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Alright so in terms of sex do you feel that you find yourself thinking more (about your partner, your performance, or etc.) or do you just do it? Does it make you more stimulated knowing that you're going to get sex, or just that you get to "feel" it?

Just curious on your opinions. Like some men/women can have sex like nothing with many many people and they don't care who they are or what they look like. For them it's just the sole purpose of getting off pretty much.

If you do it right, all of the above.

Physical's fine and all, but... I can’t get no, oh no no no. Hey hey hey, that’s what I say. I can’t get no, I can’t get no, I can’t get no satisfaction.

So much better when it's also mentally stimulating.

I'm gonna' go with mental/emotional! I mean, of course I enjoy the "feeling" but, with me it's more about the set-up, imagery, lighting, music, etc...! I like creative, imaginative, experimental sex!!!

Sometimes one, somtimes the other, sometimes both. It is not the same every time, nor should it be.

Well, considering that the immediate physical sensations are not all that dissimilar than the sensations I can give to myself... I would say that the emotional/bonding element is definitely more important to me.

Also, the worst sex I have ever had was under circumstances when my (casual) partner and I had decided to just "do it" to "do it." So... we just "did it," and it was not very interesting.

To really enjoy sex, I need not only to be having sex... but to be having sex with someone I really want and who wants me just as much.

It is very mental to me.

For example, the greatest turn-on and get-off for me is the other partner enjoying themselves.

I think it depends on the situation. If the only thing you feel for someone is a physical sensation, than that's what sex will be. If you actually care about someone, the mental aspect will be there too.

I think that that varies a lot from encounter to encounter. It's dependent on partner, timing, and mood.

I suppose it depends on my mood.

I'd say more Physical and also FIIK.

Sex is almost all mental, although the actual "getting ready" part (erection/lubrication) is controlled at a more primitive level.

For me, at the moment, sex is more imaginery than physical. :(

For me, at the moment, sex is more imaginery than physical. :(
*chuckle*

Both. I can't separate the physical from the mental/emotional. If I'm in love with a guy, then I automatically lust after him too.

But a guy being hot is not enough to make me love/want him. I see guys all day long who I think are super hot, but I won't do anything about it because I don't feel anything for them. They're just pretty objects in the landscape.

On the other hand, a great personality isn't enough to make me love/want a guy, either. I have lots of male friends who I love, who I'd take a bullet for, but I would never have sex with them because the physical chemistry just isn't there. If it ain't there, it ain't happening.

I don't do the "friends with benefits" thing because I can't get hot for someone I'm not emotionally responding to. On the other hand, I've never had a platonic affair, either, because I can't be in love and not be hot for the guy, too.

For me, at the moment, sex is more imaginery than physical. :(
Well, in your imagination, how would it work -- if it did work?

I think it is more Mental than anything b/c if your not into it mentally than physically you probably not b into it as much!!! SO shut the **** up and stop masterbating. and get your mind out of the GUTTER

If you do it right, all of the above.

Yep. My thoughts exactly.

I'm 90% in favour of the mental side of it. Sex for the sake of sex seems sorta pointless. I've only ever been with women I really care about.

I think it is more Mental than anything b/c if your not into it mentally than physically you probably not b into it as much!!! SO shut the **** up and stop masterbating. and get your mind out of the GUTTER

:upyours:

Thx Dubya..

Sex is 90% mental and 10% physical. Though it affects the mind more then crack. Its more addictive and satisfying. >.>

Thx Dubya..

Sex is 90% mental and 10% physical. Though it affects the mind more then crack. Its more addictive and satisfying. >.>

anytime, baby (I'm assuming you're a woman here, if you're a man, ignore the second word before this parentheses)

Yes I am a guy, but I don't mind. Need to keep those horrible people under one foot so they don't ruin all our fun.

Understood Correctness is a sad sad lonely person I think. >.>

Mental/emotional all the way.
The physical aspect is just a result of the emotional one. For me, at least.

If you do it right, all of the above.Very true. Also, putting some thought into it - as well as having a mental connection with your partner - makes good physical sex into great physical sex. In my opinion, anyway.

Sex is good wholesome fun for people of all ages and sexes.

I'd argue it's both - There's obviously a physical element that's important, and there's also an emotional element that's important.

Which is why I'm saving it. I don't want to create that kind of an emotional tie with anybody other than my future wife, whom I haven't met yet.

Sometimes one, somtimes the other, sometimes both. It is not the same every time, nor should it be.
Agreed. It changes with the situation.

Well, in your imagination, how would it work -- if it did work?
Same as in real life: eight seconds of sex and 45 minutes of crying.

anytime, baby (I'm assuming you're a woman here, if you're a man, ignore the second word before this parentheses)
What if he/she is a baby?

For me, at the moment, sex is more imaginery than physical. :(
I so know what you mean!!! http://club-ix.net.ua/phpbb/images/smiley_icons/cry.gif

For me it is a mix of both emotionality as well as raw physicality. If I am not in the right mood, I cannot enjoy the physical part it entails, and if I am not physically into it, I will get bored and lose my desire. More or less a balance of the two.

Same as in real life: eight seconds of sex and 45 minutes of crying.
LOL. :D But which of you is doing the crying? Or is it both? Or all? Are the neighbors crying too, and if so, are they crying in sympathy or because you woke them up for only 8 seconds of noise and no entertainment (you know, like a car alarm)? And what are you all crying about -- because it only lasted 8 seconds or because those 8 second of distraction caused you to miss the touchdown/goal/home-run on tv? Come on, DH, it's sharing time.

It depends. If I've been with someone for a while, sex becomes more emotional. If I haven't, it's just good and a lot of fun. I don't really concern myself with my performance during the act though, if there's anything to be improved, it can be discussed afterwards worrying about how well you're doing takes away from the experience.

Arousal is the most extreme physical response to the presence in another individual of qualities you value. Thus, what you find arousing is an excellent indicator of your philosophy of life. If you value reason--which is man's primary and most fundamental tool for survival--then you will become aroused by a highly rational mind. If you value brute physical aspects--which are nothing without a mind to guide them--then you will become aroused by blonde hair and big tits.

It follows, then, that sex is primarily a celebration of values, regardless of what those values are. If those values are rational, then sex will cause joy in a rational mind--and throughout his body. The fundamental reason to have sex is to produce a feeling of joy in one's self and one's body--in other words, for pleasure. The distinguishing issue is HOW that pleasure is caused.

As the eminent 20th-century Russian-American philosopher Ayn Rand once said, "Tell me what a man finds sexually attractive and I will tell you his entire philosophy of life."

What if he/she is a baby?

In that case,

Self :mp5: