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I know it's stupid to have thought that things coudl go somewhere after seeing someone for a month.

But it still sucks that he's talking about leaving the continent for grad school in September.

Bad luck.

that sucks

I know. :(

But then who knows, we might not even end up staying together until then or things could work out further down the line, right?

Watch out. Don't get too invested if he's definately going to leave.

I know. I'm just going to try to enjoy the time we're together for now. That really can't hurt, imo.

I know. I'm just going to try to enjoy the time we're together for now. That really can't hurt, imo.

As long as you're careful.

I know it's stupid to have thought that things coudl go somewhere after seeing someone for a month.

But it still sucks that he's talking about leaving the continent for grad school in September.

*hugs*

Try to keep your head up and stay positive- this'll work out one way or another. If he stays, bonus. If he doesn't, look at it as an opportunity instead of a loss- he lost out, so now you have the ability to find someone better (and I know you can).

I know that finding someone else won't be an issue, it's just rare that I hit it off so well with someone so quickly so it's a shame that we might not get to see where it could go.
It's also not as though I was looking for an exclusive permanent relationship or something from the start... though I do tend to get stupid and hopeful like that. It's not as though he can never return or I can never relocate either.

I know that finding someone else won't be an issue, it's just rare that I hit it off so well with someone so quickly so it's a shame that we might not get to see where it could go.
It's also not as though I was looking for an exclusive permanent relationship or something from the start... though I do tend to get stupid and hopeful like that. It's not as though he can never return or I can never relocate either.

I got out of a nasty, long-term relationship just this past October...and I'm a bit frustrated that I've been single this long (I don't get many chances either), but I look at the breakup as a learning experience and an opportunity to do better, because I know I can.

Your best bet- as you've already said- is to enjoy the time you have now and see where it goes. There's no use worrying about the future when it's not there yet, and as long as you believe it'll all make sense in the end, it will.

I know. :(

But then who knows, we might not even end up staying together until then or things could work out further down the line, right?

Inspirational Story #1:
My fiancee and I went out with each other about 6 years ago (How time flies) for a couple months, but things didn't work out. She was, admittedly, too young for me at the time, and that caused some issues that we couldn't work out.
We'd still talk from time to time over the years, and a couple Christmases ago, we decided to meet up. She had gone away for school, but decided to come home for Christmas, and we hit it off immediately.
So, she's still away for school, but this Christmas I popped the question, and we're happily engaged, although we're 16 hours apart.
But, after such a long wait, I'm going to be moving down there this summer to be with her for the rest of my life. :)
If you REALLY think he's the greatest guy you'll ever meet, at the very least keep in touch.

Inspirational Story #1:
My fiancee and I went out with each other about 6 years ago (How time flies) for a couple months, but things didn't work out. She was, admittedly, too young for me at the time, and that caused some issues that we couldn't work out.
We'd still talk from time to time over the years, and a couple Christmases ago, we decided to meet up. She had gone away for school, but decided to come home for Christmas, and we hit it off immediately.
So, she's still away for school, but this Christmas I popped the question, and we're happily engaged, although we're 16 hours apart.
But, after such a long wait, I'm going to be moving down there this summer to be with her for the rest of my life. :)
If you REALLY think he's the greatest guy you'll ever meet, at the very least keep in touch.
That's sweet.

And I do hope to at least keep in touch. I don't see a reason not to.

I got out of a nasty, long-term relationship just this past October...and I'm a bit frustrated that I've been single this long (I don't get many chances either), but I look at the breakup as a learning experience and an opportunity to do better, because I know I can.
There's never anything wrong with being single, I think. It's a chance to play the field.

Your best bet- as you've already said- is to enjoy the time you have now and see where it goes. There's no use worrying about the future when it's not there yet, and as long as you believe it'll all make sense in the end, it will.
That's the plan. :)

I know. I'm just going to try to enjoy the time we're together for now. That really can't hurt, imo.

You know that you are lying to yourself.

If you are already making mopey threads after one month, what do you think will happen after he leaves in 6 months.

Keep him as a friend if you want, but don't get serious and find another guy who won't be leaving the country.

You know that you are lying to yourself.

If you are already making mopey threads after one month, what do you think will happen after he leaves in 6 months.

Keep him as a friend if you want, but don't get serious and find another guy who won't be leaving the country.
I wasn't planning on getting serious, seeing as he's leaving the country in 6 months. However, considering how much fun we have right now, I'd rather not miss out on 6 months of more such fun because he's going to leave eventually.

I wasn't planning on getting serious, seeing as he's leaving the country in 6 months. However, considering how much fun we have right now, I'd rather not miss out on 6 months of more such fun because he's going to leave eventually.

If you spend time with him for 6 more months, chances are its not going to be just a fun/friends basis. Obviously you already have some feelings for him. They will only grow stronger in 6 months. Just follow your heart....a lot can happen between now and then.

Just wait until he knows whether he is leaving or not.

You have known this guy for a month, and you are already making threads about how you are going to miss him, and how you don't want to miss your time together, yet you aren't going to get serious?

You are just making up justification for instant gratification. You know this will hurt in the long run, so take a little hurt right now and find someone else (or wait to see if he decides to stay), and save yourself a lot of hurt in the long run. Guys aren't so rare that you can't find another you enjoy to be around.

Just follow your heart....a lot can happen between now and then.

Peeches, you eternal optimist you.

If you spend time with him for 6 more months, chances are its not going to be just a fun/friends basis. Obviously you already have some feelings for him. They will only grow stronger in 6 months. Just follow your heart....a lot can happen between now and then.
I know. I try to take things as they come, hell, he might deceide that he doesn't want to see me again next week as far as I know... I'm not going to miss out on spending time with a great guy because it's possible that in the future, some heartache might be involved.

Just wait until he knows whether he is leaving or not.

You have known this guy for a month, and you are already making threads about how you are going to miss him, and how you don't want to miss your time together, yet you aren't going to get serious?

You are just making up justification for instant gratification. You know this will hurt in the long run, so take a little hurt right now and find someone else (or wait to see if he decides to stay), and save yourself a lot of hurt in the long run. Guys aren't so rare that you can't find another you enjoy to be around.
I'm making threads because I could see this going somewhere, but might not get the opportunity to see where it goes due to this possible change in location.

And really, heartache is inevitable and it wouldn't be the first time I've felt it. I would much rather see what happens then bail out prematurely due to a possible inconvenience.

Peeches, you eternal optimist you.


lol.....;)


I know. I try to take things as they come, hell, he might deceide that he doesn't want to see me again next week as far as I know... I'm not going to miss out on spending time with a great guy because it's possible that in the future, some heartache might be involved.

Exactly. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Dont miss out on good times on account of what might or might not happen. Enjoy.;)

I'm making threads because I could see this going somewhere, but might not get the opportunity to see where it goes due to this possible change in location.

And really, heartache is inevitable and it wouldn't be the first time I've felt it. I would much rather see what happens then bail out prematurely due to a possible inconvenience.

Your heartache will be much less now than later. What's more, while you are setting yourself up for a fall, you could be missing out on finding someone else that would be just as good for you without the impending doom come September.

But you definitely have your heart set on this guy, so there isn't much more room for advice. Good luck, hopefully he doesn't leave the country.

Your heartache will be much less now than later. What's more, while you are setting yourself up for a fall, you could be missing out on finding someone else that would be just as good for you without the impending doom come September.

But you definitely have your heart set on this guy, so there isn't much more room for advice. Good luck, hopefully he doesn't leave the country.
Like I said, I've dealt with heartache before, I can deal with it again. It's not much of a life if you set about always trying to minimize pain at the cost of potential rewards... hell, if I took that attitude, I wouldn't own pets.

And really, I accept the fact that we might not even be seeing each other by the time September rolls around anyways. This whole thing could come to its natural conclusion before he leaves, if he does.

Don't plan. Don't despair. Just go with the flow. The only way you can be disapointed is if you build up expectations in the first place. Let life surprise you.

Like I said, I've dealt with heartache before, I can deal with it again. It's not much of a life if you set about always trying to minimize pain at the cost of potential rewards... hell, if I took that attitude, I wouldn't own pets.

And really, I accept the fact that we might not even be seeing each other by the time September rolls around anyways. This whole thing could come to its natural conclusion before he leaves, if he does.

This guy isn't irreplaceable, how long ago was it that you started a thread about breaking up with your boyfriend?

EDIT: Make memories with someone else who is guaranteed to leave.

I am beginning to believe that I am the only one in NS who isn't a hopeless romantic.

I am beginning to believe that I am the only one in NS who isn't a hopeless romantic.
So long as you're not romantically hopless...

I am beginning to believe that I am the only one in NS who isn't a hopeless romantic.

Yeah but thats what makes you "Vitto". And we love it.

Yeah but thats what makes you "Vitto". And we love it.

Once again Peeches, you are a master with the positive spin. You should be on Fox News.

Once again Peeches, you are a master with the positive spin. You should be on Fox News.


Haha! Youre too much ;)


*prepares résumé*

Don't plan. Don't despair. Just go with the flow. The only way you can be disapointed is if you build up expectations in the first place. Let life surprise you.
That's really the only way to go about things. :)