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My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.

Is there someone in your life that loves you?

Sappy, but true.

You should read www.mymiserablelife.com it's pretty fun. If you find that none of those have you beat than you should just post yours. Some are obviously fake but there are certainly true ones up there.


If all else fails just go on a cross country crime spree. At least you'll go down in a firestorm of glory. I suggest not allowing yourself to be caught.

Life hurts some times.

The girl I was sure I was going to marry (and she felt just as strongly about this less then a month ago) decided she didn't want to be with me a few weeks back.

I know that probably doesn't compare with your pain, but you're not alone in the suffering department. Just hang in there, this will hurt, but it can only destroy you if you let it.

You have my deepest sympathy, and I hope you make it through this OK.

In my opinion, life is wonderful when you consider the alternative.

Life by its nature must be painful, nothing in this world is perfect. But you must realize that even the greatest moments of pain are a small price to pay to be able to experience a moment of beauty, wonder, or excitement.

Fetuses "smile" in the womb.
They don't generally smile after birth until four months of age.

The world fucking blows.

I'm sorry to hear about your mom. I can't imagine how hard it must be to lose one's mother. Things are really bad now, but don't give up. If you deal with the pain and grief now and keep on living your life as best you can things are going to improve.

Life is rough, there's little compensation I can give to you. Just know that getting through this will make you strong, very strong. Stronger than anyone I know including myself.

The longer you spend wrapped up in this the less time you spend living. Enjoy the time you have left with your mother but always be ready for the worst. I almost lost both my parents once and I still feel cold to this day, I can only imagine what you're going through.

My deepest sympathies are given to you.

The fact that you're seeking comfort and sympathy from the anonymous internet, where you have associates with personalities who you know are real people, and are hoping that one of us can offer you that tiniest bit of hope in a crappy little world shows me that even you don't believe your life totally sucks. Yeah, I admit, things seem to be going shitty for you right now, but I'm sure it could get worse, and I'm sure you could think of the ways.

Life sucks sometimes, but it's all up and down. It'll get better :)

Hope you'll feel better soon, I know it sucks to be down.

I have a little post card that says "Don't give up" in German that I look at every now and then when I feel overwhelmed. It helps a bit.

That which does not kill us makes us stronger - Nietzsche

Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it - Unknown

This horrible time in your life can end up being a positive experience if you use it as a time to learn and grow.

My sympathies are with you. Hang in there though - this too shall pass.

Please convince me life doesn't totally suck!


...no.

Yeah, life sucks, and the best way to enjoy it is making people miserable. So go to a daycare and tell the kids that Santa just died. You'll feel way better afterwards. :)

Life is the pits sometimes. I had been suffering from a small depression for a while. Then a month ago a friend of mine was killed in Iraq. I thought life was useless. I began to cut myself with self-inflicted wounds. I thought of suicide and nearly carried it out. I have come to realize that death is natural. Humans are trying so hard to not die with new medicines and techonologies. But sooner or later it's gonna happen. I know it's hard right now, but I'm doing a lot better. It is possible to overcome this. If you are still in this state for a couple more weeks, you might want to seek some help. Good luck.

I think one of my friends went through a similar thing once, before I knew her. She's about the best person I know now.

My wife told me yesterday that she wants a divorce. I have a bad back problem that needs surgery and I have no insurance. I'm 26 years old and I have to move back in with my mom because she liked to shop so much that we have no savings. My chest hurts, and I feel like I'm having a heart attack. I've been crying all day. I have no money left, I just spent my last $30 on a case of beer.

Life does, in fact, suck. But beer will always be there for you. I'm gonna go be a drunk now.

I've had three people close to me commit suicide, and had one close to me murdered. These were the dark times. There have been times that were glorius too: My wedding, the awarding of my masters degress, the accomplishments of my children, to name just a few. Yes, sometimes life sucks, but often it's wonderful. You have to realize that the bad times will pass and not dwell on them. You have to realize that the good times are fleeting and revel in them. If life were easy, it wouldn't be worth living. As the Lakota say, everythng worthwhile is born of pain. You will emerge a stronger an more beautiful person because of it.

Simonist']The fact that you're seeking comfort and sympathy from the anonymous internet, where you have associates with personalities who you know are real people, and are hoping that one of us can offer you that tiniest bit of hope in a crappy little world shows me that even you don't believe your life totally sucks. Yeah, I admit, things seem to be going shitty for you right now, but I'm sure it could get worse, and I'm sure you could think of the ways.
I agree with RCAI (Remotely Controlled Artificial Intelligence) Number 103726... er.... crap, the secret that I really -do- control teh interwebs is out! Noez! *runs* ;)

Seriously though... it could get a lot worse. Just trust me on this, I ought to know. I've seen it...

I agree with RCAI (Remotely Controlled Artificial Intelligence) Number 103726... er.... crap, the secret that I really -do- control teh interwebs is out! Noez! *runs* ;)

Seriously though... it could get a lot worse. Just trust me on this, I ought to know. I've seen it...
Why Czardas, how did you know....? 103726 is my favourite number! Wait....yeah, you probably programmed it to be my favourite number.

And do trust Czardas, Bitch Kitten. If there's anybody who deserves to mope, it would probably be him, but he already does it enough and maybe got sick of telling us all how much his life sucks, so now he plays with his dolls *ahem* um....figures in his free time....

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.
( HUG )

How can I help, dear lady? You know how to get in touch with me.

EDIT: You have two TGs.

Simonist']Why Czardas, how did you know....? 103726 is my favourite number! Wait....yeah, you probably programmed it to be my favourite number.
Of course.... I am omniscient! I knew I would come to such a juncture at some point, so I programmed you to say that, and... wait a minute....

Simonist']
And do trust Czardas, Bitch Kitten. If there's anybody who deserves to mope, it would probably be him, but he already does it enough and maybe got sick of telling us all how much his life sucks, so now he plays with his dolls *ahem* um....figures in his free time....
I do not! I won't tell you what I do do in my free time... and no, it doesn't involve Silly Putty, Klondike bars, and lesbian porno magazines... what? Damn.

Struggle is a part of live. But rest assured so is triumph. They can't exist without each other. You will get through this struggle and you will be a stronger, better person as a result. In addition the absolute proof that life doesn't suck is that you are upset over the death of your mother. You want her to remain alive because she is a positive force in your life. Think about every time you've ever been a positive force in someone else's life. Finally, remember that your mother will never truly be dead if you carry her memory with you.

Many helpful suggestions.
The best was from Czardas, 'cause everyone knows his life sucks more than anyone else's.

@ Man in Black- Misery loves company. Happy to have you here.

:fluffle:

To live is to suffer. The more you live, the more you suffer and to cease suffering is to die. That's my philosophy and it has served me well. Just think of it this way: it could be worse. You could be absolutely talentless and have no future as anything other than a burden on society. You could have a slew of sick fetishes that cause you endless shame and guilt. You could have been born in a third world country with no access to medical treatment.

..(my life totally sucks)..Hey there.. you have a lot of friends here,

My advice?... Hmm..Things will cheer me up are:

a picnic close to a lake/beach,
Marijuana,
Prozac(or other prescription pills),
Xtacy+:fluffle: ,
Picnic+:fluffle: ..
Anything+:fluffle: ,

and next time you are doing the :fluffle: .. do not think about your Cat or your Family or the-World-problems.. make a pause to fully enjoy it..

BTW I am sending you my pic nekked ;) .. will either make you horny... or make you laugh. :D

cheers, we are with you.

Life does, in fact, suck. But beer will always be there for you. I'm gonna go be a drunk now.Yes alcohol helps.. but it can become a bigger problem...
I recommend Marijuana+sex.. or anything+sex.

It works for me. With no side effects. No after taste ;) just use a condom

Yes alcohol helps.. but it can become a bigger problem...
I recommend Marijuana+sex.. or anything+sex.

It works for me. With no side effects. No after taste ;)

i agree with the sex part but no drugs the drugs will just put u in debt and when u dont have enof $$ for drugs u will feel in the pits so it will maker u feel worse. there are a few things a few famous people said...

a)Einstein-Every action has a opposite reaction...Every reation has a opposite action....

b)Madona-When Lifes in The Pits dont waste your time on what happend think of the happy times and what will u do in the future....

c)Uzel Gali (inventor of the Uzi)-All Your Problems Can be Solved Will a inventive mind....

Think about what i said and see if it helps u, i hope so :D :D

The horror of ups and downs is the downs. The beauty of ups and downs is the ups. The bitch of life is that it's an engine that runs on both (think of them as being like pistons). I went through a pretty barren, depressing 15 year period when I was going absolutely nowhere but down (wow, crap, was it that long?). When you're in the weeds that long, you learn to adapt. I learned that no matter how bad a day is, it doesn't make the sun less warm. It doesn't make food less satisfying. No matter how terrible your crisis is, you're still going to get hungry and have to pee and need clean underwear. And there are still going to be comfortable chairs in the world and birds jumping around outside and other people living their lives. At first it seems like these trivial things debase our heavier experiences, but in fact they are the key to keeping sane and on track in the midst of bad times.

So go get something to eat. Drink some hot tea. Take care of yourself. Figure out which of your crises really matter to you and dump the ones that don't. You can only do what you can do, so don't waste time on the stuff you can't do. Get a therapist or a therapeutic friend to help you through the emotions. And just let life play itself out.

Some day, probably soon, you'll be surprised when something happens that makes you happy again. Don't question it. Just laugh because it will be just as real as the horrors you're dealing with today.

The horror of ups and downs is the downs. The beauty of ups and downs is the ups. The bitch of life is that it's an engine that runs on both (think of them as being like pistons). I went through a pretty barren, depressing 15 year period when I was going absolutely nowhere but down (wow, crap, was it that long?). When you're in the weeds that long, you learn to adapt. I learned that no matter how bad a day is, it doesn't make the sun less warm. It doesn't make food less satisfying. No matter how terrible your crisis is, you're still going to get hungry and have to pee and need clean underwear. And there are still going to be comfortable chairs in the world and birds jumping around outside and other people living their lives. At first it seems like these trivial things debase our heavier experiences, but in fact they are the key to keeping sane and on track in the midst of bad times.

So go get something to eat. Drink some hot tea. Take care of yourself. Figure out which of your crises really matter to you and dump the ones that don't. You can only do what you can do, so don't waste time on the stuff you can't do. Get a therapist or a therapeutic friend to help you through the emotions. And just let life play itself out.

Some day, probably soon, you'll be surprised when something happens that makes you happy again. Don't question it. Just laugh because it will be just as real as the horrors you're dealing with today.

well said friend... well said..

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.

Sorry it does suck. A medical emergency. Bonus was much less due to the roaring shrubby economy. A hit and run on my car. A document I had been working on for awhile disappeared. Our new office manager decided that a policy that did not affect us actually did and expected my to correct the last 4 years. Review preperations. Have to justify why I deserve more money.

Hmmm to place a curse on myself

It can't get any worst! ;)

When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

When life gives you mud, make mud pies.

When life gives you shit, shove it back up life's ass with a hot poker until life begs for mercy.

The best was from Czardas, 'cause everyone knows his life sucks more than anyone else's.
Of course, yeah? ;)

It can't get any worst! ;)
*burns down your house*

Why does life not totally suck?

Timbits.

well said friend... well said..
Thanks. I kind of wish I wasn't in a position to be so eloquent, but what did someone say about making lemons out of lemonade, or whatever it was? :)

I wish we could still have nervous breakdowns nowadays. Does anyone remember nervous breakdowns? They were great. If you just couldn't cope, then you just didn't, you know, for however long. You'd go on outrageous crying jags, take to your bed, what have you. And if anyone asked what was wrong with you, you could just say, "Are you blind, you insensitive jerk? Obviously, I'm having a nervous breakdown!"

Nervous breakdowns had their golden age in the late 19th century (thank you, Freud), but didn't really drop off the map until the 1980s. As late as 1986, I remember overhearing conversations like the one I caught between two lawyers at the firm I worked at:

"Any word from your client?"

"The last report was that he had taken to his bed and was lying there with the covers pulled up over his head."

(True story. I found it inspiring.)

I wish we could still have nervous breakdowns nowadays. Does anyone remember nervous breakdowns? They were great

people these days think if u have a nervous breakdown your insane or just stupid, nowa days the only way ppl cope with these breakdowns is to change it into something else such as over eating, become more violent or just have sex and think it goes away... but i doesunt so they desperatly try to find a way to fix theyr problem when it is just sitting right infront of them.. go to wherever u feel confotable and have a breakdown.. simple.

When life gives you shit, shove it back up life's ass with a hot poker until life begs for mercy.or.. you could walk around it. (The-OceanD-Way©2003 - 2006)

its keeps you from soiling yourself ;)

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.
Turn to God...

Turn to God...

not alway the best answer my friend... sure it helps somewhat but then u need the Mind-Power to salve your problems and get over it

people these days think if u have a nervous breakdown your insane or just stupid, nowa days the only way ppl cope with these breakdowns is to change it into something else such as over eating, become more violent or just have sex and think it goes away... but i doesunt so they desperatly try to find a way to fix theyr problem when it is just sitting right infront of them.. go to wherever u feel confotable and have a breakdown.. simple.
It worked for Dave Chappelle. A few months crashing on friends' couches in Africa and he comes back to his show and a 2 hour special on Inside the Actor's Studio. It's a healing process.

Sure, life can be awful. Today is one of my worst days in a long time...but there's almost always at least one thing, one glimmer of hope, or one thing to make you smile. Just look for it.

people these days think if u have a nervous breakdown your insane or just stupid, nowa days the only way ppl cope with these breakdowns is to change it into something else such as over eating, become more violent or just have sex and think it goes away... but i doesunt so they desperatly try to find a way to fix theyr problem when it is just sitting right infront of them.. go to wherever u feel confotable and have a breakdown.. simple.
A more serious response: Sometimes you have to break down a little before you can get on with things. Sometimes the situation demands it. Sometimes you just have to stop and acknowledge the blow you just received by letting yourself feel it or else it'll never stop hitting you.

There is a wonderful Siberian folktale called "The Seven Fears" about boy who is a coward. I love the way this story begins. The cowardly boy goes hunting with his brother who is very brave. In the forest, the cowardly boy spots a tiger coming up behind his brother, and he is so afraid of the tiger that he freezes and doesn't shout a warning to his brother who is, of course, grabbed and carried off. The cowardly boy, left alone after this horrible thing, goes completely nuts. Loses it entirely. He panics, runs in circles screaming, thinks he should kill himself because how can he go home and tell his parents that he let his brother be taken by a tiger, then he throws himself on the ground and cries and cries and cries until he just doesn't have any tears left in him.

And then, when all of that reaction is out of him, he sits down on a rock, lights his pipe and thinks about what he should do. And of course, he goes to rescue his brother because he decides that's what he has to do. But he couldn't have thought clearly enough to reach that conclusion if he hadn't let go of all those immediate feelings first.

So sometimes, a little breakdown is the best thing you can do, as a first step, when faced with overwhelming problems.

BTW I am sending you my pic nekked ;) .. will either make you ... or make you laugh. :D

cheers, we are with you.


Where's my picture?

Sorry it does suck. A medical emergency. Bonus was much less due to the roaring shrubby economy. A hit and run on my car. A document I had been working on for awhile disappeared. Our new office manager decided that a policy that did not affect us actually did and expected my to correct the last 4 years. Review preperations. Have to justify why I deserve more money.

Hmmm to place a curse on myself

It can't get any worst! ;)As they say "Cheer up, it could be worse." Of course when you do, it does get worse.

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.

And yet, you could be living in Rwanda or Sudan

Damn. I thought I wouldn't have to post it again.
Oh well

Listen to this song by the Fools. There a Boston band, so I doubt anyone outside the area has heard of them.

Life sucks....then you die.

As they say "Cheer up, it could be worse." Of course when you do, it does get worse.
And out of the chaos, a voice spoke:
"Smile and be happy, for it can always be worse".
And I smiled, and I was happy, and it did get worse.

Just remember this one...
Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, and the courage to change the things I can

Of course, yeah?

Hell yeah, he RPs in II, of course his life sucks!

Wait a minute...

Hell yeah, he RPs in II, of course his life sucks!

Wait a minute...
Well, at least I don't live in an unreal world and spend most of my spare time designing warships and fighter pl... um...

Let's try this again:

Well, at least I'm not future tech and spend all my time inventing new technolo.... no....

One more time:

Well, at least I've never done hard drugs.... oh, nevermind. *Flees*

Shit Happens!

You've had this much time with your mom. Being human means losing people. You have to focus on the positive, not the negative, focus on all the love you have for her, and all she has for you.
Go to the pound. Get a kitten. Celebrate the cat you loved and lost by saving the life of another cat.
Electricty can be turned back on. And you do at least have access to the library to post. You're not going to freeze to death, or starve, or anything else. Yeah, things aren't peaches and cream right now, but you're still a LOT better off than a LOT of people in the world. And things will get better.

Shit Happens!

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Indeed, it does.

My family is on watch right now. My mother could have anywhere from a couple of days to a few weeks left. My cat died this morning. My electricity is shut off and I'm posting from the public library. The librarian just told me I have to get offline in 5 minutes, so I won't even know if anyone cared to respond until tomorrow.
Yes, I'm sappily seeking sympathy and comfort on the anonymous internet. Sue me. It's not like you'd get much.
it sucks so much when our parents die. especially when they are young as i expect your mother must be. my mother was 79 and it was still a terrible blow. i hope yours passes gently.

you have more bad days ahead so take good care of yourself. there will come a time when you can remember the good times with your mom and smile. until that time dont try to deny the grief. what kind of person would you be if you could lose someone so close to you and not ache from it for a long time?

and tell the librarian to bite you. cant the bitch see that you need a few more minutes sometimes??

Do you know what?

Life does fucking suck. Being dead would be so much easier.

Do you know what?

Life does fucking suck. Being dead would be so much easier.

Not really. I mean, what are you going to do if Mr. Smith (the local necrophiliac) decides to, you know, exhume your body, and well, get busy with it?

Not easy to me.

Not really. I mean, what are you going to do if Mr. Smith (the local necrophiliac) decides to, you know, exhume your body, and well, get busy with it?

Not easy to me.

Wouldn't matter to me, I'd be dead.

I wouldn't feel anything.

And that would be better than being alive.

And feeling.

Wouldn't matter to me, I'd be dead.

I wouldn't feel anything.

And that would be better than being alive.

And feeling.
That's the wrong way to think... while alive, work on channeling your feelings into something [con/de]structive ... that way, you won't be bothered by them in your everyday life, and you'll give the world something worthwhile. (For instance, become a musician or an artist, or start getting more involved in RPGs, or build train sets... whatever floats your boat, if you'll pardon the mixed metaphors.)

That's the wrong way to think... while alive, work on channeling your feelings into something [con/de]structive ... that way, you won't be bothered by them in your everyday life,

See, the problem with me is that everything I do is infused with the very thing that I hate about myself. So not being bothered in everyday life is completely impossible.

and you'll give the world something worthwhile. (For instance, become a musician or an artist, or start getting more involved in RPGs, or build train sets... whatever floats your boat, if you'll pardon the mixed metaphors.)
I really don't have anything worthwhile to give.