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Before I begin, I am asking that unless you have something to add to this, please don't post at all. I'm not looking for people telling me I'm stupid for asking help online, etc. I want to see what some older, more experienced people have to say about this.

So here's the deal. I am a junior in high school and I moved to Brazil last summer at the end of July. I met this amazing girl, and after two weeks of hanging out we felt like we knew each other inside out. Three weeks and we were dating. We have been together for 7 months and 9 days, and I have never been happier before in my life. Never have I met someone like her and no matter how corny it sounds, it is true.

Here comes the problem. There is a large chance that this girl moves to New York City in the summer, leaving a one year gap before we both graduate from high school. I am very worried and scared about this whole situation, as I realize that losing her would be one of the biggest mistakes I could make. I want to stay with her but I don't know if it is going to work out or what is going to happen. I constantly worry about her meeting other people, losing feelings for me, not having enough time to communicate with each other, etc. I figure that a year apart is not terrible (especially with visits at Christmas and early March at least, maybe more) and that after we might get together physically in university. Although us going to the same university is not certain at all, but I assume she will be going to college in New York or around there and I will be in Ontario.

The internet has got to make this whole problem easier, email, webcam, msn, skype, all that shit is a blessing I suppose.

Another option (although perhaps not so smart) would be to move in with my dad in Canada. This would cause me to disrupt my studies (I study at a good private school) and might not be such a good choice.

I am completely aware that this post is very haphazardly written and I am just rambling on, but it feels so good to just let it out and I am just a poor boy who's deeply in love and doesn't want to lose it. Help me out people. :(

Before I begin, I am asking that unless you have something to add to this, please don't post at all. I'm not looking for people telling me I'm stupid for asking help online, etc. I want to see what some older, more experienced people have to say about this.

So here's the deal. I am a junior in high school and I moved to Brazil last summer at the end of July. I met this amazing girl, and after two weeks of hanging out we felt like we knew each other inside out. Three weeks and we were dating. We have been together for 7 months and 9 days, and I have never been happier before in my life. Never have I met someone like her and no matter how corny it sounds, it is true.

Here comes the problem. There is a large chance that this girl moves to New York City in the summer, leaving a one year gap before we both graduate from high school. I am very worried and scared about this whole situation, as I realize that losing her would be one of the biggest mistakes I could make. I want to stay with her but I don't know if it is going to work out or what is going to happen. I constantly worry about her meeting other people, losing feelings for me, not having enough time to communicate with each other, etc. I figure that a year apart is not terrible (especially with visits at Christmas and early March at least, maybe more) and that after we might get together physically in university. Although us going to the same university is not certain at all, but I assume she will be going to college in New York or around there and I will be in Ontario.

The internet has got to make this whole problem easier, email, webcam, msn, skype, all that shit is a blessing I suppose.

Another option (although perhaps not so smart) would be to move in with my dad in Canada. This would cause me to disrupt my studies (I study at a good private school) and might not be such a good choice.

I am completely aware that this post is very haphazardly written and I am just rambling on, but it feels so good to just let it out and I am just a poor boy who's deeply in love and doesn't want to lose it. Help me out people. :(

moving to Canada is a good choice(though Ontario is a bad choice) but I assume you don't have any other option(in the Canadian area)

May I ask what she has to say about the situation? How does she feel about it?

She wants to, but she isn't as into it as I am. She loves me very much but she wants to go more "with the flow."

Long distance relationships are hard....but if done right you can come out in a strong relationship. ^-^

I dunno....I'd say it wouldn't be fair to tie her down. Let's see what happens if she has premission to have a bit of fun while you two are separated, with any luck she'd be back after the year.

I dunno....I'd say it wouldn't be fair to tie her down. Let's see what happens if she has premission to have a bit of fun while you two are separated, with any luck she'd be back after the year.

Dude...ew. No.

Dude...ew. No.

Okay, by "bit of fun" I didn't mean sex, just, try not locking a chastity belt on to her for this year, eh?

Dude...ew. No.

Dinaverg is a little odd....though yes. Innuedo = bad. :P

Dinaverg is a little odd....though yes. Innuedo = bad. :P

Seriously, the only time I might purposely use innuendo is when talking to La Dame.

Okay, by "bit of fun" I didn't mean sex, just, try not locking a chastity belt on to her for this year, eh?

O.O You can't do that to a girl anyways! The more they forced not to do it the more they want to do it. XD

Before I begin, I am asking that unless you have something to add to this, please don't post at all. I'm not looking for people telling me I'm stupid for asking help online, etc. I want to see what some older, more experienced people have to say about this.

So here's the deal. I am a junior in high school and I moved to Brazil last summer at the end of July. I met this amazing girl, and after two weeks of hanging out we felt like we knew each other inside out. Three weeks and we were dating. We have been together for 7 months and 9 days, and I have never been happier before in my life. Never have I met someone like her and no matter how corny it sounds, it is true.

Here comes the problem. There is a large chance that this girl moves to New York City in the summer, leaving a one year gap before we both graduate from high school. I am very worried and scared about this whole situation, as I realize that losing her would be one of the biggest mistakes I could make. I want to stay with her but I don't know if it is going to work out or what is going to happen. I constantly worry about her meeting other people, losing feelings for me, not having enough time to communicate with each other, etc. I figure that a year apart is not terrible (especially with visits at Christmas and early March at least, maybe more) and that after we might get together physically in university. Although us going to the same university is not certain at all, but I assume she will be going to college in New York or around there and I will be in Ontario.

The internet has got to make this whole problem easier, email, webcam, msn, skype, all that shit is a blessing I suppose.

Another option (although perhaps not so smart) would be to move in with my dad in Canada. This would cause me to disrupt my studies (I study at a good private school) and might not be such a good choice.

I am completely aware that this post is very haphazardly written and I am just rambling on, but it feels so good to just let it out and I am just a poor boy who's deeply in love and doesn't want to lose it. Help me out people. :(

Please accept this in the spirit it is given. You're a junior in HS, I assume she is pretty much the same. Neither you nor she have any clue about the future at this point in your life. DO NOT screw up your education just to be with her. If it is meant to be, staying where you are won't ruin it. If it is meant to be, her moving and working on her eduation somewhere else won't ruin it either. Use Skipe, Email, IM's etc. to stay in touch. Buy a web cam, etc. She may be "the one" but she may not be. I don't want to sound condescending, but you are WAY too young to know at this point and so is she. As the guys in "Weird Science" said to Kelly LeBrock, "you're everything I ever wanted in a woman until I knew what I wanted." Give it time, keep in touch, but don't rush in. I "loved" several women, thought I'd die without them between the ages of 18 and 29. But it was at 29 when I got married after a 9 month, phone and occasional long weekend only relationship. We've now been married 18 years though, have 2 kids and are as happy as we were when we met. On the other hand, If'd I have married Scarlett at age 19, or Lisa at age 20, or Michael at age 23 or Char at age 25, I have no doubt at all that we'd be divorced by now based on what I know about how they "turned out" in the past 20+ years. Your heart counts, but don't ignore your head. As a junior in HS, your education and how you will "survive" in the future counts more than who you will survive with. Don't screw up your future because your hormones are wild and don't confuse your reaction to hormones with logical thought.

I'm not going to comment on your decisions and what not because it is none of my business, however, I will comment on the long distant relationship idea. It would seem to me, that no matter how much you may love a person, long distance relationships whether it be a few cities, a few states, or in your case a few countries, are very difficult and rarely work. I may be a tad bit cynical and/or pessimisstic but she is a young teenage girl going off to some new place with new people, and if it was "meant to be" then she will come back to you although I don't think being overprotective will accomplish anything.

Seriously, the only time I might purposely use innuendo is when talking to La Dame.
Oh, I feel a little shafted (ahahaha, get it? Moving on....)

But as for long distance relationships....coming from a girl's perspective, you've really got to talk to her about it. Think of it this way....if she feels less for you and isn't taking this as seriously (not to say she's not, but you've gotta consider the possibility), she's going to feel like you're putting a leash on her by keeping within the constraints of this "relationship". Also, you guys need to have set rules if you do keep the relationship alive, because you want to allow for some things (ie she can go out with other people, but no hanky panky, or something of the like), but not so much that you feel uncomfortable.

I guess what I'm saying, in a long-winded female sort of way, is that communication is absolutely essential. Not that I helped you much, but I'm going to pretend this made some sort of difference.

*sips tea smugly*

Simonist']Oh, I feel a little shafted (ahahaha, get it? Moving on....)

But as for long distance relationships....coming from a girl's perspective, you've really got to talk to her about it.

More importantly than talking to her about it, you have to LISTEN to what she thinks about it. In "love" relationship, what the other person believes is more important than what you know. Communication, in which you LISTEN, more than you emote, is what counts and what will decide the future for you. Talk to her about what you feel, tell her your hearts' desire, but then, shut up and LISTEN to her response. Don't just hear the words, listen to their meaning.

More importantly than talking to her about it, you have to LISTEN to what she thinks about it. In "love" relationship, what the other person believes is more important than what you know. Communication, in which you LISTEN, more than you emote, is what counts and what will decide the future for you. Talk to her about what you feel, tell her your hearts' desire, but then, shut up and LISTEN to her response. Don't just hear the words, listen to their meaning.
Um.....yeah, that was kinda what I was going for with the rest of my post....thanks for backing me up on that. It's far too late for me to be eloquent anymore :p

Simonist']Um.....yeah, that was kinda what I was going for with the rest of my post....thanks for backing me up on that. It's far too late for me to be eloquent anymore :p

I understood that is generally what you intended. I just felt that "plain" english rather than "eloquent" is what was called for under the circumstances. You deserved backing though so don't sweat it, you don't owe me a thanks for backing you up, but I'll offer a "you're welcome" anyway.
:)

Just remember: If the girls are in different area codes, its not cheating!

1) Do not screw up your education!
2) Do not listen to all this negative people who say it is impossible to have a long-distance relationship... I am in a similar situation as you (except that I am quite a bit older than you, but I live in Italy, while my boyfriend lives in Holland, where I used to live... He will move to Italy soon, but we are apart for a year now) and I believe long-distance is possible under 2 conditions: First, if you already knew the person and had a relationship, before the distance was created. Second, if you know the distance is temporary. It seems that you satisfy these two conditions, so go for it
3) Of course there is no guarantee it will work. This has nothing to do with distance, however. If you would be living in the same city, the relationship might also fail... If you live away from each other, it might also fail. If the relationship is really good and you are meant to be together, then you will survive a year apart (especially thanks to the internet!!!)
4) Do not screw up your education! (really!!!!)
5) Good luck.

1) Do not screw up your education!
2) Do not listen to all this negative people who say it is impossible to have a long-distance relationship... I am in a similar situation as you (except that I am quite a bit older than you, but I live in Italy, while my boyfriend lives in Holland, where I used to live... He will move to Italy soon, but we are apart for a year now) and I believe long-distance is possible under 2 conditions: First, if you already knew the person and had a relationship, before the distance was created. Second, if you know the distance is temporary. It seems that you satisfy these two conditions, so go for it
3) Of course there is no guarantee it will work. This has nothing to do with distance, however. If you would be living in the same city, the relationship might also fail... If you live away from each other, it might also fail. If the relationship is really good and you are meant to be together, then you will survive a year apart (especially thanks to the internet!!!)
4) Do not screw up your education! (really!!!!)
5) Good luck.

I totally agree with this, I also have a long distance relationship. Just one thing that I'd like to add is, if you two were ment to be together, then it should work out and she wouldn't really want to meet any other guys...

I and my fiancee are in the same boat. She is studying in the US while I am working in Japan. The three bits of advice I can give you then are:

1. Do NOT give up your education, especially if this is something you want to do, nor let her give up what she wants for you. It's rough as all hell being without my fiancee, but we both knew it would be rougher still if one of us gave up his or her dream to follow the other one. That type of stuff just festers in the mind and will come out later on.

2. Long distance relationships are very, very hard. You have to trust the other person, compleate and whole trust or else you'll spend your time worrying about what she's up to (and she, you). There's the stress of not being there when you should be, for the important dates as well as the times when she needs you to support her. Finally, on the flip side, seeing each other is wonderful, but it turns into a high expectation event and you have to re-learn what it is to be with that person yet again.

So what I am trying to say here is that LDs can and do work, but it IS going to be a lot of stress on the both of you, a lot of unhappy times, and to keep the relationship going you both are going to need to work and work hard at maintaining it. So make sure this is a person that you're really willing to spend that much effort on, and she feels the same for you.

3. Finally, and I know it's been said, but it bears repeating, you're both young. This isn't to say that you have not found the one you'll dance through time with, but people change the most, grow the most in their personalities, between 18 and 21ish. You're gonna be busy finding out who you are and she's going to be working on herself. So the girl who is perfect for you now may not be so in a year. Again, consider that before you put all the effort into a long distance relationship.

But good luck.

It's one year. If the two of you are meant to be, then after this year, you'll be back together. E-mail, Skype, and IM all are good ways to stay in close touch.

Don't give up the good private school. It would be awful to sacrifice that to move near her (not even with!) only to have the relationship fall apart anyway. (As relationships can do).

I've been in a long-term committed long-distance relationship for 4 years now. They can work, and beautifully, if you trust each other. It is difficult not being able to see the other at any time, but there are things about ANY long term relationship that are going to be difficult.

Before I begin, I am asking that unless you have something to add to this, please don't post at all. I'm not looking for people telling me I'm stupid for asking help online, etc. I want to see what some older, more experienced people have to say about this.

So here's the deal. I am a junior in high school and I moved to Brazil last summer at the end of July. I met this amazing girl, and after two weeks of hanging out we felt like we knew each other inside out. Three weeks and we were dating. We have been together for 7 months and 9 days, and I have never been happier before in my life. Never have I met someone like her and no matter how corny it sounds, it is true.

Here comes the problem. There is a large chance that this girl moves to New York City in the summer, leaving a one year gap before we both graduate from high school. I am very worried and scared about this whole situation, as I realize that losing her would be one of the biggest mistakes I could make. I want to stay with her but I don't know if it is going to work out or what is going to happen. I constantly worry about her meeting other people, losing feelings for me, not having enough time to communicate with each other, etc. I figure that a year apart is not terrible (especially with visits at Christmas and early March at least, maybe more) and that after we might get together physically in university. Although us going to the same university is not certain at all, but I assume she will be going to college in New York or around there and I will be in Ontario.

The internet has got to make this whole problem easier, email, webcam, msn, skype, all that shit is a blessing I suppose.

Another option (although perhaps not so smart) would be to move in with my dad in Canada. This would cause me to disrupt my studies (I study at a good private school) and might not be such a good choice.

I am completely aware that this post is very haphazardly written and I am just rambling on, but it feels so good to just let it out and I am just a poor boy who's deeply in love and doesn't want to lose it. Help me out people. :(
i'm no expert, but i say it can work out if you want it to. if you both want it to work you'll find a way to keep it alive, put the effort in and make it work. long distance relationships take that: effort. but if its worth that effort then when you come through and can be together properly you and your relationship will be stronger for having been through something quite difficult and strenuous. if you can learn to trust her, and her you, while you're apart, that can only bode well for when you are together :)

what i'm saying is you have to at least try. i wouldn't advise moving to canada because education is always of primary importance, and you can make it work long(er)-distance anyway. that's the magic of the internet as you say. just remember that communication is the key - communicate as much as you can as often as you can. be open and honest about everything - don't hold back on feelings or worries, insecurities, doubts, problems, hopes, dreams... any of it. share everything you can over long-distance mediums like msn or whatever. i hope it works out for you :)

i'm in a "long distance" relationship myself. the distance is only about 70 miles (which for someone in brazil/the states probably sounds like pittence :p) but its enough to keep us apart for the most part. we talk every day (we can) on msn for hours, and recently call every few days too. i drive out and see her fairly often too, but for months we made it work without seeing each other at all - it can work! anyone who tells you long distance relationships don't work isn't putting enough into them - you both have to want the relationship to work, and that can involve some serious discussions about stuff (i don't know how "serious" you two are so i'm speaking in generalities here). anyone who says long distance relationships aren't worth the effort just hasn't found the right person yet, i guess. maybe they're simply not for everyone, but they can work if you want them to, and i wish you the best of luck :)

I suggest you forget about her,Brazilians are highly noted for cheating on people and having STD's.

Please accept this in the spirit it is given. You're a junior in HS, I assume she is pretty much the same. Neither you nor she have any clue about the future at this point in your life. DO NOT screw up your education just to be with her. If it is meant to be, staying where you are won't ruin it. If it is meant to be, her moving and working on her eduation somewhere else won't ruin it either. Use Skipe, Email, IM's etc. to stay in touch. Buy a web cam, etc. She may be "the one" but she may not be. I don't want to sound condescending, but you are WAY too young to know at this point and so is she
Its true, I'm sorry to say. Its possible to stay in touch, but admit it, its' not really likely that you would get married or anything. You're only in Jr High. The last thing you should do is screw your education for this.

Its true, I'm sorry to say. Its possible to stay in touch, but admit it, its' not really likely that you would get married or anything. You're only in Jr High. The last thing you should do is screw your education for this.
Absododdle!
She is only a skirt, if you get a good edamacation you'll be able to buy a lot of crap that she'll like and also have money left over for a bit on the side.;)

It's one year. If the two of you are meant to be, then after this year, you'll be back together. E-mail, Skype, and IM all are good ways to stay in close touch.

Don't give up the good private school. It would be awful to sacrifice that to move near her (not even with!) only to have the relationship fall apart anyway. (As relationships can do).

I've been in a long-term committed long-distance relationship for 4 years now. They can work, and beautifully, if you trust each other. It is difficult not being able to see the other at any time, but there are things about ANY long term relationship that are going to be difficult.
Mine has been 4 1/2 years, and in January of this year, we got married. Now we are going through the necessary paperwork. :)

I know I am young and I'm not saying that I am going to marry this girl, but I want to stay with her as long as possible. I have never found somebody who has so many qualities that I love, she's just so wonderful. The way we met and became so close so quickly has to mean something. I've known her for what...8 months and I feel like I've known her since I was born. I consider her my best friend and there is no way that I'm going to lose her if I can help it.

It would only be 9-10 months, which seems like a long time but it would pass very quickly, especially with visits. I just wish I could have spent my senior year with her...it's supposed to be the best year of high school and she might not even be there to enjoy it with me. That hurts. It was like an established fact that we would graduate together, and it sucks to think how unexpected and shitty this is.

She worries that she may be very busy to communicate with me as she plans to focus a lot on her studies. Plus New York is just a very high-paced city, isn't it? She doesn't want to disappoint me, she says.

She worries that she may be very busy to communicate with me as she plans to focus a lot on her studies. Plus New York is just a very high-paced city, isn't it? She doesn't want to disappoint me, she says.

I am 200 miles from my fiance and we communicate nightly. I teach and have to grade papers and prepare lessons.

Somehow, I find the time.

This, my friend, sounds as if she is trying to let you down easy -- she is making excuses for not being able to IM and e-mail before she's even left.

I LIVE in NYC. I have time, even with my responsibilities.

I think the advice to stay in your own school makes even more sense, given what she's told you.

No, no. I mean that is something she is worrying about, like I am too. She is a very active person with sports, school, extracurricular activities and whatnot. Her parents are also very strict about school and that.

Another thing I worry about is the time we will have lost. Is it a big deal? I know it will be awesome to be with a girl when I am in university, I will be able to drive, more freedom, etc. But I like the teenage times, where we don't have as much pressure and it's more laid back. I don't want to lose that time and I'm worried it will have some kind of effect.

Please accept this in the spirit it is given. You're a junior in HS, I assume she is pretty much the same. Neither you nor she have any clue about the future at this point in your life. DO NOT screw up your education just to be with her. If it is meant to be, staying where you are won't ruin it. If it is meant to be, her moving and working on her eduation somewhere else won't ruin it either. Use Skipe, Email, IM's etc. to stay in touch. Buy a web cam, etc. She may be "the one" but she may not be. I don't want to sound condescending, but you are WAY too young to know at this point and so is she. As the guys in "Weird Science" said to Kelly LeBrock, "you're everything I ever wanted in a woman until I knew what I wanted." Give it time, keep in touch, but don't rush in. I "loved" several women, thought I'd die without them between the ages of 18 and 29. But it was at 29 when I got married after a 9 month, phone and occasional long weekend only relationship. We've now been married 18 years though, have 2 kids and are as happy as we were when we met. On the other hand, If'd I have married Scarlett at age 19, or Lisa at age 20, or Michael at age 23 or Char at age 25, I have no doubt at all that we'd be divorced by now based on what I know about how they "turned out" in the past 20+ years. Your heart counts, but don't ignore your head. As a junior in HS, your education and how you will "survive" in the future counts more than who you will survive with. Don't screw up your future because your hormones are wild and don't confuse your reaction to hormones with logical thought.


And just to add onto this one, I've been in a relationship for only the past 4 months with my present boyfriend, who lives in Chicago, and I live in Columbus, OH. We see each other once a month (if we're lucky) but talk a lot everyday. He hasn't had internet for the past month because of a lightning strike, so we've been relying a lot on phone calls. At first it was really hard with the long distance because I'm still in college at Ohio State, whereas he is a graduate from another school. His insecurities were that I was going to find someone new or better, or that I'd get distracted by other things that would divert my attention and/or love from him. In all actuality, that's not even a threat at all. I love him, and I'm loyal. Despite his insecurities, he trusts me, and that's the fuel that gets us through. Besides, because of my feelings for him, I'm just not attracted to other men. Sure, they may be cute, but I know that what I have is better than what any other man could offer me. Sometimes I wonder if he'll find a prettier girl or feel tied down by me being so far away. Sometimes I feel bad that when something bad happens to him, I can't be there to help and hold him. But it all comes back to trust.

In these 4 months, we've spent about a total of 16 days together, and most of which were with other people. The difference is that the time we spend together is quality. It's not the quantity we value. When we talk over the phone, we're still learning about each other, and that's what is so important in a long distance relationship. You can't let the love and passion fizzle out, and to prevent this, it takes both of you.

The only advice I can offer you is based on my experience.

Don't dwell over not seeing her, but thrive on knowing when you WILL see her, and use that optimism to get through the tough times you go through.
Don't let your love fizzle out, but don't string it out if at some point you realize you don't really love her anymore. (It hurts to realize later on that you were leading or being lead on.) Be honest with her and yourself.
That doesn't mean give up, it means listen to your heart.
Don't pin her down. Don't put rules on her. If she feels the same way you do, then she'll act as you do.

The most important thing out of all of this is trust her. It will work out if it's meant to, and she knows this too. It takes 2 for the trust to work, too.

Good luck!!!

~Pesche~

Simonist']Oh, I feel a little shafted (ahahaha, get it? Moving on....)

;) :fluffle:

But as for long distance relationships....coming from a girl's perspective, you've really got to talk to her about it. Think of it this way....if she feels less for you and isn't taking this as seriously (not to say she's not, but you've gotta consider the possibility), she's going to feel like you're putting a leash on her by keeping within the constraints of this "relationship". Also, you guys need to have set rules if you do keep the relationship alive, because you want to allow for some things (ie she can go out with other people, but no hanky panky, or something of the like), but not so much that you feel uncomfortable.

That's what I was trying to say, bolded part especially.

I guess what I'm saying, in a long-winded female sort of way, is that communication is absolutely essential. Not that I helped you much, but I'm going to pretend this made some sort of difference.

*sips tea smugly*

Yay tea!

She left this morning for a 5 day sports tournament in Sao Paulo and I miss her so much. I went out with some guys to watch a movie and I thought about her a lot, really wished I could have been with her instead of them. Though this feeling might be that strong because I really wanted to go to the tournament.

I am pretty positive that I will stay with her if she moves, because I flat out DON'T want to break up, but I am so worried. I just hope she stays here because if not...damn.

It's so strange too, the way I was feeling. Everything reminds you of love and relationships...the couples waiting in line to buy tickets, the two mammoths falling in love in the movie (Ice Age 2), etc. I am so in love :(

Oh, you poor thing! I'm so sorry. All I can talk to you about is my own experience, I suppose. I was dating a guy in high school for a very long time, and he was a year behind me so he was still in high school when I went to college. I decided to go to a college close to home and commute so we wouldn't have to be separated. However, after a few months it felt as though we were in totally different worlds. I had a different schedule, I was meeting new people, and he was such a quiet guy...eventually, we just drifted apart. I don't regret our breakup, even though I do still feel attracted to him whenever we run into each other...we just never really have anything major to talk about anymore except the past. We're just totally different people than we used to be.

When we're young, we have a pretty small pool of people to choose from to date and be friends with. As we grow up and move around, we get to know ourselves better, we learn about all the different kinds of people there are out there, and breakups happen. You can do whatever you like, but I can tell you that it's so unlikely that the two of you are forever meant to be, I'd just go with what's working for you right now and take care of yourself.

I know how much this whole thing must hurt. I've been there, and I'd hate to go through it again, but I probably will.

Its true, I'm sorry to say. Its possible to stay in touch, but admit it, its' not really likely that you would get married or anything. You're only in Jr High. The last thing you should do is screw your education for this.
*ahem* Just to politely point out.....

...I am a junior in high school...
See? OP says "unior in high school". As in, 11th grade US. NOT in junior high.

Just wanted to clear that up, in case anybody else was confused ;)