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I want to see what everyone's... morality... is on sexual relations. How do you regard sex? I have put the options down here because in no way will there be enough space on the poll itself to sufficiently explain them.

Now, bear in mind, this is a hypothetical situation. This means that if you could, how much would you? So basically what's your personal opinion on this issue, regardless of whether or not you care to impose it on anyone else.

Now, the options are from most sexually liberated to most sexually restricted to "I don't know":

Option 1: I would have sexual relations with whores and sluts if I could. I don't really care about the type of sex I'd be having, sex is sex, even if I'm paying for it (or being paid for it).
Option 2: I would have casual sex. Of course, I wouldn't go so far as to pay people for sex, but if some random chick that I find attractive enough would start flirting with me, I'd go all the way.
Option 3: I wouldn't go so far as to have sex with any chick I pick up in a bar, but I would not have any problem with having sex with someone I'm involved in a relationship. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship, I'd go all the way.
Option 4: I would only have sex with a person if I were in an intimate relationship with them. I would only be able to open up if we were very close to each other.
Option 5: I half-believe in the sex after marriage thing. I wouldn't go so far as to wait until we're actually married, but I would have sex with a person if I were getting married to them. However, I'd only have sex with them if I were sure we would get married. Essentially, I would reserve my virginity for *the one*, but not necessarily wait until after marriage.
Option 6: I would only have sex until after marriage, no exceptions. Not even before we're married. When we have married, then will I have sex with my significant other.
Option 7: You know what? I don't know...

Added: I must have made a few of the options gender-specific. Please ignore that and replace words as appropriate.

Why do you want to know? Is there something you're not telling us?

Why do you want to know?

Curiosity :D

Is there something you're not telling us?

Plenty of things, like my home address, my PIN code, and so on...

But let's get back to the topic.

I don't know, unless i find myself in a situation, i don't usually know for sure what i would do. There are certain things on that list i doubt i'd do, but i'm not willing to rule anything out.

I don't think it's really a question of morality, at least not for everyone. There are plenty of things i wouldn't do that i have no moral objection to, they're just not to my tastes.

Option 1 really isn't possible for me. There aren't too many man-hoes in my area. Don't know about yours...

Shit... Casual sex... I meant to pick Casual Sex... well, Almost Casual is close enough.

Option 8: It's not something I want to do.

It's only sex if it involves another person. ;)

(No, your leather glove/llama/LCD monitor does not count.)

Relationship required, but not marriage. I tried that once, never again. I want a situation where we visit each other, but don't live together. We help each other when it's needed, but don't hold it over each other's heads. And liking is as important as loving.

Number 4 for me. It's a trust thing.

I practise both option two and three. When single, I operate in option two mode, and when I find someone I consider "more" than sex, I switch to option three mode.

Intimate relationship for me. I have no problem with others having casual sex or hiring prostitutes/gigalos, but that's just not for me. It's not a morality thing, it's just a matter of what I want and don't want.

I'd be between 2 and three, in an ideal world where pregnancy and disease were not an issue (and where my wife was extremely open-minded about such things).
I'd basically have sex with any attractive female that I liked, but I would never consider it to be "casual".

Sex is one of the ultimate pleasures in life, a bonding experience between two (or more) people that exercises the mind, body, and spirit of those involved.
It's a fulfilling, exciting, and borderline-divine event, and I don't see how anybody could be casual about it unless they were doing it wrong somehow.

Option 1 really isn't possible for me. There aren't too many man-hoes in my area. Don't know about yours...

You'd be suprised. You can find them anywhere if you actualy look.

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First and foremost, there are four things that would immediately end any chance of going all the way for me: prostitution (I support its legality, but I wouldn't use it), cheating, known untreated STD's, and unprotected sex. If these four conditions were met, then:

1) If a chick asks me in person to go all the way, then I would go all the way. I see no reason other than the four listed above to deny sex to a girl willing to ask me for sex! (Option 2)
2) If I'm asking the girl for sex, then the chick would be in intimate relationship with me. This is largely due to my cautious nature - if I'm in an intimate relationship with someone, then I know that said someone is interested in me and I'm unlikely to offend said someone by asking to go all the way. (Option 4)

I voted 3, as I interpreted it to mean "I would only sleep with my friends".

I picked Option 3, which is what would do and what I do. Are there really people whose answer would be different for these two things?

I agree with NERVUN; option 4 with me. I don't care if others do options 1-3 and 5-6, but there's nothing wrong with option 4 in my thoughts.

Yeah, it seems to be on the extreme end of the scale from most of the answers here, but I went with Option 6. And not just theoretically... it's what I did. And yes, for moral reasons... otherwise lemme tell you, I'd have been more 4 or 5. Heh. Never was interested in anyone else though, it was just the waiting for marriage part that was hard.

Incidentally, wouldn't the "intimate relationship" option be kinda a given, since you're at very least being physically intimate with them, even if they're a stranger whose name you don't know?

I selected number 1. I am a whore. Always have been always will be.

I voted for 3, but now that I'm thinking aobut it, I'm probably really closer to 4. Unless they were REALLY godddam attractive, I think a romantic relationship of some sort would be necessary.

Casual's definitely possible. And with a chick even more likely than with a guy. But aside from that, are you only asking the male population, or is the wording of your options pure accident? :p

Since this is hypothetical, I picked Option 5; ideally I'd only ever have had sex with someone with whom I was in love (that was also in love with me) and foresaw myself being with in the long-term. However, in reality, things worked out closer to Option 4, which isn't so bad.

being as I am a scarlet woman, with the morals of a slut, I refuse to participate in this thread..

Between 3 and 4. I simply do not perform well if I do not actually know the other person, but when single I have no moral objections as such against casual dating.

However, when in a romantic relationship I am monogamous.

Option 4 for me; I don't care much about "having sex", but "making love" is wonderful.

I voted 2. I don't chase casual sex/one night stands, but if an attractive girl was offering, I probably wouldn't say no.

Edit: That's assuming I'm not in a relationship. If I was in a relationship, I would remain monogomous.

I chose option 5- Because im a romantic type and i havnt met the right girl yet. The results look good though- its waht i would excpect to see oif done nationaly

Probably 3. I don't get offered random sex anyway, but even if I did i'd probably be too uncomfortable unless I knew the person.

I'd like to think I'd be a 3, but my past history says I'm a 2. Never a 1, though.

morality and sexual relations are totaly UNrelated! at all, whatsoever, period!

(othere then the harm that is caused by std's and overpopulation, both of which CAN be averted, irrispective of sexual practices)

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:headbang: I hate topics like this. I voted for option 4, because the rest are stupid.

:headbang: I hate topics like this. I voted for option 4, because the rest are stupid.

Eeeehm.. a significant part of the worlds population disagrees with you there...

:headbang: I hate topics like this. I voted for option 4, because the rest are stupid.That's not true. What works for one person doesn't work for others.

morality and sexual relations are totaly UNrelated! at all, whatsoever, period!Really? So it isn't immoral to cheat on your lover?

Really? So it isn't immoral to cheat on your lover?DO you always need to have sex to be cheating on your partner?

DO you always need to have sex to be cheating on your partner?

Depends on how sensitive your partner is, I guess. Some people would say that having sex with another person isn't even necessarily cheating on your partner at all...

Eeeehm.. a significant part of the worlds population disagrees with you there...

If the posters in this thread = the world, then you're right.

That's not true. What works for one person doesn't work for others.

Maybe I think it's silly that we live in an age where having sex with your mates "works" for people. And in response to Cameroi, I think morality and sexuality SHOULD be intertwined, but unfortunately they aren't, unless you're a priest.

If the posters in this thread = the world, then you're right.

The posters in this thread = the world of NS :D :p



Maybe I think it's silly that we live in an age where having sex with your mates "works" for people. And in response to Cameroi, I think morality and sexuality SHOULD be intertwined, but unfortunately they aren't, unless you're a priest.

Well, call me silly then :rolleyes:
What's it to you what other poeple do in their bedrooms, anyway?

If the posters in this thread = the world, then you're right.

Well.. my world is sllightly bigger. It includes those people who believe that one should not have sex before marriage. It also includes those people who would never even consider going to a whore, no sir, while those whores earn money in a mysterious way. It includes people with special sexual desires, as bdsm or another fetish, which they satisfy in likeminded groups. It even includes people in non western civilisations with very different opinions on sex than we have, as well as many other people I am too lazy to list.

Depends on how sensitive your partner is, I guess. Some people would say that having sex with another person isn't even necessarily cheating on your partner at all...True, but what I was hinting at was that you can cheat on your partner even if you're not having sex. :p

True, but what I was hinting at was that you can cheat on your partner even if you're not having sex. :p

Yup, there's SOOO many ways... but let's stick to the common understanding that "cheating on your partner" means "having sex with someone else", to keep matters simple here ;)

True, but what I was hinting at was that you can cheat on your partner even if you're not having sex. :pTrue, but Cameroi specified morality and sex, so I wanted to point out that sex and morality can and should be intertwined, if your partner views having sex with other people as cheating.

i will only have sex in an intimate relationship, nothing else, i wouldnt feel right doing it with just anyone or just casually.

True, but Cameroi specified morality and sex, so I wanted to point out that sex and morality can and should be intertwined, if your partner views having sex with other people as cheating.Yes, but if you don't need to have sex to cheat on your partner, its not really that intertwined.

Well.. my world is sllightly bigger. It includes those people who believe that one should not have sex before marriage. It also includes those people who would never even consider going to a whore, no sir, while those whores earn money in a mysterious way. It includes people with special sexual desires, as bdsm or another fetish, which they satisfy in likeminded groups. It even includes people in non western civilisations with very different opinions on sex than we have, as well as many other people I am too lazy to list.

I can see your point now, which seems to be that if the majority of people think group sex/whore sex/animal sex is okay, or even okay enough to just turn a blind eye to, then it really is okay. So if a million people disagree with me, I must be wrong.

I can see your point now, which seems to be that if the majority of people think group sex/whore sex/animal sex is okay, or even okay enough to just turn a blind eye to, then it really is okay. So if a million people disagree with me, I must be wrong.

Seems rather likely.

I can see your point now, which seems to be that if the majority of people think group sex/whore sex/animal sex is okay, or even okay enough to just turn a blind eye to, then it really is okay. So if a million people disagree with me, I must be wrong.

Again : Why are you obsessed with what any number of consenting adults do with or to each other? It's got nothing to do with majority, it's called "tolerance".
Nobody's forcing you to participate or watch.

I can see your point now, which seems to be that if the majority of people think group sex/whore sex/animal sex is okay, or even okay enough to just turn a blind eye to, then it really is okay. So if a million people disagree with me, I must be wrong.

I haven't said anything about them being ok or not. My point is that your claim that the polloptions are stupid is false; since there exist lots of people that would pick an option different than yours.

That doesn't mean those people are better or more right than you - just that the poll is not stupid.

Yes, but if you don't need to have sex to cheat on your partner, its not really that intertwined.It is when having sex with other people is cheating on your partner.

Again : Why are you obsessed with what any number of consenting adults do with or to each other? It's got nothing to do with majority, it's called "tolerance".
Nobody's forcing you to participate or watch.

I wouldn't say I'm obsessed, since I'm discussing what the thread is asking me to discuss, that is, sexual habits.

Tolerating other people doing it isn't that many steps away from doing it yourself. And considering prostitution isn't actually legal, I should think I have a right to be intolerant of it.

And I don't have to watch, but isn't knowing it's going on bad enough?

I went with option 3. I've only had sex with 3 different partners.. 2 of them were in longish relationships the other was a one-off. I've found sex in a relationship is much better.

I haven't said anything about them being ok or not. My point is that your claim that the polloptions are stupid is false; since there exist lots of people that would pick an option different than yours.

That doesn't mean those people are better or more right than you - just that the poll is not stupid.

No, the poll isn't stupid, I didn't mean that. I meant that the other options are either too ethically "loose" or too "tight". Going to every extreme is what I was calling stupid, i.e having sex with anything that moves just because you enjoy it, or not having sex until marriage for religious/moral reasons. A bit of paper has nothing to do with your sex life.

I see sex like food, an important part of life so you might as well enjoy it, but gorging yourself or starving yourself is silly.

I wouldn't say I'm obsessed, since I'm discussing what the thread is asking me to discuss, that is, sexual habits.

Tolerating other people doing it isn't that many steps away from doing it yourself. And considering prostitution isn't actually legal, I should think I have a right to be intolerant of it.

And I don't have to watch, but isn't knowing it's going on bad enough?

It is legal in my home country, Germany. And in a good number of other countries around the globe. As this is an international forum, you may want to keep that in mind.

Tolerating prostitution is a far cry from prostituting yourself. And being tolerant of the sexual preferences of others (providing it stays among consenting adults, that is) does not mean indulging in their sexual fantasies yourself.

And the thread is only asking you to talk about what you would do, not to go around calling others stupid for doing something else.

You said you see sex like food... I know that around the world, people are eating spinach at this very moment. The thought of eating it myself makes me sick, but does that mean I should go around calling them stupid for liking that green goo?

I cant read all that-my eyes were glazing over.

Before I got married, "casual sex"- with female friends & coworkers, friend's girlfriends, girls I met on long weekends and vacations. I know their names and remember all of them, still in touch with a bunch.
Since I got married-not so casual.

It is legal in my home country, Germany. And in a good number of other countries around the globe. As this is an international forum, you may want to keep that in mind.

Tolerating prostitution is a far cry from prostituting yourself. And being tolerant of the sexual preferences of others (providing it stays among consenting adults, that is) does not mean indulging in their sexual fantasies yourself.

And the thread is only asking you to talk about what you would do, not to go around calling others stupid for doing something else.

You said you see sex like food... I know that around the world, people are eating spinach at this very moment. The thought of eating it myself makes me sick, but does that mean I should go around calling them stupid for liking that green goo?

I'd call them stupid for having sex with the goo.

Edit: and I wasn't aware that prostitution was legal, sorry. Do they tax it? Do you pay VAT on your sex?

Option 3: I wouldn't go so far as to have sex with any chick I pick up in a bar, but I would not have any problem with having sex with someone I'm involved in a relationship. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship, I'd go all the way.
Option 4: I would only have sex with a person if I were in an intimate relationship with them. I would only be able to open up if we were very close to each other.
somewhere in-between those two will do me :) (voted for door #3 though cos i probably lean that way...)

Option 1: I would have sexual relations with whores and sluts if I could. I don't really care about the type of sex I'd be having, sex is sex, even if I'm paying for it (or being paid for it).
Option 2: I would have casual sex. Of course, I wouldn't go so far as to pay people for sex, but if some random chick that I find attractive enough would start flirting with me, I'd go all the way.
Option 3: I wouldn't go so far as to have sex with any chick I pick up in a bar, but I would not have any problem with having sex with someone I'm involved in a relationship. Doesn't matter what kind of relationship, I'd go all the way.
Option 4: I would only have sex with a person if I were in an intimate relationship with them. I would only be able to open up if we were very close to each other.
Option 5: I half-believe in the sex after marriage thing. I wouldn't go so far as to wait until we're actually married, but I would have sex with a person if I were getting married to them. However, I'd only have sex with them if I were sure we would get married. Essentially, I would reserve my virginity for *the one*, but not necessarily wait until after marriage.
Option 6: I would only have sex until after marriage, no exceptions. Not even before we're married. When we have married, then will I have sex with my significant other.
Option 7: You know what? I don't know...

Added: I must have made a few of the options gender-specific. Please ignore that and replace words as appropriate.
1. I don't have any interest in having sex with somebody who has to be paid to endure my company. However, I don't see anything wrong with having mutual, consentual sex with a person who sometimes accepts money for sex.

I also don't see any problem with "sluts," since I'm probably considered a "slut" by most of the people who use that kind of term. I don't believe a person is dirtied by the sexual act, and I would have much more aversion to sleeping with a person who uses the word "slut" than with a person who is described as one...who wants to sleep with the kind of creep who views sex as immoral, dirtying, or shameful?

2. I have had "casual sex," and I see nothing wrong with it. I require protection, of course.

3. Again, I see nothing wrong with "casual sex," so obviously this is a big yes. My current partner and I were sexually involved for about a year before we decided to become a monogamous couple, and we've been together almost 5 years now. "Casual sex" is only a problem for people who have sexual and/or emotional hangups, and who have trouble distinguishing sex and love.

4. Obviously not true for me :).

5. I believe that it is immoral to get married without having had sex with your partner. I believe it is wrong to promise to be a life-partner without first making every possible effort to know the person you are marrying, and this includes (but is most certainly not limited to) who they are as a sexual being. There will always be things you learn about your partner over time, long after marriage, and it is likely that both of you will change as you go, but I believe it is totally disrespectful and dishonest to get married without doing everything in your power to come to know the full and complete nature of what you are promising. It is a disservice to your partner and to yourself.

6. See above.

I'd call them stupid for having sex with the goo.

Edit: and I wasn't aware that prostitution was legal, sorry. Do they tax it? Do you pay VAT on your sex?

Yep. And prostitutes enjoy social security and health care. It's regarded as a normal profession, more or less.

That doesn't mean those people are better or more right than you - just that the poll is not stupid.

*small tear comes out of eye*

The poll is defended :)

You'd be suprised. You can find them anywhere if you actualy look.

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*takes out telescope* OMG, Mr. Johnson, you're such a whore!