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What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

Adore her the same as ever, and anyone who says otherwise is a veign asshole.

Adore her the same as ever, and anyone who says otherwise is a veign asshole.

Good answer, and true.

When I'd realise I'm asking for help on NS, I'd seek professional help.

Have more sex. It's great exercise.

Good answer, and true.
Thank you, i think this is the first time anyone has ever said i had a good post on here :)

Thank you, i think this is the first time anyone has ever said i had a good post on here :)

Credit where it's due!

take to resting my hand lovingly on her abdomen just in case its "baby fat"?

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

Be grateful that she's not getting bulemic instead?

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

Whatever you do, for God's sake, don't tell her. She'll notice in her own time, but STILL do NOT agree with her if she say's "I'm getting fat". Do things with ehr, like take her on a picnic, but only bring healthy, low fat/low calorie food. Fruit is good, tell her they're the fruits of love (ie be romantic, not 'you're fat and I want you to diet')

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

Leave her :p .

take to resting my hand lovingly on her abdomen just in case its "baby fat"?

ROFLMAO. I was so tempted to say that, but I didn't want to freak him out! :D

try to get her out to exercise, but not in "lets get you thin" way, in a "I want to spend more time alone with you, so lets go for a long bicycle ride/hike in the woods/swim at the beach" way

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?
Do whatever it took to get her to work out with me. Take that any way you like! :D

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

On second thought... if you really have enough of a problem with that to actually ask a couple of complete strangers, I'd suggest you dump her so you can focus completely on you one true love, yourself. Have fun with that mirror!

Do whatever it took to get her to work out with me. Take that any way you like! :D
I don't get it.

try to get her out to exercise, but not in "lets get you thin" way, in a "I want to spend more time alone with you, so lets go for a long bicycle ride/hike in the woods/swim at the beach" way

What if she complains that it's too hot/cold/rainy for a bicycle ride/hike in the woods/swim at the beach? :(

On second thought... if you really have enough of a problem with that to actually ask a couple of complete strangers, I'd suggest you dump her so you can focus completely on you one true love, yourself. Have fun with that mirror!

Hear hear! Seriously, bigger girls have/give more fun in the sack!

What if she complains that it's too hot/cold/rainy for a bicycle ride/hike in the woods/swim at the beach? :(
Doggypunch her.

What if she complains that it's too hot/cold/rainy for a bicycle ride/hike in the woods/swim at the beach? :(

well, you dont need to exercise outdoors every day.

you could suggest that you both join a gym for general healths sake, and both start eating healthier (yes, both, I am sure you are not in perfect shape and could use it)
or if you really care for her should it matter? if you put her above yourself you should find her, and her alone beautful, and weight wont matter (except for the health conscious, it can be a valid concern)

well, you dont need to exercise outdoors every day.

you could suggest that you both join a gym for general healths sake, and both start eating healthier (yes, both, I am sure you are not in perfect shape and could use it)
or if you really care for her should it matter? if you put her above yourself you should find her, and her alone beautful, and weight wont matter (except for the health conscious, it can be a valid concern)
nah, weight does matter

nah, weight does matter

Or else, you could just wait fro her to dump you for being a shallow git. Might safe you time and trouble...

Do whatever it took to get her to work out with me. Take that any way you like! :D
Come on now Forrest.....a 60 second workout is not going to help her lose weight!! :p

nah, weight does matter

That's HORRIBLE!!!

*sends marauding troop of obese middle age women wearing nothing but oversized bikini's to whoop Dude's ass*

Well if weight does matter to you. I'd advise that you dump her then. Looks don't matter all that much if you really care about her. And if they do matter you don't really care about her near as much as you might think you do.

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?
buy a baby bed, and some diapers.....you're gonna need them.

:)



oh, I mean, talk to them about it, or ignore it, whatever.

buy a baby bed, and some diapers.....you're gonna need them.

:)



oh, I mean, talk to them about it, or ignore it, whatever.

Or get another girlfriend :)

well, you dont need to exercise outdoors every day.

you could suggest that you both join a gym for general healths sake, and both start eating healthier (yes, both, I am sure you are not in perfect shape and could use it)
or if you really care for her should it matter? if you put her above yourself you should find her, and her alone beautful, and weight wont matter (except for the health conscious, it can be a valid concern)

Well, my GF's family has weight problems, and both her mom and brother have health problems, so I'd say I have a valid concern. We actually did discuss joining a gym, but we couldn't find one that accomodated our different work schedules, and then my GF changed her mind. :(

Or get another girlfriend :)
yeah, one that won't care that he is a shallow coward. ;)

Well, my GF's family has weight problems, and both her mom and brother have health problems, so I'd say I have a valid concern. We actually did discuss joining a gym, but we couldn't find one that accomodated our different work schedules, and then my GF changed her mind. :(
you could go mall walking. (or if your work schedule is really screwed up Walmart walking, you can do that at 2am)

I go to the gym, but when I couldn't afford it, I would walk for 45 min. twice a week, then once a week I would go do something fun (like bowling or dancing) it helped me get into a place where I could actually exercise.

yeah, one that won't care that he is a shallow coward. ;)

If you're looking for those you just need to walk down the street. They're available for pick-up 24/7.

I'd start taking long regular walks with her and asking her to go to the gym with me on dates. And go out to restaurants that serve only healthy food.

you could go mall walking. (or if your work schedule is really screwed up Walmart walking, you can do that at 2am)

I go to the gym, but when I couldn't afford it, I would walk for 45 min. twice a week, then once a week I would go do something fun (like bowling or dancing) it helped me get into a place where I could actually exercise.

Smunkee's got a point - exercise doesn't have to mean a workout at the gym. Even paintballing is great exercise and great fun! (Bar the massive bruises!)

What would you do?
I would smack you in the mouth, say how did a shallow jerk like you get a girlfriend in the first place and go tell everybody your dick was small....

That said, that is the most unpleasant question I have seen asked on the forums...

Tell the fat bitch you're going to ditch her and then maybe she'll get depressed and not eat for a few weeks. Or maybe it'll thrill her.

Well, my GF's family has weight problems, and both her mom and brother have health problems, so I'd say I have a valid concern. We actually did discuss joining a gym, but we couldn't find one that accomodated our different work schedules, and then my GF changed her mind. :(
ok

if she's just a girlfriend for now, quit worrying about it. enjoy your time with her and be glad you have found someone who will put up with you.

if youre thinking that maybe she is "the one" you need to be more practical.

take a good hard look at her mother and at other women her mothers age. if her mom weighs 350 lbs then your girlfriends increasing weight my turn out to be a real problem. if her mom is about as fat as any other women her age (or only somewhat fatter) then grow up and realize that no girl stays the same forever.

i think that you should be realistic with what you think you can put up with in a wife. there is no sense overlooking obvious flaws. people dont get better. she wont stop being a bitch, she wont get better looking, she wont treat you better, she wont lose weight. if any of those things are deal breakers you are a fool to keep a relationship with someone who you have little chance of staying with.

Pelt her with stale bread rolls.

Ray? First I'd stop buying her food. Then I'd try to avoid doing things that involve snacks, like the cinema. and screw her more often, thats good exercise. If all else fails just call her a fatty and tell her if she doesnt maintain a minimum level of attractiveness you're gonna have to find a better girfriend.

Adore her the same as ever, and anyone who says otherwise is a veign asshole.

Sentiments and sympathy do not exist. It all comes down to utility.

There're loads of articles in the news about how happier couples put on weight.

Perhaps you should take it as a compliment?

nah, weight does matter

I'd suggest you proceed to dump her and buy a full length mirror, as this would seem to be your perfect companion. Perhaps one larger at the top so you can examine your head from time to time, to see if any vanity has escaped and sense been sucked in.

LOL this was a question in the 'what kind of partner are you' test.
Better be love her the same as before. :)

Whatever you do, for God's sake, don't tell her. She'll notice in her own time, but STILL do NOT agree with her if she say's "I'm getting fat". Do things with ehr, like take her on a picnic, but only bring healthy, low fat/low calorie food. Fruit is good, tell her they're the fruits of love (ie be romantic, not 'you're fat and I want you to diet')
Hey, I agreed with my girlfriend when she said that. But then, she has a little pot belly, and it's kinda cute.

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?
Same thing I'd do if I noticed that my boyfriend was losing his hair: nothing. If my partner comes to me and asks for some help losing wait, or dealing with hair loss, or anything else about their body, then I will be supportive and helpful. If they don't, it's their freaking body.

Unless they are doing something that I feel is extremely dangerous (i.e. crash dieting, using drugs, cutting, etc), I think my partner's body is their own damn business.

Hey, I agreed with my girlfriend when she said that. But then, she has a little pot belly, and it's kinda cute.

Does it bounce?

Hey, I agreed with my girlfriend when she said that. But then, she has a little pot belly, and it's kinda cute.

My hubbie agreed with me the first time too. He didn't make the same mistake the next time :p

My hubbie agreed with me the first time too. He didn't make the same mistake the next time :p
It wasn't a mistake for me. Maybe I wouldn't say it again, because she's trying to do something about it now.

My hubbie agreed with me the first time too. He didn't make the same mistake the next time :p

You got mad at him for it!? O.O What kind of woman are you!

My hubbie agreed with me the first time too. He didn't make the same mistake the next time :p

Heh, when a guy I was seeing told me I was 'podgy' I ended up anorexic.

Now he says I'm too skinny.

Conclusion: Men Are Stupid.

Same thing I'd do if I noticed that my boyfriend was losing his hair: nothing. If my partner comes to me and asks for some help losing wait, or dealing with hair loss, or anything else about their body, then I will be supportive and helpful. If they don't, it's their freaking body.

Unless they are doing something that I feel is extremely dangerous (i.e. crash dieting, using drugs, cutting, etc), I think my partner's body is their own damn business.

One difference is that my hair loss won't lead to any health problems. Her weight gain might.

One difference is that my hair loss won't lead to any health problems. Her weight gain might.

It could lead to sunburn on your head.

And that could lead to an increased risk of skin cancer.

Maybe.

Whatever you do, if you decide to make a 'fat arse' joke, make sure you do it in person and not over the phone. In person she knows you're joking, over the phone it's not so obvious.


I speak from experience :(

It could lead to sunburn on your head.

And that could lead to an increased risk of skin cancer.

Maybe.

LoL!

Same thing I'd do if I noticed that my boyfriend was losing his hair: nothing. If my partner comes to me and asks for some help losing wait, or dealing with hair loss, or anything else about their body, then I will be supportive and helpful. If they don't, it's their freaking body.

Unless they are doing something that I feel is extremely dangerous (i.e. crash dieting, using drugs, cutting, etc), I think my partner's body is their own damn business.
yep, what I said. Ignore it.

Hear hear! Seriously, bigger girls have/give more fun in the sack!

He could change his frame of mind and enjoy- more flesh can be more fun.

I could see if he specifically mentioned he was concerned about her health, but I get the impression he is just worried about her being "fat".

Heh, when a guy I was seeing told me I was 'podgy' I ended up anorexic.

Now he says I'm too skinny.

Conclusion: Men Are Stupid.

It's a girls right of passage to discover, for herself, that men, in general, are morons. Welcome to womanhood! :D

Whatever you do, if you decide to make a 'fat arse' joke, make sure you do it in person and not over the phone. In person she knows you're joking, over the phone it's not so obvious.


I speak from experience :(

Oh man, I'm so sorry *stifles laugh*

See my previous post...:p

He could change his frame of mind and enjoy- more flesh can be more fun.

I could see if he specifically mentioned he was concerned about her health, but I get the impression he is just worried about her being "fat".

Not only that, but extra body fat produces extra estrogen, means bigger boobs and, well, you get the idea....

Agreed on the weight gain - health issue though. If that was the problem, then he'd have something to say. However, going from a size 4 to a size 8 isn't much of a problem. It's all relative....

Y'all should start working out together. Tis great for the humpin'.

Health matters, and at least while you're young, so do aesthetics.

I wouldn't feel any guilt over it if I were you. What's the point of being with someone if you don't like them any more? Is denial a healthy response to politically-correct social pressures?

Consider your second thoughts wisely.

Nothing.

You can try to do things like orienteering, rock climing, or even walking and perhaps you can start eating healthier foods when you are with her. Although, other then that, there is nothing you can do unless you have the intent of hurting your girlfriend. In which case, she probably shouldn't be your girlfriend.

If she's someone you really love, you can be honest with her. Suggest you both go on a diet together (I'm sure you're not in 100% great shape either) - not only will you both be healthier while working out, but the sex will improve for a couple reasons.

I probably wouldn't care as long as she stayed below the overweight range, though if she passed over that, I would express my concerns for her health.

Persitantly embarass her publically about her wait issues. Here are a few tips:


*When at a resturant, ask the waiter(tress) to remind the chef that he is cooking for a fat girl.
*When buying furnature, ask how sturdy it is and nod your head in her direction.
*Frequently say "It is great to be healthy/fit/in shape."
*If food is brought up in a conversation, ask it you could talk about something besides food.

This will provide her with the motivation she needs to drop those pounds.

Anybody remember how to use list tags?

Be careful.

She may be eating for two.

And if not, she will kill you for pointing it out!

If she's someone you really love, you can be honest with her. Suggest you both go on a diet together (I'm sure you're not in 100% great shape either) - not only will you both be healthier while working out, but the sex will improve for a couple reasons.

LOL How can the sex get any better by shedding a few pounds? Unless you are two sumo wrestlers I think it should be fine. :p

LOL How can the sex get any better by shedding a few pounds? Unless you are two sumo wrestlers I think it should be fine. :p

Not the shedding, the being more physically fit and flexible thing, being able to have more endurance, etc...

Sentiments and sympathy do not exist. It all comes down to utility.
If i read that correctly i disagree, i love my girl and no matter what i will adore her, even if she snips me weiner off... i don't give a damn if she could flatten me , i would be more scared of her being too skiny (fear of breaking her).

Has anyone else noticed the lack of perspective here? Let's turn this over:
What would you do if you noticed that your husband is slowly getting fatter?

We'd have plenty of messages urging the wife to nag the husband into submission to get him to exercise even against his will. Even if he has stress. Even if he is really busy and has no time to exercise.

The reality is, that people, men or women, don't live in a vacuum. If the girlfriend is getting fatter, assuming she is healthy, there are only two things that can be happening:

she eats more, in terms of energy
she consumes less energy

What leads to these is not this simple. But still, the energy balance really is this simple.

People will often put on weight if their mood changes, be it good or bad. This depends on the person. So, this can mean both that she is happier or more depressed than before. Either can change eating habits and energy consumption.

I'd suggest you proceed to dump her and buy a full length mirror, as this would seem to be your perfect companion. Perhaps one larger at the top so you can examine your head from time to time, to see if any vanity has escaped and sense been sucked in.
been there done that. Look, I like her personally and whatnot, but I just don't want to screw a fat chick on my friday nights, yknow?


That said, that is the most unpleasant question I have seen asked on the forums
Is it because it reminds you of your own disgusting obesity?

Look, I like her personally and whatnot, but I just don't want to screw a fat chick on my friday nights, yknow?
Then you already know the answer. ;)

Don't listen to the body liberals. :p

Then you already know the answer. ;)

Don't listen to the body liberals. :p
Finally, at least someone supports my shallowness!!

been there done that. Look, I like her personally and whatnot, but I just don't want to screw a fat chick on my friday nights, yknow?

do her a favor and drop her NOW

even a fat chick could do better

do her a favor and drop her NOW

even a fat chick could do better
Oh come on. Look at it another way, screwing a girl because you sort of like her, and you can? I don't regret passing up a few opportunities like that. What would I be proving, and to whom?

What would you do if you noticed that your girlfriend, whom you've been with for 6 months, is slowly getting fatter?

Look in the mirror and see if I'm getting fatter. :rolleyes:

I would sign us up for a ballroom dancing class. Not only would we BOTH lose some weight, but she'd think I was really romantic and sweet, and then we could be that couple that kicks ass dancing at weddings and shit and makes everyone else all hot and bothered when we tango.

Oh come on. Look at it another way, screwing a girl because you sort of like her, and you can? I don't regret passing up a few opportunities like that. What would I be proving, and to whom?
he wasnt talking about picking up a cute girl for a quick shag. he was talking about his girlfriend.

that makes him not worth a good girls attention. surely you can agree that even a "fat chick" deserves better treatment that that.

so he should do her a favor and go back to seeing who he can feel up in the janitors closet between classes.

been there done that. Look, I like her personally and whatnot, but I just don't want to screw a fat chick on my friday nights, yknow?

Sounds like you got your girlfriend pregnant, boss.

And how is beating it in your bedroom alone on your friday nights preferable to nailing a slightly overweight chick?

he wasnt talking about picking up a cute girl for a quick shag. he was talking about his girlfriend.

Personally, I doubt the existence of this so-called "girlfriend".

Well, I suppose I'd watch my partner for situational or emotional changes and see what I could do to help, but if it's just a slowing of metabolism thing I agree with what Bottle said.

It could lead to sunburn on your head.

And that could lead to an increased risk of skin cancer.

Maybe.

Or you could forget to wear a hat when it's really cold and get pneumonia and die.

Or you could forget to wear a hat when it's really cold and get pneumonia and die.

George Washington'd.

Sounds like you got your girlfriend pregnant, boss.

And how is beating it in your bedroom alone on your friday nights preferable to nailing a slightly overweight chick?
:p

I do believe that you win the thread!!

One evening Bill and I went out and picked up one of my girlfriends and went to her house. We introduced him to her room mate and as the evening progressed my girlfriend and I migrated to her bedroom while Bill and the room mate continured to talk in the living room.

The next day at work, Bill was telling our co-workers how ugly my girlfriend was. Jim asked Bill, "Did Celt get laid last night?" Bill said, "Yes, I think so." Jim then asked Bill, "When was the last time you got laid?" Bill never spoke of my ugly girlfriend again. :D (and yes it is a true story, and the names have been changed to protect the guilty)

Moral of the story; If you are getting some, quit complaining. If you are not getting any, find a new girlfriend and it doesn't make a damn if she is a little puggy or slightly ugly.

Personally, I doubt the existence of this so-called "girlfriend".
dude111 is obviously a troll.

has anyone here who ever had a real girlfriend talked about her this way? not unless he just found her in bed with his best friend and the hunting dog.