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Really, mums are way underrated. I see a lot of my friends get agro or bitchy with their mothers, but i think mothers are legends. They deserve to get a six figure pension. I know my life would absolutely suck without my mum.

So please, share. Good mums? Crappy mums? Tell me your story.

Really, mums are way underrated. I see a lot of my friends get agro or bitchy with their mothers, but i think mothers are legends. They deserve to get a six figure pension. I know my life would absolutely suck without my mum.

So please, share. Good mums? Crappy mums? Tell me your story.
mine kicked the bucket when I was 16.Its true, you never miss them till their gone

mine kicked the bucket when I was 16.Its true, you never miss them till their gone

Damm. Natural causes, Cancer, what?

Damm. Natural causes, Cancer, what?
stomach cancer , real nasty!!

stomach cancer , real nasty!!
Not nice.

No other takers? Guess nobody else loves their mum.

Really, mums are way underrated. I see a lot of my friends get agro or bitchy with their mothers, but i think mothers are legends. They deserve to get a six figure pension. I know my life would absolutely suck without my mum.

So please, share. Good mums? Crappy mums? Tell me your story.
I llive my mom.. she will be the most influentil in my life.. but i need freedom too.. so she is only 50% of how i think.. she is 50% of my mroals.. the other 50% are liberal.. wait,... whart?

Mine is terminal with cancer, it will tear me apart when she's gone, but sometimes I also wish it would be over quickly. It's kind of complex. She gets really nasty sometimes, a good friend told me that when it's like that to remember it's the cancer not my mum. Many times talking with her either on the phone or in person I really want to tell her to get lost, but then the next day she is back to normal, and it really is on a day to day basis never knowing how she is going to be. I can understand that it must be really destroying her knowing that you have a death sentence hanging over her. Also seeing how the cancer is affecting her quality of life is just awful, the disease and the treatments. Somedays I feel that we are all being really selfish by expecting her to keep going through all the chemo and radiotherapy, for what....? Just so we can keep her for longer? Ok I know she also wants to fight to hang on to her life, although as time goes on I can see that dwindling too.
I really do love my mum and I am grateful to have the chance to tell her every day how much she means to me, also that she has the chance to get to know her new grand-daughter. She has helped me through so much and as always been on the end of the phone when I have needed her.
So to me, my mum is absolutely the best regardless of all the bad times.
As I said at the beginning it will tear me apart, however I now have a daughter who takes after my mum in many ways, and through her I have a reason to keep going and to give as much and more as my mum gave me.
Thank you so much for this thread and letting me put down some of the thoughts and emotions that are going through my head.

This thread makes me want to cry. I love both my parents so much, I couldn't imagine life without them...:(

Oh to have a mother. :(

Mine is terminal with cancer, it will tear me apart when she's gone, but sometimes I also wish it would be over quickly. It's kind of complex. She gets really nasty sometimes, a good friend told me that when it's like that to remember it's the cancer not my mum. Many times talking with her either on the phone or in person I really want to tell her to get lost, but then the next day she is back to normal, and it really is on a day to day basis never knowing how she is going to be. I can understand that it must be really destroying her knowing that you have a death sentence hanging over her. Also seeing how the cancer is affecting her quality of life is just awful, the disease and the treatments. Somedays I feel that we are all being really selfish by expecting her to keep going through all the chemo and radiotherapy, for what....? Just so we can keep her for longer? Ok I know she also wants to fight to hang on to her life, although as time goes on I can see that dwindling too.
I really do love my mum and I am grateful to have the chance to tell her every day how much she means to me, also that she has the chance to get to know her new grand-daughter. She has helped me through so much and as always been on the end of the phone when I have needed her.
So to me, my mum is absolutely the best regardless of all the bad times.
As I said at the beginning it will tear me apart, however I now have a daughter who takes after my mum in many ways, and through her I have a reason to keep going and to give as much and more as my mum gave me.
Thank you so much for this thread and letting me put down some of the thoughts and emotions that are going through my head.

No worries, thats what this thread is here for. And I'm sorry about your mum, I hope you handle it ok when the time comes.

Oh to have a mother. :(

What happened to yours?

Mine is terminal with cancer, it will tear me apart when she's gone, but sometimes I also wish it would be over quickly. It's kind of complex. She gets really nasty sometimes, a good friend told me that when it's like that to remember it's the cancer not my mum. Many times talking with her either on the phone or in person I really want to tell her to get lost, but then the next day she is back to normal, and it really is on a day to day basis never knowing how she is going to be. I can understand that it must be really destroying her knowing that you have a death sentence hanging over her. Also seeing how the cancer is affecting her quality of life is just awful, the disease and the treatments. Somedays I feel that we are all being really selfish by expecting her to keep going through all the chemo and radiotherapy, for what....? Just so we can keep her for longer? Ok I know she also wants to fight to hang on to her life, although as time goes on I can see that dwindling too.
I really do love my mum and I am grateful to have the chance to tell her every day how much she means to me, also that she has the chance to get to know her new grand-daughter. She has helped me through so much and as always been on the end of the phone when I have needed her.
So to me, my mum is absolutely the best regardless of all the bad times.
As I said at the beginning it will tear me apart, however I now have a daughter who takes after my mum in many ways, and through her I have a reason to keep going and to give as much and more as my mum gave me.
Thank you so much for this thread and letting me put down some of the thoughts and emotions that are going through my head.
sounds like shes in pain and knows how much it hurts you to see her like this and is pushing you away to spare you from this.my mother was the same.hold the course and be strong.its not easy i know.for me it was a case of switching off all emotion when i was with her.it helps when you just do what has to be done.

sounds like shes in pain and knows how much it hurts you to see her like this and is pushing you away to spare you from this.my mother was the same.hold the course and be strong.its not easy i know.for me it was a case of switching off all emotion when i was with her.it helps when you just do what has to be done.

Thanks for that and yeah I have found this helps, also trying to put as much humour in life as possible.

What happened to yours?
She committed suicide. :(

She committed suicide. :(

That has to be a hard thing to deal with. Huge sympathies to you

milfs rock...jus kidding...but seriously....they do....yea Moms are important figures in everyones lives. So...apreciate them and keep your friends away. :p

That has to be a hard thing to deal with. Huge sympathies to you
Hardly a big thing to deal with. I was about 2 weeks old.

Over-rated.
Oh to the days when one could kill them after birth for sustenance.

Thanks for that and yeah I have found this helps, also trying to put as much humour in life as possible.
And always making like shes going to pull through does wonders.Even if everything says otherwise always hold out for the miracle.

This thread is really heart-breaking, I give all my sympathy and compassion to those who lost their mums.

But I agree with the OP, mums are great, and mine definitely is wonderful.

Keeping with the "death" theme almost, my birth mother died of cancer when I was three (and she 30). Couple memories of her illness, no memories of her.

And it's not like my stepmom (who I just think about as my mother, not "the stepmother") is a terrible person, she's just.... insanely difficult. She has so many issues, and made my growing up quite difficult indeed.
Of course now, that I'm a lot older and have been living far away from home for over a decade, it's all a lot more relaxed, and also today I can see that her complete irrationality and weird and unfair behaviour are really because of some very deep seated psychological problems she has.
But, you know, when you're a kid you're pretty powerless and desparate in the face of a completely wayward, unpredictable, and irrational person, especially when it's someone that wields as much power in your life as a mother does.

So yeah, I never really think about it all that much, but I *have* noticed that there are quite a few threads popping up once in a while where people sing the praises of their mothers - and my reaction to that is mainly surprise, really. Envy and surprise, but not really the urge to join into the praise.

i love my mum but she's completely nuts - threatens to kill herself every time anyone disagrees with her, it's hard to like someone like that :rolleyes: :(

i love my mum but she's completely nuts - threatens to kill herself every time anyone disagrees with her, it's hard to like someone like that :rolleyes: :(
Well, mine threatened all kinds of things, but at least not killing herself (that would have deprived her of the chance to piss us off some more, I guess :p [okay, that was mean, sorry Mom]) but yeah, I totally know what you mean.

I love my mom. She's always been like an older sister to me, really. We're so much alike, it can get kind of scary. We think alike, even finish each other's sentences half the time. I don't know what I'd do without my mom. I just hope that, when/if I become a mother, I can be half the kickass mom that mine is.

My sympathies to everyone who doesn't have a mother. I'd share mine, but it's hard to fit her through the CD drive.

My mum is great. Though not living in the same house is great. I've become more tolerant to her worrying and nagging, but she doesn't attempt to control my life anymore either. Whenever we talk is great, either over the phone or when I come and visit during the holidays. :D

I love my mom. She's always been like an older sister to me, really. We're so much alike, it can get kind of scary. We think alike, even finish each other's sentences half the time. I don't know what I'd do without my mom. I just hope that, when/if I become a mother, I can be half the kickass mom that mine is.

My sympathies to everyone who doesn't have a mother. I'd share mine, but it's hard to fit her through the CD drive.

Yep, same with mine. Only, we start each others sentences more often than finish. It really is one of the great joys in life, to have a mother like that. And to all those people on here who don't you get more sympathy from me than anyone or anything else on the planet. Whether you want it or not :p

I luv my mum but she treats me like a little child. "Whipe your nose, clean your room, be home by ten, take a shower, go to bed, go to school, go to your room, clean the dishes, whipe your arse (ok she did NOT say that), do your homework, do this, do that."

Really, mums are way underrated.

This:

http://www.mumsandgarters.com/mhstriple_small.jpg

Is a mum.

wtf are you on about?

I am a Mum, and I am pretty damned good!

I lost my own lovely Mum to cancer in January 2003, it is true that you never know how much you are going to miss them until they are gone. I find it impossibly hard to not be able to share important news with her, to call her in the morning and bitch about stuff, to have her shoulder to cry on when my life is tough, to have her make me feel that there will always be somebody who loves me no matter what...I miss her more than I can convey...but we were not like the waltons, we argued and I sometimes disliked her, sometimes disrespected her, drove her nuts, made her cry, made her despair and did all the stuff that so many people do when they grow up...but when my daugher went to her first prom, I waved her off and came inside and broke my heart because my Mum will never see what a beautiful young woman she is turnng into...will never know what her grandhildren grow into...and I am sitting her crying now so I will stop....

Mum, if I could just have one more cuddle, one more talk on the phone..one more hour...I would give everything I own to tell you my news and hold your hand.

x

I am a Mum, and I am pretty damned good!

I lost my own lovely Mum to cancer in January 2003, it is true that you never know how much you are going to miss them until they are gone. I find it impossibly hard to not be able to share important news with her, to call her in the morning and bitch about stuff, to have her shoulder to cry on when my life is tough, to have her make me feel that there will always be somebody who loves me no matter what...I miss her more than I can convey...but we were not like the waltons, we argued and I sometimes disliked her, sometimes disrespected her, drove her nuts, made her cry, made her despair and did all the stuff that so many people do when they grow up...but when my daugher went to her first prom, I waved her off and came inside and broke my heart because my Mum will never see what a beautiful young woman she is turnng into...will never know what her grandhildren grow into...and I am sitting her crying now so I will stop....

Mum, if I could just have one more cuddle, one more talk on the phone..one more hour...I would give everything I own to tell you my news and hold your hand.

x
Hi... Not sure if you remember me but it's good to hear from you again... if it wasn't for that about your mum. Sorry to hear that.

Hi... Not sure if you remember me but it's good to hear from you again... if it wasn't for that about your mum. Sorry to hear that.

I do :) , and thank you. :fluffle:

I do :) , and thank you. :fluffle:
Always ;)

This:

http://www.mumsandgarters.com/mhstriple_small.jpg

Is a mum.

wtf are you on about?

...Huh? I'm confused...

...Huh? I'm confused...


Me too...not sure what that is all about