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well, since i aint the only one confiding in NS, i thought i'd put this nice sad story up, maybe get some advice, and then follow it.

lets see, mid march, cruise vacation. met very nice girl. attractive to me. didn't do much to help my problem until the last night. well, she had to leave early and i confronted her in the elevator. i got an apology and she left. wandered till 3, slept till 6. almost went out to see her. went home. thinking of her gives a sickening(?) feeling in the pit of my stomach. finally, few days after getting back, email from other friend. email the girl, start chatting on AIM.

last week, dumped the whole story. she didn't talk until yesterday and she is dumbfounded, would be a good word.

to top it off tomorrow (april 7) is ma birthday. should i let her indecision ruin my birthday?

oh, and i live in nj, she lives in mass. there's a chance i could visit, but ya never know ;)

thanks in advance!

The Grammar in your post is depressing my already minimal IQ.

And, just a comment, but she is in another state and seeing how you are younger (if I remember correctly) the chances of you being able to hop states to visit would seem highly unlikely. However, if you have the car crash in your stomach feeling everytime you think of her, then talk to her online and hopefully when you're at the age to hop states the connection will still be there. Although, letting some girl ruin your birthday party would be very unwise.

The Grammar in your post is depressing my already minimal IQ.

And, just a comment, but she is in another state and seeing how you are younger (if I remember correctly) the chances of you being able to hop states to visit would seem highly unlikely. However, if you have the car crash in your stomach feeling everytime you think of her, then talk to her online and hopefully when you're at the age to hop states the connection will still be there. Although, letting some girl ruin your birthday party would be very unwise.

whoa whoa whoa. yeah the grammar sucks, but how old do you think i am!?!?!

yeah, i was going to ignore her tomorrow anyway.

The Grammar in your post is depressing my already minimal IQ.

And, just a comment, but she is in another state and seeing how you are younger (if I remember correctly) the chances of you being able to hop states to visit would seem highly unlikely. However, if you have the car crash in your stomach feeling everytime you think of her, then talk to her online and hopefully when you're at the age to hop states the connection will still be there. Although, letting some girl ruin your birthday party would be very unwise.

Seconded. That's the best way with women.

i didnt understand you story

you met a nice girl on a cruise. you had a good time. its over.

accept it and move on.

1) You sound incredibly desperate

2) Long distance relationships are more torture...unless your incredibly prude and you're not interested in sexual activity and just want a "talking companion"

3) You were going to ignore her tomorrow? That sounds incredibly immature

4) If there is no one that interests you in a 15 mile radius of your town, wait until college.

2) Long distance relationships are more torture...unless your incredibly prude and you're not interested in sexual activity and just want a "talking companion"

You sir are the amateur. Everyone knows it's not cheating if they live in another area code. :-D

Well, you should definitely visit her, and not the other way around. I understand that many Massachusetts residents don't even acknowledge Joisey. But hey, at least your team's getting to the playoffs (barring disaster).

Some of this didn’t make sense to me.

Let us look at it from her point of view. She meets this boy on a cruise, at some point she leaves a bar or something and is “confronted” in the elevator. After the cruise she gets an e-mail from said boy who proceeds to confess his love for her.

My first impression here is that it just isn’t right. Quite frankly you sound like some desperate stalker.

How old are you? You sound like you really need to get out more.
So you met a pretty girl and flirted a bit – that’s it. Now you are saying you love her and want a relationship. Not only that but you are upset because of her ‘indecision’ about you? There should be no indecision – she should run away.

Mmmh... my opinion is that you managed to freak this one out. Move along and try not to be so "confronting" with the next one.

Last week I dumped the whole story. She didn't talk until yesterday and she is dumbfounded ... .
What does the phrase "the whole story" refer to? Should I just not bother and assume you confessed your love over the internet? If you viewed the experience in the elevator as confrontation, this relationship seems to already be strangely rocky. I would suggest getting over it.

My small change.

The Grammar in your post is depressing my already minimal IQ.

And, just a comment, but she is in another state and seeing how you are younger (if I remember correctly) the chances of you being able to hop states to visit would seem highly unlikely. However, if you have the car crash in your stomach feeling everytime you think of her, then talk to her online and hopefully when you're at the age to hop states the connection will still be there. Although, letting some girl ruin your birthday party would be very unwise.

what they said!1

it is sometimes love..the stomach thing...and it is sometimes puppy love...your decision.


get to know her first is my advice.

I didn't read the story but I can give you advice just from the title of your thread. If "Amateur at love seeks aid" is the normal way you go about things of this nature than you should join a monastary now and just avoid the suffering later.

Fleckenstein
lets see, mid march, cruise vacation. met very nice girl. attractive to me.
You found HER attractive? or she was attracted to YOU?

Fleckenstein : didn't do much to help my problem until the last night.
I don't understand this part, what problem? do you have some sort of condition or something? Were you expecting HER to help you in some way? Please explain.

Fleckenstein : well, she had to leave early and i confronted her in the elevator. i got an apology and she left.
This is the bit that most concerns and confuses me....She had to leave what early? and you CONFRONTED HER? About what? leaving early? Then she APOPLGISED? What for? what had she done? Did you go into the elevator after her and say something accusitory? What on earth did she need to apologise for, other than to get away as quickly as possible from the scary weirdo who accosted her in the elevator....you really need to explain this part further....

Fleckenstein : wandered till 3, slept till 6. almost went out to see her. went home. thinking of her gives a sickening(?) feeling in the pit of my stomach.
You wandered about the cruise ship til 3am? That seems a triffle odd, what made you feel so uncomfortable?

Fleckenstein : finally, few days after getting back, email from other friend. email the girl, start chatting on AIM.
You know someone who knows this girl? how did you get her email address? DId she give it to you?

Fleckenstein : last week, dumped the whole story. she didn't talk until yesterday and she is dumbfounded, would be a good word.
What IS the whole story? that you fancy her? Like her? that she makes you feel sick in your stomach? What did you 'dump' on her exactly?

Fleckenstein : to top it off tomorrow (april 7) is ma birthday. should i let her indecision ruin my birthday?
Happy Birthday, How old are you? What is her indecision, did you give her an ultimatum or something?

Fleckenstein : oh, and i live in nj, she lives in mass. there's a chance i could visit, but ya never know ;)
Distance is not a HUGE problem if you are BOTH interested and want a relationship to work, my own relationship formed over the internet and we were in different continents, many thousands of miles apart, and it worked just fine and we are now together.

well, since i aint the only one confiding in NS, i thought i'd put this nice sad story up, maybe get some advice, and then follow it.

lets see, mid march, cruise vacation. met very nice girl. attractive to me. didn't do much to help my problem until the last night. well, she had to leave early and i confronted her in the elevator. i got an apology and she left. wandered till 3, slept till 6. almost went out to see her. went home. thinking of her gives a sickening(?) feeling in the pit of my stomach. finally, few days after getting back, email from other friend. email the girl, start chatting on AIM.

last week, dumped the whole story. she didn't talk until yesterday and she is dumbfounded, would be a good word.

to top it off tomorrow (april 7) is ma birthday. should i let her indecision ruin my birthday?

oh, and i live in nj, she lives in mass. there's a chance i could visit, but ya never know ;)

thanks in advance!Well, happy birthday at least. :)

okay.

first, 16 today. i apologize for the grammar. thanks for the birthday wish(es).

second, we hung out all week together. the whole time i was pushing and she would ignore everything. she left at like midnight on the last night, and i asked why she ignored me when we were in the elevator. she knew i really liked her, and she essentially ignored it.

she did give me her email/AIM.

i told her everything, including my feelings about her, online on wednesday. she hasn't spoken to me since.

anything else need to be cleared? i wrote the post still a little dazed.

still am.

Heh, you're not the only one who's having romance trouble...getting rejected to prom 2x :mad:
Okay, so the 1st girl I asked will supposedly be "away" (I don't buy it), and the second one was taken..but still I'm pissed. Spring break should help me get over it tho

first, 16 today.

That's what I mean by your age. I don't think even a 16 year old should be hopping states to go meet some girl. Give it a few years and if the connection is still there then go right ahead and make a move.

Perhaps you came on a bit strong and it turned her off. You said she basically ignored you when you told her you like her...maybe she didnt want to hurt your feelings by telling you the feeling wasnt mutual. She may have sent mixed signals by giving you her email and other contact information. When someone gives me that, I assume they would like to correspond. But maybe she simply meant it a friendly manner.