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Dilemma

The blessed Chris
17-04-2006, 22:38
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?
Bodinia
17-04-2006, 22:49
aye
The Nuke Testgrounds
17-04-2006, 22:50
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?

The first one makes your life hollow. Although you would not know it. The latter option makes your life meaningful. But you would also be very sad.

I'll still go with option 2.
Call to power
17-04-2006, 23:02
second option...I think we've all bin there and made the choice already “its better to love than too never love at all” or something along those lines
Yootopia
17-04-2006, 23:05
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?

I would say it probably is better not to have. From experience.

Is this a real event that's happened to you?
I V Stalin
17-04-2006, 23:45
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?
Who'd've thought it? I've been in both situations. Admittedly, I now have her, so I guess she wasn't 'impossible' to have. Although for the first eighteen months of knowing her, it was impossible.

Anyway.

The former situation was preferable.
[NS]Liasia
17-04-2006, 23:47
This, my friend, is a bridge i'll cross when i come to it. You never know how you'll react in a situation till it happens.
Call to power
17-04-2006, 23:49
Who'd've thought it? I've been in both situations. Admittedly, I now have her, so I guess she wasn't 'impossible' to have.

you do know that your going to get struck by a comet or something to balance out that luck....right
Eutrusca
17-04-2006, 23:51
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?
"Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." :)
I V Stalin
17-04-2006, 23:51
you do know that your going to get struck by a comet or something to balance out that luck....right
Nah, she was balancing out the luck. Compared to my relationship with my first girlfriend, not being able to have my current one was a walk in the goddamn park.
I V Stalin
17-04-2006, 23:52
"Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." :)
Which part of this does that relate to?

If you've never met her, you don't love her, but if you've met her and can't have her, you're not losing her. Or am I missing something? :confused:
Undelia
17-04-2006, 23:53
As there is no such thing as a “love of your life,” I go with option one, as it represents reality and the current state of existence for all of us, rather you refuse to lie to yourself or not.
Zolworld
17-04-2006, 23:53
I would rather have met her. Not only can I never have her but even if I got her it would never work out. but its worth it to know her.
Dogburg II
17-04-2006, 23:55
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?

If she's impossible to have, you'd be better off making her not-the-love-of-your-life. That way you can hook up with other loves of your life, some of whom will be possible to have.
Call to power
17-04-2006, 23:56
reminds me off all those crushes over the school years one day the nice guy will win:)
Sumamba Buwhan
18-04-2006, 00:08
Finding a love that you can never have stings like no other pain you have ever felt. I would go with option1.
Soheran
18-04-2006, 00:08
Most definitely. I would despise loving something unattainable; a loveless life is far preferable.
Smunkeeville
18-04-2006, 00:44
I remember hearing someone say once "I can't find Mr. Right, but I am having tons of fun with Mr. Wrong"

I guess it depends on what you mean "meet but can't have", how would you know they were the love of your life if you never got involved with them, and if you did get involved then how is that "can't have them" since you did at one point.
Zilam
18-04-2006, 00:50
Would you rather never have met the love of your life than know her but also know she's impossible to have?


i live every day of my life with option number 2...and i couldn't be happier. If i would have never known her..well i wouldn't be me
Sumamba Buwhan
18-04-2006, 00:51
I guess it depends on what you mean "meet but can't have", how would you know they were the love of your life if you never got involved with them, and if you did get involved then how is that "can't have them" since you did at one point.

Personally I fell in love with my best friend... a best friend that didn't feel the same for me. It was pure mental anguish for many years. It really took a lot of work on myself to get over the hurt and still I am not fully over it, even while I am in love with someone else and marrying them!