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Now, please don't get abusive, and call me homophobic. If you are going to call me anything, call me naive. But I'm curious;

Have people "come out" as heterosexual later in life? Like, how some LBGT come out later in life, after they're married and have kids and stuff? I'm not talking about being "converted" through therapy, that's crap and everyone with a brain knows it. But have people lived in homosexual relationships and then (lacking a better turn of phrase) changed their minds?

And please, do try to not start a debate on the morality of being gay.

Now, please don't get abusive, and call me homophobic. If you are going to call me anything, call me naive. But I'm curious;

Have people "come out" as heterosexual later in life? Like, how some LBGT come out later in life, after they're married and have kids and stuff? I'm not talking about being "converted" through therapy, that's crap and everyone with a brain knows it. But have people lived in homosexual relationships and then (lacking a better turn of phrase) changed their minds?

And please, do try to not start a debate on the morality of being gay.
My gay cousin decided two years ago that he likes girls after all....is that the kind of thing you're talking about?

I think sometimes what it comes down to is more of a tendency towards bisexuality, but because at that time they're taken with members of the same sex they're labelled as "gay" (or at times label themselves as such), not a straight black-and-white about it.

Simonist']My gay cousin decided two years ago that he likes girls after all....is that the kind of thing you're talking about?

I think sometimes what it comes down to is more of a tendency towards bisexuality, but because at that time they're taken with members of the same sex they're labelled as "gay" (or at times label themselves as such), not a straight black-and-white about it.

Yeah stuff like that. I'm very interested to find out whether people have "switched" after long periods living as LGBT. I've always kind of thought the people coming out of the closet after 40 years were able to do it now due to a more accepting society. But if the reverse happens, then perhaps it's because sexuality is a more fluid concept than traditionally thought?

Yeah stuff like that. I'm very interested to find out whether people have "switched" after long periods living as LGBT. I've always kind of thought the people coming out of the closet after 40 years were able to do it now due to a more accepting society. But if the reverse happens, then perhaps it's because sexuality is a more fluid concept than traditionally thought?Yes, I would agree. If they said they were gay and then 'went straight', then they weren't really gay in the first place. Possibly they had attractions to women, but not strong ones until later in life.