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How many of you would date someone of a diffrent faith, or no faith at all?

For me, I wouldn't mind dating someone who wasn't Christian, I mean it's the person that counts, the personality stuff like that. As long as she respect my religion and my relationship with God and Jesus, I'm happy.

*Poll coming*

Hmm, how does someone add poll after you post it?

I'm not even sure if it is possible to add a poll, but like you, I wouldn't have issues with dating someone of a different faith so long as said individual respects my faith.

It's all about respect.... if you don't respect the other's views you might as well not have a relationship.

But you can debate it of course :D

How many of you would date someone of a diffrent faith, or no faith at all?

For me, I wouldn't mind dating someone who wasn't Christian, I mean it's the person that counts, the personality stuff like that. As long as she respect my religion and my relationship with God and Jesus, I'm happy.

*Poll coming*

My wife is a fairly devout Christian. I'm not. We have two kids, aged 2 1/2. She takes them to church w/ her on Sunday mornings, giving me some wonderful quiet time.

I'm sure there will be issues later if either decide they don't want to go anymore.

My wife is a fairly devout Christian. I'm not. We have two kids, aged 2 1/2. She takes them to church w/ her on Sunday mornings, giving me some wonderful quiet time.

I'm sure there will be issues later if either decide they don't want to go anymore.

Well if she's able to respect your right to not be a Christian, I'm sure she'll be able to cope with one or both of the kids not wanting to be Christian either, since you can't force belief.

I don't really see anything good coming from dating someone of a different religion, but I married someone who was from a different denomination, we have been able to mesh quite well, his denomination wasn't really all that different than mine in the "important stuff" but more in the "grey areas" so it's been easy to compromise.

The Bible does say not to marry someone of a different faith though, if that makes any difference to you.

I don't really see anything good coming from dating someone of a different religion, but I married someone who was from a different denomination, we have been able to mesh quite well, his denomination wasn't really all that different than mine in the "important stuff" but more in the "grey areas" so it's been easy to compromise.

The Bible does say not to marry someone of a different faith though, if that makes any difference to you.

New Testament or Old Testament?

It's all about respect.... if you don't respect the other's views you might as well not have a relationship.

But you can debate it of course :D
I don't think it's a question of respecting the other person's faith, as in what they believe, but it does require that you respect his/her right to believe, and the feelings which go with their belief.

Given that respect (and love), it's possible to have plenty of debates about it without them becoming a source of animosity or division.

New Testament or Old Testament?
new. 2 Corinthians 6:14

There are more verses too, but I don't feel like looking for them, that one pretty much sums it up.

if she didn't force me to go to church or get all christian on me, then i'd be cool with it, but i couldn't really handle a devout follower.

you add a poll by going to thread tools at the top of the page above your OP and clicking "add a poll to this thread"... sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't nowadays...

new. 2 Corinthians 6:14

There are more verses too, but I don't feel like looking for them, that one pretty much sums it up.

Ahh, thanks.

My fiancee is Catholic. I am not; I was raised Lutheran, but I am not practicing. We pretty much agree to disagree, though I am letting her have a Catholic wedding (the priest is an old friend of her father's.) We do have things about each other's beliefs that we don't understand...she can't imagine not believing in God, and I can't imagine standing by a theory such as Creationism, but then again, we have a lot we don't see eye-to-eye on, so whatever.

new. 2 Corinthians 6:14

There are more verses too, but I don't feel like looking for them, that one pretty much sums it up.

Now do 1 Corinthians 7:12+

It says that it is better to marry than live in sin and that if your husband/wife is a non-beleiver, you shouldn't leave them.

Now do 1 Corinthians 7:12+

It says that it is better to marry than live in sin and that if your husband/wife is a non-beleiver, you shouldn't leave them.
that's if you are already married, divorce is worse than trying to work out a bad situation, but not getting into a bad situation is the idea of the 2 Cor. verse.

I dont really belive in the Big Man in the Sky, so it really dosent matter to me

unless they were from some sicko religion, were they like, kill puppies and kittens, then no

that's if you are already married, divorce is worse than trying to work out a bad situation, but not getting into a bad situation is the idea of the 2 Cor. verse.

My apologies. 7:8+

8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Lots of different interpretations.

I dont really belive in the Big Man in the Sky, so it really dosent matter to me

unless they were from some sicko religion, were they like, kill puppies and kittens, then no

The Kill All Cute Things Cult hates you now. :p

No problem here. In all the relationships I've had, religious differences haven't figured that much. I know sometimes it's important for them that I accompany them to some special church thing (like a wedding, funeral, or whatever) and I'll go. It's not like I'm allergic or something.

My apologies. 7:8+

8Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I am. 9But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Lots of different interpretations.
That is about staying unmarried to be a better evangelist. If for some reason you are just really horny then it's better for you to get married so you can have sex instead of having sex outside of marriage or just thinking about it all the time and distracting you from evangelizing. ;)

I might have said no a few years back, but, since I met my boyfriend, I changed my mind. funny that. Really, falling in love with a couple goys won't kill me.
Still not sure about marrying someone fron a different religion though - it could be cause for conflict in a social/cultural way as much as a conflict in belief.

I don't think I'd have a problem being in a relationship with an indevidual of another religion as long as we could reach an agreement on who gets what...like who passes on their religion, which church the wedding tqakes place in.

Like my current girlfriend is a Lutheren and I'm a Catholic which had create a bit of tension early on, but we have agreed that our children will be her religion, the wedding will be mine and the Children's names will be chosen by me.

I've dated guys who are religious before. Well, lapsed in their practice.

I prefer atheist/agnostic guys. If we're talking marriage, he'll at least have to accept the fact that it won't be a religious wedding.

Theoretically I'd say I would, but it depends on the extremity of the disparity I guess. I've never really had it come up; everyone I've liked and who liked me well enough to get to know me has been atheist, agnostic, or some very vague and individual set of beliefs that doesn't really fit an organized religion (except for that one Jewish boy). I've waffled between all these categories and the basic idea of me, and these people I've liked, is that we believe what we believe but our morals aren't associated with our spirituality, and so it doesn't make who we are, instead who we are chooses what we believe. I'd like to think it doesn't matter to me, but if someone didn't respect my beliefs (or lack thereof) I couldn't be with them, and in a religion like Christianity we'd have to see how it worked, because many Christians make their religion a part of their identity and I don't know if I could deal with that. It just really depends... if they thought I was going to hell for not believing (like one of my friends, he doesn't mention it but we both know what he thinks) then I couldn't do that, but just if they believed there was only one God but didn't need me to that's fine. In any case our morals would have to line up. So I guess I hope I would, but it's never really been an issue.

My wife is a practicing Mormon, and when I'm surpised I say "Jesus Christ with a dead hooker in his trunk".

She still laughed her ass of at Orgazmo, moreso than I did.

My fiancee falls into the catagory of most Japanese, Shinto for some stuff, Buddhist for others, and normally just doesn't think about it. I'm Presbyterian, but haven't been in quite some time (mainly due to being so far away from a church).

Normally it isn't a problem. I act polite when I'm taken to temples and shrines, and bow and clap when I'm told to, and she puts up with my insistance of following some religious traditions of my own.

The only part where it has gotten a bit strange is that she is insisting that we have a full Christian wedding, when I am perfectly happy to have a non-denominational and non-religious wedding. But, then again, Japanese women tend to think that a traditional wedding is very romantiku, and many Japanese see no problem with hopping religions whenever you want something done that is covered better in another one.

I'm vaguely spiritual, but don't really consider myself a member of any religion, so... As long as their beliefs weren't hateful ("All [nonbelievers/gays/etc.] will burn for an eternity!"), I have no problem with being in a relationship with someone of a different belief system.

I am Asatru/Heathen guy and I wouldn't mind dating anyone of a different ethnic/religious background at all. I would be able to date anyone, and probably anyone with any kind of ethnic or religious background.

my girlfriend is a practicing christian and i am, well, not of the believing type. its working out fine.

I'm vaguely spiritual, but don't really consider myself a member of any religion, so... As long as their beliefs weren't hateful ("All [nonbelievers/gays/etc.] will burn for an eternity!"), I have no problem with being in a relationship with someone of a different belief system.
how is that hateful exactly?

how is that hateful exactly?
Well, being convinced that your potential significant other is doomed to an eternity of torture doesn't exactly spread the love around. So.... yeah, I can see how you could call that hateful, or at least pretty negative.

Have a relationship? Sure! I don't expect relationships to last. I just like to see where they go. Marriage? Well, that's another story...

I really can't see where relationships can be that much of a problem where one person has distinct religious practices and the other has none/is apathetic about religion. Some people go to church. Other people go bowling. Doesn't mean you have to do everything together.

Now, when you have two different religions getting together, especially when both are evangelical in nature, that's going to create some friction.

Absolutly

But the second they try to guilt me into anything I dont want or try to make me feel bad about what I am I dump them on the spot

I don't think that I could have a relationship with someone who didn't share my faith simply because it's such a deep part of me, I need it shared, not just respected. It's not just about what I think about things, it's about my whole world view and perspective on life.

A relationship needs a certain amount of common ground - and that, for me, has to be part of it. I could go for a guy who wasn't a computer guy. Or who didn't like martial arts. Or who didn't like music. Or any number of other things about which I care. But to differ on the essentials of religion is too deep, too important a disagreement on just how to approach life.