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Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?
You mean people who are innately only capable of forming one "romantic" love bond? If there are, then those people should never, ever, ever be in romantic relationships.

If there are, then those people should never, ever, ever be in romantic relationships.

You've no idea just how true this is...

You've no idea just how true this is...
Sure I do...I've seen plenty of people who atleast believe they are that kind of person, and every last one of them has utterly failed to develop emotional maturity. They have disastrous romantic lives, though very often they are the ones who "fall in love" most deeply and get married with the most enthusiasm.

Sure I do...I've seen plenty of people who atleast believe they are that kind of person, and every last one of them has utterly failed to develop emotional maturity. They have disastrous romantic lives, though very often they are the ones who "fall in love" most deeply and get married with the most enthusiasm.

Now just imagine one of them making a really bad decision (if you can call it that) about who to fall in love with...
:(

I don't believe in love, never encountered it...

I don't believe in love, never encountered it...

I used to say the same thing. Ah, happy days.... ;)

I don't believe in love, never encountered it...

Same reason I don't believe in plutonium.

I think that there is a single person whom we are most compatable with. The odds of meeting that person are about 1 in 6 billion, but there's always hope.

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?
I used to be one of the "love once and always" sorts, because I sincerely believe that not only am I currently with the guy I'll be with forever, but that none of the guys I previously dated were really all that well-suited for me (and did I think so at the time? Sure. But I was social-dating, not love-dating).....however, I've come to acknowledge that, contrary to my old-school beliefs that everybody is like that, we're a rare and dying breed. It still kinda makes my spine bristle with annoyance whenever my boyfriend talks about one of his old girlfriends, whom he dated for two years and really loved -- not because I fear he still has feelings for her, because I'm pretty certain that slate's been wiped clean, but more because it makes me feel somewhat like a cheap replacement, kinda like when you lose your really cool headphones but don't want to spend all that money on a new pair, so you just get another pair that looks almost as cool. (Okay, bad comparison, as he's spending forever with me and not her, but you get the point)

Same reason I don't believe in plutonium.
By that logic, you probably shouldn't want to believe in plutonium.

Same reason I don't believe in plutonium.
I'm glad I read that just *before* sipping coffee, rather than just after...

And love? You can't control it, I wouldn't worry about it. Just enjoy the ride.

You could probably persuade yourself that you could only fall in love once if you really wanted too, but I don't know why you would, and this is getting too close to psychology for me to have a clue.

I've "fallen in love" plenty of times. I think people that hold to the belief that you can only love once are overly sentimental and unrealistic. As you mature (grow older --whatever), you change, and so do your attractions.

And this old guy loves you, Aerou.

*lol
Try making it to 30 without ever once even falling in love, let alone love someone... :p

*lol
Try making it to 30 without ever once even falling in love, let alone love someone... :p

Honestly, in a lot of ways, you're better off. While love is great while it's there, it kills when it goes away.

Honestly, in a lot of ways, you're better off. While love is great while it's there, it kills when it goes away.

A lesson I've been learning over the past few weeks and months...

A lesson I've been learning over the past few eeks and months...

Clearly you are having Refused Party Program withdrawal systems. Unfortunately Refused Party Program is in a temporary state of activity overload which will require lengthy maintanence to resolve. Should you feel neglected during this period, be assured that other Party Programmers are just as neglected as yourself.

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?
Absofrickinlutely not.

Love is something you do.

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?

Depends on your definition of love. Some people choose to love, and others are swept away by strong feelings that may or may not be love.

It is possible to go through life without loving at all, let along more than once. And then I suppose there are those who are capable of 'romantic love' (and by that I presume you mean that great overwhelming tide of feelings that simply cannot be resisted, or only with the utmost self-control) several times in their life.

I think it depends on the person. Why should not the old people (e.g. over sixty) experience 'romantic love'?

A lesson I've been learning over the past few weeks and months...

Awwwww... :fluffle:

Honestly, in a lot of ways, you're better off. While love is great while it's there, it kills when it goes away.
Why do you say that? I've loved and been loved many times, and it's never been nearly as excruciating as other people claim. Sure, there's always a bittersweet feeling when I look back on past lovers, but I don't see why the end of a love affair necessarily must be a painful experience.

Personally, I think when people talk about "heartbreak" they are most often talking about the end of a relationship that is in the midst of infatuation, not really about the end of LOVE. Of course, most people never get past infatuation in most of their relationships, so I guess that makes perfect sense.

I only love myself...especially in "the past few weeks and months..."

I think that that would be a shitty existence.

chocolate pudding on the outside, tasty on the inside

I only love myself...especially in "the past few weeks and months..."

I thought you didn't want to post any more?

I don't think love is really an emotion, people can say they "feel" it, but it's really a choice you make regarding another person in your life...

don´t worry

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?
Perhaps, but in over 62 years, I have yet to run into them.

do i think there are people who can only love once? no

but i think there are people who will never love again.

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?

I believe that there are people who convince themselves of that fact. More of a psychological condition than a biological or somehow pre-ordained state.

I'm not really sure. Fortunately, I've realised how vague and meaningless "love" is, and believe I would be perfectly able to describe psychological states without using the word.

I'm pretty sure anyone CAN love more than once, but not everyone DOES. For example, me. Well, that's not to say I didn't have my crushes and likes and things, but I never really allowed myself to fall in LOVE until I met my husband. So I've really only ever been in love with him. Once upon a time, that was normal - and I don't think, as someone said, immature. Just a little less hardened and cynical about it, perhaps.

On the other hand, if he were to die tomorrow, I'm sure after a few years I'd start trying to find someone else, and I expect he'd do the same.

Do you think there are people who can only love (as in romantic love) once in their lives?

If so then I'm probably one of them. God my heart hurts like hell.

If so then I'm probably one of them. God my heart hurts like hell.
You'll get over it. The first broken heart is always the hardest.

I'm pretty sure anyone CAN love more than once, but not everyone DOES. For example, me. Well, that's not to say I didn't have my crushes and likes and things, but I never really allowed myself to fall in LOVE until I met my husband. So I've really only ever been in love with him. Once upon a time, that was normal - and I don't think, as someone said, immature. Just a little less hardened and cynical about it, perhaps.

On the other hand, if he were to die tomorrow, I'm sure after a few years I'd start trying to find someone else, and I expect he'd do the same.
It used to be that peopel got married when they were like 15, they didn't have time to fall in love with someone else.

If so then I'm probably one of them. God my heart hurts like hell.

It's probably indigestion.