Am I doomed to a life of loneliness?
Newtsburg
08-02-2006, 22:06
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
The assholes in these situations are the cheaters. What you deserve is someone WITH an asshole who is NOT an asshole. And cheer up!
Alinania
08-02-2006, 22:08
Such is life, grasshopper... you know the drill... kissing frogs until that prince comes along. ;)
Just be happy you aren't married. That's a sticky tangle to get out of.
Jacques Derrida
08-02-2006, 22:14
How do you define lonieliness? Do you mean lack of companionship, or lack of exclusive monogamy? Because one is asking a lot more than the other?
Anway, people cheat. It would really depend on the entire circumstance as to whether or not you should flap about this.
You'll find the right person at some point when you least expect it, just don't give up
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
No, you don't, you deserver the companionship of a fine English walnut tree. I wish the two of you a lifetime of happiness.
Skaladora
08-02-2006, 22:17
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
Hey, if you're relatively attractive and reasonably intelligent, and don't mind giving and receiving lots and lots of affection (in the form of cuddles, hugs, and soft kisses) then I guess you can give me a ring.
That'd kill two birds with one stone. Oh, and I don't cheat, and would like to find someone who actually won't break my heart by leaving me for another guy.
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
Do not place the blame on yourself when it is clearly the fault of others. However, if you linger in such a state of despair then you will find the lonliness you so fear. In other words, cheer up!
Legless Pirates
08-02-2006, 22:22
All I can say is cheese never cheats on you :p
Skaladora
08-02-2006, 22:26
All I can say is cheese never cheats on you :p
You have intercourse with cheese? :eek:
The assholes in these situations are the cheaters. What you deserve is someone WITH an asshole who is NOT an asshole. And cheer up!
Lol! Sig worthy.
Legless Pirates
08-02-2006, 22:28
You have intercourse with cheese? :eek:
How else does one get it under his foreskin? :confused:
Ancient Valyria
08-02-2006, 22:30
You have intercourse with cheese? :eek:
well, he's dutch after all :D
You have intercourse with cheese? :eek:How to you think they make swiss cheese.
The Jackals Pack
08-02-2006, 22:32
Loneliness is only a state of mind. My last relationship ended with her going 'crazy.' Of course I would like to have a girlfriend again, but am happy that I don't. Sometimes you are meant to be single, because there are more important matters in your life, and a relationship just complicates things.
Skaladora
08-02-2006, 22:33
How else does one get it under his foreskin? :confused:
This is more than just slightly disgusting.
This is more than just slightly disgusting.They're just trying to cheeze you off.
Europa alpha
09-02-2006, 18:23
Dude, it probobly aint your fault. I say probobly cos as long as you werent an Asshole she/he shouldnt cheat and should dump you first.
Even THEN id dump first,
Smunkeeville
09-02-2006, 18:31
maybe you need to look into what qualities that you are looking for in a relationship, it could be that you are getting together with jerks because you are looking for jerks (even if you don't mean to)
It's the same thing with women who go from one abusive relationship to another, it's not that they are seeking out abusers, but that it's familiar to them, so they don't see the warning signs before it's too late.
I would sit down and make a list of warning signs (hindsight is 20/20) and keep an eye out for them in any new relationships.
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
Nobody "deserves" human companionship. You are never entitled to have somebody love you or choose to spend their life with you. It is not your "right" to be loved and cherished, no matter how wonderful a person you are.
At the moment it sounds like you certainly should not be pursuing human companionship. You appear to be attracted to individuals who are unfaithful and disrespectful. Your first goal should be identifying why you seek out relationships with people who are not worth your time.
Jello Biafra
09-02-2006, 18:39
I've never understood how cheating could be the fault of anyone but the cheater. No matter what the problems are with the relationship, there's no excuse to cheat.
Deep Kimchi
09-02-2006, 18:40
Is your name Jack Frost?
Eutrusca
09-02-2006, 18:41
When I was straight, my fiance' cheated on me. Today I found out my BF is cheating on me. Do I even deserve human companionship?
You should reassess what it is you're attracted to in a man. I suspect you're doing as many others do: seeking to make up in your relationships that which you were unable to resolve in your relationship with a parent. Happens a lot, sadly. :(
I've never understood how cheating could be the fault of anyone but the cheater. No matter what the problems are with the relationship, there's no excuse to cheat.
Cheating is most certainly the fault of the cheater. However, there will often be cases in which a particular individual is (for whatever reason) drawn to partners who cheat on them. This does NOT mean that the cheated-upon individual is to blame, but it does mean that there may be something they can do to reduce the likelihood they will be cheated on in the future...they can figure out why they are drawn to people who treat them this way, and see if they can figure out how to pursue better partners.