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when you miss someone? there's a thread up about NSers you miss, of course, but what about missing someone to a point approaching pain when you can't really think about anything else and are consumed with missing them and the thought - or realisation - that they're not here? missing someone you love.

what do you do? drop everything and go see them? distract yourself with a good book or a movie or something? drink heavily? go to sleep? or do you generally not miss anybody (or have anybody to miss like that, by choice or by fate)?
i'm going for the latter option of bed, but for the next 10 or 20 minutes i may as well lurk and see what you people have to say :P

when you miss someone? there's a thread up about NSers you miss, of course, but what about missing someone to a point approaching pain when you can't really think about anything else and are consumed with missing them and the thought - or realisation - that they're not here? missing someone you love.

what do you do? drop everything and go see them? distract yourself with a good book or a movie or something? drink heavily? go to sleep? or do you generally not miss anybody (or have anybody to miss like that, by choice or by fate)?
i'm going for the latter option of bed, but for the next 10 or 20 minutes i may as well lurk and see what you people have to say :P

Go see them.
if its a "im dumped... fuck that" thing im in the process of experimenting.,
ive tried the get a gf and lord it up method, no effect.
Ive tried the "... so... pLLEaaaaase take me back."
she hit me.
ive tried the "meh, lets just be friends. maybe later on we can get toge-"
my crotch still hurts.
more awnsers by tmoz

my senior year of highschool i fell in love with a girl. when we graduated, i never saw her again. i really missed her. i did feel pain because i wanted to see her so bad, but knew that i would never see her again. time heals though, thats all i can say...

my senior year of highschool i fell in love with a girl. when we graduated, i never saw her again. i really missed her. i did feel pain because i wanted to see her so bad, but knew that i would never see her again. time heals though, thats all i can say...
aw :(

well i'll be seeing this particular girl again on wednesday with a bit of luck, so its not quite as bad as that :p... still missing her this evening though

I'd give the person a ring and talk. Make up some shitty excuse for seeing them, like needing help understanding the role of cytokine receptors in HIV CD4-cell infection, like I did with my big crush in class. Playing stupid to someone else's smart always works.

I'd give the person a ring and talk. Make up some shitty excuse for seeing them, like needing help understanding the role of cytokine receptors in HIV CD4-cell infection, like I did with my big crush in class. Playing stupid to someone else's smart always works.
...says the guy who was so dismissive of "playing games" in last night's seduction thread.

the old adage: Distance makes the heart grow fonder.

I usually don't go to see them, although that usually isn't by choice.

I'll call them and talk, or maybe listen to a song that reminds me of them, or a movie (vanilla sky or american beauty do the trick quite well for me), get some sleep, go out with a friend who will listen...that sort of stuff.

...says the guy who was so dismissive of "playing games" in last night's seduction thread.

That's not a game of seduction - that's a reason for seeing someone, in this case a straight bloke that I like to ogle that I have nothing else in common with.

I subscribe to the popular "deal by not dealing" method.

That's not a game of seduction - that's a reason for seeing someone, in this case a straight bloke that I like to ogle that I have nothing else in common with.
I wasn't talking "games of seduction", I was talking games, period.
I'm just saying.

Why do you all assume it is a significant other that the poster is referring to? It is merely a thread about missing someone. I miss my friend who committed suicide right before I came to college immensly. I tattooed his initials on my ankle and was sad about it. There was not much else I could do. Sometimes you just have to take it. I find when things get too overwhelming it is best to just go to bed and lay there until you get so depressed your body slows down enough you fall asleep.

I wasn't talking "games of seduction", I was talking games, period.
I'm just saying.

And that's not a game. Had he been gay, I'd've done him a long time ago. This is more becoming his friend. Or would you call getting to know someone you don't know but want to know "a game?"

Why do you all assume it is a significant other that the poster is referring to? It is merely a thread about missing someone. I miss my friend who committed suicide right before I came to college immensly. I tattooed his initials on my ankle and was sad about it. There was not much else I could do. Sometimes you just have to take it. I find when things get too overwhelming it is best to just go to bed and lay there until you get so depressed your body slows down enough you fall asleep.


:( so sorry to hear that Gotte

I offer a quote from the Prophet (Gibran):

"When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence,
as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain."

I do my best to ignore any pain I have by going outside for a walk. During which I kick every stone I come across and smile at every face I see. Usually by the time I return for said walk everything feels better, but then the person you miss ruins it by reminding you they still exist.

And that's not a game. Had he been gay, I'd've done him a long time ago. This is more becoming his friend. Or would you call getting to know someone you don't know but want to know "a game?"
If you do it this way: Make up some shitty excuse for seeing them, like needing help understanding the role of cytokine receptors in HIV CD4-cell infection, like I did with my big crush in class. Playing stupid to someone else's smart always works. the answer is a resounding yes. You know that.
I'm also not condemning playing games, I just wanted to point out certain, shall we say, obvious inconsistencies. Again, you know that, seeing how you aren't actually stupid.
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the only person that I really miss that I can't just call up and bother, is my grandma and she is dead.

When I miss her I make cookies that she used to make, or tell a funny story about her, or sometimes play Tetris (we used to play a lot of nintendo, esp. after she got cancer and couldn't get out of bed much, I would just curl up in the bed with her and play Super Mario or Duck Hunt) ;)

If you do it this way: the answer is a resounding yes. You know that.
I'm also not condemning playing games, I just wanted to point out certain, shall we say, obvious inconsistencies.

BS and you know it. Making up an excuse to see someone != playing silly mating ritual games to "seduce" someone. Last week I made up an excuse to see my cousin - was I playing games with her? Or the time I went to a movie I didn't like with a friend so I could spend some time with him. That a game?

Please. Your comparison is flawed, and stretched quite thin to even make it into this conversation. Something you should be smart enough to see, not that I would know.

To answer the OP, for a change:

I don't really miss any specific person, at least not really badly (i.e. I might miss a good friend who moved away because I'd rather she was here and we could go out and have fun, but that's not the missing PM was talking about).

I'm not sure I ever did - which either means the people in question were always around, or there never was a person I'd miss badly.

I don't know if that even counts as "missing", but I wish I had known my mother, who died when I was 3. I guess that's more "missing having known her" than "missing her", though.

So yeah, no helpful advice here, sorry PM. Just go to bed and dream of her. :p

BS and you know it.
Funny, that's exactly what I thought about your side of the conversation. :p

Seriously, if "playing stupid to someone else's smart" isn't playing games, I don't know what is.

Seriously, if "playing stupid to someone else's smart" isn't playing games, I don't know what is.

Yes, you don't know what playing games is, apparently.

for me the one person i miss enough to feel crap about it doesn't miss me even half as much (or if she does not for the same reasons/in the same way) and i have found that immersing myself in other social relations works a treat. otherwise i'd buy the airfare to go see her in a second and hang everything else. ;)

I call them. If they're dead, I call them on the dead phone.

when you miss someone? there's a thread up about NSers you miss, of course, but what about missing someone to a point approaching pain when you can't really think about anything else and are consumed with missing them and the thought - or realisation - that they're not here? missing someone you love.

what do you do? drop everything and go see them? distract yourself with a good book or a movie or something? drink heavily? go to sleep? or do you generally not miss anybody (or have anybody to miss like that, by choice or by fate)?
i'm going for the latter option of bed, but for the next 10 or 20 minutes i may as well lurk and see what you people have to say :P

My gf.

I miss her all the time she is not here with me.

I miss her in different ways too. It usually follows a pattern of:

1. Just after we start spending time apart its stupidly hard not to think of her. However, I'm still on an emotional high after her being around.

2. Pissed off she isn't around and that the world is a shit hole for that very reason.

3. After organising the next time we can spend even just a few days together, its looking forward to that time.

It's been like this for nearly two years now, and its bloody hard believe me, but when we're together (and i think most people who have some one like i do will understand this), its like everything else doesn't matter anymore, just being with her is all that i need.

Yeah, I got it and I got it bad, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

My gf.

I miss her all the time she is not here with me.

I miss her in different ways too. It usually follows a pattern of:

1. Just after we start spending time apart its stupidly hard not to think of her. However, I'm still on an emotional high after her being around.

2. Pissed off she isn't around and that the world is a shit hole for that very reason.

3. After organising the next time we can spend even just a few days together, its looking forward to that time.

It's been like this for nearly two years now, and its bloody hard believe me, but when we're together (and i think most people who have some one like i do will understand this), its like everything else doesn't matter anymore, just being with her is all that i need.

Yeah, I got it and I got it bad, but I wouldn't have it any other way.
wow dude... thats exactly what i was talking about - exactly the same here :fluffle: :p

last night i was in the "#2 stage" having been in #1 for most of the day (after meeting and everything finally making sense again and - exactly as you say - nothing else mattering on sunday). am now on a #3 *nods* hehe :P