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*This may be the start of a mass movement*

James Wilson says he's tired of his wife spoiling their children so he's sitting on the roof of his home in protest.

James says his wife, Valentina, is a great mom but that he just wants more "alone" time with her.

James says on his web site that his bedroom has been turned into a "dungeon of diapers and toys." And he's upset that his baby daughter won't sleep without his wife holding her.

So he's camping out on the roof of his house, living in a tent and holding a sign.
http://www.husbandonstrike.com/

in a related story:
Man Prefer's Jail to Wife's Nagging

A man sentenced to nine months house arrest begged a judge to jail him instead because he couldn’t stand his wife’s nagging.

Algerian Ahmed Salhi, 24, was sentenced to a nine month curfew at home with his Italian wife in Ferrara, northern Italy.

But he went back to court after a week and begged the judge to jail him because he could not bear her nagging.

Salhi was sentenced to nine months house arrest after breaching immigration regulations.
But he turned up at his local courtroom and begged to be taken into custody because he said he could no longer stand living with her, and would rather be behind bars, Corriere della Sera reported.

He said: “I need some peace.”

A local court agreed to the Salhi’s request and he has been jailed for the rest of his sentence.

*This may be the start of a mass movement*

James Wilson says he's tired of his wife spoiling their children so he's sitting on the roof of his home in protest.

James says his wife, Valentina, is a great mom but that he just wants more "alone" time with her.

James says on his web site that his bedroom has been turned into a "dungeon of diapers and toys." And he's upset that his baby daughter won't sleep without his wife holding her.

So he's camping out on the roof of his house, living in a tent and holding a sign.
http://www.husbandonstrike.com/

What did she need to have a second baby for, I wonder?

What did she need to have a second baby for, I wonder?
I think shes using the kids to get her husband jealous--everyone in that house has access to her breast but HIM

I think shes using the kids to get her husband jealous--everyone in that house has access to her breast but HIM

No, I meant besides her husband.

Babies take a lot of time and effort. They can't feed themselves, clean themselves, wipe themselves or anything. I should think an adult would be able to understand that.

Instead, he's having a first class sulk out on the roof and whining on the internet and to television newscasters.

geez, I bet my husband is happy to have me around when he reads stories like this, seriously what kind of wife is so selfish that she won't even listen to her husband and basically forces him to live out on the roof for attention?

geez, I bet my husband is happy to have me around when he reads stories like this, seriously what kind of wife is so selfish that she won't even listen to her husband and basically forces him to live out on the roof for attention?

I can't be sure, but given the number of such stories on web-newsites and more higher-profile cases in the papers, one would assume that there are sufficient numbers of couples with similar amusing 'issues' to give impetus to the news media to document them... :rolleyes:

cant she get a nanny?

I can't be sure, but given the number of such stories on web-newsites and more higher-profile cases in the papers, one would assume that there are sufficient numbers of couples with similar amusing 'issues' to give impetus to the news media to document them... :rolleyes:
sure, there are a lot of marriages that have the same problem. However, most of them don't deal with their problems, and instead they end up getting divorced.

I don't discount the problem, I have 2 kids I know it's hard to balance esp. in the begining, but really she had to let it get bad enough that he is doing this? he is acting like a child which tells me one thing, she is treating him like one.

cant she get a nanny?

You offering to pay one for her? Because not everyone can afford that.

My parents had similar difficulties. They dealt with it by having my Dad be a workaholic who had a job he couldn't get away from until me and my siblings had reached the stage that we could fend for ourselves for a couple hours at a time.

Kids won't sleep by themselves if you don't make them. If she can't take a few crying spells while the child get acclimated to sleeping by themselves, she is going to have a hard time being a mother.

He probably just needed some excuse to live out every man's dream of living on a roof.

What a total twat, but that said, his wife needs to realise that sleeping with your children is not healthy and does not do them any long term favours, advice about cot death tells you NOT to sleep with infants. My own three children were all breast fed, all slept by the side of the bed in a moses basket until they were 4 - 6 weeks old and then went into their own nursery (next to the bedroom) I am not a big fan of dummies (pacifiers) either, I think its like sticking a gag on your baby. I think that holding a baby until it sleeps is lovely when it is a few weeks old, but its not so cute when they are 5 and wont let you go to bed! This woman needs 'super nanny', also some major marriage counseling as her husband needs a smack in the head for doing it this way....

No, I meant besides her husband.

Babies take a lot of time and effort. They can't feed themselves, clean themselves, wipe themselves or anything. I should think an adult would be able to understand that.

Instead, he's having a first class sulk out on the roof and whining on the internet and to television newscasters.

Eeehm... no. He is sulking about the fact that his wife is not raising the kids properly and doesn't wish to listen to his advice. A baby that does not sleep unless in the arms of mommy, and a two year old that always needs a pacifier are signs of bad parenting.

I think the wife might not have listened to the husband as she seems to be doing a decent job. Most parenting advice thingies say that comming up to three is the easiest and best time to get a child to give up a dummy (or bottle, as was with me). For a child that's only 2 months old I think it's really too much to expect them to have advanced sleeping behavior such as being able to get to sleep on their own. Maybe... I'm not a parent, so my views aren't really backed up by any first hand evidence.

That said, perhaps she could to do a better job of listening to her husband's views. Even if nothing changes I'm sure he'd feel more appreciated. But he's got to remember that it's tough work looking after young children. Maybe he should help out as well, that'd certainly make the wife more willing to listen to his views, or should (I don't know if he does help look after the children, but I'm assuming [not unfairly] that he doesn't).

I reckon he's just protesting for the attention. He's seems to love the attention he gets from the TV crews and reporters.

I reckon he's just protesting for the attention. He's seems to love the attention he gets from the TV crews and reporters.
of course he is doing it for attention, but if he had a good wife he wouldn't need any.


I think the wife might not have listened to the husband as she seems to be doing a decent job. Most parenting advice thingies say that comming up to three is the easiest and best time to get a child to give up a dummy (or bottle, as was with me). For a child that's only 2 months old I think it's really too much to expect them to have advanced sleeping behavior such as being able to get to sleep on their own. Maybe... I'm not a parent, so my views aren't really backed up by any first hand evidence.

pacifiers are for self comfort in small babies, by 2 a child should have been taught other ways to comfort themselves, I suspect that when it came time that the older child was ready to give up the paci the mom didn't notice or didn't care and forced the child to still have it, then it became a habit for the kid and habits are hard to break, the longer she lets the kid suck on the thing the harder it's going to be to take it away. IMO, most kids around 4-5 months old start to lose intrest in their pacifiers, and that's when you take it away, when they won't mind, and you don't ever give it back, no matter what.

The 2 month old sleeping in the mom's arms is a whole different thing, babies need cuddles, they need that mom time, but a 2 month old needs to start to have some independent sleeping time (if they don't have it already, my kids never slept in my bed, and only slept in my room until they could sleep for more than 3 hours in the night), seriously, if you don't teach a kid how to sleep on their own young, they will have trouble later (and then you end up with the 6 year old still sleeping in mommy's bed and daddy sleeping on the couch)

*This may be the start of a mass movement*

James Wilson says he's tired of his wife spoiling their children so he's sitting on the roof of his home in protest.

James says his wife, Valentina, is a great mom but that he just wants more "alone" time with her.

James says on his web site that his bedroom has been turned into a "dungeon of diapers and toys." And he's upset that his baby daughter won't sleep without his wife holding her.

So he's camping out on the roof of his house, living in a tent and holding a sign.
http://www.husbandonstrike.com/

*note to husband*

WELCOME TO LIFE WITH KIDS!!! If ya wanted alone time with your wife then you shouldn't have kids.

Hopefully it'll rain the next three weeks.

*This may be the start of a mass movement*

James Wilson says he's tired of his wife spoiling their children so he's sitting on the roof of his home in protest.

James says his wife, Valentina, is a great mom but that he just wants more "alone" time with her.

James says on his web site that his bedroom has been turned into a "dungeon of diapers and toys." And he's upset that his baby daughter won't sleep without his wife holding her.

So he's camping out on the roof of his house, living in a tent and holding a sign.
http://www.husbandonstrike.com/
Boo hoo hoo. A grown man pouting like a toddler over not getting his way.

Seriously, if I were a guy I would want to smack this idiot. The "Men's Rights" movement is currently nothing more than a club for bratty little boys who deserve to be put in the time out chair until they acquire a freaking clue. It's just plain pitiful.

Boo hoo hoo. A grown man pouting like a toddler over not getting his way.

Seriously, if I were a guy I would want to smack this idiot. The "Men's Rights" movement is currently nothing more than a club for bratty little boys who deserve to be put in the time out chair until they acquire a freaking clue. It's just plain pitiful.
The mother does not sound like a peach either

Seriously, if I were a guy I would want to smack this idiot. The "Men's Rights" movement is currently nothing more than a club for bratty little boys who deserve to be put in the time out chair until they acquire a freaking clue. It's just plain pitiful.
How is that different from the current "Women's Rights" movement?

The mother does not sound like a peach either
If your spouse is a brat, you do not solve the problem by being an even bigger brat. You also don't get to excuse your behavior by stomping your widdle foot and yelling that "SHE STARTED IT!"

How is that different from the current "Women's Rights" movement?
I don't feel like de-railing this thread with an explanation of how the feminist movement helps improve life for both men and women. Feel free to read a book, though.

If your spouse is a brat, you do not solve the problem by being an even bigger brat. You also don't get to excuse your behavior by stomping your widdle foot and yelling that "SHE STARTED IT!"
I was not trying to justify his behavior ... Just pointing out that she is not inosent herself

Maybe they deserve eachother:p

I don't feel like de-railing this thread with an explanation of how the feminist movement helps improve life for both men and women. Feel free to read a book, though.
Feel free not to be condescending and snobbish.

I was not trying to justify his behavior ... Just pointing out that she is not inosent herself

Maybe they deserve eachother:p
Yeah, but the kids deserve neither one!

And the reason I targetted the male in my initial comment was not because I think the woman was necessarily in the right, but because it is the man who is being painted as a "men's rights activist" for his behavior.

If men are really ok with this kind of jackass being held up as an example of "men's rights" activism, then I guess that's up to them. Personally, I am deeply offended when a stupid female pulls some crap about how she should get special treatment because she's a girl, and then she gets held up as a model of "Grrl Power" or "feminism" or some such bullshit.

That kind of fucktard is not standing up for my rights, and I sure as hell don't want them painted as some kind of activist for my gender. If men think that they are well represented by some petulant, roof-sitting juvenile then I guess that's ok...just remember that you boys said it, not me :).

Feel free not to be condescending and snobbish.
Oh, I feel quite free, I just choose another path when dealing with people who can't tell the difference between the current "Men's Rights" jackasses and the feminist movement. It's much the same as how I react to people who can't tell the difference between the Civil Rights movement and modern "White Power" organizations like the Ayran Nation.

Yeah, but the kids deserve neither one!

And the reason I targetted the male in my initial comment was not because I think the woman was necessarily in the right, but because it is the man who is being painted as a "men's rights activist" for his behavior.

If men are really ok with this kind of jackass being held up as an example of "men's rights" activism, then I guess that's up to them. Personally, I am deeply offended when a stupid female pulls some crap about how she should get special treatment because she's a girl, and then she gets held up as a model of "Grrl Power" or "feminism" or some such bullshit.

That kind of fucktard is not standing up for my rights, and I sure as hell don't want them painted as some kind of activist for my gender. If men think that they are well represented by some petulant, roof-sitting juvenile then I guess that's ok...just remember that you boys said it, not me :).
I agree on the kids coment

As far as the rest I agree I dont want him as an example of male rights activist any more as you want someone like the wife being held up as as a womans rights activist.

I agree on the kids coment

As far as the rest I agree I dont want him as an example of male rights activist any more as you want someone like the wife being held up as as a womans rights activist.
Bingo. Glad somebody understood my point. :)

How is that different from the current "Women's Rights" movement?

I was going to say something a little more verbose... but this post cuts to the heart of what I was thinking. ;)
Movements have to start SOMEWHERE. And, yeah, since they're a minority, of course people are going to think it's ridiculous, at first.

Haha.

This guy's a twat. And she's obviously passive agressive.

Sucks for them.

I was going to say something a little more verbose... but this post cuts to the heart of what I was thinking. ;)
Movements have to start SOMEWHERE. And, yeah, since they're a minority, of course people are going to think it's ridiculous, at first.
The problem is that men who are genuinely interested in men's rights already have a movement: the feminist movement. Feminism is about the social and political EQUALITY of the sexes, and men who are genuinely committed to that end already have a host of wonderful, reputable, and strong organizations to help them with their efforts.

Organizations like the MRA have been shown, time and time again, to be composed of bitter ex-husbands who are trying to find legal loopholes that will allow them to get revenge on their ex, often by using their own kids as weapons. These organizations are, in many ways, even more harmful to men than to women, because they stir up an anti-male backlash with their disgusting and dishonest practices. Feminist organizations don't just work against the MRA because its members seek to harm women, they also work against the MRA because its activities are setting gender equality back for EVERYBODY.

Like I said in a previous post, the current "Men's Rights" movement is acting in a manner similar to White Power groups. White Power groups fuck things up for white people, because they have made "white power" and "white culture" synonymous with hate and racism. In the same way, "Men's Rights" organizations are making "men's rights" synonymous with woman-hating, dead-beat dads, and domestic violence. Men who actually care about improving gender relations and ensuring equality are not the ones who are joining "Men's Rights" groups, any more than white people who care about racial equality are the ones joining White Power groups.

Boo hoo hoo. A grown man pouting like a toddler over not getting his way.

Seriously, if I were a guy I would want to smack this idiot. The "Men's Rights" movement is currently nothing more than a club for bratty little boys who deserve to be put in the time out chair until they acquire a freaking clue. It's just plain pitiful.
:D :D :D
but it is a biological fact tho that women lose their attraction to their mates after birth

I don't feel like de-railing this thread with an explanation of how the feminist movement helps improve life for both men and women. Feel free to read a book, though.
go ahead

whatever direction a thread wants to go in is ok with me

I knew it would happen. I said it would happen. AND GUESS WHAT! It DID!

Yeah, but the kids deserve neither one!

And the reason I targetted the male in my initial comment was not because I think the woman was necessarily in the right, but because it is the man who is being painted as a "men's rights activist" for his behavior.

If men are really ok with this kind of jackass being held up as an example of "men's rights" activism, then I guess that's up to them. Personally, I am deeply offended when a stupid female pulls some crap about how she should get special treatment because she's a girl, and then she gets held up as a model of "Grrl Power" or "feminism" or some such bullshit.

That kind of fucktard is not standing up for my rights, and I sure as hell don't want them painted as some kind of activist for my gender. If men think that they are well represented by some petulant, roof-sitting juvenile then I guess that's ok...just remember that you boys said it, not me :).
I think the fool should go out drinking with his friends

The problem is that men who are genuinely interested in men's rights already have a movement: the feminist movement. Feminism is about the social and political EQUALITY of the sexes, and men who are genuinely committed to that end already have a host of wonderful, reputable, and strong organizations to help them with their efforts.

Organizations like the MRA have been shown, time and time again, to be composed of bitter ex-husbands who are trying to find legal loopholes that will allow them to get revenge on their ex, often by using their own kids as weapons. These organizations are, in many ways, even more harmful to men than to women, because they stir up an anti-male backlash with their disgusting and dishonest practices. Feminist organizations don't just work against the MRA because its members seek to harm women, they also work against the MRA because its activities are setting gender equality back for EVERYBODY.

Like I said in a previous post, the current "Men's Rights" movement is acting in a manner similar to White Power groups. White Power groups fuck things up for white people, because they have made "white power" and "white culture" synonymous with hate and racism. In the same way, "Men's Rights" organizations are making "men's rights" synonymous with woman-hating, dead-beat dads, and domestic violence. Men who actually care about improving gender relations and ensuring equality are not the ones who are joining "Men's Rights" groups, any more than white people who care about racial equality are the ones joining White Power groups.
theres alot of feminists who unfairly demonize male sexuality tho

I think the fool should go out drinking with his friends

:p

Nothing like getting good 'n wasted to sort out your problems:D

:p

Nothing like getting good 'n wasted to sort out your problems:D
any excuse will do;)

theres alot of feminists who unfairly demonize male sexuality tho

Yep. Most feminists are violent for women's rights. They'd keep us men tied to the house and used as a toy if they could get the legislation for it. :)

Yep. Most feminists are violent for women's rights. They'd keep us men tied to the house and used as a toy if they could get the legislation for it. :)
and the antiporn feminists are shrill

Funny you should bring this up as a topic on NS for it was just shown on German TV this afternoon.

While they showed the couple saying that they had a loving a well going relationship I can see a point to the man's claim.

Not saying that the woman (or better: the parents) should not take care of their children - but there is a point in time when kids need to learn that the parents' bedroom is not the place to sleep at night. Simple as that.

So, I hope for good but not too hot weather so hubby can go on with his strike! http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/pcurlaub.gif

Funny you should bring this up as a topic on NS for it was just shown on German TV this afternoon.

While they showed the couple saying that they had a loving a well going relationship I can see a point to the man's claim.

Not saying that the woman (or better: the parents) should not take care of their children - but there is a point in time when kids need to learn that the parents' bedroom is not the place to sleep at night. Simple as that.

So, I hope for good but not too hot weather so hubby can go on with his strike! http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/pcurlaub.gif
I agree--at least let the bloke sleep in his own bed at night without having to deal with whiny needy siphons AKA kids