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I hate the feeling that everyone else is better then me. I hate that everyone knows just what my flaws are, everyone knows the little things about me that make me feel about 1 inch tall inside. And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

Basically I hate feeling like a inferior human being.

And don't anyone say that you can't be inferior, that everyone has their strengths and weeknesses, because while that's true, people are still inferior and superior to each other, elsewise why try to make yourself better?

I don't know why I'm bringing this shit here, I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know me.

I know exactly how you feel. You feel intimidated too, i have that too the best thing you can do is try not to worry about what other people feel about you, because if you do it just aggravates you. Just hang around people who make you feel equal and noone is lesser than anyone.

:fluffle: People are stupid... don't bother with them. If they make you feel inferior, then they're bullies, and are probably afraid you're better than they are. Don't worry about it. You be the best you can be for yourself, not for anyone else.

What people think of you doesn't change you. What you think of yourself does.

Just as I believe that there are different kinds of intelligence, there have to be different kinds of inferiority just as well.

See, at least you know how to use a computer.
Seriously, I've met an alarming amount of 20+ years old people who don't know how to do that.
They're not inferiour to anyone else overall because of that, but just in that aspect of life (that is, if you're considering that a desirable skill).

If you don't want people telling you everyone has strenghths and weaknesses that's your problem, but don't you think that if so many people tell you that there might be a tiny little grain of truth in there?

I can’t identify at all. I invariably feel superior to those around me.

:fluffle: People are stupid... don't bother with them. If they make you feel inferior, then they're bullies, and are probably afraid you're better than they are. Don't worry about it. You be the best you can be for yourself, not for anyone else.

What people think of you doesn't change you. What you think of yourself does.

People aren't telling me I'm inferior. I just feel that way.

Thank you for the fluffle though.

the trick is to not care. in all likely hood, the people around will only be in your life for a year or two or four, unless you try to keep in touch. In reality, anything they can do or think will only affect you so long as you let it.

If the people at work make you feel lke that then just quit, find a job where you don't have to deal with that shit, No amount of money is worth being belittled for years.

the best way to let go of the littleness is to laugh at those who make you feel it. not publicly, but everytime someone says something or does something that makes you feel bad about yourself, just think about what it was they did and find some little thing in it to laugh to yourself about.

once you master techniques such as these, you will be able to step confidently into even the most belittling situation and come out a giant.

dont even worry about it. i went through the same thing for a few years, but then i realize, who cares what other people think. live you life the way that you want, even if other people think it's dumb, inferior, or doesn't agree with you. live the way you want, that's what i do and it's worked for me

you are goign to worry yoursellf into an ulcer.

there will always be those who are better than you at something and you will always have your own personal strengths over others as well. What you need to do is to develop an expertise in something that you really love and be proud of that if you need to feel superior over someone. Sure there will still probably be someone thats better than you at whatever it is you choose (unless you pick something noone else does) but at least you can still consider yourself an expert.

no, it's not about what others think of me. It's what I think of myself that's the problem. It's what I know my flaws are.

The problem really begins and ends with me.

It's all about you. They may be better at things or haven't made the same mistakes as you, however, only you can decide that they have any power over you and your feelings. Your feelings are your own. Own them.

no, it's not about what others think of me. It's what I think of myself that's the problem. It's what I know my flaws are.

The problem really begins and ends with me.


well you did say

And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

but you are right, it begins and ends with you. Even if it was how you felt about what others thought of you, that is still something that resides within you because others will always think ill of you. it doesnt matter who you are or what you do or how good or bad you are at something. i'm sure you will be able to find a bunch of negative comments from people about Ghandi!


Like I said... if you want to feel surperior, then gain an expertise in something and then you can demonstrate that exeprtise and wow people. Of course others will hate you because they will say that you are a show off, or they will be mad you know more than them about something because you will make them feel inferior. All is vanity my friend.

You are not inferior. You recognize that everyone has their flaws, that everyone is not perfect. It is what makes you and I and everyone else human. Those who try to achieve superiority, to better themselves are chasing a neverending goal. There is no perfect because what is perfect? Is it having money? Being famous? Being a better baseball player? Being smarter than everyone else? Perfect, superior is different to the individual. It's none of those because you are you, not what the media, peers, everybody says you need to be. You should not have to feel inferior because in your own mind you can be whatever you want.

The only way to win is not to play. Don't think about your faults, think about what you have that nobody else, or few other people have. Even if you can't think of somethign immediately, take up a hobby, eventually you will find something special that you can do. And don't stop until you've found it, your speciality may be a little off kilter. Mine is making Salsa (hot sauce), and I have actually won a few little awards. Yours might be similiarly left of center.

"It's all about you. They may be better at things or haven't made the same mistakes as you, however, only you can decide that they have any power over you and your feelings. Your feelings are your own. Own them."

They are. And they tell me I'm flawed in ways I shouldn't be, that others arn't.

I hate the feeling that everyone else is better then me. I hate that everyone knows just what my flaws are, everyone knows the little things about me that make me feel about 1 inch tall inside. And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

Basically I hate feeling like a inferior human being.

And don't anyone say that you can't be inferior, that everyone has their strengths and weeknesses, because while that's true, people are still inferior and superior to each other, elsewise why try to make yourself better?

I don't know why I'm bringing this shit here, I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know me.


i bet your awesome!

i always feel insecure...when i aint being cocky...trust me,it never ends,i swear i am mental....your just smart enough to realise life is a bitch!

I have found you linger when you thrust with your sword leaving your innards expossed to a quick Jab.
Yarrgh!

You are not inferior. You recognize that everyone has their flaws, that everyone is not perfect. It is what makes you and I and everyone else human. Those who try to achieve superiority, to better themselves are chasing a neverending goal. There is no perfect because what is perfect? Is it having money? Being famous? Being a better baseball player? Being smarter than everyone else? Perfect, superior is different to the individual. It's none of those because you are you, not what the media, peers, everybody says you need to be. You should not have to feel inferior because in your own mind you can be whatever you want.

Exactly! Saige is a genius

You know what? it is often the case that those with money and fame are some of the unhappiest of all. They strove to be the best and acheived it in everyone elses eyes and they still feel unulfilled, so they will turn to drugs and alcohol quite often to drown out their negative feelings because they got what everyone wants and they still dont feel complete and don't know where else to go from there. When they read what people write about them in the paper, they say "thats not me", because it isn't - it's someones perception of them. A fantasy.

The only way you can be happy is to find it within yourself. There is no happiness "out there".

You are not inferior. You recognize that everyone has their flaws, that everyone is not perfect. It is what makes you and I and everyone else human. Those who try to achieve superiority, to better themselves are chasing a neverending goal. There is no perfect because what is perfect? Is it having money? Being famous? Being a better baseball player? Being smarter than everyone else?

Being respectible (to myself), being a functional human being.

The only way you can be happy is to find it within yourself. There is no happiness "out there".

I know. And it's within that I am lacking.

wait is this how you feel? when you go to school you believe people know what you have done in the past and there gonna judge you on that. Then because of those mistakes or what you are seen as you feel inferior because you think theyre always talking about you or judging you? That your never gonna reach their level because to you theyre seen as superior?

Your're the one making them superior and your one the one making yourself inferior. If you have that attitude.

Being respectible (to myself), being a functional human being.

You are a functional human being. Realising that you feel less than what you really are is a huge leap. Take another and achieve your perfection. Jump, see that you can be and will be respectable to yourself. See that you are you and nobody else and that you are the best you can be. And be proud of it. Be proud that you are an individual, a functional, self-respecting individual because you are one right now. Just take that leap and see it.

I know. And it's within that I am lacking.

Because of the initial thoughts you posted in the beginning. Thoughts, I might add, that are ingrained in us by society. These thoughts of not being enough... of wanting to be more...

There are two ways someone with these thoughts can be unhappy - by not getting what you want - or by getting what you want and then finding out that you still feel incomplete. It's a cycle that never ends if you let those thoughts become your reality.

Don't take those thoughts personally as being you - they are just thoughts and nothing more. Don't accept them as reality.

I'll give you a suggestion and you can take it or leave it. Try meditation. Different forms of meditation are better suited for different people. If you are not spiritual, it is still very helpful. When you can silence the thoughts and still the mind you find great peace. The incessant thinking about past events/regrets or future needs/fantasies keeps you from enjoying the present moment. Stillness can break that pattern and give you a glimpse of infinite possibilities. :)

Because of the initial thoughts you posted in the beginning. Thoughts, I might add, that are ingrained in us by society. These thoughts of not being enough... of wanting to be more...

There are two ways someone with these thoughts can be unhappy - by not getting what you want - or by getting what you want and then finding out that you still feel incomplete. It's a cycle that never ends if you let those thoughts become your reality.

Don't take those thoughts personally as being you - they are just thoughts and nothing more. Don't accept them as reality.

I'll give you a suggestion and you can take it or leave it. Try meditation. Different forms of meditation are better suited for different people. If you are not spiritual, it is still very helpful. When you can silence the thoughts and still the mind you find great peace. The incessant thinking about past events/regrets or future needs/fantasies keeps you from enjoying the present moment. Stillness can break that pattern and give you a glimpse of infinite possibilities. :)


can you help me with that?

i honestly am at wits end,i woukld be forever be in your your favor if you can instruct me..or at least point me in the direction...

can you help me with that?

i honestly am at wits end,i woukld be forever be in your your favor if you can instruct me..or at least point me in the direction...


sure - are you spiritual or not? if so do you want something relating to a certain religion or would you like a non-denominational form of meditation? have you ever tried meditation before and if so what did it consist of?

Gotta ask K, what is it that you don't like about yourself, that gets you down so often?

Vauge or specific... fellowship helps...

sure - are you spiritual or not? if so do you want something relating to a certain religion or would you like a non-denominational form of meditation? have you ever tried meditation before and if so what did it consist of?


i am ambivalent about religion.i was an alter boy for about ten years,so if there was something there i think i may have found it..lol

thanks for replying so quickly by the way...i would love to find an alternative to drinking myself to sleep....j/k...but i do more then i care too..

thanks again for responding..reallly quite nice of you.

Well I'll give you links to some non-spiritual meditations to start:

http://members.aol.com/timxcampbell/articles/ssc.htm

http://www.angelfire.com/rebellion2/gospelatheism/PART5.htm#_AMORATHEIST_MEDITATION

i am ambivalent about religion.i was an alter boy for about ten years,so if there was something there i think i may have found it..lol

thanks for replying so quickly by the way...i would love to find an alternative to drinking myself to sleep....j/k...but i do more then i care too..

thanks again for responding..reallly quite nice of you.

p.s.i have no clue about meditation....i self medicate.

Maybe you really are inferior to the rest of us. If this is true, please do not breed.

Maybe you really are inferior to the rest of us. If this is true, please do not breed.


thats helpfull

i am ambivalent about religion.i was an alter boy for about ten years,so if there was something there i think i may have found it..lol

thanks for replying so quickly by the way...i would love to find an alternative to drinking myself to sleep....j/k...but i do more then i care too..

thanks again for responding..reallly quite nice of you.


No worries, I'm glad to help.

Well I'll tell ya, I am completely non-religious and don't equate religion with spirituality. Personally I think religion gets in the way of spirituality, but I won't go any further with that.

I gave two links above is you want to check them out, they might be the best if you don't want spirituality in the picture at all.

In my readings on different kinds of meditations I came to find that the simplest and most well known one is the best for most people... you've probably heard the technique already. sit comfortably, close your eyes and put all concentration on your breath as you breath deep into your belly and exhale. just continue doing this. thoughts will interrupt you as they do with all of us and it can be frustrating because it seems like it's impossible to quiet them, but over time it will become easier for you. just like with anything don't give up. don't worry about the thoughts either, just notice yourself thinking them and then softly stop them and shift your attention back to your breath. you need to give your mind a simple task to still the mind. you can also look to your third eye while you do the above if you find you need more for your mind to do.

I have found from personal experience that hatha yoga is a great way to go as well.

Also, if you don't mind a spiritually themed book that is genius IMHO, I'd suggest reading "The Power Of Now" which basically gives lots of information on how to quiet the mind and live in the present moment.

I don't know about the rest of the world. (I'm starting to sound like Bush, shoot me.) But in Holland there is a growing infestation of people who think it's 'cool' to have a low self esteem of not total self-hatred and therefore act like they think they suck and are ugly and hate themselves etc. Some will even go to the extend to automutilate simply for the scars to show everyone to proove themselves rather than the release of frustration and stress.

On the other hand it's just as 'cool' in cultural circles of people who are a tad more intelligent to say that everyone hates him/herself for the attention before talking to the person to hear the story themselves.

I'm not saying I discribe you in the first paragraph, I am however to a certain extend discribing myself in the second. The moment someone says he doesn't feel secure about his/her capabilities I get suspicious. Which is a bad thing I'd say.

That you posted this on a forum raises my suspicion I must say.

What exactly would conclude you to be inferiour?

Why exactly are you exposing your weaknesses to a large group of strangers? 1/3 will mock you,1/3 will ignore you and go off on a rant of their own, and the remaining 1/3 will offer well meaning but ineffectual advice. I will not offer any advice, because you seem to be wearing your inferiority like a hair shirt, you want to suffer, go ahead, it's your life. An Ounce of real life will cure you of any imagined ills.

I hate the feeling that everyone else is better then me. I hate that everyone knows just what my flaws are, everyone knows the little things about me that make me feel about 1 inch tall inside. And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

Basically I hate feeling like a inferior human being.

And don't anyone say that you can't be inferior, that everyone has their strengths and weeknesses, because while that's true, people are still inferior and superior to each other, elsewise why try to make yourself better?

I don't know why I'm bringing this shit here, I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know me.


You're fine. Just stop listening to emo.

I hate the feeling that everyone else is better then me. I hate that everyone knows just what my flaws are, everyone knows the little things about me that make me feel about 1 inch tall inside. And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

Basically I hate feeling like a inferior human being.

And don't anyone say that you can't be inferior, that everyone has their strengths and weeknesses, because while that's true, people are still inferior and superior to each other, elsewise why try to make yourself better?

I don't know why I'm bringing this shit here, I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know me.

If that's really how you feel, then I doubt any amount of "be yourself" shit is going to help out.

The only advice I could offer would be to focus on those who are inferior to you, and build your confidence up from there. After all, it's not like you've (I hope to God) raped anyone or anything.

People aren't telling me I'm inferior. I just feel that way.

Thank you for the fluffle though.

If its brutal honesty your looking for.. it is your own insecurity which makes you inferior in the end. You are only as weak or as small as you belive yourself to be. This is why of ofcourse cannot sympathize as I always belive myself to be superior, even in the face of utter defeat , no matter the game, the argument, the sport, the intelectual challenge! Every set back makes me stronger. Your feelings only hold you back, when you feel small, suck it up and prove to yourself your actually twice as strong as you previously belived yourself to be!

this is waht im gonna say:

they don't know you, you know you. if you think you're inferior, you probably are.

I can’t identify at all. I invariably feel superior to those around me.

i have a hard time with this too.

" No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Eleanor Roosevelt




If you don't want to feel inferior, then it's up to you to change that. ;)



so says Smunkee!

I hate the feeling that everyone else is better then me. I hate that everyone knows just what my flaws are, everyone knows the little things about me that make me feel about 1 inch tall inside. And I hate that I'm such a whore for what others think about me.

Basically I hate feeling like a inferior human being.

And don't anyone say that you can't be inferior, that everyone has their strengths and weeknesses, because while that's true, people are still inferior and superior to each other, elsewise why try to make yourself better?

I don't know why I'm bringing this shit here, I guess I just needed to vent to people who don't know me.
1. You are no more "inferior" than all the rest of us.

2. No one can "make" you feel any particular way without your cooperation.

3. Making yourself better is nothing more than taking what you were given and doing the best you can with it.

4. It's very normal to want approval from others, but there are lots and LOTS of "others" out there. Find some who aren't so damned immature as to need another person to look down on.

5. When you have the time, I'll tell you about a little boy no one wanted, even his mother, who looked like a very skinny monkey with ears that stuck out, and who reamde himself into what he wanted to be.

I don't know about the rest of the world. (I'm starting to sound like Bush, shoot me.) But in Holland there is a growing infestation of people who think it's 'cool' to have a low self esteem of not total self-hatred and therefore act like they think they suck and are ugly and hate themselves etc. Some will even go to the extend to automutilate simply for the scars to show everyone to proove themselves rather than the release of frustration and stress.

We have those in the Us too. It's called emo, or goth, or God knows what nowadays. Pisses me off for the most part.


Why exactly are you exposing your weaknesses to a large group of strangers? 1/3 will mock you,1/3 will ignore you and go off on a rant of their own, and the remaining 1/3 will offer well meaning but ineffectual advice. I will not offer any advice, because you seem to be wearing your inferiority like a hair shirt, you want to suffer, go ahead, it's your life. An Ounce of real life will cure you of any imagined ills.

I'm not trying to "wear my inferiority like a hair shirt", I'm not trying to be "cool," and I don't want to suffer. I was just at a low point last night. And what do you know of my ills and if they are imganinary or not?

You're fine. Just stop listening to emo.

Haha, I did sound like a winey emo kid, didn't I? No, I don't listen to that crap :)



Basiclly, what my problem is, I know my flaws, I know my strengths, and I don't measure up to what I want to be. No societal standards, I don't feel like I'm a good, functional person by my own standards. And like I said, I just let myself get into a really crappy mood last night, and it was dumb of me. Thank you to everyone who tried to help, but no one will help but me, what I gatta do is to fix the bad stuff, and become someone I can respect. That's really all there is to it.

To the guy who suggested meditation, I used to, but then I started working full time, and I just didn't have the time to put the effort in. I've been meaning to start that up again.

Hey, everyone's inferior to someone else. Except naturally, Chuck Norris. Someone has to be superior than everyone else after all.

Hey, everyone's inferior to someone else. Except naturally, Chuck Norris. Someone has to be superior than everyone else after all.
That doesn't mean you can't feign superiority. It's partly a matter of birth, partly a state of mind. To the OP, don't think you're inferior, lest you actually render yourself so.

by any chance are you a teenager, it is very common for teenagers, especially girls, to feel feelings such as this

:p You think YOU feel inferior? I'm 15, almost 16 and 5'3 (male). I have hip displasia, which puts one leg slightly higher than the other one, and makes the muscle ration in my outer to inner thighs a 2:1. I just went to the doctor, and besides the bad hips giving me scoliosis, I have to get an MRI to make sure that my spinal chord isn't being blocked out somehow so I don't become paralyzed. I don't really worry about it though, the worst that can happen is me dying, and if that happens, I won't have to worry about anything! :p