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Okkkaaayy if i stop talking im afraid i might choke on my depression so this is gonna be quite the ramble anyway here goes!
My GF dumped me, yeh i know its not special and its not evil but should i feel this bad if:
She dumped me twice before
She never said she loved me even when i said it to her
She refused to do any er... Favours even though i did plenty for her
my friends ALLLLLL warned me about it.
Anyway i have a nasty feeling in the pit of my stomach and my heart rates increased and she dumped me by text!
... i know i once broke up with someone by Post-It but it doesnt happen to MEEEE!!!
Feel free to scream about what makes you depressed too :D :D :D

Time for pinnochio to cut his strings. She played you like a bad Punch and Judy show.

Time for pinnochio to cut his strings. She played you like a bad Punch and Judy show.

If this had been five minutes ago i would have broken your legs, but your right. And she's using the "Just friends" bit. Goddammit i know alll about the mechanics of this shit and "Just friends" means bugger all.

Myself, really.

Myself, really.

(HUUUUUUGSSS)

Love is a cruel master. I still believe that I loved my ex, but the funny thing is, I can't think of a single reason she ever gave me to even like her. Just remember - no matter what happens, don't get back together, because even if you believe that its the right thing for you, you'll regret it further down the line. Love is logic's mainframe crashing. Reboot it fast.

wow that kinda sucks... sorry buddy - my sympathies :(
though it does sound like something of a one-sided relationship - maybe its for the best, eh? *could sprout off on list of standardised cheer-upping phrases for times like this, such as 'you don't need that bitch anyway' etc etc, but i won't :P *

what makes me depressed?

- routine. thinking about doing the same thing every day gets me really down.

- often the weather - overcast days can just put me in a bad mood, and when you've been (clinically) depressed that can tip you over the edge, or just colour your whole day, or bring back memories and feelings you're trying to bury.

- my parents situation, the world, and the inescapability of debt, money and commericalism

- a certain personal issue of mine (has been getting me down today as it happens)

- stress

- probably a bunch of other stuff *shrugs* like thinking about my weight, my appearance, or realising that i'm unhealthy as fuck and will probably die early in life. bah :(

I didnt mention that she kept our 3rd relationship secret for 3 months.

I have school-phobia. Basically being forced to do work really depresses me. Combined with ADD little gets done...

If this had been five minutes ago i would have broken your legs, but your right. And she's using the "Just friends" bit. Goddammit i know alll about the mechanics of this shit and "Just friends" means bugger all.

Funny how women say they want to be your friend right after they stomp on your heart.

There's nothing really wrong with me to cause any depression right now, but I'm still a bit down all the time. The only girl I like at the moment doesn't even care, uni work is getting on top of me a bit and one of my flatmates has been in a psychiatric ward for a drugs-related psychosis for the last few days, but apart from that everything is normal.

Meh, I totally agree with the idea that guys go through puberty until 21. I swear I never had this big mood swings when I was 15. :rolleyes:

(HUUUUUUGSSS)
Thanks, but these days not alot helps...

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Wow, you're particularly emo

Ok... so say she asks me back out... should i say yes? i mean its not as though i'll be single for long... i've got people who want me. (NONE as great and perfect as she was but hey!) Cos i still like her a lot. (plus i'd like to break up with her for a change.)

Ok... so say she asks me back out... should i say yes? i mean its not as though i'll be single for long... i've got people who want me. (NONE as great and perfect as she was but hey!) Cos i still like her a lot. (plus i'd like to break up with her for a change.)

Stand up to her. Tell her she's not going to jerk you around any longer. Make HER know what it's like not to get what she wants from YOU.

Stand up to her. Tell her she's not going to jerk you around any longer. Make HER know what it's like not to get what she wants from YOU.

Im scared of upsetting her tho :( wow im a wimp. Normally im really sorta :cool: "Chill, you'll find someone else, sorry to break up with you." but this is actually only the second time someone dumped me, normally i see it coming and beat them to it and i REALLYREALLYREALLY liked her... :( (Collapsed) i wanted to marry her and all that crap.

Im scared of upsetting her tho :( wow im a wimp. Normally im really sorta :cool: "Chill, you'll find someone else, sorry to break up with you." but this is actually only the second time someone dumped me, normally i see it coming and beat them to it and i REALLYREALLYREALLY liked her... :( (Collapsed) i wanted to marry her and all that crap.

Well, guess what, she obviously doesn't think you're as special as you think she is. If you accept her ploy, she'll treat you like dirt for another brief period, controlling you and mocking your feelings by concealing your relationship and turning to stone when you look for warmth. You're welcome to your delusions, but she's NOT in this for love, she's looking for someone to control at best, and someone to make fun of for being such a pushover at worst. Ditch her. Find someone worthwhile. Make her insanely jealous, and maybe (but I doubt it) she'll see just how awful she treated you and learn a lesson.

Well, guess what, she obviously doesn't think you're as special as you think she is. If you accept her ploy, she'll treat you like dirt for another brief period, controlling you and mocking your feelings by concealing your relationship and turning to stone when you look for warmth. You're welcome to your delusions, but she's NOT in this for love, she's looking for someone to control at best, and someone to make fun of for being such a pushover at worst. Ditch her. Find someone worthwhile. Make her insanely jealous, and maybe (but I doubt it) she'll see just how awful she treated you and learn a lesson.

Yeeh... but heres the killer, shes NICE TO ME when we arnt going out, then she asks me out again.

Yeeh... but heres the killer, shes NICE TO ME when we arnt going out, then she asks me out again.

And the mouse only sees cheese until the metal bar breaks his spine. Of course she's nice when you're not going out. Otherwise she wouldn't have gotten in to burn you in the first place. You let her do it again, and it's just another invitation to be torched.

Thanks, but these days not alot helps...

:( I assume you can't get on MSN either.... sucks to know you ain't doing so well... I know how it can be.

:( I assume you can't get on MSN either.... sucks to know you ain't doing so well... I know how it can be.
Yea, msn doesn't like me..:(

*whiny emo bullshit*
i wanted to marry her and all that crap.
Wow, you're pathetic. No, really, really pathetic. If I were in the same room with you, I might very well be kicking you in the nuts about now.

I am made depressed if I am in close proximity to antique lighting. The mere thought of using a gas lamp drives me to the edge of madness.

Man, don't take any of her shit. You have to think rationally. Taking her back will not make you happy. Just use your brain. Say no. Hell, say "fuck off" if you have to.

Wow, you're pathetic. No, really, really pathetic. If I were in the same room with you, I might very well be kicking you in the nuts about now.

I am made depressed if I am in close proximity to antique lighting. The mere thought of using a gas lamp drives me to the edge of madness.

*tries to arrange a meeting.* :)

Okkkaaayy if i stop talking im afraid i might choke on my depression so this is gonna be quite the ramble anyway here goes!
My GF dumped me, yeh i know its not special and its not evil but should i feel this bad if:

Getting dumped is never fun. At most there is relief if you were looking to get out....


She dumped me twice before
She never said she loved me even when i said it to her

Ok. Well you shouldn't feel bad. Those two comments suggests she was using you. If you were dating for a long time and she never expressed affection, then that is a GIGANTIC warning sign.


She refused to do any er... Favours even though i did plenty for her

As in the naughty kind? Well you give and you should receive. If a girl refuses and doesn't give you a good answer, you move on.


my friends ALLLLLL warned me about it.
Anyway i have a nasty feeling in the pit of my stomach and my heart rates increased and she dumped me by text!

Ok. That is you hint that you should get over it. If she didn't have the courage to face you, then she is not worth getting upset over.

You want to really bug her? Don't be affected by it. Don't treat her badly just be nice. It will annoy her to know end that you aren't wrecking yourself over her.


... i know i once broke up with someone by Post-It but it doesnt happen to MEEEE!!!
Feel free to scream about what makes you depressed too :D :D :D

Lesson: Alway break up in person. It's the honorable thing to do and it shows you have character.

Final lesson, never ever ever EVER go back to her! Move on and find somebody who will appreciate you.

If you do go back to her, then I am sorry to say you deserve your grief.

Don't do it.

*tries to arrange a meeting.* :)
NO!NO!NO!NO!!! YOU KEEP THAT BRASS LANTERN AWAY!!! NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
*tries to flee*

You sound kinda like a friend of mine. >_>

Just, the girl he likes goes out with him for pity sometimes, or just when she cant get no one else. But he loves her so much that he says yes each and everytime no matter how much people try to get it trhough his head that she's just doing it for pity..-.-; He just cant' get over her.

Oh and the last time she dumped him was over text as well I believe. She claimed he was texting to fast, and dumped him for it. (She doesn't treat him so great either.) >_> though I do have to give him some credit cuz he has fallen for another girl for once atleast..But unfortantly there wasnty much hope for him getting with her so he gave up on her. >_>

NO!NO!NO!NO!!! YOU KEEP THAT BRASS LANTERN AWAY!!! NOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
*tries to flee*

Actually, I was talking about you and the Emo. Nothing entertains me like a good groin kicking. Especially when it's someone else's groin. :)

On the other hand.... *chases you with the lighting fixture*

Hey man, I've been through some crap breakups... you'll be alright once you realise that YOU DODGED A BULLET... then you'll be happy to move on...

Depression can make you feel like your soul is screaming when all you can do is sob, or it can subdue you, make you numb...It can be addictive when it's all you've ever felt. But it sounds to me like this girl wasn't even worth the crap on the bottom of your shoes. I had the same thing happen to me, and I'll be honest, years later I still think about it, but, I realised that if a relationship takes the turn of one breaking up with the other time after time, the relationship will never work which is not doing either partner any good. Depression can swallow you whole so you have to realise that whatever happens, the worst possible idea you can come up with, even if that happensm, the world will still keep going and things change, just get out there and "window shop" for lack of a better term. Check out the women/ girls around, have a one night stand if it makes you feel better. It sometimes puts things in perspective, even if it was awful, you're way of thinking changes whichever direction it goes.
Just hang in there, things will get better, it's the only way the world can work, time passes does it not?
I hope something I've said helps.
Nightsrose

When she asks you out, tell her NO CHANCE IN HELL and that will give you the same satisfaction as breaking up with her when you see the look on her face. That's your chance to give her a dose of her own medicine. Rejection hurts.

She's yanking your chain. She doesn't care about you. It sucks to love someone who treats you badly. The only cure is to love them from a distance until the feeling fades (usually right about the time you meet another sweet girl that looks at you like you hung the stars).

What depresses me is watching president shrub speak. If this man is leading us, we are doomed. If he isn't leading us, then Cheney is, and we're fucked even worse. Terribly depressing.

Having Tinnitus sometimes gets me depressed.

I think I would go crazy if my ears wouldnt quit ringing, not just depressed.

That's gotta be a tough row to hoe. My sympathies.