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Has anyone had anything they really wanted to do or accomplish but ended up failing? I mention this because I inevitably believe that's what my fate will be. I'm not going to be allowed into the military, much less the Naval Academy, after having to be on medicine and go to counseling for a few years for supposedly having OCD, that and I have an astigmatism.

Yep. Failed college.

Are you sure that your condition disqualifies you?

Has anyone had anything they really wanted to do or accomplish but ended up failing? I mention this because I inevitably believe that's what my fate will be. I'm not going to be allowed into the military, much less the Naval Academy, after having to be on medicine and go to counseling for a few years for supposedly having OCD, that and I have an astigmatism.

Yes. My lifelong desire to become the fifth student of Master Splinter was shattered when I finally learned three months ago that. . .that. . .oh, it's too horrible to say. . .

Can not finish a short story.

Nor can I set any lyrics to music.

But I'm sorry about your situation though. What kind of work did you want to do in the military?

Yep. Failed collage.

Are you sure that your condition disqualifies you?

I can get a waiver possibly, but I am almost 100% sure I can't go to the Academy, that was my real dream. Thing is, with both of these, and possibly other conditions, I'm not sure I can get waivered.

Can not finish a short story.

Nor can I set any lyrics to music.

But I'm sorry about your situation though. What kind of work did you want to do in the military?

I don't know. I wanted to become an Admiral, I'm too ambitious for my own good. But being so ambitious, just the fact that I won't be able to get in would be devastating.

I can get a waiver possibly, but I am almost 100% sure I can't go to the Academy, that was my real dream. Thing is, with both of these, and possibly other conditions, I'm not sure I can get waivered.

Vashutze just keep pushing on. keep trying to go for your dream. i have known a few people in similar situations to yours and most of them achieved their goals.

even if you dont succeed your dreams, you can atleast say you tried. that is more then what most people do.

Unless you're Napoleon it's a bit hard to be too ambitious for your own good.

I had a similar experience with the military. My eyes are terrible. Most people don’t realize that I’m practically blind because I wear contact lenses. I reached a point where I was offered either being a chair borne ranger or out, because I no longer qualified for combat duty with my terrible eyesight. I couldn’t afford to get my eyes burned so I left. The funny thing was that I left the military only a few months before 9-11.

The imporatant thing is to find something that challenges you. Sports and cycling work for me (although I'm currently convelescing from a sports injury resulting from pushing the limit). I've heard that the Fire Department is as close to being in a rifle company as you can get, according to some people I knew who went that route.

The Bruce

Can an astigmatism be caused by staring at a computer screen for too many hours of the day, say, oh, five to eight?

Has anyone seen that three hour special the History Channel did on Abe Lincoln?

I had a similar experience with the military. My eyes are terrible. Most people don’t realize that I’m practically blind because I wear contact lenses. I reached a point where I was offered either being a chair borne ranger or out, because I no longer qualified for combat duty with my terrible eyesight. I couldn’t afford to get my eyes burned so I left. The funny thing was that I left the military only a few months before 9-11.

The imporatant thing is to find something that challenges you. Sports and cycling work for me (although I'm currently convelescing from a sports injury resulting from pushing the limit). I've heard that the Fire Department is as close to being in a rifle company as you can get, according to some people I knew who went that route.

The Bruce

Wouldn't they have payed for your surgery, though?

Can an astigmatism be caused by staring at a computer screen for too many hours of the day, say, oh, five to eight?

Probably. Astigmatism can be treated with surgery, you know.

Has anyone seen that three hour special the History Channel did on Abe Lincoln?

No, but what does that have to do with failed dreams?

Probably. Astigmatism can be treated with surgery, you know.

Yeah, but if you get the surgery, can the astigmatism come back?

No, but what does that have to do with failed dreams?

A lot, if you saw the program. It was talking about how he suffered from depression and was extremely ambitious, that's why he rose from poverty and became president. He also saw himself as a failure and wanted to kill himself during two points in his life.

Same boat as you (so to speak). I wanted to try for the Naval Academy as well and then perhaps try for NASA later on. I found out right around junior high when I was thinking of joing the NJROTC program at my school that it would be pointless. Being compleatly deaf in one ear disqualifies me from any military service.

Didn't stop the recruiters from calling every day around my 18th birthday though. :p

Yeah, but if you get the surgery, can the astigmatism come back?

I don't think so. But then again, I'm not an optician.

Wouldn't they have payed for your surgery, though?

Laser eye surgery wasn’t very supported at the time. I heard that they’re paying for it in the US army, partly to ensure troop numbers. The problem a lot of emergency services have with it is that the burning of your cones (eyes) temporarily and in a few cases permanently destroys your night vision.

Same boat as you (so to speak). I wanted to try for the Naval Academy as well and then perhaps try for NASA later on. I found out right around junior high when I was thinking of joing the NJROTC program at my school that it would be pointless. Being compleatly deaf in one ear disqualifies me from any military service.

Didn't stop the recruiters from calling every day around my 18th birthday though. :p

Was that a "I'll see how it goes type application", or something you wanted to make a life out of, like me. If it was the former, I could get over it, but seeing as how for me it is the latter, I don't know what I would do.

Laser eye surgery wasn’t very supported at the time. I heard that they’re paying for it in the US army, partly to ensure troop numbers. The problem a lot of emergency services have with it is that the burning of your cones (eyes) temporarily and in a few cases permanently destroys your night vision.

Permanently destroys night vision...like your ability to see it or what?

Permanently destroys night vision...like your ability to see it or what?

To see at night or in low-light conditions. Then again, you may come out of it with perfect night vision.

To see at night or in low-light conditions. Then again, you may come out of it with perfect night vision.

Yeah... do you know the statistics on the outcome of the surgeries by any chance? Also, is there any way I could prevent my astigmatism from getting any worse?

Yeah... do you know the statistics on the outcome of the surgeries by any chance?

In one study six percent of LASIK surgeries had complication. In another it was three per cent.

Wiki has lots of statistics on this subject. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lasik#Complications)

Yep. Failed collage.

Was the glue all dried out? Or the scissors all busted? Or the pictures all faded?

Was the glue all dried out? Or the scissors all busted? Or the pictures all faded?

Hahaha

Was the glue all dried out? Or the scissors all busted? Or the pictures all faded?

Hillarious.

Also, is there any way I could prevent my astigmatism from getting any worse?

Nope. As far as I know, It's a genetic problem. Again, I'm not an optician. You should talk to one about this, not a random forum.

Hillarious.

Yeah, anyway, the main thing I'm concerned about is my supposed OCD. I'm not sure, it is geared more towards my school, and if let in, my job. Perfection is expected in the Navy and Marines (preparing uniforms) so I'm not sure if that would be good or bad. Also, they did a blood test and it came back negative. However, I am very much a perfectionist and am always worrying about my grades. I'm only in 9th grade though, so I have some time to change, and if it ends soon, I could claim it was due to puberty and hormonal changes.

Hillarious.

Too easy to pass up.

i wanted to be a doctor. then i realised i was too thick :p
i failed my dream of getting a 1st class degree too

i don't really know what my dreams are now... i kinda had them, my ego, confidence, personality and pretty much everything crushed or twisted in some way in the last 2 1/2 years, and its taken the last 6 months to get things back on track and start to figure out and re-evaluate what those dreams or ambitions might be again. i guess that kinda explains why my answer to 'where do you see yourself in 5 years' was so "boring"... just a concrete, happy dream is something, and having something to look forward to is such a turnaround :)

Also, they did a blood test and it came back negative.

What do you mean by this?

Has anyone had anything they really wanted to do or accomplish but ended up failing?

Yes .... I haven't had man-sex with Eric Bana and, sadly, I think I never shall.

What do you mean by this?

They tested for a chemical imbalance, but they didn't find one. It's chemical proof that suggests I'm not OCD, but my some of my actions suggest otherwise.

parphrase of calvin: "I find the easiest way to stay satisfied is low standards"

I believe that, but not in a negative way, if that makes sense. I just think that many ego-inflated, self-esteem empregnated younsters feel themselves to be invincible, dream big, and are lazy and dissapointed when things don't turn out that way by a stroke of luck.

keep your dreems in step with your accomplishments, and you'll be fine.

Yes .... I haven't had man-sex with Eric Bana and, sadly, I think I never shall.

http://spectacle.provocateuse.com/images/spectacles/eric_bana_01.jpg

Ooh, excellent choice.

They tested for a chemical imbalance, but they didn't find one. It's chemical proof that suggests I'm not OCD, but my some of my actions suggest otherwise.

You're sorted. If there's no empirical evidence, then they can hardly deny you, can they?

parphrase of calvin: "I find the easiest way to stay satisfied is low standards"

I believe that, but not in a negative way, if that makes sense. I just think that many ego-inflated, self-esteem empregnated younsters feel themselves to be invincible, dream big, and are lazy and dissapointed when things don't turn out that way by a stroke of luck.

keep your dreems in step with your accomplishments, and you'll be fine.

Quite the contrary, I worry about my vulnerability all the time. I maintain straight As and am in a few extracurricular activites. I could get into the Academy, but these few hindrances are stopping me

You're sorted. If there's no empirical evidence, then they can hardly deny you, can they?

I don't know. See, I'm not sure if I could locate the results to show them. Not only that, but it might have been the error of the doctor.

Quite the contrary, I worry about my vulnerability all the time. I maintain straight As and am in a few extracurricular activites. I could get into the Academy, but these few hindrances are stopping me
You sound like a hard-working and realistic person. If this one won't work, start dreaming of something else. Your character will ultimately determine where you end up (barring serious misfortune).

Ooh, excellent choice.

Well if it's one thing I have, it's excellent taste in men. ;)

Well if it's one thing I have, it's excellent taste in men. ;)

Hmm, I can think of a few more things you have that are excellent.

Hmm, I can think of a few more things you have that are excellent.
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As a June 2005 nation, aren't you a bit old to use that smiley?

As a June 2005 nation, aren't you a bit old to use that smiley?

Ummmm, maybe?

You sound like a hard-working and realistic person. If this one won't work, start dreaming of something else. Your character will ultimately determine where you end up (barring serious misfortune).

But what if I can't go down the path my character would have ultimately led me?

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With wit like that, you're a natural born thailor.

With wit like that, you're a natural born thailor.

"In the navy...."

With wit like that, you're a natural born thailor.

Seeman :)

Seeman :)

I didn't want to go down that road. ;)

If you realize you are OCD, you are ahead of most people who have obsessive compulsive disorder. This means you can figure out how to deal with your problem. Find out how to deal with the problem then do what you want to. A lot of people have problems, if they know how to handle them, people generally will view it as a quirk not a problem.

Often getting what you want is not what you expected. You end going on to the next thing. You will find something else to do which can be equally fulfilling. All or nothing is often a dead end.

If you realize you are OCD, you are ahead of most people who have obsessive compulsive disorder. This means you can figure out how to deal with your problem. Find out how to deal with the problem then do what you want to. A lot of people have problems, if they know how to handle them, people generally will view it as a quirk not a problem.

Often getting what you want is not what you expected. You end going on to the next thing. You will find something else to do which can be equally fulfilling. All or nothing is often a dead end.

I'm not the typical person with OCD where I am obsessed with sanitation. There are some people that don't think I have OCD, but just think I am very ambitious. Then there are others that do think I have it. I do 6 to 8 hours of homework a night, you be the judge. My OCD is manifested around school, which is why I'm taking a "study course" at a local community college so I will learn to study more effectively.

Was that a "I'll see how it goes type application", or something you wanted to make a life out of, like me. If it was the former, I could get over it, but seeing as how for me it is the latter, I don't know what I would do.
It was something I wanted to make a life out of (at the time). It was shortly after I found out I was 4F that I seriously considered teaching, my second love, for the future. That worked out. :)

It was something I wanted to make a life out of (at the time). It was shortly after I found out I was 4F that I seriously considered teaching, my second love, for the future. That worked out. :)
Ah, well I'm glad it worked out for you.

parphrase of calvin: "I find the easiest way to stay satisfied is low standards"

I believe that, but not in a negative way, if that makes sense. I just think that many ego-inflated, self-esteem empregnated younsters feel themselves to be invincible, dream big, and are lazy and dissapointed when things don't turn out that way by a stroke of luck.

keep your dreems in step with your accomplishments, and you'll be fine.

"You tried your best and failed miserably. The lesson is: never try." -Homer Simpson

Motto to live by. :D

My advice to you is to not give up on that dream just yet. You're still young, and still have a shot at going to Annapolis. And even if you don't, there are other ways to get into the Navy and serve. My cousin is an astronaut, and he was initially told he could never achieve that dream because of a heart murmur. Turns out, that was wrong - the initial diagnosis was incorrect, there was no heart murmur. He was a crew member on STS-110 in 2002. You can read about it here (http://www.coe.berkeley.edu/explore/faces_eng_walheim.html). Anyway. Don't give up hope yet.