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Let me first state.. This is my last thread untill I come up with something worth while..

If a friend of yours had cancer, and decided not to try and fight it and died. Would you be mad/upset with at that person?

Let me first state.. This is my last thread untill I come up with something worth while..

If a friend of yours had cancer, and decided not to try and fight it and died. Would you be mad/upset with at that person?

No. Sad and miss them, but I would realize that it was their life, and if they felt that quality was more important than quantity, that was certainly their choice.

I would be sad, and it would be incredibly hard to watch them go, but no. I don't often get mad in the first place, you would have to do something bad to someone else to get me angry. I get annoyed, yes, but not usually mad. I would talk to them and make sure it's the decision they truly wanted to make. As a character said in the movie "Walkout" "make sure you can live with the decisions you make." If they can, so be it. Of course, in this case, living with it would be figurative.

If there was a good possibility that the person could survive with treatment, i would try and convince them to try it, but unless someone is suicidal, they most likely wouldn't want to die if they knew surviving was possible. If the cancer was terminal, i would respect their decision to leave on their own terms. Losing someone i love would hurt regardless, it wouldn't hurt any more if they made the choice about when to leave.

I think I would be mad at the situation. I'd be mad that they had fallen victim to Cancer. I would probably be frustrated more than anything...knowing that there is nothing I can do to heal them,and that if I wanted to be a true friend, I would have to respect their decision. Cancer treatment is tough and causes people to be sick and miserable. If they choose not to endure that on top of dealing with the fact that they are surely going to die, then I should support them and do what I can to make sure the time they have left is as pleasant as possible.

Of course I say this now, but if my husband had cancer and said he wasnt getting treatment, I'd probably gag him and tie him up and head off to treatment. That would be for my own selfish reasons....to keep him with me as long as possible.

One of those "Easier said than done" things I think.