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i'm sure some remember this:

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=460225

well for anyone who cares, i think we're broken up now, she said goodbye and i've just lost the best thing in my life. worst thing was the thing that finally made her end it was she thought i was 'attacking' her on something but i wasn't. its gonna take me a long time to smile again

:( you have my sympathies :(

i have no advice really, bar don't go getting drunk cos burying problems in chemicals doesn't actually solve anything...

Well at least you don't have the car crash in your stomach feeling anymore. Horrible feeling...

Time.

:( you have my sympathies :(

i have no advice really, bar don't go getting drunk cos burying problems in chemicals doesn't actually solve anything...

thanks, i always hoped we could kinda do a you and glitzi and at least get onto another stage, but i just don't know now

thanks, i always hoped we could kinda do a you and glitzi and at least get onto another stage, but i just don't know now
well don't forget that you can always talk about things... there's very few problems that can't be talked about, especially if you're doing the whole long-distance thing. that is, unless either she doesn't want to be open about stuff (you just have to be!) or she doesn't like something about you or whatever, in which case perhaps it wasn't meant to be anyway... i don't know.
take everything i say with a pinch of salt because a) i've hardly had much experience in this field, and b) myself and glitz have worked mostly because she's just so fantastic :D

well don't forget that you can always talk about things... there's very few problems that can't be talked about, especially if you're doing the whole long-distance thing. that is, unless either she doesn't want to be open about stuff (you just have to be!) or she doesn't like something about you or whatever, in which case perhaps it wasn't meant to be anyway... i don't know.
take everything i say with a pinch of salt because a) i've hardly had much experience in this field, and b) myself and glitz have worked mostly because she's just so fantastic :D
Hey Hu, I just thought of this. Did you and Amy meet on NS or somewhere else and one of you convinced the other to join NS?

Hey Huw, I just thought of this. Did you and Amy meet on NS or somewhere else and one of you convinced the other to join NS?
the former - met her here. started talking via TG before she really started posting on these forums... tis so wonderfully nerdy :D
why do you ask btw?

the former - met her here. started talking via TG before she really started posting on these forums... tis so wonderfully nerdy :D
why do you ask btw?
Just wanted to see if people actually do hook up through NS. I've seen a few, I just want to know if the most famous couple on NS hooked up through NS.

Just wanted to see if people actually do hook up through NS. I've seen a few, I just want to know if the most famous couple on NS hooked up through NS.
aww *blushes* :p
well a couple met here and subsequentially married, you know... clicky (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=361203)

aww *blushes* :p
well a couple met here and subsequentially married, you know... clicky (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=361203)
Nifty. Too bad I'm only 13. I doubt I could start a relationship through NS.

well for anyone who cares, i think we're broken up now, she said goodbye and i've just lost the best thing in my life. worst thing was the thing that finally made her end it was she thought i was 'attacking' her on something but i wasn't. its gonna take me a long time to smile again
I care, but your "feelings" aren't nearly as important as what you do about them. I stongly recommend a good exercise program that will help you get rid of stress. Look on this as both a learning experience and a chance to concentrate on making yourself into what you want to be. I really don't think that someone who misunderstands you easily and then responds by dropping you is worth all the anquish. Tells me that the two of you probably weren't very compatible. Thank your lucky stars that she left you now instead of later.

I care, but your "feelings" aren't nearly as important as what you do about them. I stongly recommend a good exercise program that will help you get rid of stress. Look on this as both a learning experience and a chance to concentrate on making yourself into what you want to be. I really don't think that someone who misunderstands you easily and then responds by dropping you is worth all the anquish. Tells me that the two of you probably weren't very compatible. Thank your lucky stars that she left you now instead of later.

well it was a lot more than just a misunderstnding. i'm kind of hoping that once she cools down we can talk about it and figure out whats best for both of us.

Nifty. Too bad I'm only 13. I doubt I could start a relationship through NS.
i don't see why not. glitz is only 16 and i'm 20, so by those rules you could get together with anyone up to the age of 18... and there are plenty of people here in that category! :p

well it was a lot more than just a misunderstnding. i'm kind of hoping that once she cools down we can talk about it and figure out whats best for both of us.
If I were you ( which I'm sure both of us are relieved that you're not! ), I would totally ignore her until she approached me. Then I would tell her that *I* had decided that anyone upset about something I said to the point of dumping me wasn't anyone I wanted to associate with. :D

But then, that's just me. :)

i'm sure some remember this:

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=460225

well for anyone who cares, i think we're broken up now, she said goodbye and i've just lost the best thing in my life. worst thing was the thing that finally made her end it was she thought i was 'attacking' her on something but i wasn't. its gonna take me a long time to smile again
rejoice my good friend!! now you can spend all you money on yourself, get drunk every evening, stay out until 3, and do all the things that REAL men do...

If I were you ( which I'm sure both of us are relieved that you're not! ), I would totally ignore her until she approached me. Then I would tell her that *I* had decided that anyone upset about something I said to the point of dumping me wasn't anyone I wanted to associate with. :D

But then, that's just me. :)

i'll consider it, but i don't wanna fuck things up more by trying to prove a point and be spiteful

rejoice my good friend!! now you can spend all you money on yourself, get drunk every evening, stay out until 3, and do all the things that REAL men do...

i did that anyway. except for the drunk every evening but i have no urge to do that anyway

i did that anyway. except for the drunk every evening but i have no urge to do that anyway
getting high then?

i'm not helping very much am i? but then again, what do you expect from a guy who can't hold on to a chick for more than three weeks?

i don't see why not. glitz is only 16 and i'm 20, so by those rules you could get together with anyone up to the age of 18... and there are plenty of people here in that category! :p
Yeah, but I doubt any of them live in the California Bay Area.

I'm so sorry. :(

Well at least you don't have the car crash in your stomach feeling anymore. Horrible feeling...

boy do i know that feeling.

or the feeling of regret because you think she won't talk to you over something you said until you reach her and find out her AIM was deleted.
that's a wondeful feeling.

oh, any help for long distance relationships?

That sucks. I have a similar experience, but I wasn't in love or anything remotely close, she's just a friend I've been talking to since 2004 (not on NS, but another forum. :) ) Turns out I've probably blown it by being too inquisitive. She did not want me to know exactly where she lived, but I found a website with that on it (I wasn't intentionally searching for that either). I didn't look at the address, and still don't know it, but still... Probably the only reason she knows I went there is because I told her. Mistake? Maybe, but I like having the truth in the open. Now I think she believes I want to stalk her or something. That's too bad, because I definitely don't want to do anything of the sort to anyone. I feel very sorry about it, and I've told her so, but that's not helping anything. It's quite clearly my fault...

LOL, yesterday I told her I had chinese food for dinner and, since she had chinese the same day, my casual mention of it is connected in some way and it's 'creepy'. Ick. That's not the kind of person I am. I have no way of convincing her of my good intentions, however, because there's nothing I can do over the internets that would convince her (not that I blame her) and she lives too far away for it to be practical for us to meet. Ah well. I might be going somewhere a little closer for a trip sometime this summer, so maybe I'll ask if she's up to it then.

*le sigh*

i'm sure some remember this:

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=460225

well for anyone who cares, i think we're broken up now, she said goodbye and i've just lost the best thing in my life. worst thing was the thing that finally made her end it was she thought i was 'attacking' her on something but i wasn't. its gonna take me a long time to smile again
Hey, I didn't notice before that you lived in the same country as me! Dia dhuit, mhaith fear!

Anyway, it would help a lot if you would summarise for us what has happened in the last four months since that thread in December.

I think Eutrusca has generally been giving good advice: get busy with other things you enjoy, and don't mourn; you two probably were not compatible in the first place.

well it was a lot more than just a misunderstnding. i'm kind of hoping that once she cools down we can talk about it and figure out whats best for both of us.
I'm sorry to hear about your situation. :( But as long as you are able to communicate with each other isn't there a hope that you can clear up the misunderstandings and work something out?

There is a reason why I despise long-distance relationships... Actually, there are a plethora of reasons, and one of them is that you can't confront problems by talking about them face to face.

I hope everything turns out for the best for you. Good luck!

I'm sorry that it seems to not be working out for you.

I do know how hard it is, having an internet relationship, as my own started out in exactly the same way. I met my 'other half' on NS, we posted on the region board and then talked in the regions chatroom, then on MSN and the telephone. It caused all manner of wonderful and difficult things. He was in Canada, I am in England and married, Now he is here with me in England (it was a year on the 27th March) I am now divorced and the children have a much better relationship with him than with their Dad.

I tend to think that if the relationship is right, then no matter what, you will overcome it. Talking is the best thing about internet relationships, talking is really ALL you can do, but it means that you know each other really well, and it gives you a chance to get to know someone way better then if you met each other in a bar or something. The drawback is that missunderstandings are easier without face to face conversation, words can sound so different in your head than they read on the screen.

Try sending her an email, letting her know how you feel, and telling her what you really meant when you said whatever it was that upset her, if you explain then maybe it will work out?

I wish you luck and hope that if she is the one for you, then maybe it will work out, and if she isn't, then maybe now was a good time to find out.

Best of luck either way.

:D

I'm sorry that it seems to not be working out for you.

I do know how hard it is, having an internet relationship, as my own started out in exactly the same way. I met my 'other half' on NS, we posted on the region board and then talked in the regions chatroom, then on MSN and the telephone. It caused all manner of wonderful and difficult things. He was in Canada, I am in England and married, Now he is here with me in England (it was a year on the 27th March) I am now divorced and the children have a much better relationship with him than with their Dad.

I tend to think that if the relationship is right, then no matter what, you will overcome it. Talking is the best thing about internet relationships, talking is really ALL you can do, but it means that you know each other really well, and it gives you a chance to get to know someone way better then if you met each other in a bar or something. The drawback is that missunderstandings are easier without face to face conversation, words can sound so different in your head than they read on the screen.

Try sending her an email, letting her know how you feel, and telling her what you really meant when you said whatever it was that upset her, if you explain then maybe it will work out?

I wish you luck and hope that if she is the one for you, then maybe it will work out, and if she isn't, then maybe now was a good time to find out.

Best of luck either way.

:D
sound advice *nods*

Sorry chief but i gotta ask.
How did you find someone who isn't on the Forums?
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How did you find someone who isn't on the Forums?

In the regions, people telegram each other, post on the region board and have regional chatrooms and forums....there is a whole world of NSers who NEVER use the forums, (I have been on NS for years and only just started to use the forums recently, as my region was busy and I got to know many people through it)

Sorry chief but i gotta ask.
How did you find someone who isn't on the Forums?
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i started talking to glitziness first through TGs... thank god for my non-ambiguous username! she TGed me to talk about metal... and i remember she'd stubbed her toe... and i thought she was about 25 or more from the way she communicated :p
ah, nice (nerdy) memories :fluffle:

In the regions, people telegram each other, post on the region board and have regional chatrooms and forums....there is a whole world of NSers who NEVER use the forums, (I have been on NS for years and only just started to use the forums recently, as my region was busy and I got to know many people through it)
That is really interesting, i just couldn't imagine being so restricted.

i started talking to glitziness first through TGs... thank god for my non-ambiguous username! she TGed me to talk about metal... and i remember she'd stubbed her toe... and i thought she was about 25 or more from the way she communicated :p
ah, nice (nerdy) memories


I think its lovely that you remember what she talked to you about, it's not 'nerdy' at all...having a romantic and sentimental nature, I can remember all manner of things that make me smile about my relationship...from how my heart used to jump in my chest when I saw that I had a telegram and how I used to feel when I read the things he had written to me...this would be why I have telegrams in my nation that are 550+ days old...and a bundle of printed out ones in a drawer in the bedroom.....

awwww I am smiling like mad now remembering some of the things he said to me........ :fluffle:

That is really interesting, i just couldn't imagine being so restricted.

Why do you think its restricted? I get to talk to people from all over the world, in a chatroom and by telegram and in the regions forum and homepage.

If you are a nOOb on general, it is amazing how 'out of the loop' you are, I find it can feel a bit like a love in of the favoured few at times. I notice that in some cases people get pulled up about commenting on something because they don't have a very high post count...like it is ok to post a comment if you have posted over a 1000 times, but it isn't if you are a nOOb or a non prolific poster. (this is not meant to be a general bash by the way) SO I fail to see how this is any way less restricting than a region that is very active and friendly.

:D

I think its lovely that you remember what she talked to you about, it's not 'nerdy' at all...having a romantic and sentimental nature, I can remember all manner of things that make me smile about my relationship...from how my heart used to jump in my chest when I saw that I had a telegram and how I used to feel when I read the things he had written to me...this would be why I have telegrams in my nation that are 550+ days old...and a bundle of printed out ones in a drawer in the bedroom.....

awwww I am smiling like mad now remembering some of the things he said to me........ :fluffle:
awwwwww :fluffle: *is smiling too* :P

yeah, unfortunatley i didn't keep any of those old TGs, and now they're lost forever :(
initially we just talked about music and things, a little about personal lives and things, but i had no idea where it would lead at the time! i started to notice her posting on the forums more, we joined the same General party, started talking on the party board, msn.... and things just sorta... happened! i guess i knew her about a year or so before we started 'dating' online... but that's a real guess. frankly, while i'm sentimental towards the whole lot, the past and all the ways we kept building communications and friendships and things, what really matters is where we are now :) :fluffle:
and i love her, so... there you go :P

this place really should be renamed "nationdates" in light of you and your canadian friend, myself and amy, LP and TCG, and jim and his lady all meeting and getting together thanks to this site! :p

Why do you think its restricted? I get to talk to people from all over the world, in a chatroom and by telegram and in the regions forum and homepage.

If you are a nOOb on general, it is amazing how 'out of the loop' you are, I find it can feel a bit like a love in of the favoured few at times. I notice that in some cases people get pulled up about commenting on something because they don't have a very high post count...like it is ok to post a comment if you have posted over a 1000 times, but it isn't if you are a nOOb or a non prolific poster. (this is not meant to be a general bash by the way) SO I fail to see how this is any way less restricting than a region that is very active and friendly.

:D
Because regions do not have the number of people that the Forum does.
Judging someones opinions by the few number of posts they have is moronic.
if you don't put yourself out there you won't get noticed.

Because regions do not have the number of people that the Forum does.
Judging someones opinions by the few number of posts they have is moronic.
if you don't put yourself out there you won't get noticed.


That said, how many people post on a regular basis on general? we used to have 300+ nations in our region, and a good number of active posters (not hundreds, but a good number of regulars) It was the equivalent of a night out, you get to talk to more people then you would in real life, especially if like me you have children at home.

well.....

we talked again last night. and she decided to 'wake up'. she wasn't mean about it and i wasn't angry. i'm hurt but not necessarily by her. most of all i'm gonna miss all these little things like getting her texts. i still love her and she just didn't love me back the same way. i guess i let myself get too caught up in this dream. i let myself believe that this was a real possibility. we had agreed not to think past summer, but we didn't even make it that far. i don't know what else to say

well.....

we talked again last night. and she decided to 'wake up'. she wasn't mean about it and i wasn't angry. i'm hurt but not necessarily by her. most of all i'm gonna miss all these little things like getting her texts. i still love her and she just didn't love me back the same way. i guess i let myself get too caught up in this dream. i let myself believe that this was a real possibility. we had agreed not to think past summer, but we didn't even make it that far. i don't know what else to say


Strippers.

Alcohol.

Friends.

All your solutions. ;) Chin up mate. You'll be fine.

well.....

we talked again last night. and she decided to 'wake up'. she wasn't mean about it and i wasn't angry. i'm hurt but not necessarily by her. most of all i'm gonna miss all these little things like getting her texts. i still love her and she just didn't love me back the same way. i guess i let myself get too caught up in this dream. i let myself believe that this was a real possibility. we had agreed not to think past summer, but we didn't even make it that far. i don't know what else to say

I am sorry, but I think its probably for the best, I am sure that you don't feel like that now however, so here is a hug :fluffle:

That said, how many people post on a regular basis on general? we used to have 300+ nations in our region, and a good number of active posters (not hundreds, but a good number of regulars) It was the equivalent of a night out, you get to talk to more people then you would in real life, especially if like me you have children at home.
Ok but if everyone posts on the region board you'll never actually see the conversation as it will get bumped off real quick.

well.....

we talked again last night. and she decided to 'wake up'. she wasn't mean about it and i wasn't angry. i'm hurt but not necessarily by her. most of all i'm gonna miss all these little things like getting her texts. i still love her and she just didn't love me back the same way. i guess i let myself get too caught up in this dream. i let myself believe that this was a real possibility. we had agreed not to think past summer, but we didn't even make it that far. i don't know what else to say
You needn't say anything else. This is something a lot of us will recognize, I'll bet.

You know how it is - It'll get worse before it gets better again, so just hang in there OK? You just take it easy, and take care of yourself for a while...
:fluffle: in sympathy.

Ok but if every pne osts on the region board you'll never actually see the conversation as it will get bumped off real quick.


True, but not in a regional chatroom or a regional forum it doesn't, and if you telegram. Also, just because you missed something, if the board is moving quickly, then there will be something else that you can comment on...either way, it is what you want really isn't it? I find a much wider selection of opinions on general than in the region, but people are less friendly because there are so many more posters and so many more topics. It's a question of what you want from it all really, don't you agree?

My sympathies, and I hope everything works out...

True, but not in a regional chatroom or a regional forum it doesn't, and if you telegram. Also, just because you missed something, if the board is moving quickly, then there will be something else that you can comment on...either way, it is what you want really isn't it? I find a much wider selection of opinions on general than in the region, but people are less friendly because there are so many more posters and so many more topics. It's a question of what you want from it all really, don't you agree?
Yes i can agree with that.
NS i guess is lucky because it has its respective regions whereas other forums don't have that luxury although the Region must have been implemented for the actual 'NS game'.

The way i see it is if i hadn't of gone on the forums i would never have seen greats such as Lunatic Goofballs, The Imperial Navy or Branin and those exude coolness like Monkeypimp, Aerou, Findecano Calaelen etc
And of course TInk.
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