NationStates Jolt Archive

So the guy I'm dating has some facial hair that he keeps pretty short and as a result it's kinda prickly and has irritated the skin above my upper lip and on my chin.

It's kinda peeling a bit. Is there anything I can do to fix this? We haven't been dating long so I don't think I get to dictate his facial hair at this point and I'm not going to just tell him to get rid of it for my sake.

So the guy I'm dating has some facial hair that he keeps pretty short and as a result it's kinda prickly and has irritated the skin above my upper lip and on my chin.

It's kinda peeling a bit. Is there anything I can do to fix this? We haven't been dating long so I don't think I get to dictate his facial hair at this point and I'm not going to just tell him to get rid of it for my sake.

Um... if it's causing skin problems you might be able to make an exception. Of course, you simply ask, rather than dictate.

My girlfriend complains about my facial hair being irratating sometimes. She uses an aloe moisturizer. It seems to work.

put some cocoa butter on it, it will get your skin soft again, and try not to be such a sloppy kisser, wiskers+saliva=peeling skin

I make my husband shave, although right now he is growing out a beard for a play (cute, but scratchy;) )

So the guy I'm dating has some facial hair that he keeps pretty short and as a result it's kinda prickly and has irritated the skin above my upper lip and on my chin.

It's kinda peeling a bit. Is there anything I can do to fix this? We haven't been dating long so I don't think I get to dictate his facial hair at this point and I'm not going to just tell him to get rid of it for my sake.
I have this problem, or rather I did....my boyfriend is the quintessential "scruffy" guy who doesn't even look right without facial hair. I know it's uncomfortable and really annoying, and probably red and unsightly from time to time, but here is what I have to say.

For the redness, get a Revlon "New Complexion" green stick, then apply that and some tinted powder or concealer when it gets irritated. Green counters redness.
For the irritation, use either a heavy moisturizer or, if your skin isn't prone to breakouts, maybe even some Neosporin to shorten healing time and cut down on dryness. The skin will eventually grow accustomed to the sensation and/or harden in those areas.
Absolutely do not TELL him to do anything. Suggest that you try different lengths of his facial hair until you reach a happy medium.

I will say this, as one last bit -- in my experience, longer facial hair (anything over about a quarter inch) is actually less abrasive, so you'll likely be having more problems with shorter than that or the very beginnings of regrowth. Because of that, I'd suggest against attempting for him to shave it all off. Of course, to each their own....what works for me may not be wonderful for you.

Best of luck.

As long as you guys discuss things nicely you should be able to reach something that works for both of you, whether he decides to shave or grow his facial hair to a less abrasive length.

Yeah, the last guy I dated had facial hair, but it was longer so it didn't bother me... I may mention something about it irritating me, but he seems to like his facial hair the way it is and I don't mind so long as I can make my skin be happy about it.

And I'll try the suggestions... will exfoliating the skin that's deceided to kinda peel off a bit help?

Yeah, the last guy I dated had facial hair, but it was longer so it didn't bother me... I may mention something about it irritating me, but he seems to like his facial hair the way it is and I don't mind so long as I can make my skin be happy about it.

And I'll try the suggestions... will exfoliating the skin that's deceided to kinda peel off a bit help?
Usually exfoliation only breaks off the already dead skin. In this situation, it's much more likley that the damaged skin is already alive. Try a light exfoliant but if that doesnt' work, don't force it, or you might do more damage ;)

Yeah, the last guy I dated had facial hair, but it was longer so it didn't bother me... I may mention something about it irritating me, but he seems to like his facial hair the way it is and I don't mind so long as I can make my skin be happy about it.

And I'll try the suggestions... will exfoliating the skin that's deceided to kinda peel off a bit help?
it could help a little. How long is his facial hair? I was thinking that my when my husband was growing his out once he put conditioner on it, it really helped it be less scratchy, he felt dumb doing it, but it worked out for him better in the long run.

My girlfriend hated my beard and told me on a regular basis. So one day I just shaved it and grew a beard.

it could help a little. How long is his facial hair? I was thinking that my when my husband was growing his out once he put conditioner on it, it really helped it be less scratchy, he felt dumb doing it, but it worked out for him better in the long run.
It's not very long at all, he seems to keep it at like 3 mm or so. It's almost like stubble, but intentional.

I hate facial hair as well, but, my boyfriend likes his, and we eventually reached a compromise.

I think you should try and talk to him about it, as well as trying to use a gentle cream to treat the irritated area. If you're going to be kissing him, it should be enjoyable for both.

No more kissing. More fellatio.

Problem solved :p