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one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....
sorry iam kind of in shock... you guys can ingonr this if you want....

one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....
sorry iam kind of in shock... you guys can ingonr this if you want....
why post if you want us to ignore?

:( I'm sorry to hear that.

I am so sorry My grandfather passed away a while ago and I totally know what you are going through

why post if you want us to ignore?
i felt like i had to say some thing...its kind of shocking...even if no one says any thing it helps that some one knows.

Truly sorry to hear that.

i felt like i had to say some thing...its kind of shocking...even if no one says any thing it helps that some one knows.
oh, sorry for the loss

why post if you want us to ignore?
People who are grieving often say things that don't make much sense to the rest of us. Show a bit of compassion.

My god...

I am very sorry about your friend...

I wish he had a quick and painless death.

one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....
sorry iam kind of in shock... you guys can ingonr this if you want....
A bit of advice: visit your friend and just be there for him/her, especially after the funeral. For most people, just having someone there if they want to talk is deeply appreciated. The funeral is an ending for most people, but not for those grieving for the deceased. Grieving can sometimes take years.

People who are grieving often say things that don't make much sense to the rest of us. Show a bit of compassion.


I was going to say the same thing but didn't want to hijack the thread. But since you already said it...

After my Mum died, I found that it helped to tell people. I hope that it helps that you have shared it on here, and that because you have, discovered that people do care when they hear somebody died, even a stranger to them.

I was going to say the same thing but didn't want to hijack the thread. But since you already said it...
Not being one to restrain myself from saying that which I want to say, you will often see me saying things others might not. It's one of the advantages of age. :)

People who are grieving often say things that don't make much sense to the rest of us. Show a bit of compassion.
I did, see the post above you

You have my deepest sympathies. Be there for your friend. Your friend is going to need your support like never before.

My good friend's dad died in a motorcycle accident recently, as well. It's such a shock, I know... I'm sorry for your loss. It does help to tell people.

one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....
sorry iam kind of in shock... you guys can ingonr this if you want....

Oh bummer, sorry to hear the news. A sudden death, especially of someone young and healthy is always tough to deal with. Try to remember him during the good times, and remember that, wherever he is now, he's happy. If someone's upset that he's gone, he was obviously a good enough man to positively influence someones life. Take the time to grieve, talk to people as much as you can, it'll help you come to a tolerable level of acceptance in a healthier way rather than hiding and pretending everything's OK. Take a couple of days off school, and make sure you go to the funeral and pay your respects. The funeral gives those left behind the chance to say goodbye, it makes you feel as though at least, his life was concluded, even though untimely, and will help you get through it all a little easier.

thanks you guys....this is just so bizzar i have knows my friend since kindergarten, and her dad has been one of my teachers since 7th grade( iam a junior now)...this is just so strange knowing that there not going to be at school.
i know that is a billion times worse for her...but its so weird....

thanks you guys....this is just so bizzar i have knows my friend since kindergarten, and her dad has been one of my teachers since 7th grade( iam a junior now)...this is just so strange knowing that there not going to be at school.
i know that is a billion times worse for her...but its so weird....

Just be there for her :)

thanks you guys....this is just so bizzar i have knows my friend since kindergarten, and her dad has been one of my teachers since 7th grade( iam a junior now)...this is just so strange knowing that there not going to be at school.
i know that is a billion times worse for her...but its so weird....

When someone dies, it leaves such a huge gaping hole in the lives of so many. You can let your friend know that there's a huge number of people here on NS (I hope I speak for all here) thinking of her and praying for her and her family.

thanks you guys....this is just so bizzar i have knows my friend since kindergarten, and her dad has been one of my teachers since 7th grade( iam a junior now)...this is just so strange knowing that there not going to be at school.
i know that is a billion times worse for her...but its so weird....

Be a good friend and when the time is right, let her know that you feel bad, let her know that her dad made a difference in your life and that his death has made you feel bad too, but remember that she will be feeling worse than you, but may want to share how she feels too. Death of friends and family makes people act in odd ways, and sometimes not in the way you expect them too.

When someone dies, it leaves such a huge gaping hole in the lives of so many. You can let your friend know that there's a huge number of people here on NS (I hope I speak for all here) thinking of her and praying for her and her family.

thank you...i really appreciate it, its just her and her mom and a younger brother and two younger sisters left.

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Be available when she needs you, give hugs, be a true friend - even though it may be hard, it helps her and it helps you as well. Be there for your friend, even though it may seem awkward to you and you don't know what to say.

Maybe, sit down and write her a letter, telling her how special her father was for you, what he has meant to you and how he has positively influenced you.

thank you...i really appreciate it, its just her and her mom and a younger brother and two younger sisters left.
Man, that's really bad. I'm really sorry to hear about all this.

thank you...i really appreciate it, its just her and her mom and a younger brother and two younger sisters left.

At least they have each other to turn to in this time of need. Still, the loss of a parent is really rough for any child. My friends dad died unexpectedly of a heart attack when she was 12, she was really appreciative when everyone from our year at school turned up at the funeral, it was good for her to see so much support for her and her family. Just make sure she knows everyone's thinking of her

Sorry to hear about your loss.

Be available when she needs you, give hugs, be a true friend - even though it may be hard, it helps her and it helps you as well. Be there for your friend, even though it may seem awkward to you and you don't know what to say.

Maybe, sit down and write her a letter, telling her how special her father was for you, what he has meant to you and how he has positively influenced you.


The letter's a good idea, maybe get other kids at school to sign as well, make it a group thing

its a small school so that shouldent be to hard.....

once again thaks so much all of you...you dont know how comforting it is to know that people care even if they have never met me or my friend and her family.

The letter's a good idea, maybe get other kids at school to sign as well, make it a group thing
I can't take the credit for it - it's actually some advice Eutrusca gave another kid on another thread yesterday.

But it is something that will give the family some feedback and good memories even years from now.

once again thaks so much all of you...you dont know how comforting it is to know that people care even if they have never met me or my friend and her family.

if we didn't care, this wouldn't be NS :(

Since i'm no good with words :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

I am truly sorry for you loss dear. *hug* Hunt me down on NS if you ever need to talk.....it's not a road to travel alone.

And try to remember the good things about him.....remembering the negatives only makes it hurt so much more. Why not tell us some of those good things? I'm sure the more compassionate of NS'ers will be willing to listen, and if not, I will, so screw the rest of them. ;)

Oh bummer, sorry to hear the news. A sudden death, especially of someone young and healthy is always tough to deal with. Try to remember him during the good times, and remember that, wherever he is now, he's happy. If someone's upset that he's gone, he was obviously a good enough man to positively influence someones life. Take the time to grieve, talk to people as much as you can, it'll help you come to a tolerable level of acceptance in a healthier way rather than hiding and pretending everything's OK. Take a couple of days off school, and make sure you go to the funeral and pay your respects. The funeral gives those left behind the chance to say goodbye, it makes you feel as though at least, his life was concluded, even though untimely, and will help you get through it all a little easier.


I agree.....funerals, especially in the case of sudden deaths, give you a sense of somewhat saying goodbye. It does help to be there for them, and if you cannot attend the funeral, you can always have your own memorial service yourself to give you the time and space you need to remember him.

If that doesn't work, write a letter, even if you never send it. Writing letters tends to help a lot, as corny as it may sound.

And definately do not try to pretend it doesn't matter or that you are strong enough to deal with death.....in the end, you'll regret maintaining an attitude such as that.

I am truly sorry for you loss dear. *hug* Hunt me down on NS if you ever need to talk.....it's not a road to travel alone.

And try to remember the good things about him.....remembering the negatives only makes it hurt so much more. Why not tell us some of those good things? I'm sure the more compassionate of NS'ers will be willing to listen, and if not, I will, so screw the rest of them. ;)

I echo this statement.

I had a friend/teacher die on Thursday from breast cancer, it's hard. I can relate with you. I'm sorry I can't say something uplifting or helpful but I'm still.. confused/jaded.

In the time to come you will miss him, but in the end he will still be a graet person and you will have good memories of him. In mind, he is still alive.

one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....

Ouch, baby. Get really drunk and cry for 2 days. It helps.

one of my best friends dads just died in a motercycle acsedent.
he was also one of my teachers....
sorry iam kind of in shock... you guys can ingonr this if you want....

I don't have any advise, I'm afraid. All I can give is :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

That, and follow Eut's advise.

Ouch, baby. Get really drunk and cry for 2 days. It helps.
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No, it doesn't help.

Shared pain is lessened, Shared joy, increased.
Thus, we refute entropy.

-Spider Robinson.