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Hi all!

I do realize this is a very long post, so if you don't read it I understand. Maybe you can give me some insite to this..because I don't know why I'm friends with this person, and why I consider him to be one of my best friends.
My friend's name is Brad, and don't get me wrong he is a nice person to me..he hasn't done anything really bad towards me. It's just, some of the stuff he says/does I don't agree with and it goes against everything I believe in. We have a lot in common in terms of music, movies, etc.. and some things (nothing on this list) I do agree with..but not much.

Here are just a few things:

1. He lies;constantly it seems. He hides very important things from his wife, however he tells me them and tells me not to tell her. One time, he told me that he cheated on his wife and although I am his friend I thought that his wife should know that her husband had messed around on her. I told her and he said he told me that he cheated on his wife to, "test," me and see if I would tell her. He says that he has never cheated on her..I don't believe that but his wife did. I don't believe the crap about the testing me ither..up until then I have never betrayed his trust on anything..however cheating husbands hits close to home for me; my dad messed around on my mom when they were married so I can't stand cheaters.

2. The way he talks to his kids is no way that a parent I believe should. He has a 1 year old daughter and 4 year old son and he has no problem in saying in front of them, "Fuck you," "shut the Fuck up," calling them, "shit head," even in joking around. Him and his wife constantly fight in front of the kids and such.

3. Although he did this when he was 16 or 17 years old, it just bothers me that he did. (he's 26 now)
He claims, that to get back at this girl that used him for money, he went to her house when she had a party and she was past out drunk. He had sex with her when she was past out, and when she woke up during the sex he told her that it was her current boyfriend doing this to her. Sad thing is: the woman got pregnant and Brad thinks that the kid is his however the woman says it was her ex-boyfriend's kid..that's not the point here.

The point is he sexually asulted a woman when she did not have the ability to say no. I do volunteer work with victims of sexual violence, giving them counseling in matters such as this..this just bothers me greatly.

I do realize that people grow-up differently, god knows I've had my share of problems and such..but I really don't know why I stay friends with someone
like this. I could go on and on about this person; how he still keeps stuff from his wife, the things he says in front of his kids, not to mention how
screwed up his family is. However I do realize this post is very long..
He is poor, taking advantage of the wellfare system for everything it's wirth..he can't keep a job if his life depended on it. I've known him for going on 5 years and the longest I've seen him keep a job is 5 or 6 months. This anoys me as well because I'm looking for a job, I'm on disability because I'm blind however I want to stop depending on the government and make my own money and support myself on my own funds. He gets jobs that he doesn't keep (for 1 excuse or another) and someone like me who really does want to work doesn't get a job. He is sighted though..which I know has something to do with it but still.

If you have questions, feel free to ask

He's a user; he's already lied to you. Put heavy distance between yourself and him because someday, he's going to use you to take a fall for him.

We call this behavior 'sociopathic'.

It's painstakingly obvious your using the third-party technique to get help about something affecting your own life. My advice: See a therapist about why you are such a violent person.

And if your not using the third-part technique, I recommend you stop being such a nice guy and simply cease all contact with him.

NOw, I suggest that you stop being friends with him. There are some that are unchangable.

(Question: If you're blind, how can you read our posts?)

NOw, I suggest that you stop being friends with him. There are some that are unchangable.

(Question: If you're blind, how can you read our posts?)
He's probably only half-blind.

It's painstakingly obvious your using the third-party technique to get help about something affecting your own life. My advice: See a therapist about why you are such a violent person.

And if your not using the third-part technique, I recommend you stop being such a nice guy and simply cease all contact with him.

woh woh, back up! I am not Brad, my first name is Tessa. I'm in no way a violent person..I wanted to clear that up.

NOw, I suggest that you stop being friends with him. There are some that are unchangable.

(Question: If you're blind, how can you read our posts?)

Actually, I am fully blind. I use a computer program called JAWS (job access with speech)
It's a program that reads everything on the screen. Whatever I type it reads; and whatever you type it reads back to me.

If you have any questions about me being blind, feel free to ask I don't mind.

I'm a woman by the way.

Twisted people are interesting to be around.

Actually, I am fully blind. I use a computer program called JAWS (job access with speech)
It's a program that reads everything on the screen. Whatever I type it reads; and whatever you type it reads back to me.

If you have any questions about me being blind, feel free to ask I don't mind.

I'm a woman by the way.
Wow. That must take a hell of a long time though. And it probably reads all the text on the screen too, including the coding for the ads and the pictures. Does it?

Wow. That must take a hell of a long time though. And it probably reads all the text on the screen too, including the coding for the ads and the pictures. Does it?

No, it can't read pictures..however for some reason it does read the icons and stuff. However actual pics it won't/can't read.

No, it can't read pictures..however for some reason it does read the icons and stuff. However actual pics it won't/can't read.
So how do you know where to type? And can you filter what it reads?

So how do you know where to type? And can you filter what it reads?

www.freedomscientific.com/fs_products/software_jaws.asp - 12k -

That's a link about JAWS..
I type in the textbox where the jaws program says, "edet."

Again, I'm not making this stuff up about this person, nor am I this person. I just want some advice or something.

As god as my witness I'm not Brad.

I just want to clear that up..
That's it.

Katganistan has offered the best advice to you so far this evening, Tarayshia. I'd only end up repeating what's already been said.

Best of luck.

Thanks Dobbsworld, I appreciate that.

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Can it read smilies? You don't get the full Goofball experience without smilies. :)

Kat's right. This guy's an ass and a sociopath, and you're better off by far having nothing to do with him.

Can someone explain what that means: sociopath? I've heard the term before..

You know what sucks?
Brad pretty much gets out of whatever he gets himself into, I personally think Brenda, his wife's an idiot and stupid.

Can it read smilies? You don't get the full Goofball experience without smilies. :)

Yes it can.
:))

Let's see. You say you like the guy, you say "We have a lot in common". You then say that you "personally think Brenda, his wife's an idiot and stupid".
However you also find some, and note that it is only some, of his behaviour wrong.

I interpret this as meaning that you find other aspects of his behaviour as being either acceptable or praiseworthy.

If you want to know why you are freinds with him I suggest you look at the positive things rather than the negative. If these did not outweigh your negative reactions to some of his behaviour then you would not be his friend.

So what is good about Brad, rather than what is bad.

so·cio·path
Pronunciation: 'sO-sE-&-"path, 'sO-sh(E-)&-
Function: noun
: PSYCHOPATH

psychopathic personality
Function: noun
1 : an emotionally and behaviorally disordered state characterized by clear perception of reality except for the individual's social and moral obligations and often by the pursuit of immediate personal gratification in criminal acts, drug addiction, or sexual perversion
2 : an individual having a psychopathic personality

It basically means that he is amoral, and will do whatever strikes his fancy if he perceives a benefit for himself regardless of who gets hurt (or sometimes espicially if someone else gets hurt).

so·cio·path
Pronunciation: 'sO-sE-&-"path, 'sO-sh(E-)&-
Function: noun
: PSYCHOPATH

psychopathic personality
Function: noun
1 : an emotionally and behaviorally disordered state characterized by clear perception of reality except for the individual's social and moral obligations and often by the pursuit of immediate personal gratification in criminal acts, drug addiction, or sexual perversion
2 : an individual having a psychopathic personality

It basically means that he is amoral, and will do whatever strikes his fancy if he perceives a benefit for himself regardless of who gets hurt (or sometimes espicially if someone else gets hurt).
You have a point..it sounds like Brad to an extent. Ok a lot..although I don't think he hurts people on purpose (most of the time) I just don't think he cares a lot if that happens.

You have a point..it sounds like Brad to an extent. Ok a lot..although I don't think he hurts people on purpose (most of the time) I just don't think he cares a lot if that happens.


Which is why you need to distance yourself from him. It's only a matter of time before he decides you slighted him in some way, and does something to get back at you.

AB Again does bring up a very good point..

You see, I'm very interested in a few things that I find most people (around my age of 21) aren't really in to, and Brad mostly is.
That thing is Disney, to give more info: certain Disney movies. Brad is very very much into Disney, however I'm not into it as much as he is. What I do love are certain Disney movies.
1. Pocahontas
2. The lion king
and many more movies..but not all of them.
I also write fanfiction which is when you take characters from a book, movie, tv show..etc..and write stories based on those characters from that certain book, movie, or tv show.
Brad helps me with ideas and such.
Here's my story page if anyone's interested:

www.fanfiction.net/~sunrise19

He doesn't help with all of the stories, however most of them. This is a major factor in why I, "like," being friends with him.
Can I say that he has helped me out in any way? no in terms of anything, "serious."
Can't say he's honest, cause I always wonder if he's lying to me about something..even if it's a stupid ly..

I could go on and on, but I won't just trying to give basic details..not trying to seem winy nor pushy. We also have music, tv shows in common..these may seem dumb, however I don't know many people in my area and thus can't make friends easily.
However, I'm not, "desperet," for friends..because I'm very coshious when it comes to new people.
Today's world you have to be

Nah, Beauty and the Beast was better. I did love the little tribute to Reversal of Fortune they worked into The Lion King, though.

Nah, Beauty and the Beast was better. I did love the little tribute to Reversal of Fortune they worked into The Lion King, though.

Yes, Beauty and the Beast was a very good movie..
Did I miss something: what Reversal of Fortune tribute did they put into the lion king?

Nothing you are telling us about this guy sounds good. He's violent. He is verbally abusive to his small children. Does he hit them as well? He lies, and then lies about lying. He cheats on his wife. He sexually assaulted a woman for some petty revenge (that kind of thing is unlikely to be a one-time occurence). He's a violent, 26-year-old, married man who's "into" Disney children's movies -- what's up with that? Seriously, Tarayshia, from what you tell us, he sets up the people in his life to take abuse from him sooner or later. Is he really into Disney? Or is he just into it because you are?

Sociopath is the right word for this person. Sociopaths are the most dangerous kind of people. All they want is to get their way and satisfy their whims. They do not care about other people at all. It's not their childhood or their up-bringing. Sociopath is a personality type; they are born, not made. I've met up with several like this in my life (I'm 43). The smart choice is to stay as far away from people like this as you can get. If you can't physically stay away from them, then you put up clear barriers around yourself. Don't socialize, don't let them in on your interests, don't share anything with them. They are poison, and they will hurt you, eventually. You cannot trust them for anything.

I would especially advise you not to hang out alone with this man. He's shown himself to be violent towards women at least twice so far.

Jeremy Irons (the voice of Scar) won an Oscar for portraying accused murderer Klaus von Bulow in Reversal of Fortune. In the final scene of that movie, after he'd been acquitted, his lawyer says to him "You're a very strange man, aren't you?" to which he replied "You have no idea." In The Lion King young Simba says "Uncle Scar, you're wierd!" The reply: "You have no idea."

Jeremy Irons (the voice of Scar) won an Oscar for portraying accused murderer Klaus von Bulow in Reversal of Fortune. In the final scene of that movie, after he'd been acquitted, his lawyer says to him "You're a very strange man, aren't you?" to which he replied "You have no idea." In The Lion King young Simba says "Uncle Scar, you're wierd!" The reply: "You have no idea."
Klaus von Bulow. Nice. Take this as a hint from the fates, Tarayshia.

Nothing you are telling us about this guy sounds good. He's violent. He is verbally abusive to his small children. Does he hit them as well? He lies, and then lies about lying. He cheats on his wife. He sexually assaulted a woman for some petty revenge (that kind of thing is unlikely to be a one-time occurence). He's a violent, 26-year-old, married man who's "into" Disney children's movies -- what's up with that? Seriously, Tarayshia, from what you tell us, he sets up the people in his life to take abuse from him sooner or later. Is he really into Disney? Or is he just into it because you are?

Sociopath is the right word for this person. Sociopaths are the most dangerous kind of people. All they want is to get their way and satisfy their whims. They do not care about other people at all. It's not their childhood or their up-bringing. Sociopath is a personality type; they are born, not made. I've met up with several like this in my life (I'm 43). The smart choice is to stay as far away from people like this as you can get. If you can't physically stay away from them, then you put up clear barriers around yourself. Don't socialize, don't let them in on your interests, don't share anything with them. They are poison, and they will hurt you, eventually. You cannot trust them for anything.

I would especially advise you not to hang out alone with this man. He's shown himself to be violent towards women at least twice so far.
He was into Disney when I met him, that's how we hit it off.
Yes he hits his kids..and I've never been alone with him. I could tell you some of the stories that I've heard when it comes to Brad's family..
They're all trash..basically

I am going to make some enormous assumptions now. They may be wrong, and if so, please feel free to consider me stupid.

Assumption 1. You live a fairly lonely life.

Assumption 2. The few people that you interact regularly with have little interest in your writing.

Assumption 3. Your writing is one of the few thigs that you are truly passionate about.

Based on these three assumptions it would seem that Brad, despite his major failings, is essential to your self respect. He validates your passion, by sharing in it whilst others around you deny it. We all need to receive approval from others concerning what we do, to feel good about ourselves. Anyone that makes us feel good about ourselves is normally regarded as a friend.

Essentially it comes down to you needing someone to share your passion and he fills that need.

With regard to his being a sociopath, I feel that this is too strong a diagnosis. He certainly is devious and his morals are dubious, but that does not mean that he is disconnected from society. Many people, ordinary people, cheat on their spouses. Almost all of us lie when we are caught doing something wrong. In fact, that he lied about cheating indicates that he is not strongly sociopathic (I full sociopath would just say "so what" when confronted.)
The bad language is unpleasant, sure, but what was the norm in his childhood, in his background. I live in a country where swearing is almost acceptable in church - it all depends on the culture.
The only serious offence is the attack on the drunk girl. That makes him a truly nasty piece of work, but it does not make him necessarly, a sociopath. All the same, be careful.

Jeremy Irons (the voice of Scar) won an Oscar for portraying accused murderer Klaus von Bulow in Reversal of Fortune. In the final scene of that movie, after he'd been acquitted, his lawyer says to him "You're a very strange man, aren't you?" to which he replied "You have no idea." In The Lion King young Simba says "Uncle Scar, you're wierd!" The reply: "You have no idea."

Really? I didn't know that! Cool!

He was into Disney when I met him, that's how we hit it off.
Yes he hits his kids..and I've never been alone with him. I could tell you some of the stories that I've heard when it comes to Brad's family..
They're all trash..basically
He hits his kids. This is all I need to know. My advice, as a total stranger who has no motive to wish you ill is this: Report him to your local authorities, and don't let him know you did it. Lose his number. Change yours. Find someone else to talk about your writing with. If you are the only Disney enthusiast in your circle, widen your circle. You've got the whole world to choose from online. You've got thousands right here on NS. Do not keep this creep in your life.

Assumption 1. You live a fairly lonely life.
You aren't wrong about 1, I met Brad while I was in high school..and I didn't have any friends there. I do have a very stable loving boyfriend. And, 1 or 2 people other than Brad who I consider to be very good friends.

Assumption 2. The few people that you interact regularly with have little interest in your writing.
I would say that is true as well, my one friend Lindsey is interested in my writing however..that's how we met. But what you say above is true.

Assumption 3. Your writing is one of the few thigs that you are truly passionate about.
That's very very true..very.

Based on these three assumptions it would seem that Brad, despite his major failings, is essential to your self respect. He validates your passion, by sharing in it whilst others around you deny it. We all need to receive approval from others concerning what we do, to feel good about ourselves. Anyone that makes us feel good about ourselves is normally regarded as a friend.

Essentially it comes down to you needing someone to share your passion and he fills that need.
You have a very good point there..are you psychic? lol..
With regard to his being a sociopath, I feel that this is too strong a diagnosis. He certainly is devious and his morals are dubious, but that does not mean that he is disconnected from society. Many people, ordinary people, cheat on their spouses. Almost all of us lie when we are caught doing something wrong. In fact, that he lied about cheating indicates that he is not strongly sociopathic (I full sociopath would just say "so what" when confronted.)
The bad language is unpleasant, sure, but what was the norm in his childhood, in his background. I live in a country where swearing is almost acceptable in church - it all depends on the culture.
The only serious offence is the attack on the drunk girl. That makes him a truly nasty piece of work, but it does not make him necessarly, a sociopath.

I am careful around him..very
We've been alone in the same room but not in the house. And yes, Brad has had a troubling background to say the least..

He hits his kids. This is all I need to know. My advice, as a total stranger who has no motive to wish you ill is this: Report him to your local authorities, and don't let him know you did it. Lose his number. Change yours. Find someone else to talk about your writing with. If you are the only Disney enthusiast in your circle, widen your circle. You've got the whole world to choose from online. You've got thousands right here on NS. Do not keep this creep in your life.

*claps*

Good advice.

Hi all!

I do realize this is a very long post, so if you don't read it I understand. Maybe you can give me some insite to this..because I don't know why I'm friends with this person, and why I consider him to be one of my best friends.
My friend's name is Brad, and don't get me wrong he is a nice person to me..he hasn't done anything really bad towards me. It's just, some of the stuff he says/does I don't agree with and it goes against everything I believe in. We have a lot in common in terms of music, movies, etc.. and some things (nothing on this list) I do agree with..but not much.

Here are just a few things:

1. He lies;constantly it seems. He hides very important things from his wife, however he tells me them and tells me not to tell her. One time, he told me that he cheated on his wife and although I am his friend I thought that his wife should know that her husband had messed around on her. I told her and he said he told me that he cheated on his wife to, "test," me and see if I would tell her. He says that he has never cheated on her..I don't believe that but his wife did. I don't believe the crap about the testing me ither..up until then I have never betrayed his trust on anything..however cheating husbands hits close to home for me; my dad messed around on my mom when they were married so I can't stand cheaters.

2. The way he talks to his kids is no way that a parent I believe should. He has a 1 year old daughter and 4 year old son and he has no problem in saying in front of them, "Fuck you," "shut the Fuck up," calling them, "shit head," even in joking around. Him and his wife constantly fight in front of the kids and such.

3. Although he did this when he was 16 or 17 years old, it just bothers me that he did. (he's 26 now)
He claims, that to get back at this girl that used him for money, he went to her house when she had a party and she was past out drunk. He had sex with her when she was past out, and when she woke up during the sex he told her that it was her current boyfriend doing this to her. Sad thing is: the woman got pregnant and Brad thinks that the kid is his however the woman says it was her ex-boyfriend's kid..that's not the point here.

The point is he sexually asulted a woman when she did not have the ability to say no. I do volunteer work with victims of sexual violence, giving them counseling in matters such as this..this just bothers me greatly.

I do realize that people grow-up differently, god knows I've had my share of problems and such..but I really don't know why I stay friends with someone
like this. I could go on and on about this person; how he still keeps stuff from his wife, the things he says in front of his kids, not to mention how
screwed up his family is. However I do realize this post is very long..
He is poor, taking advantage of the wellfare system for everything it's wirth..he can't keep a job if his life depended on it. I've known him for going on 5 years and the longest I've seen him keep a job is 5 or 6 months. This anoys me as well because I'm looking for a job, I'm on disability because I'm blind however I want to stop depending on the government and make my own money and support myself on my own funds. He gets jobs that he doesn't keep (for 1 excuse or another) and someone like me who really does want to work doesn't get a job. He is sighted though..which I know has something to do with it but still.

If you have questions, feel free to ask
He is the epitome of evil and should be destroyed, but that has nothing to do with you. You don't deserve to have to live with that. You also seem to mistake your loyalty, which shouldn't be to him, but first to yourself (conscience included) and to his well-being, which includes telling his wife what he tells you concerning that. Holding the truth is nearly as bad as distorting it or concealing it altogether. I think you should terminate the friendship, for you must, though I do not know you, deserve better friendship than that. If all his friends deserting him depresses him or something, maybe he'll change himself into something worthwhile. Prolly not, but you could hope so. I can't, but you could.

He doesn't beat his kids..just a smack on the bum or hand..stuff like that.
As for calling the authorities..do not get me started on that..I'd have to create an intire new thread for that.
It's been done, he has full custity of the 4 year old..because of the 4 year old boy's mother Stacy.
Yes, Stacy is the mother of the boy, Brenda is the mother of the girl..long story..Brenda and Brad live together.

Evil is a bit harsh..i'd say he is an ass and a bastard.

Brad has had a troubling background..most poor people stay that way..poor and just trashy (brad, brad's family)
Not all, most..I have nothing against people on wellfare, it's the people on wellfare that don't need it, that can get jobs but refuse to or can't keep them like Brad that really piss me off. He doesn't deserve wellfare.

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With regard to his being a sociopath, I feel that this is too strong a diagnosis. He certainly is devious and his morals are dubious, but that does not mean that he is disconnected from society. Many people, ordinary people, cheat on their spouses. Almost all of us lie when we are caught doing something wrong. In fact, that he lied about cheating indicates that he is not strongly sociopathic (I full sociopath would just say "so what" when confronted.)
The bad language is unpleasant, sure, but what was the norm in his childhood, in his background. I live in a country where swearing is almost acceptable in church - it all depends on the culture.
The only serious offence is the attack on the drunk girl. That makes him a truly nasty piece of work, but it does not make him necessarly, a sociopath. All the same, be careful.
When we say "sociopath," we are, of course, just speculating based solely on what Tarayshia has told us here, but just FYI, the sociopaths I've known (I've had 4 in my life that I know of, including my father and some co-workers) were all dedicated liars. They'd lie about anything to some people, and let others in on it. It was a big game to them. My father, in particular, lied because he liked manipulating people, and he told others about it because he liked bragging about how he could manipulate people. (Fortunately, I was not raised by him; Mom knew enough to divorce him quick.)

Tarayshia says this Brad guy lies to his wife and lets Tarayshia in on it. Then he says he was "testing" Tarayshia. Testing for what? Sounds a lot like what my daddy dearest used to do, just for kicks. My father liked to hit women every so often, too. My mom walked out on him when he tried. His second wife didn't, but fortunately for her, he didn't live long. They are all the same, these types. She doesn't need this Brad character. There are plenty of people in the world.

Evil is a bit harsh..i'd say he is an ass and a bastard.
Which translates into evil for me. Anyone who does not value loyalty is evil by default. Of course there are other things, but those are mostly derivations from loyalty.

There is every side to every story..I'm sure if Brad could post (and or found this thread somehow) that he would start running his mouth.
Trust me, he's good at what he does..a classic bull shitter.i however, am not that good.

She doesn't need this Brad character. There are plenty of people in the world.
Better ones too.

He doesn't beat his kids..just a smack on the bum or hand..stuff like that.
As for calling the authorities..do not get me started on that..I'd have to create an intire new thread for that.
It's been done, he has full custity of the 4 year old..because of the 4 year old boy's mother Stacy.
Yes, Stacy is the mother of the boy, Brenda is the mother of the girl..long story..Brenda and Brad live together.
Well, do us a favor and be more specific when you talk about how he treats his kids. But the rest of my advice stands -- You don't need him. He's a bastard. He's violent. He has treated at least two women like dirt, and committed a crime against one of them. Oh, and just because I'm cynical -- the smack on the bum or hand is all that you know about. Nothing on which to call authorities, but still.

I'm just like you. I don't understand why you are friends with this person, either.

When we say "sociopath," we are, of course, just speculating based solely on what Tarayshia has told us here, but just FYI, the sociopaths I've known (I've had 4 in my life that I know of, including my father and some co-workers) were all dedicated liars. They'd lie about anything to some people, and let others in on it. It was a big game to them. My father, in particular, lied because he liked manipulating people, and he told others about it because he liked bragging about how he could manipulate people. (Fortunately, I was not raised by him; Mom knew enough to divorce him quick.)

Tarayshia says this Brad guy lies to his wife and lets Tarayshia in on it. Then he says he was "testing" Tarayshia. Testing for what? Sounds a lot like what my daddy dearest used to do, just for kicks. My father liked to hit women every so often, too. My mom walked out on him when he tried. His second wife didn't, but fortunately for her, he didn't live long. They are all the same, these types. She doesn't need this Brad character. There are plenty of people in the world.


I agree that she shouldn't need this character in her life, but as she seems to need him there, let us at least try to help her understand why. If she can come to a clear understanding of what role he plays, and why she currently wants to be his friend it should help her to decide for herself if she should continue being associated with him.
What she effectively asked is for help in discovering why Brad means anything to her. I hope that I have helped her discover why or at least some of the reason why.
For you and me there are plenty of people in the world, but just how easy it is for a blind person to meet new people, to fill the gap that would be left is something I simply do not know. What I would suggest though is that she joins some kind of on-line creative writing group (if anyone knows of anything like this please suggst it) to at least allow her work and passion to be validdated by others.

Better ones too.
Damn straight.

I agree that she shouldn't need this character in her life, but as she seems to need him there, let us at least try to help her understand why. If she can come to a clear understanding of what role he plays, and why she currently wants to be his friend it should help her to decide for herself if she should continue being associated with him.
What she effectively asked is for help in discovering why Brad means anything to her. I hope that I have helped her discover why or at least some of the reason why.
For you and me there are plenty of people in the world, but just how easy it is for a blind person to meet new people, to fill the gap that would be left is something I simply do not know. What I would suggest though is that she joins some kind of on-line creative writing group (if anyone knows of anything like this please suggst it) to at least allow her work and passion to be validdated by others.
You focus on the why and I'll focus on the why he shouldn't, and between the two of us we may affect change.;) To be honest, it's prolly easier for her to meet new people than for me. Then again, I don't like most people, but I see your point, no cruel pun intended. I did notice some mention of her writing earlier. A group may not be personal enough. Maybe that is why she is friends with him: she needs a personal source of validation, in which case I could suffice for that, except I would never have a physical presence. I wouldn't exactly say writing is a passion of mine (because I really have no passions), but I have incredible talent and depth of thought. Ah! What am I doing!? I never advertise my incredible abilities this way! Oh, right, I'm also incredibly arrogant and need to gloat.:D

I agree that she shouldn't need this character in her life, but as she seems to need him there, let us at least try to help her understand why. If she can come to a clear understanding of what role he plays, and why she currently wants to be his friend it should help her to decide for herself if she should continue being associated with him.
What she effectively asked is for help in discovering why Brad means anything to her. I hope that I have helped her discover why or at least some of the reason why.
For you and me there are plenty of people in the world, but just how easy it is for a blind person to meet new people, to fill the gap that would be left is something I simply do not know. What I would suggest though is that she joins some kind of on-line creative writing group (if anyone knows of anything like this please suggst it) to at least allow her work and passion to be validdated by others.
Here's the plan then: You accentuate the positive, and I'll do what I do best, which is be negative but hopefully in a positive way. You coax while I push.

I'll let you start because I want to read more of her comments about this Brad. Having started out with such concerns, she seems now to want to make excuses for him. I want to know more before I make more comments.

I totally agree about a creative writing group. She should be able to start with fan fiction groups online and then, as her comfort level grows, move into more areas of writing and possibly seek out a real world writing group in her community. Her local library should be able to hook her up with groups and events.

Tarayshia, please take all these comments as if they are made directly to you as well.

Damn straight.
Yup. And I have a very low opinion of the average person, too, so that's really quite an implication.:gundge:

You focus on the why and I'll focus on the why he shouldn't, and between the two of us we may affect change.;) To be honest, it's prolly easier for her to meet new people than for me. Then again, I don't like most people, but I see your point, no cruel pun intended. I did notice some mention of her writing earlier. A group may not be personal enough. Maybe that is why she is friends with him: she needs a personal source of validation, in which case I could suffice for that, except I would never have a physical presence. I wouldn't exactly say writing is a passion of mine (because I really have no passions), but I have incredible talent and depth of thought. Ah! What am I doing!? I never advertise my incredible abilities this way! Oh, right, I'm also incredibly arrogant and need to gloat.:D
Well, if she hangs onto Brad because she enjoys an occasional dose of arrogance, then she has come to the right forum. She'll get a much better quality product from us NSGers. ;)

Yup. And I have a very low opinion of the average person, too, so that's really quite an implication.:gundge:
You and I must be fellow arrogant snobs. I wonder how long it will be before we can't stand talking even to each other? Silence: the golden sign of friendship that never ends. ;) :p

Well, if she hangs onto Brad because she enjoys an occasional dose of arrogance, then she has come to the right forum. She'll get a much better quality product from us NSGers. ;)
My response:
Damn straight. Arrogance wasn't the focus of my post, but if she needs that too, I'm still a "much better quality product.":cool:

You and I must be fellow arrogant snobs. I wonder how long it will be before we can't stand talking even to each other? Silence: the golden sign of friendship that never ends. ;) :p
I figure we'll be okay for the duration of the thread at least. Just so long as neither of us works too much at our new-found relationship.:p Silence with e-friendships ruins them. The lines of communications close down completely (and literally). I'll stick to witty banter to pass the time. Now back to work:
"Move that rock, Jew." (The Hebrew Hammer)
"Yeah, well, right now you're building a shed, so hop to it Jesus." (Jim Gaffigan)

I agree with whoever said that I talk to Brad because of the writing. He can give ideas, we talk about the 2 Disney movies..etc. As well as the other Disney stuff..like I said, he's way more into Disney than I am. I just really really like, "Pocahontas," and "The lion king," if you ever get the chance to see these movies..see them! Lol..shameless plugging..lol
He also gives me advice on problems with my family..my family isn't perfect, but I have turned out not bad. I believe it's because Brad has given me advice, and I also distance myself from my family as much as I can given the surcumstances of being blind.
My boyfriend and I live together, we are independent.
If anyone has questions, look in my profile in order to email me..I'm in no way looking for sympathy or nothing like that.
Just answers and stuff..

As for arrogance, I think the only arrogance that Brad shows is the fact that he gets away with crap. I know Brenda most likely believed him out of love for brad, but come on who truly believes that brad was, "testing," me to see if I would tell brenda about the cheating?
When I had never betrayed him before that time.

You know, I would feel bad if Brad read this stuff about him..stuff that I have said.
I'm sure he would get back at me..posting stuff about me..etc

I agree with whoever said that I talk to Brad because of the writing. He can give ideas, we talk about the 2 Disney movies..etc. As well as the other Disney stuff..like I said, he's way more into Disney than I am. I just really really like, "Pocahontas," and "The lion king," if you ever get the chance to see these movies..see them! Lol..shameless plugging..lol
He also gives me advice on problems with my family..my family isn't perfect, but I have turned out not bad. I believe it's because Brad has given me advice, and I also distance myself from my family as much as I can given the surcumstances of being blind.
My boyfriend and I live together, we are independent.
If anyone has questions, look in my profile in order to email me..I'm in no way looking for sympathy or nothing like that.
Just answers and stuff..
I'll take credit for claiming the relationship could be because of the writing, though someone else may have also mentioned it. What appeals to you about the movies? They seem to me simplistic representations of common allegorical themes. And what Pocahontas doesn't tell you is that the initial white settlers murdered and spread disease to the natives, regardless of anyone's desire for peaceful relations. Most of the settlers were there to claim land and resources that no one had officially claimed, and the natives were unclean savages, so any claim they could make was easily resolved with a little powder and shot. Pardon me for the rant. Injustices to my native peoples, all half dozen or so of them:p , tend to make me a little indignant. Anyway, there are a number of more complex, and realistic, works concerning similar themes. I don't really know what sort of a relationship you are looking for with regard to the writing, though. If you prefer individual to group, if that matters at all, or if you need a physical presence for it.

You know, I would feel bad if Brad read this stuff about him..stuff that I have said.
I'm sure he would get back at me..posting stuff about me..etc
Are you being honest?

I figure we'll be okay for the duration of the thread at least. Just so long as neither of us works too much at our new-found relationship.:p
Oh, don't worry about that. I don't even work at my real friendships (which are all with people who also don't like other people; we're a club that never meets.)

Silence with e-friendships ruins them. The lines of communications close down completely (and literally).<snip>
And when does the ruining happen? ;)

You know, I would feel bad if Brad read this stuff about him..stuff that I have said.
I'm sure he would get back at me..posting stuff about me..etc
One of the benefits of the internet is that it lets you be anonymous. For instance, if Tarayshia is your real name, perhaps it should not also be your online name. And if Brad is his real name, perhaps you should edit this thread and make it "Chad."

I don't know why I'm actually friends with this person...
Maybe you're friends with him cause it makes you feel better hanging round someone more screwed up and horrible than you are. Sort of like having a fat ugly person standing next to you makes you look more attractive.
He makes your personality look better in comparison.
I'm pretty sure that's why most of my friends like me for.

Believe me; Fascist Dominion, I know the horible injustices that have come upon the native americans. The disney movie Pocahontas is not a history lesson, that's for sure.it's purely intertainment. I'm nearly always on the side of the native americans when it comes to discussing them.
They did there own killing, but who could blame them? How would you like it if someone took your house?
Yeah, I'd be more than pissed.

Oh, don't worry about that. I don't even work at my real friendships (which are all with people who also don't like other people; we're a club that never meets.)
I didn't think so. Sounds like a great club. I'd join, but I founded a similar one here. Yeah, I'm the only member.:D The strange thing is that all of my friends tend to like people to some extent. One comes close to disliking them, but he manages to fail. Another is my apprentice, and she dislikes some things about people, but not people. Although, she is making a lot more progress than I expected. Another of my friends is so optimistic it's nauseating. Actually, she's the one from whom I stole my apprentice. Sure it's more of a lease situation, but when the lease is up I'm not returning the product of my labors. So you see, my life is a complex web of conflicting paradoxes, a paradox of paradoxical paradoxes, if you will. But our beleaguered friend here requires some assistance to resolve her life into something far more tolerable for her than listening to me ever could be.

And when does the ruining happen? ;)
At the point communications cease. Then you have no friendship. There is only the fundamental nothing within everything. Or so I hear.;)

Demented Hamsters, I'd be lying if I didn't say that some of what you say is true..though not intirely.

And yes, I am being honest when I say that I would feel bad for him if he found this.
His name is Brad, my name's not Tarayshia.

Maybe you're friends with him cause it makes you feel better hanging round someone more screwed up and horrible than you are. Sort of like having a fat ugly person standing next to you makes you look more attractive.
He makes your personality look better in comparison.
I'm pretty sure that's why most of my friends like me for.
No, they really just don't know how to get rid of you either. :p :D

No, they really just don't know how to get rid of you either. :p :D

lol..haha

Believe me; Fascist Dominion, I know the horible injustices that have come upon the native americans. The disney movie Pocahontas is not a history lesson, that's for sure.it's purely intertainment. I'm nearly always on the side of the native americans when it comes to discussing them.
They did there own killing, but who could blame them? How would you like it if someone took your house?
Yeah, I'd be more than pissed.
It's how anyone would have reacted. Really the question is of how anyone could steal the home of another. It reminds me a lot of the fundamental principle in the Odyssey. The movie, not the epic poem by Homer. Homer's focus was a bit different than the movie. In the movie, Odysseus can think ultimately of nothing but his home, what he calls his "world" because nothing else is of paramount importance. When he thinks of never seeing his "world" again or of others trying to steal it from him by marrying his wife in his absence, he becomes furious and plots their deaths. It's an awesome movie. Worthy of its name, to be sure. Too bad you're blind, too, because Isabella Roselini is absolutely beautiful and makes a perfect Athena. Oh, another great, but unrelated, movie is The 13th Warrior.

And yes, I am being honest when I say that I would feel bad for him if he found this.
No, no. Are you saying honest things about him?

lol..haha
Yeah, I thought it was funny too. :D

Yeah, I've heard of the 13th warrior..what's that about? I don't know..

Where I'm from, it's nearly impossible to make friends because of the blindness thing, which is stupid..last I checked, you couldn't catch it..haha
I get 2 big paranoias when it comes to people knowing i'm blind:
1. They're friends with me cause they feel sorry for me..I hate that! Feel sorry for something/someone else..i'm just like everyone else.
2. They feel like that have to be friends with me and do nice stuff for me because of the blind thing..like there good deed for the day or something.
Brad accepts me for who i am..i think so anyways.
Blind, disney movies unique interests and all.

No, no. Are you saying honest things about him?

Yes, I am.

Yes, I am.
Then have no shame of what you speak, for there is no shame in honesty.

Very true, although knowing Brad he'd post saying I made up the whole thing.
Or maybe, "it was another test."

Yeah, I've heard of the 13th warrior..what's that about? I don't know..

Where I'm from, it's nearly impossible to make friends because of the blindness thing, which is stupid..last I checked, you couldn't catch it..haha
I get 2 big paranoias when it comes to people knowing i'm blind:
1. They're friends with me cause they feel sorry for me..I hate that! Feel sorry for something/someone else..i'm just like everyone else.
2. They feel like that have to be friends with me and do nice stuff for me because of the blind thing..like there good deed for the day or something.
Brad accepts me for who i am..i think so anyways.
Blind, disney movies unique interests and all.
It's about an Arab diplomat who falls in love with a powerful man's wife, maybe a sultan or something. That's just the prologue. He is banished to a mission in the "Northlands," where he chances upon a king's entourage at his funeral, the last one perfomed in the old way, with all his possessions (and his wife) burning with him on the ship serving as his pyre. There 13 warriors, the number of months in their lunar year, are selected to go north with a boy messenger who arrived in the night requesting assistance against the nameless ones, the eaters of the dead. So twelve men volunteer to go, and the 13th must be no "northman," so the Arab's servant informs him he must be the 13th warrior. The short version of the rest of the movie: they fight a lot of canibals who dress like bears to give the impression they are demons, kill the matriarchal leader and the general and the king who led the 13 warriors dies in a noble pose. The details really are what makes it such a great movie, though. And the Odyssey is great, too, if you aren't familiar with that. Jason and the Argonauts, that's a good movie.

I see..that sounds interesting, though I'm not into violent movies, odd I can read about violence just can't watch it.

Very true, although knowing Brad he'd post saying I made up the whole thing.
Or maybe, "it was another test."
Forgive me for saying this, but I think you may also have esteem issues because you don't quite seem to understand. It doesn't matter what he would do. So long as you are honest, you have nothing to fear. When you become desperate and panic-ridden, people like him win. He's like a terrorist, only effective. You are who you are; you believe what you believe. There is no shame in that. I'd like to give you advice. I don't remember where it came from, probably another poster somewhere here in NS General: "Never argue with an idiot; he'll drag you down to his level and beat you by experience."

I see..that sounds interesting, though I'm not into violent movies, odd I can read about violence just can't watch it.
Or you could read the book then. It is based on a novel entitled Eaters of the Dead, perhaps with the word "the" as well.

Forgive me for saying this, but I think you may also have esteem issues because you don't quite seem to understand. It doesn't matter what he would do. So long as you are honest, you have nothing to fear. When you become desperate and panic-ridden, people like him win. He's like a terrorist, only effective. You are who you are; you believe what you believe. There is no shame in that. I'd like to give you advice. I don't remember where it came from, probably another poster somewhere here in NS General: "Never argue with an idiot; he'll drag you down to his level and beat you by experience."

I so love that quote!!
You're right about self-esteem stuff..to complacated to get into here.but yeah you're right.
Trying to make an appointment with a counselor but the damn people won't get back to me.

I so love that quote!!
You're right about self-esteem stuff..to complacated to get into here.but yeah you're right.
Trying to make an appointment with a counselor but the damn people won't get back to me.
Yes, it's a good quote. As you can imagine, I use it frequently. And I'm used to being right. I so frequently am.:D Oh, you should go to this link (http://emosong.ytmnd.com/). It's funny as hell.

I so love that quote!!
You're right about self-esteem stuff..to complacated to get into here.but yeah you're right.
Trying to make an appointment with a counselor but the damn people won't get back to me.


I've had the same kind of trouble getting appointments for counselling and things like that. State agencies don't like to do work, if they can avoid it. And the ones that are supposed to help us disabled are the worst. Keep on them. Call daily and make a bloody nuisance of yourself. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.

I've had the same kind of trouble getting appointments for counselling and things like that. State agencies don't like to do work, if they can avoid it. And the ones that are supposed to help us disabled are the worst. Keep on them. Call daily and make a bloody nuisance of yourself. The squeaky wheel gets the grease.
Yes, that's the best way to do it. If us NSGer's aren't enough, that is.:D

I'll come back to this thread in the morning..I have to be awake for a job interview at 1 when the interview is.
it's 4 A.M. now..i can get at least 7 hours of sleep..lol

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I'll come back to this thread in the morning..I have to be awake for a job interview at 1 when the interview is.
it's 4 A.M. now..i can get at least 7 hours of sleep..lol
Good plan. I've got school this morning, but that doesn't require sleep.:D

Hi all!

I do realize this is a very long post, so if you don't read it I understand. Maybe you can give me some insite to this..because I don't know why I'm friends with this person, and why I consider him to be one of my best friends.
My friend's name is Brad, and don't get me wrong he is a nice person to me..he hasn't done anything really bad towards me. It's just, some of the stuff he says/does I don't agree with and it goes against everything I believe in. We have a lot in common in terms of music, movies, etc.. and some things (nothing on this list) I do agree with..but not much.

Here are just a few things:

<snip>

If you have questions, feel free to ask

I'm not sure what you want to know exactly. I read through everything you wrote (in this post) and as far as i can see, the reason you're friends with him is to help him, to have a good influence. Would I be right in saying you want him to live a better life and have him break out of his life now?

I'm not sure what you want to know exactly. I read through everything you wrote (in this post) and as far as i can see, the reason you're friends with him is to help him, to have a good influence. Would I be right in saying you want him to live a better life and have him break out of his life now?


Yeah, I guess you could say that..try to help him.
I know, you can't help those who don't want help.

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He's a user; he's already lied to you. Put heavy distance between yourself and him because someday, he's going to use you to take a fall for him.

We call this behavior 'sociopathic'.
agreed.

people like this are poison, there is no way that you can help them, they won't change.

My advice, is back off, phase out, or whatever else you can do, to get away.... far far away.

People like that don't change..
I do agree with you, however it's hard to break off the friendship because of various reasons..
I don't go over his house..we just talk on the phone a lot.

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People like that don't change..
I do agree with you, however it's hard to break off the friendship because of various reasons..
I don't go over his house..we just talk on the phone a lot.
it's rather easy to break off a relationship, it's even easier if it's an 'over the phone' relationship, just screen your calls.

sociopaths are best avoided at all costs.

I don't know if anyone's mentioned this (I have to get back to writing an essay so I haven't time to check), but isn't point 3 about getting back the girl rape? unconcious, unconsensual...

Don't be friends with this bastard, and if he ever does anything to his children, call child protection.

Edit: Oh yeah, call the cops about the rape thing.

A message for The Infinite Dunes: Yes, that is rape.
Brad has admitted that he made a mistake, and that he was stupid and young.

A message for The Infinite Dunes: Yes, that is rape.
Brad has admitted that he made a mistake, and that he was stupid and young.
That's a crime. Call the damned cops. Or at least tell the woman.

Edit: Oh yeah, call the cops about the rape thing.[/QUOTE]

I wouldn't be able to call the police because the rape happened so long ago..about 8 or 9 years ago. There wouldn't be any evidence.
As for child protection, I'd have to make another thread about that.

Edit: Oh yeah, call the cops about the rape thing.
I wouldn't be able to call the police because the rape happened so long ago..about 8 or 9 years ago. There wouldn't be any evidence.
As for child protection, I'd have to make another thread about that.
Well, if there's a child, I'd say there's a hell of a lot of DNA evidence...

Besides, if he has confessed this to you and you don't tell anyone, you are committing a crime yourself, and should it ever come out you could face serious consequences.

Besides, if he has confessed this to you and you don't tell anyone, you are committing a crime yourself, and should it ever come out you could face serious consequences.It'd be really hard to prove anything. Tarayshia could just use the story about him cheating on his wife and say because of that she didn't think he was telling the truth.

*Points to screen*

This is evidence if he was ever confronted with something.

A message for The Infinite Dunes: Yes, that is rape.
Brad has admitted that he made a mistake, and that he was stupid and young.You're right. It might be better to let sleeping dogs lie. So much could go wrong. But I'd definately be hesitant to associate with someone who has the capacity for rape.

He needs to change. People can always change, no matter how bad their life has been. It's just harder for those people.

It'd be really hard to prove anything. Tarayshia could just use the story about him cheating on his wife and say because of that she didn't think he was telling the truth.
Yes, but I think it's very hard to lie about these things when you know you're wrong and you know what happened was wrong. The potential to make a mistake or just confess out of guilt is very strong.

*Points to screen*

This is evidence if he was ever confronted with something.You reckon the cops would ever find this thread? I doubt they would be bothered enough to seize her computer, examine her history and then search all the sites she's visited for evidence. Hell to be that bothered they'd have to know this thread existed.

Well, if there's a child, I'd say there's a hell of a lot of DNA evidence...

Besides, if he has confessed this to you and you don't tell anyone, you are committing a crime yourself, and should it ever come out you could face serious consequences.

Brad told me that he did confess to the woman, a few months ago over the phone. Of course, I have no proof of that..it's a complacated story when it comes to brad and this woman..very complacated.
To put it very very basically:
They dated in high school, she cheated on him and used him for money, he raped her while she was past out to get back at her because of the using him for money, she got pregnant, thought it was her current boyfriend at the time's kid. Brad went off to the military, he hooked up with this woman again, they both needed money for stuff so they get married in order to get money cause I guess if you're married in the military you get more money given to you.
Basically, brad is a hypicrit..don't know how to spell that word that's not the point. He's still married to this woman, however he claims that whenever he sends her the papers in order to get the devorice that she doesn't sign them and he gets them back in the mail.
Like I siad, there is much much more to this story..it's fucking messed up..so i'm being very basic here.

Trust me, I would have no proof, it would be my word against his. I have no record against me. He would just get out of it somehow, plus I don't know this woman I've never met her and never have talked to her.
I only get Brad's story and that isn't much..considering his credability.

Brad told me that he did confess to the woman, a few months ago over the phone. Of course, I have no proof of that..it's a complacated story when it comes to brad and this woman..very complacated.
To put it very very basically:
They dated in high school, she cheated on him and used him for money, he raped her while she was past out to get back at her because of the using him for money, she got pregnant, thought it was her current boyfriend at the time's kid. Brad went off to the military, he hooked up with this woman again, they both needed money for stuff so they get married in order to get money cause I guess if you're married in the military you get more money given to you.
Basically, brad is a hypicrit..don't know how to spell that word that's not the point. He's still married to this woman, however he claims that whenever he sends her the papers in order to get the devorice that she doesn't sign them and he gets them back in the mail.
Like I siad, there is much much more to this story..it's fucking messed up..so i'm being very basic here.


Forgive me if you've already cleared this up but, you said that he hides things from his "wife" in the first post. Is he actually married to her? According to this post, he's still married to the old girlfriend. That would either make him a liar (again) or a bigamist.

Ok, some basic stuff about his family:

1. Brad's mom was a hooker thus didn't raise brad and his brother and 2 sisters. Brad's grandparents raised him, basically let him get away with whatever which does explain what a pathetic mess of a person he is.
2. In order to get money, his cousin Tracy made up a story that a doctor (while she was getting an exam by an OBGYN) she said that he touched her breasts and put his fingers inside her..asulting her. She took it to court and tried to sue the doctor for 80000 dollars however thankfully the courts dismissed her case cause of lack of evidence. Tracy admitted that she did it cause she needed money to pay stuff off.
3. Brad's brother Brent does drugs, most likely sells drugs, steals from people..basically, he's worthless white trash.
4. According to Brad, his dad is well known for sleeping with anyone to get himself out of whatever he gets himself into, including police people.
Like father like son

I could go on and on about these white trash low people, however I won't..there's just some basic stuff.

P.S. I know my family isn't perfect. I have an aunt on my dad's side that does and sells drugs, a mom who took money from me out of my social sacurity checks for her own stuff, have a sister that would give a guy head just for buying her dinner..etc
My sister although she is a bitch for other reasons, however she's grown-up and has stopped acting like a slut and stupid.
For obvious reasons, I distance myself from my family, I hate people that do drugs or have anything to do with them..and when I say drugs i mean elegal stuff. If you try something once, I can understand that cause a person is curious about it, but when you continiously do stupid shit with drugs..that makes you an idiot and stupid.
I've never done drugs, and I do not plann to.

Ok, some basic stuff about his family:

1. Brad's mom was a hooker thus didn't raise brad and his brother and 2 sisters. Brad's grandparents raised him, basically let him get away with whatever which does explain what a pathetic mess of a person he is.
2. In order to get money, his cousin Tracy made up a story that a doctor (while she was getting an exam by an OBGYN) she said that he touched her breasts and put his fingers inside her..asulting her. She took it to court and tried to sue the doctor for 80000 dollars however thankfully the courts dismissed her case cause of lack of evidence. Tracy admitted that she did it cause she needed money to pay stuff off.
3. Brad's brother Brent does drugs, most likely sells drugs, steals from people..basically, he's worthless white trash.
4. According to Brad, his dad is well known for sleeping with anyone to get himself out of whatever he gets himself into, including police people.
Like father like son

I could go on and on about these white trash low people, however I won't..there's just some basic stuff.

P.S. I know my family isn't perfect. I have an aunt on my dad's side that does and sells drugs, a mom who took money from me out of my social sacurity checks for her own stuff, have a sister that would give a guy head just for buying her dinner..etc
My sister although she is a bitch for other reasons, however she's grown-up and has stopped acting like a slut and stupid.
For obvious reasons, I distance myself from my family, I hate people that do drugs or have anything to do with them..and when I say drugs i mean elegal stuff. If you try something once, I can understand that cause a person is curious about it, but when you continiously do stupid shit with drugs..that makes you an idiot and stupid.
I've never done drugs, and I do not plann to.Why are you even talking to this bastard? He's screwed up. It ain't your problem.

Forgive me if you've already cleared this up but, you said that he hides things from his "wife" in the first post. Is he actually married to her? According to this post, he's still married to the old girlfriend. That would either make him a liar (again) or a bigamist.

Technically, they aren't married, but they tell people they are. They tried fouling taxes together but when Brenda tried she discovered that this woman that Brad is married to was still alive.
Kathy (which is the married girl) get into a huge fight with her mom and her mom told Brad that Kathy was dead..i guess dead to Kathy's mom. Brad tried to find out if Kathy's death was true, he thought it was (based on all the information that he had gotten) so he married Brenda. When they found out that Kathy was alive (and living in organ) the marriage was nonenvoid.

Oi, it's like a fucking soapopra..

In order to get money, his cousin Tracy made up a story that a doctor (while she was getting an exam by an OBGYN) she said that he touched her breasts
and put his fingers inside her..asulting her. She took it to court and tried to sue the doctor for 80000 dollars however thankfully the courts dismissed
her case cause of lack of evidence. Tracy admitted that she did it cause she needed money to pay stuff off.

I'm working as a volunteer with women that are victims of sexual violence, and the fact that someone made a story like that up pisses me off, disturbs me and also prooves how worthless and low trash these people are. Although it does happen, rape is not a crime that any normal self-respecting woman makes up..
I'm glad that bitch's case was thrown out..I don't expect nothing less from Brad nor his family. Tracy gives women that do report and that are being truful about the real crime of rape and sexual asult a bad name.
I'm not denying that women make false reports about the crime of rape, however it's not a high occurance. I have had extensive training in this so I know what I am saying..

Maybe he needs to be saved from himself. You can't save everybody though. Watch yourself.

Maybe he needs to be saved from himself. You can't save everybody though. Watch yourself.

Yeah, you can't save everyone..i don't think he'll change.
Good news: he hasn't called me today, and believe me he calls my house 2 or 3 times a day..I don't call his house though, unless to call him back.

Maybe he needs to be saved from himself. You can't save everybody though. Watch yourself.
Maybe he needs motivation to save himself from himself.

In order to get money, his cousin Tracy made up a story that a doctor (while she was getting an exam by an OBGYN) she said that he touched her breasts
and put his fingers inside her..asulting her. She took it to court and tried to sue the doctor for 80000 dollars however thankfully the courts dismissed
her case cause of lack of evidence. Tracy admitted that she did it cause she needed money to pay stuff off.

I'm working as a volunteer with women that are victims of sexual violence, and the fact that someone made a story like that up pisses me off, disturbs me and also prooves how worthless and low trash these people are. Although it does happen, rape is not a crime that any normal self-respecting woman makes up..
I'm glad that bitch's case was thrown out..I don't expect nothing less from Brad nor his family. Tracy gives women that do report and that are being truful about the real crime of rape and sexual asult a bad name.
I'm not denying that women make false reports about the crime of rape, however it's not a high occurance. I have had extensive training in this so I know what I am saying..
I've done extensive reading on this written by researchers who found sometimes first-hand what you say. A very select few ruin the reputations of the whole lot. It makes it like males trying to report rape. NOBODY believes that.

It's about an Arab diplomat who falls in love with a powerful man's wife, maybe a sultan or something. That's just the prologue. He is banished to a mission in the "Northlands," where he chances upon a king's entourage at his funeral, the last one perfomed in the old way, with all his possessions (and his wife) burning with him on the ship serving as his pyre. There 13 warriors, the number of months in their lunar year, are selected to go north with a boy messenger who arrived in the night requesting assistance against the nameless ones, the eaters of the dead. So twelve men volunteer to go, and the 13th must be no "northman," so the Arab's servant informs him he must be the 13th warrior. The short version of the rest of the movie: they fight a lot of canibals who dress like bears to give the impression they are demons, kill the matriarchal leader and the general and the king who led the 13 warriors dies in a noble pose. The details really are what makes it such a great movie, though. And the Odyssey is great, too, if you aren't familiar with that. Jason and the Argonauts, that's a good movie.


Note: it's basically a retelling of the Beowulf tale.

Note: it's basically a retelling of the Beowulf tale.
A bit, but there's no dragon. In Beowulf, I'm pretty sure I remember a dragon. They do mention a dragon, but it turns out to be cavalry. And someone says, "I'd rather prefer a dragon!" And the main character is sort of an addendum to the Beowulf-replacement's tale. Beowulf is a great legend. I only wish I could read it in the original Old English.

I read the short virsion of that story in school..at least I think it was the short one.

Males getting raped does happen..although most people don't believe it because what guy would turn down a woman for sex?
That's the media's attitude mostly..
and mine, sometimes..most guys don't pass up the chance for sex with a woman.
Brad has bosted that he has slept with 130 women, and 6 guys..don't know if it's true..he has said that he knew someone that slept with 1000 people or more.
Given the type of person brad is..nothing surprises me anymore.

Rape, by definition is a man forcing his sex on a female. A man being sexually assulted is what it is looked at in the law.

Any, this guy...needs help. Or reality. He's so out of reality that he thinks this kinda stuff is ok.

...it's sad that people can get this low.

Males getting raped does happen..although most people don't believe it because what guy would turn down a woman for sex?
That's the media's attitude mostly..
and mine, sometimes..most guys don't pass up the chance for sex with a woman.
Brad has bosted that he has slept with 130 women, and 6 guys..don't know if it's true..he has said that he knew someone that slept with 1000 people or more.
Given the type of person brad is..nothing surprises me anymore.
Yeah, exactly. Then again, males being raped is incredibly low. Usually, they are the ones on the sexual offensive. Sexual offense is such a touchy subject these days. If only everyone were as sexually conservative as I am (though I don't mind talking about it much), there wouldn't be those sorts of problems. Of course, that would also eliminate the need for contraceptives. ;)

Rape, by definition is a man forcing his sex on a female. A man being sexually assulted is what it is looked at in the law.

Any, this guy...needs help. Or reality. He's so out of reality that he thinks this kinda stuff is ok.

...it's sad that people can get this low.

I agree..
No woman (no buddy) deserves to be raped. I told Brad that it is never the woman's fault that she was raped that it is the perpatrator's fault and his exact words were, "bull shit."

Rape, by definition is a man forcing his sex on a female. A man being sexually assulted is what it is looked at in the law.

Any, this guy...needs help. Or reality. He's so out of reality that he thinks this kinda stuff is ok.

...it's sad that people can get this low.
You never should have resorted to definitions. Rape is the theft by force of a thing, often connotatively assumed to be sexual congress, which is not limited to a man forcing a woman but also includes women forcing men. But yes, from a legal standpoint, what we refer to as "rape" technically is "sexual assault".

I agree..
No woman (no buddy) deserves to be raped. I told Brad that it is never the woman's fault that she was raped that it is the perpatrator's fault and his exact words were, "bull shit."
Like I said, he is the epitome of evil. If before I just said evil, I meant the epitome thereof. Anyone with no respect for women, particularly those victims of sexual predations, is evil. My Physics teacher, who is very, very tolerant, would disapprove rather stalwartly of this man's existance. He values nothing to higher regard than women. My Physics teacher, that is.

You never should have resorted to definitions. Rape is the theft by force of a thing, often connotatively assumed to be sexual congress, which is not limited to a man forcing a woman but also includes women forcing men. But yes, from a legal standpoint, what we refer to as "rape" technically is "sexual assault".

There is a difference between rape and a sexual asult. It's very slight, and there can be a lot of grey areas in between rape vs a sexual asult however here is the difference.
1. It is considered a rape with sexual intercourse by force or thread of force. A woman can have this happen to her and it would be considered a rape: "If you don't let me have sex with you I'm going to beat you."
Threatening to use force (threatening to beat her) and if she complies that is a rape because of the threat of force..or the force itself.
2. A sexual asult differs when you can not give consent..like if you are past out drunk and someone has sex with them with out there consent.
There was no force nor threat of force.
The teachers in my training covered this topic extensively..it was drilled in my head.

Rape, by definition is a man forcing his sex on a female. A man being sexually assulted is what it is looked at in the law.

Any, this guy...needs help. Or reality. He's so out of reality that he thinks this kinda stuff is ok.
...it's sad that people can get this low.


I question that. I suspect, from what I've seen here that he knows full well it's not ok, and simply doesn't care.

I question that. I suspect, from what I've seen here that he knows full well it's not ok, and simply doesn't care.

I'm just trying to be nice, but maybe you're right.

No, he doesn't..

There is a difference between rape and a sexual asult. It's very slight, and there can be a lot of grey areas in between rape vs a sexual asult however here is the difference.
1. It is considered a rape with sexual intercourse by force or thread of force. A woman can have this happen to her and it would be considered a rape: "If you don't let me have sex with you I'm going to beat you."
Threatening to use force (threatening to beat her) and if she complies that is a rape because of the threat of force..or the force itself.
2. A sexual asult differs when you can not give consent..like if you are past out drunk and someone has sex with them with out there consent.
There was no force nor threat of force.
The teachers in my training covered this topic extensively..it was drilled in my head.
The only difference is the ambiguity surrounding legal terminology. I won't adhere to the petty excuses of the weak. You should know better than to submit to everything they try to program into your head. Your technicalities mean nothing to me. Sexual rape is still rape, no matter how you play around with the words. Never forget that when you confront the Stilted Diction King and the Master of the Paraphrase.

No, he doesn't..
That was my impression as well. So, on to the resolution of the problem. Have we sufficiently isolated his role yet?

A bit, but there's no dragon. In Beowulf, I'm pretty sure I remember a dragon. They do mention a dragon, but it turns out to be cavalry. And someone says, "I'd rather prefer a dragon!" And the main character is sort of an addendum to the Beowulf-replacement's tale. Beowulf is a great legend. I only wish I could read it in the original Old English.

There is a dragon -- it's the raiders riding down from the hills carrying torches so it seems to be a great wyrm. And yes, the Arab is added on to the tale. :)

There is a dragon -- it's the raiders riding down from the hills carrying torches so it seems to be a great wyrm. And yes, the Arab is added on to the tale. :)
Like I said, it's cavalry.:p
Not the same as a dragon, but still makes for a good movie.

The only difference is the ambiguity surrounding legal terminology. I won't adhere to the petty excuses of the weak. You should know better than to submit to everything they try to program into your head. Your technicalities mean nothing to me. Sexual rape is still rape, no matter how you play around with the words. Never forget that when you confront the Stilted Diction King and the Master of the Paraphrase.

I believe you, however I have to follow what the teachers say..at least on the homework assignments.

Isolated his role?

I believe you, however I have to follow what the teachers say..at least on the homework assignments.
No, you don't. You probably should, but you don't have to. I never do. I tell them exactly what I think, and they usually respect that. Of course, it usually includes a brief overview of what they wanted and why that is wrong.

Isolated his role?
Yes. Have we sufficiently identified his significance to you?

I think i know what you mean by that..

1. Brad does validate my writing of Disney fanfiction..and gives me ideas.
2. It's not brad's physical presents cause we talk on the phone and maybe see one another like, once or twice a year..he doesn't live that far from me.
3. He does give me advice on stuff with my family..
That's it, nothing else. I just hate it cause who wants to be friends with someone and you think he constantly lies to you?
Among other things..

I think i know what you mean by that..

1. Brad does validate my writing of Disney fanfiction..and gives me ideas.
2. It's not brad's physical presents cause we talk on the phone and maybe see one another like, once or twice a year..he doesn't live that far from me.
3. He does give me advice on stuff with my family..
That's it, nothing else. I just hate it cause who wants to be friends with someone and you think he constantly lies to you?
Among other things..
Okay. Do you need a personal source of ideas and validation of the fanfiction? Maybe whoever suggested the group was right. Maybe they could help you develop a manuscript that you could send to Disney or something like that. Others can give you advice on family. You must simply find someone who cares and doesn't have a habit of pathological lying. Oh, that is rather a daunting task, isn't it?

I don't write stuff for Disney, just Disney fanfiction for my intertainment and others.

www.fanfiction.net/~sunrise19

That pretty much explains it.

Hard to find honest, caring, nice, trust worthy people in the world these days..

Hard to find honest, caring, nice, trust worthy people in the world these days..

The best you can hope for are bitter or apathtic.

...that or you could get a puppy that'll love you no matter what.

Puppy...damn landlord doesn't allow pets.

Wait until you're my age to be so bitter and cynical.

Wait until you're my age to be so bitter and cynical.

How old are you?

38. But being back in school has a way of making me feel older.

I wouldn't say I'm bitter..sinacle to a point yes..just very cosious.i try to be.

Well, I've posted a Disney thread in the general thread..maybe (somehow) I could get a Disney group together or something..only time will tell.

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I am curious,what position is your boyfriend and by extension your other friends taking on this? Do they agree that he is an idiot and a sociopath too? The idea being, that given general agreement in this area why is there even any discussion regarding Brads' behavoiur and your friendship with him? Apropos of nothing,just curious,have you being blind since birth or was it a childhood disease or accident?

snip OP = " One time, he told me that he cheated on his wife and although I am his friend I thought that his wife should know that her husband had messed around on her. I told her "

None of your business.

If you think so lowly of him and his ways, cut him out of your life. Period. And personally from what I've read.... It sounds like you got the hots for him.

snip OP = " One time, he told me that he cheated on his wife and although I am his friend I thought that his wife should know that her husband had messed around on her. I told her "

None of your business.

If you think so lowly of him and his ways, cut him out of your life. Period. And personally from what I've read.... It sounds like you got the hots for him.

You couldn't be anymore wrong about me having the hots for him. In 5 years there has and never has been anything between us, and I wanted to keep it that way for obvious reasons. He had a kid, I would never date someone that has all that baggage and crap like that.
You can be good friends with the opisit sex with out having any kind of physical atraction..

*snip*
1. He lies;constantly it seems. He hides very important things from his wife, however he tells me them and tells me not to tell her. One time, he told me that he cheated on his wife and although I am his friend I thought that his wife should know that her husband had messed around on her. I told her and he said he told me that he cheated on his wife to, "test," me and see if I would tell her. He says that he has never cheated on her..I don't believe that but his wife did. I don't believe the crap about the testing me ither..up until then I have never betrayed his trust on anything..however cheating husbands hits close to home for me; my dad messed around on my mom when they were married so I can't stand cheaters.

Wow, with friends like you who needs enemies.

If he can't trust you to keep his secrets, and you hate him so much to go talk about him behind his back on an internet forum, perhaps you should do him and you both a favor and just cut off all contact with him.

If you have no fantasy about him, and you despise him so, then why exactly are you still associating with him? What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? It's one thing to have a sorry SOB in your family or to be married to one or in a serious relationship with one, but allowing one to be in your life for nothing. (?)

I am curious,what position is your boyfriend and by extension your other friends taking on this? Do they agree that he is an idiot and a sociopath too? The idea being, that given general agreement in this area why is there even any discussion regarding Brads' behavoiur and your friendship with him? Apropos of nothing,just curious,have you being blind since birth or was it a childhood disease or accident?

I was blind at birth, I was born to early and they put me in a incubator and gave me oxygen however back in the 80's they didn't know how much to give. So the stuff disconnected the retnas in the back of my eyes and that's cause i'm blind.

If you have no fantasy about him, and you despise him so, then why exactly are you still associating with him? What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? It's one thing to have a sorry SOB in your family or to be married to one or in a serious relationship with one, but allowing one to be in your life for nothing. (?)

I guess it's very complacated..if you read all my posts about my writing, disney and such. Don't worry, I don't expect you to understand..

I guess it's very complacated..if you read all my posts about my writing, disney and such. Don't worry, I don't expect you to understand..

Understood. But remember you chose to have this person in your life for whatever reasons. And I wish you all the best.

Understood. But remember you chose to have this person in your life for whatever reasons. And I wish you all the best.

Yes, I do understand what you are saying..and thank you.

Hi all,
I don't know who suggested for me to post something about disney and my writings to see if I could find someone to exchange ideas and such with, however I have and we'll see what happens.
Although, the replies aren't that great, but that's no big deal..I rather put up with the crap of people I don't know than brad's crap.

Hmm... as a person who works with children I know in the state of California if I know about or suspect child abuse and don't report it I have commited a crime and will most likely get fired. I don't know what the law is in your state but it is your moral and perhaps legal duty to report child abuse immediatelly. And if you live in California and are unwilling to report him give me the bastard's name and address so I can report him to the authorities. Sad...only stupid people are breeding.

Sad...only stupid people are breeding.

I couldn't agree with you more!!!!
I don't live in California;but Brad doesn't abuse his kids that I've seen. A smack on the butt or hand and that's it..and a time-out but that's nothing..haha

You might want to check what qualifies as child abuse, verbal abuse is a form of child abuse that we report here.

You might want to check what qualifies as child abuse, verbal abuse is a form of child abuse that we report here.

Oh, I didn't know that..

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You should just have Brad quietly killed.


In all serious, cut off contact with him.

I don't write stuff for Disney, just Disney fanfiction for my intertainment and others.

www.fanfiction.net/~sunrise19

That pretty much explains it.

Hard to find honest, caring, nice, trust worthy people in the world these days..
I know, but I thought maybe you'd like to do a manuscript for them, but if you don't, that's great too. Either way, making a manuscript would be a fun little project for you and the group, still assuming you don't need a more personal source. For that, you could simply communicate with a member of the group you connect with more than the others.

Wow, with friends like you who needs enemies.

If he can't trust you to keep his secrets, and you hate him so much to go talk about him behind his back on an internet forum, perhaps you should do him and you both a favor and just cut off all contact with him.
So much you don't understand.:gundge: Perhaps you should appeal to your village wise man to teach you the meaning of morality. (Oh my Mod, I never said that before.)

Just keep in mind that we tend to drift in the direction of that which we look at. If you keep hanging around with this "friend," it's most likely that you will begin to pick up some of his personality characteristics. Are you sure this is what you want?

Just keep in mind that we tend to drift in the direction of that which we look at. If you keep hanging around with this "friend," it's most likely that you will begin to pick up some of his personality characteristics. Are you sure this is what you want?
That was something I'd thought about, but dismissed as insignificant at this point in time. I suppose I should have mentioned it anyway, though.

All of you bring up very good points, no I do not want to act like him nor be like him in any way what so ever..I'm better than that.
I'm not talking about him to be cruel or malicious, nor to get back at him for anything..the only reason I created this thread in this forum was to gather advice, to try and go in a new direction in terms of finding others who may share (at least somewhat) in my interests thus I wouldn't have to rely on Brad.

what's so great about him that makes him your friend?

what's so great about him that makes him your friend?

He's just some guy that I talk to about my interests..such as Disney and the fact that I write fanfiction. He validates my writing, gives me ideas, we discuss it..etc.
We also talk about tv shows that we like, music..etc
We talk about our lives and such;that's it..really that's all. I don't have a lot of friends in the area that I live in, it's hard for me to make friends..I do try not to judge people, however when you see/hear them say/do stuff over the phone or in front of you that you don't agree with it bothers me.

He's just some guy that I talk to about my interests..such as Disney and the fact that I write fanfiction. He validates my writing, gives me ideas, we discuss it..etc.
We also talk about tv shows that we like, music..etc
We talk about our lives and such;that's it..really that's all. I don't have a lot of friends in the area that I live in, it's hard for me to make friends..I do try not to judge people, however when you see/hear them say/do stuff over the phone or in front of you that you don't agree with it bothers me.
ok

He's just some guy that I talk to about my interests..such as Disney and the fact that I write fanfiction. He validates my writing, gives me ideas, we discuss it..etc.
We also talk about tv shows that we like, music..etc
We talk about our lives and such;that's it..really that's all. I don't have a lot of friends in the area that I live in, it's hard for me to make friends..I do try not to judge people, however when you see/hear them say/do stuff over the phone or in front of you that you don't agree with it bothers me.
That last part isn't well worded. I should like to clarify: he commits acts that defy the moral ideals of our friend here to such a fundamental extent that she seems unable to bear their "friendship" any longer. Anyone else who's been here awhile feel free to elaborate or clarify that.

That last part isn't well worded. I should like to clarify: he commits acts that defy the moral ideals of our friend here to such a fundamental extent that she seems unable to bear their "friendship" any longer. Anyone else who's been here awhile feel free to elaborate or clarify that.

Yeah, I guess you could say that..at first when we started hanging out his crap didn't bother me/get on my nerves. However after almost 5 years, I'm just plane sick and tired of his childish, stupid immature shit that he does. I just play along with it, because I've learned that he really doesn't listen to a word I say against his ideas, so he'll do whatever he wants anyway so it's like why waste my breath?
His wife's the same way..even before there mock wedding she'd call me all the time (while brad was at work..when he actually held a job) and talk to me about how she thinks that he's cheated but that she didn't have proof, and how his family treats her..etc. At first I would try and help give advice, but look;she's still with him..she still puts up with him.
And the sad thing is they have that mistake called a kid..just sad.

Hope that explains some things..

Yeah, I guess you could say that..at first when we started hanging out his crap didn't bother me/get on my nerves. However after almost 5 years, I'm just plane sick and tired of his childish, stupid immature shit that he does. I just play along with it, because I've learned that he really doesn't listen to a word I say against his ideas, so he'll do whatever he wants anyway so it's like why waste my breath?
His wife's the same way..even before there mock wedding she'd call me all the time (while brad was at work..when he actually held a job) and talk to me about how she thinks that he's cheated but that she didn't have proof, and how his family treats her..etc. At first I would try and help give advice, but look;she's still with him..she still puts up with him.
And the sad thing is they have that mistake called a kid..just sad.

He's just some guy that I talk to about my interests..such as Disney and the fact that I write fanfiction. He validates my writing, gives me ideas, we discuss it..etc.
We also talk about tv shows that we like, music..etc
We talk about our lives and such;that's it..really that's all. I don't have a lot of friends in the area that I live in, it's hard for me to make friends..I do try not to judge people, however when you see/hear them say/do stuff over the phone or in front of you that you don't agree with it bothers me.
It's starting to sound as if you've had enough of him. You are here asking "just for advice" but in a manner that sounds like "how do I get rid of this person?" Are you looking for some validation that it's okay to cut him out of your life after all this time? You have it. Just about everyone on this thread has confirmed that the parts of him you don't like really are that despicable. We've gone farther and said we think he might be dangerous to you -- psychologically and emotionally, if not physically. I think you are really hoping to find social connections to replace him with. There are such connections. All you have to do is look for them. Like I suggested, check with your area libraries for amateur writers' groups for real life connections. Surf the web for online writers' groups that might be more focused on your area of interest. Who knows? Even Disney's official websites might be able to hook you up. Your life does not depend on this one person who is so poisonous to all his other relationships.

I doubt Brad had sex with that girl for "revenge." From the other descriptions of him, I bet he did it for, well, the sex.

My advice: Find someone else who likes Disney (I'm serious, not trying to make fun of you or anything), and never pass out with Brad.

I doubt Brad had sex with that girl for "revenge." From the other descriptions of him, I bet he did it for, well, the sex.

My advice: Find someone else who likes Disney (I'm serious, not trying to make fun of you or anything), and never pass out with Brad.

Oh hell no..I've never past out and I've never past out in front of him.

Oh hell no..I've never past out and I've never past out in front of him.
That's a start. Now on to the other advice. Like checking out Disney's official site to find others to support your fanfiction.

That's a start. Now on to the other advice. Like checking out Disney's official site to find others to support your fanfiction.

Yes, I'm still working on that..

Yes, I'm still working on that..
Your "favorite Disney movie" thread seems to be doing well enough. You needn't be shy about letting strangers see your work. Take your time, but do find the connections that I assure you are out there.

Your "favorite Disney movie" thread seems to be doing well enough. You needn't be shy about letting strangers see your work. Take your time, but do find the connections that I assure you are out there.
Last I saw it was at least six pages or so.

Very true..
I created a thread entitled, "Would anyone be interested in helping me," and I basically got mocked for one stupid reason or another...oh well.

Tarayshia, you have a TG.

Tarayshia, you have a TG.

Got it, sent 1 back to you.

Oh look, a bump! lol..

Oh look, a bump! lol..
A bump, eh? Don't know where that little BUMP came from....

I did that to make my posts even..
P.S. Brad and I haven't talked for a few days..everytime he calls I say I can't talk, or i'm busy..etc and I just don't call him back. I don't know if his stopped calling means if he's gotten the hint, or he's just to busy right now.
Another reason I'm still friends with him is so I can get the money that he owes my boyfriend..he owes my boyfriend 60 dollars..my boyfriend was nice enough to give it to him. This was before I learned about all his crap and what kind of a person he is..I won't rest until I get that money..somehow
I don't still from people..i'll just keep nagging him cause i know brad has the money..gets it from his son's SSI checks every month just cause his brat of a kid has ADD.
Brad won't work cause he knows he'll lose the benifits..stupid fucker using his own kid..can't expect nothing less really.
I'm sure this surprises none of you that are reading, or have read this thread..I want to thank everyone for there help, suggestions and there advice.
I want to say this before the thread dies defenently.

if you succeed, tell me how you did it, and maybe I can make my ex-girlfriend payback the $300 she owes me.

Oh damn..300 dollars? wow..
Just keep nagging, and show up at there house for the money, especially somehow if you know they have it.

No cna do. A) I now live an hour away and I don't have a car, B) she moved in with the last guy (of several) she'd been cheating on me with, and best of all C) the last time she called me and I reminded her of the money, instead of just slamming the phone down in my ear like normal, she informed me that if I continued to call her and harrass her, she'd have me arrested. The girl is seriously insane.

No cna do. A) I now live an hour away and I don't have a car, B) she moved in with the last guy (of several) she'd been cheating on me with, and best of all C) the last time she called me and I reminded her of the money, instead of just slamming the phone down in my ear like normal, she informed me that if I continued to call her and harrass her, she'd have me arrested. The girl is seriously insane.

Well, with a person like that;it may be best for you to swallow the loss and never lend money to a girlfriend unless she becomes your wife..lol

Well, with a person like that;it may be best for you to swallow the loss and never lend money to a girlfriend unless she becomes your wife..lol


A wife? Not likely to ever come up, as I haven't even had a date in two years.

A wife? Not likely to ever come up, as I haven't even had a date in two years.

Oh, sorry for bringing that up then..
By the way, did you get my tg? just curious..

Oh, sorry for bringing that up then..
By the way, did you get my tg? just curious..


Got one last night. Was too tired to write back, went to bed, and this morning I accidentally erased it.

Got one last night. Was too tired to write back, went to bed, and this morning I accidentally erased it.

Oh, I understand..

Hi all!

Brad called me and told me that he's called it quits with his girlfriend Brenda. I knew it was Never going to last..
It's really ashame that they have that mistake called a kid, they can't just leave, or stop talking to one another..etc.
Brad told me that they're still going to live in the same house, however that's all.
Two stupid people..really, I don't feel bad for Brenda and Brad I feel bad for the kids.
Again, I want to thank you all for your advice and help. It does mean a lot
:)
Also, if Brenda does kick him out I won't offer brad a place to stay, nor will I offer him money. He'll most likely go stay at one of his low life friend's house..who knows what people he hangs with.
I'm done with him! I'm only keeping contact cause I want that money that he owes my boyfriend and I know he has it.

Brenda and Brad are back together.
Yeah I don't care either, I just want to increase my number of posts.

*cough*post whore*cough* :D

*cough*post whore*cough* :D

Must..get..to..2000 posts...
*laughs*