the end, you'll probably have to initiate the romance, if there is to be one.

IF she and her friends sit together at lunch... bring some chocolate over there or something. Share with all of them.

a) If she does like you, her face will light up for the chocolate. Make sure you have a wing-man around to stare at her, to tell you if she keeps glancing up at you.... if she does, you're in good shape -- she will have gotten the intended message from the chocolate-sharing.

b) Many women tend to value the opinions of their friends. Every guy in the world (well most, probably) can tell you a story about a time at a bar/club when he was getting along great with a girl, only to be spurned by a negative opinion from one of her friends. And we hate that, don't we, guys? (It's usually the ugly friend who messes everything up, hehe). Chocolate might help get her friends on your side.

in the end, it's a guess, and you'll very likely have to initiate the proceedings.

Good luck.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 22:56
Jeez, 12-2 (I voted no just to see the results). I guess I have my answer.

But that means another complication. Although I'm not exactly the obedient type anyway, my parents would never let me date a senior because, well...they think all they do is this: :fluffle: And since I don't have my driver's license yet, and I don't have any older siblings, I don't know how I would meet her sometime.
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 22:57
Almost every (the "almost" is ONE) couple that I know that married before 20 is divorced now. I'm not trying to be patronizing (I'm only 18) but I know that people change a lot between 18 and 25. I just don't think it's a good idea to get married so soon - why can't you guys just date seriously for several years before making that giant committment leap?
And besides, marraige is only a piece of paper and maybe a few tax benefits. Other than that it's just an excuse for a party and having sex every year after that date.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 22:59
IF she and her friends sit together at lunch... bring some chocolate over there or something. Share with all of them.

a) If she does like you, her face will light up for the chocolate. Make sure you have a wing-man around to stare at her, to tell you if she keeps glancing up at you.... if she does, you're in good shape -- she will have gotten the intended message from the chocolate-sharing.

b) Many women tend to value the opinions of their friends. Every guy in the world (well most, probably) can tell you a story about a time at a bar/club when he was getting along great with a girl, only to be spurned by a negative opinion from one of her friends. And we hate that, don't we, guys? (It's usually the ugly friend who messes everything up, hehe). Chocolate might help get her friends on your side.

in the end, it's a guess, and you'll very likely have to initiate the proceedings.

Good luck.

Hot damn. I might actually try that. Sounds crazy enough anyway.

And congrats on 3000 posts Ifrean!
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 23:00
Jeez, 12-2 (I voted no just to see the results). I guess I have my answer.

But that means another complication. Although I'm not exactly the obedient type anyway, my parents would never let me date a senior because, well...they think all they do is this: :fluffle: And since I don't have my driver's license yet, and I don't have any older siblings, I don't know how I would meet her sometime.
Well the solution is not to tell your parents. She can just be the group of friends that you hang out with sometimes in their eyes. Meeting her would be a complication, but you might be able to get a lift with your parents to some place and arrange to meet her at that time and a place a little way off or that place a few minutes after you arrive and your parent/s leave.

Oh, and by the way, there's an option to view the results without voting.
IL Ruffino
27-04-2006, 23:00
And besides, marraige is only a piece of paper and maybe a few tax benefits. Other than that it's just an excuse for a party and having sex every year after that date.
We still have birthdays and fridays!
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 23:04
b) Many women tend to value the opinions of their friends. Every guy in the world (well most, probably) can tell you a story about a time at a bar/club when he was getting along great with a girl, only to be spurned by a negative opinion from one of her friends. And we hate that, don't we, guys? (It's usually the ugly friend who messes everything up, hehe). Chocolate might help get her friends on your side.
Oh how I hate that. Worse than being cock blocked from some random girl in a bar or club, my girlfriend dumped me because of negative opinions from her friends.

And I agree, chocolate is probably one of the best ways to a girl's heart/pants. Which ever interests you more ;)
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:04
I think I'm gonna try the chocolate thing tomorrow.

Thanks for the advice guys. I really appreciate it. (Please do post some more though, if you like)

And yeah, I kinda want both her heart and pants, lol. She is pretty hot actually.
Iztatepopotla
27-04-2006, 23:05
She kind of likes you but not that way. Don't pursue her just say something like "if you only were two years younger..." and if she comes after you, fine, but I don't think she will.

Other than that: it's puppy love. And why are people so fixated on "true love"? If I had married everybody who I've truly loved I'd be in my sixth marriage.
German Nightmare
27-04-2006, 23:05
I know a girl kinda like that, pretty touchy feely. She's pretty odd though, she claims she gets turned on by the sound of cars/motorbike/anything with a powerful engine revving. She's a bit of a slut too.
You should take her to the next Monster truck show :D
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 23:05
We still have birthdays and fridays!
Birthdays, fridays, christmas, valentines, wedding anniversary, day you met anniversary, first date anniversary, first sex anniversary. Why not make things simpler and just do it every night/morning/afternoon/evening/all of the above?
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:06
Other than that: it's puppy love. And why are people so fixated on "true love"? If I had married everybody who I've truly loved I'd be in my sixth marriage.

Oh no, I have had puppy love, plenty of times (by plenty, I mean like 30). I've never felt the way I do about her yet.
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 23:07
You should take her to the next Monster truck show :D
Nah, she'd probably run down and start humping the drivers, or anyone in the vicinity of them. Or possibly just the truck itself. Now if I were to drive up to her house in a monster truck......
Dinaverg
27-04-2006, 23:07
She kind of likes you but not that way. Don't pursue her just say something like "if you only were two years younger..." and if she comes after you, fine, but I don't think she will.

Other than that: it's puppy love. And why are people so fixated on "true love"? If I had married everybody who I've truly loved I'd be in my sixth marriage.

I'd have seven, with about three or four simultaeneously.
Iztatepopotla
27-04-2006, 23:08
Oh no, I have had puppy love, plenty of times (by plenty, I mean like 30). I've never felt the way I do about her yet.
Did it hit you fast? Do you find yourself thinking about her for no reason at all? Do you wish she was there right now?
German Nightmare
27-04-2006, 23:10
Jeez, 12-2 (I voted no just to see the results). I guess I have my answer.
I'd say!

But that means another complication. Although I'm not exactly the obedient type anyway, my parents would never let me date a senior because, well...they think all they do is this: :fluffle: And since I don't have my driver's license yet, and I don't have any older siblings, I don't know how I would meet her sometime.
First things first. There is always a way. Don't tell me that you wouldn't need any tutering from her? Math maybe?
She picks you up and both of you spend the money your parents pay her for extra help on movie tickets :D
Frangland
27-04-2006, 23:10
Hot damn. I might actually try that. Sounds crazy enough anyway.

And congrats on 3000 posts Ifrean!

if you're serious:

get up from your table with the chocolate... sort of look around, walk around aimlessly, pretending to be looking for someone to share it with. Then as you're about, oh, 15-20 feet from her table, act surprised, raise your eyebrows, glance at her AND HER FRIENDS (cannot leave them out! they're incredibly important to your chances of success), and say something like... well say something like, "Hey, you guys want some?" (or however you'd phrase that, according to your lexicon -- the words people use in your hometown/country and age group).
An archy
27-04-2006, 23:14
Here's what I think you should do.

First, look around for other girls you think you kind of like. Obviously, she is the epitime of your idea of attractiveness (for now), but that doesn't mean that there are not other girls that you kind of like as well.

Second, ask her out to a sort of psuedo date thingie. Nothing really formal, that could easily scare her off.

Thirdly, ask her out to more formal dates as time progresses.

(The previous two options have a potential for failure. This potential is what causes guys to get nervous aroung girls they like. But remember this, as a young guy, you probably underestimate any signal of attraction that a girl gives to you. You very well might have a better chance than you realize; as long you take things slowly.)

Fourthly, if she does reject you, your first step should ease the pain considerably. It will remind you that there are other girls out there that you, at least, have the potential to be attracted to.
Frangland
27-04-2006, 23:18
Here's what I think you should do.

First, look around for other girls you think you kind of like. Obviously, she is the epitime of your idea of attractiveness (for now), but that doesn't mean that there are not other girls that you kind of like as well.

Second, ask her out to a sort of psuedo date thingie. Nothing really formal, that could easily scare her off.

Thirdly, ask her out to more formal dates as time progresses.

(The previous two options have a potential for failure. This potential is what causes guys to get nervous aroung girls they like. But remember this, as a young guy, you probably underestimate any signal of attraction that a girl gives to you. You very well might have a better chance than you realize; as long you take things slowly.)

Fourthly, if she does reject you, your first step should ease the pain considerably. It will remind you that there are other girls out there that you, at least, have the potential to be attracted to.

insert the chocolate-sharing exercise between steps 1 and 2.

If she likes you, talking to other girls might make her jealous... and she'll be receptive to the chocolate and what it really represents: your favor.

The chocolate might alert her to your intentions, which will sort of prepare her for going out on the pseudo-date (step two) with her. If she says "yes" to that... the rest should take care of itself. After that, just don't F it up. hehe
German Nightmare
27-04-2006, 23:18
if you're serious:

get up from your table with the chocolate... sort of look around, walk around aimlessly, pretending to be looking for someone to share it with. Then as you're about, oh, 15-20 feet from her table, act surprised, raise your eyebrows, glance at her AND HER FRIENDS (cannot leave them out! they're incredibly important to your chances of success), and say something like... well say something like, "Hey, you guys want some?" (or however you'd phrase that, according to your lexicon -- the words people use in your hometown/country and age group).

Hey, you guys want some?!? Hehehe, and I thought he should offer the chocolates first before the http://flamevault.com/~meeks/emoticons/Kissing.gif
IL Ruffino
27-04-2006, 23:18
Birthdays, fridays, christmas, valentines, wedding anniversary, day you met anniversary, first date anniversary, first sex anniversary. Why not make things simpler and just do it every night/morning/afternoon/evening/all of the above?
Wait.. why even use a reason?

*smokes a joint*

LETS PARTY!
Frangland
27-04-2006, 23:20
Hey, you guys want some?!? Hehehe, and I thought he should offer the chocolates first before the http://flamevault.com/~meeks/emoticons/Kissing.gif

(Guinness guys) BRILLIANT!
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:22
Did it hit you fast? Do you find yourself thinking about her for no reason at all? Do you wish she was there right now?

Yes, all of those.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:23
Hey hey hey, guys...please. This is my love crisis here, lol.
Frangland
27-04-2006, 23:25
1. Talk to other girls (make her jealous if she's interested)

2. Chocolate-sharing exercise during lunch

3. Assuming the chocloate thing goes okay, ask her to go out with you and some of her (and your) friends.

4. If that works... ask her out on a real date. Give her a rose (you pick the color) when you pick her up, and make sure that you:

a) Look decent -- wear some nice clothes.

and

b) Give her plenty of time -- at least several days. For instance, you might ask her out on Monday for a Friday or Saturday date.
German Nightmare
27-04-2006, 23:27
Hey hey hey, guys...please. This is my love crisis here, lol.
It's not a crisis, man! It's an opportunity for you.
After all, if nothing works out, you've had some practice and spent some time with us :)
Dinaverg
27-04-2006, 23:31
Hey hey hey, guys...please. This is my love crisis here, lol.

I'm still wondering, do you think about the fact she's going away a lot around her, or only at other times?
Ifreann
27-04-2006, 23:39
1. Talk to other girls (make her jealous if she's interested)

2. Chocolate-sharing exercise during lunch

3. Assuming the chocloate thing goes okay, ask her to go out with you and some of her (and your) friends.

4. If that works... ask her out on a real date. Give her a rose (you pick the color) when you pick her up, and make sure that you:

a) Look decent -- wear some nice clothes.

and

b) Give her plenty of time -- at least several days. For instance, you might ask her out on Monday for a Friday or Saturday date.

Making her jealous could be a bit risky. And the rose might be coming on a bit strong, but I leave it up to Hniz's judgement, he knows her after all.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:39
Only at other times I think about her going away.
Dinaverg
27-04-2006, 23:42
Only at other times I think about her going away.

Ah, thought so. I say go for it then. The advice given so far sounds good, and yeah, the freinds are very important.
Frangland
27-04-2006, 23:47
Making her jealous could be a bit risky. And the rose might be coming on a bit strong, but I leave it up to Hniz's judgement, he knows her after all.

well i mean he shouldn't be groping them in the hallways.. hehe

As for the rose, that's assuming the pseudo-date thing went well... and he's talked to her in the time between the pseudo-date and the real thing.

maybe third date.... just depends on how into it she seems. IF she makes a big deal of the date, the rose would be a nice touch.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:56
Thanks guys, you've really encouraged me. I'm def trying the chocolate thing tomorrow.
Hniz
27-04-2006, 23:59
Thanks guys, you've really encouraged me. I'm def trying the chocolate thing tomorrow.

Actually, something just came to mind.

Last week, there was a 12 pack of Mountain Dew in the Lost N Found, so I..."found" it, lol. I gave some to everyone around me, and she did, as the chocolate advice said, beam at me.

I can't believe I didn't think of this earlier.
Frangland
28-04-2006, 00:00
Thanks guys, you've really encouraged me. I'm def trying the chocolate thing tomorrow.

make sure it's a box of chocolates, not a single candy bar -- she wouldn't be impressed with your fingerprints smeared all over her chocolate. hehe
Dinaverg
28-04-2006, 00:02
make sure it's a box of chocolates, not a single candy bar -- she wouldn't be impressed with your fingerprints smeared all over her chocolate. hehe

Or Pocky. Pocky is good.
Hniz
28-04-2006, 00:03
Pocky?
Dinaverg
28-04-2006, 00:06
Pocky?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pocky
http://www.glico.co.jp/pocky/images/noframe.jpg
Hniz
28-04-2006, 00:11
Interesting...I might try that...
Hniz
28-04-2006, 00:16
Well, my mom isn't going by a Wal-Mart if I want to try pocky til tomorrow, so I'll have to wait for Monday *sigh*.

I could still try chocolate. But I have a question about that. So I absolutely have to get a box of chocolates? I mean, wouldn't a big bar with that breakable pieces work?
Dinaverg
28-04-2006, 00:21
Well, my mom isn't going by a Wal-Mart if I want to try pocky til tomorrow, so I'll have to wait for Monday *sigh*.

I could still try chocolate. But I have a question about that. So I absolutely have to get a box of chocolates? I mean, wouldn't a big bar with that breakable pieces work?

Well, unless your fingers and/or the chocolate is really cold, let her break it...
Hniz
28-04-2006, 00:53
I have one final question.

If I asked her out to a movie with a couple of my friends (like 2), and we sat next to each other, would she care my friends were there? I mean, I kind of want to ask her out without just coming up to her and saying "Let's go out."
Nadkor
28-04-2006, 01:09
I have one final question.

If I asked her out to a movie with a couple of my friends (like 2), and we sat next to each other, would she care my friends were there? I mean, I kind of want to ask her out without just coming up to her and saying "Let's go out."
Ask her if her and a couple of her friends want to go see a movie with you and a couple of your friends. Pick a good movie for the occassion, and engineer it so you sit beside her.
Dinaverg
28-04-2006, 01:15
Ask her if her and a couple of her friends want to go see a movie with you and a couple of your friends. Pick a good movie for the occassion, and engineer it so you sit beside her.

Hmm....Yeah...Listen to Nadkor on this one.
Iztatepopotla
28-04-2006, 01:27
Yes, all of those.
See? Puppy love. Improved with hormones :D
Iztatepopotla
28-04-2006, 01:31
Making her jealous could be a bit risky. And the rose might be coming on a bit strong, but I leave it up to Hniz's judgement, he knows her after all.
I agree with the rose thing, may be too much. When asking her for a date don't tell her "would you like to go out with me?" Say "I'm going to X on Saturday, wanna go?" And if she says no (which she is totally entitled to) just say "ok, I'll tell you how it went on Monday". Then go and do something cool on Saturday.
Katzistanza
28-04-2006, 01:57
there is NOTHING "ew" about it.
If you truly love the person you shouldn't wait a whole life time... You aren't promised your next breath. Live your life to the fullest....

I'm also with the girl I'm ganna marry (I'm 19, but we started dating when I was 17). Here's the thing, even though I know I'm ganna merry her, we also bth realise we're 18 and 19, respectivly. The fact is, you never know what's ganna happen in a few years, especially those years. So we've agreed that we're ganna get merried at some point after we both graduate from college.
Merrage is just a legal arrangment, you don't *need* it to be in the same kind of relationship. Also, you have to remeber that it is an legal arrangement, which is something most 17 year olds don't need. If you bring merrage into it now, it'll be all that much more messier in 2 or 3 years of, by some magic fluke, the feeling just dies, or you or her/him decides that they wanna see what else is out there. Or whatever. Like I said, you never know, even if you think you do, and you don't need legal entanglements mucking shit up, either way.



Now, to the origonal poster:

Oh no, I have had puppy love, plenty of times (by plenty, I mean like 30). I've never felt the way I do about her yet.

Yes, all of those.


First off, I say go for it. You'll feel better about yourself, and it'll make it easyer next time. Plus, if she's into you, you'll have a great time. Now I'm ganna give you some advice that, if you listen, will help you immensisly:

You're 15, it's high school. Now, you're not ganna find your true love, but you will be feeling some very intense feelings. Love is ganna beat the shit out of you a few times before you graduate, and much beyond. What'll help you the most is to remember that you are young, it'll all be different in 6 months or a year, and above all: Don't take it to seriously. That's not to say deny what you feel, you'll be hurting and longing and enjoying and all that for real, but you can't take it to seriously. Just remember that.

I'd say you have a mad crush on this girl. Just remeber, it ain't love, it probably won't become love.

So yea, to recap:

love will hurt

don't take it to seriously, you're young, remember that

go for it when you want to, but uncertainty is holding you back. Trust me, it is MUCH better to regret something you did do then something you didn't. Plus, lack of closer on strong feelings tends to make them fester. Which really, really sucks.
Terrorist Cakes
28-04-2006, 02:10
Last time I developed a crush based on a guy rubbing my back, etc. a little more than he did it to other people, he ended up being gay. We're friends now, but it was a little upsetting when he told me.
Physical contact is not always equivelent with romantic feelings.
Langwell
28-04-2006, 02:12
Absolute not. She must be one of "THOSE". I knew a girl like that. Trust me, it sucks.
Penguin Sodomy
28-04-2006, 02:18
the choice seems odvious to me... ur gonna have to put her down im sorry :sniper:
Langwell
28-04-2006, 02:20
Besides, if she's the sort of person who's going to college rather than university, you probably don't want to hang out with her anyway.
Oriadeth
28-04-2006, 02:22
Forget about her. It's just male horomones.
Hniz
28-04-2006, 02:24
Once again guys, I can't thank you enough for all the advice I've taken in. I honestly, really do appreciate it.

I'll let you guys know what happens next. :)
Katzistanza
28-04-2006, 02:25
Once again guys, I can't thank you enough for all the advice I've taken in. I honestly, really do appreciate it.

I'll let you guys know what happens next. :)

Dammit young'in, you heed ma' words! ::shakes cane::




:)
Kulikovo
28-04-2006, 02:26
I was in a similar situation. Except the girl was in my grade. She was a big flirt, did all that stuff you said that girl does. She did it to most guys, although toned down a bit. I was smitten with her and we went out. It was a good time. Sadly, it only lasted for over two months. Though, I enjoyed the time we spent together. I'm friends with her still. These tiypes of relationships burn out quickly but are sometimes worth it. I still have a place for her in my heart, which may never go away.
Iztatepopotla
28-04-2006, 02:27
Last time I developed a crush based on a guy rubbing my back, etc. a little more than he did it to other people, he ended up being gay. We're friends now, but it was a little upsetting when he told me.
Physical contact is not always equivelent with romantic feelings.
I can rub your back ;)

But then I'd probably go to jail :(

That's why I always ask the age first. And ask for ID, the cops don't seem to believe the "she told me she was 18" bit.
Greater Gekkonidae
28-04-2006, 02:33
Langwell, not sure where you're from, but in America, the words college and university are pretty much interchangeable.
Langwell
28-04-2006, 02:37
Langwell, not sure where you're from, but in America, the words college and university are pretty much interchangeable.

Toronto Canada, not exactly distant, eh?
Greater Gekkonidae
28-04-2006, 02:44
Toronto Canada, not exactly distant, eh?

Haha, guess not. But still, no one makes an effort here to differentiate between college and university. After high school, you go off to college, even it's University of Texas. Then again, I have no idea what country Hniz is in...
Hniz
28-04-2006, 03:15
I live in Sweet Home Alabama.
Katzistanza
28-04-2006, 04:51
I can rub your back ;)

But then I'd probably go to jail :(

That's why I always ask the age first. And ask for ID, the cops don't seem to believe the "she told me she was 18" bit.

Yea, being threatened with statutory rape is not fun. Especially when it's by the girl's angry father who runs the Secret Service training school.


I live in Sweet Home Alabama.

Quick question, are there many abondoned buildings in Alabama? In the cities? In the rual areas?
Hniz
28-04-2006, 04:56
Quick question, are there many abondoned buildings in Alabama? In the cities? In the rual areas?

Umm...I dunno. Not in the cities. Probably more in rural areas, but still probably not that many.
Langwell
28-04-2006, 04:56
Yea, being threatened with statutory rape is not fun. Especially when it's by the girl's angry father who runs the Secret Service training school.

What if the girl were evil and just wanted to destroy your life? She could just seduce you and then call the cops afterwards.
Katzistanza
28-04-2006, 05:07
What if the girl were evil and just wanted to destroy your life? She could just seduce you and then call the cops afterwards.

That fucking sucks, man. What ended up happening?
Hniz
28-04-2006, 22:45
Right now, it's the waiting game. I asked her to go to a movie, and she said she would call back, that it depends on if her dad gets home.

Hopefully, I get to pay for her ticket, lol.;)
Mercury God
28-04-2006, 22:48
I would have voted Forget about her had I read the post first.
Hniz
28-04-2006, 22:51
Good news for those still caring! She's coming! Praise the Gods!:D
Yootopia
28-04-2006, 22:53
Good for you!

I hope it all goes well :)

(although asking for relationship advice from people on the internet is oft-foolish)
Katzistanza
28-04-2006, 23:53
Good news for those still caring! She's coming! Praise the Gods!:D

Good on you, mate.

As I said, enjoy yourself, don't take it too seriously, and have fun. Good luck!
Terrorist Cakes
28-04-2006, 23:56
I can rub your back ;)

But then I'd probably go to jail :(

That's why I always ask the age first. And ask for ID, the cops don't seem to believe the "she told me she was 18" bit.

Where I live, consent is at 14 ;)
Czardas
28-04-2006, 23:59
Where I live, consent is at 14 ;)
I wonder if I could convince a few NSers I know of to move to BC...
Hniz
29-04-2006, 19:04
Aight, well she did kind of flirt a little. I'll try to ask her out again in a week of two.
IL Ruffino
29-04-2006, 19:16
Don't get her preggy..
Naliitr
29-04-2006, 19:20
There's this girl at my school who I think is kind of into me. She shows she likes me all the time (rubbing against my leg with hers, back rubs, resting her head on my shoulder, etc. etc.), but the thing is she kind of does this with other people too, but not nearly as much with me.
She's a whore if she does that with a lot of people. She'll just break your heart. Lose her.
The Half-Hidden
29-04-2006, 19:30
There's this girl at my school who I think is kind of into me. She shows she likes me all the time (rubbing against my leg with hers, back rubs, resting her head on my shoulder, etc. etc.), but the thing is she kind of does this with other people too, but not nearly as much with me.

Also, she's a senior and I'm a freshman (high school), and I believe she's going to college somewhere very far away.

The thing is, I'm absolutely crazy about her, and I don't think this is "puppy love."

Any advice? Please expand on what you decide in the poll, or if you have a different opinion.

And please be serious. I came here for help, not comic relief.
She sounds like a friend, but hey why not? What have you got to lose?
Hniz
29-04-2006, 19:40
She's a whore if she does that with a lot of people. She'll just break your heart. Lose her.

Ignoring you in...three...two...one. (Don't call my friend a whore)

I exaggerated a bit, she doesn't do it with a lot of people. She only does it with one guy just because she's trying to get him into girls (she told me herself).

I also dressed up a little, took a shower, blah blah, right before the movie, so maybe she got the message that I like her.
Naliitr
29-04-2006, 19:46
Ignoring you in...three...two...one. (Don't call my friend a whore)

I exaggerated a bit, she doesn't do it with a lot of people. She only does it with one guy just because she's trying to get him into girls (she told me herself).

I also dressed up a little, took a shower, blah blah, right before the movie, so maybe she got the message that I like her.
Ok. If she did it with A LOT of guys, it should be obvious that she is. Trying to get someone on the straight and narrow? Ok. Sorry for calling her a whore, but if she does that with a lot of guys, then well, yeah. Since she apparently does it with you because she wants to and does it with that one guy to make him straight, go ahead.
The Half-Hidden
29-04-2006, 19:50
Ok. If she did it with A LOT of guys, it should be obvious that she is. Trying to get someone on the straight and narrow? Ok. Sorry for calling her a whore, but if she does that with a lot of guys, then well, yeah. Since she apparently does it with you because she wants to and does it with that one guy to make him straight, go ahead.
WTF? She's just having fun, what's so bad about that, Elder Mullah Naliitar?
Naliitr
29-04-2006, 19:54
WTF? She's just having fun, what's so bad about that, Elder Mullah Naliitar?
Stop it with the friggin' calling me Amish/Puritan/Muslim.