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if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.

Sure.

As with any instance of unreturned interest, it might get difficult; but initially I'd definitely see it as a compliment.

Yup. It's happened before and I've just said I'm not interested.

First thought was yes. But it would all depend on the person. what was said and the circumstaces, etc. Same as if it were the opposite sex.

I'll take what I can get, thank you very much.

I would probably punch them in the face and level their neighborhood.

I would probably punch them in the face and level their neighborhood.
*Nods sagely* I recall the last time someone took interest in me. 1945, I believe. Some town called Hiroshima.

Yes, because all the ladies I know value the opinions their gay friends. :D

Meh. Doubt it would happen. If it did, I’d probably be a little weirded out, just my natural compulsion towards homosexuality, my problem not theirs.
I certainly wouldn’t be offended, though.

Eh, I would be flattered.

for some reason lesbians think I am hot........I have no clue why, anyway, it's flattering until they try to kiss me, then it's uncomfortable, but yeah, I suppose it gets even more uncomfortable for a guy who tries to kiss me because I would smack him, where I would just talk to a chick about boundries, double standard? absolutely. ;)

I would probably punch them in the face and level their neighborhood.

O good grief. I'll take that as a sarcasm.

It wouldn't exactly be a complement necessarily because the standards may be different. I'm not sure being attractive in a gay sort of way would be a good thing, and the fact that they expressed interest may point to assumptions they're making about you. So no, I wouldn't take it as a complement.

Of course. It's always nice knowing someone finds you attractive, and on those occasions I've been approached by women, none have ever had any untoward behaviour.

I've been to gay bars when there was a good band playing and have been hit on on occasion - usually without issue. I thank them for the offer then decline, usually with a witticisim about playing for the other team.

If they get stupid beyond that, well, I do exactly what I taught my sister to do in similar situations. I break them... messily.

It wouldn't exactly be a complement necessarily because the standards may be different. I'm not sure being attractive in a gay sort of way would be a good thing, and the fact that they expressed interest may point to assumptions they're making about you. So no, I wouldn't take it as a complement.

Really, some gay guys are into the whole "fem-" sorta thing. I'm not. My ideal BF is handsome, strong, manly. Kinda like me, only I'm ugly as sin.

On the rare occasions that humans take interest in me, I always end up sleeping with them. Gender be damned.

Beggars can't be choosers, after all.

It wouldn't exactly be a complement necessarily because the standards may be different. I'm not sure being attractive in a gay sort of way would be a good thing, and the fact that they expressed interest may point to assumptions they're making about you. So no, I wouldn't take it as a complement.You still get free advertising though. :D

It wouldn't exactly be a complement necessarily because the standards may be different. I'm not sure being attractive in a gay sort of way would be a good thing, and the fact that they expressed interest may point to assumptions they're making about you. So no, I wouldn't take it as a complement.
You're assuming gays like a certain sort of guy who's acting "girly" in accordance to your stereotypes. This assumption is flawed. A lot of gay men like nice, ordinary Joe type of guys. I'm one of them.


This also shows you're assuming gays are inferior and/or that someone thinking you might be gay is demeaning to you. They're not, and it's not.

I've been to gay bars when there was a good band playing and have been hit on on occasion - usually without issue. I thank them for the offer then decline, usually with a witticisim about playing for the other team.

If they get stupid beyond that, well, I do exactly what I taught my sister to do in similar situations. I break them... messily.

:)

Gay bars- Better music, friendlier bartenders and cheaper drinks. Of course, if you play your cards right, even if you are straight, you'll drink for free. ;)

It is not complimentary in that I am not of such sexual preference, but it isn't insulting either. I doubt anyone would find me attractive, but I have heard rumors. I must say, though, that someone of the same gender finding me attractive would only bother me in the sense that I don't think I'm physically attractive (I assume you meant physically). Other than that, I'm indifferent.

I have had the experience of being hit on by the same sex and I can't really say I was able to take it as a compliment or be offended. I think I took it in much the same way that I would have taken it if they told me my aura was purple: "um, okay..."

I have had the experience of being hit on by the same sex and I can't really say I was able to take it as a compliment or be offended. I think I took it in much the same way that I would have taken it if they told me my aura was purple: "um, okay..."
Actually, a purple aura has meaning; someone not belonging to your sexual preference finding you attractive does not.:D

No. My childhood best friend decided to try out lesbianism on me, and any same-sex interest would remind me of a few horrible scenes wherein I had to allow as how I was not similarly interested. The whole thing ruined a perfectly good friendship.

Not flattering - just weird.

for some reason lesbians think I am hot........I have no clue why, anyway, it's flattering until they try to kiss me, then it's uncomfortable, but yeah, I suppose it gets even more uncomfortable for a guy who tries to kiss me because I would smack him, where I would just talk to a chick about boundries, double standard? absolutely. ;)
yeah I have the same problems with lesbians...but I feel bad for them because I am straight...and I am not sure I could measure up to their silicone toys.

Sure, why not.

*Nods sagely* I recall the last time someone took interest in me. 1945, I believe. Some town called Hiroshima.
Chuck Norris, is that you?

yes but would not dwell on it

I get hit on by guys a lot more than I do women for some reason. I don't know what it is about me.

At first I took it as a compliment, but when it got to the stage of a 50 or 60something year old bald fat guy hitting on me, I got very frustrated.

Wow, that's embarrassing. But true story.

So in all honesty - And while this may sound bad to some, I don't consider myself homophobic and i'm not disgusted or repulsed by guys taking an interest in me in the slightest - but I do admit that I find it rather frustrating. I try not to show that, though.

if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.
I get it all the time.On here......

I get hit on by guys a lot more than I do women for some reason. I don't know what it is about me.

At first I took it as a compliment, but when it got to the stage of a 50 or 60-something year old bald fat guy hitting on me, I got very frustrated.

Wow, that's embarrassing. But true story.

So in all honesty - And while this may sound bad to some, I don't consider myself homophobic and i'm not disgusted or repulsed by guys taking an interest in me in the slightest - but I do admit that I find it rather frustrating. I try not to show that, though.

Unless you're 50 or 60-something, then that's just wrong. It'd be wrong if a 50 or 60-something guy hit on a young woman as well.

Sure. I got to gay bars with my (gay) best friend quite often; I've only had "interest" from another woman a couple of times, and have politely declined. I still found it rather flattering though, especially since the women in question were friendly and respectful (unlike the odd drunken bloke in a pub yelling "show us you tits, luv!")

Of course i'd take it as a compliment. An annoying compliment since it wouldn't lead to me getting any, but still

Sure. I got to gay bars with my (gay) best friend quite often; I've only had "interest" from another woman a couple of times, and have politely declined. I still found it rather flattering though, especially since the women in question were friendly and respectful (unlike the odd drunken bloke in a pub yelling "show us you tits, luv!")

I have never once asked anyone to show me thier tits.

Unless you're 50 or 60-something, then that's just wrong. It'd be wrong if a 50 or 60-something guy hit on a young woman as well.

Yeah, it was....creepy.

I have never once asked anyone to show me thier tits.And by emphasising the point that it was the "odd" bloke, I was inferring that neither do the majority of men.

I've pretended to be straight around guys like that. They are creepy.

And by emphasising the point that it was the "odd" bloke, I was inferring that neither do the majority of men.

Or at least, we don't do it in that fashion.

And by emphasising the point that it was the "odd" bloke, I was inferring that neither do the majority of men.

Didn't think you were.

It's late, and it was a lame attempt at humor. :rolleyes: <--directed at me

Didn't think you were.

It's late, and it was a lame attempt at humor. :rolleyes: <--directed at meOK, sorry. I'm not completely awake myself right now, even though it's the middle of the day here :p

Definitely. :D Its always fun to see girls checking me out, even though I am not into them.

No and I'd likely do something completely inappropriate for the circumstances.

I get hit on by guys a lot more than I do women for some reason. I don't know what it is about me.

At first I took it as a compliment, but when it got to the stage of a 50 or 60something year old bald fat guy hitting on me, I got very frustrated.

Wow, that's embarrassing. But true story.

So in all honesty - And while this may sound bad to some, I don't consider myself homophobic and i'm not disgusted or repulsed by guys taking an interest in me in the slightest - but I do admit that I find it rather frustrating. I try not to show that, though.

I don't think that sounds bad at all. You're talking frustrating here - hell, everybody would be frustrated if it were the wrong people hitting on them most of the time, I imagine. I know I would.
As for that old guy hitting on you that's just disgusting in and of itself seeing his age*. Also, it's embarrassing to him, not you.

*yeah, I know, look who's talking :D. But I thought you were a bit older, I swear! And I'm not 60 :eek:. And not a guy :p.


I have had the experience of being hit on by the same sex and I can't really say I was able to take it as a compliment or be offended. I think I took it in much the same way that I would have taken it if they told me my aura was purple: "um, okay..."
LOL. I can totally see that. :p

is it a compliment when drunk people hit on me? not really. :p

if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.
No because it's getting annoying.

if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.
as long as they accept that I am not interested in them? I won't be insulted, nor will I be uncomfortable with it.

if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.
I'm bisexual, but I could answer a variation of your question:

"Would you take it as a compliment if someone you are not attracted to took an interest in you?"

Well, it would obviously depend on how they expressed that interest, but typically I do take it as a compliment.

I don't think that sounds bad at all. You're talking frustrating here - hell, everybody would be frustrated if it were the wrong people hitting on them most of the time, I imagine. I know I would.
As for that old guy hitting on you that's just disgusting in and of itself seeing his age*. Also, it's embarrassing to him, not you.

*yeah, I know, look who's talking :D. But I thought you were a bit older, I swear! And I'm not 60 :eek:. And not a guy :p.

Eh, fair enough. It doesn't feel right that it should piss me off even so. Oh well.

(Out of curiousity, how old are you, if you don't mind me asking? :p)

I'm an utter famewhore and an uncurable flirt.
The only bad attention is no attention!

Eh, fair enough. It doesn't feel right that it should piss me off even so. Oh well.

(Out of curiousity, how old are you, if you don't mind me asking? :p)
To avoid too much off-topic-ness: TGed you. :D

It's happened, and I just tell them thanks, I'm flattered but not interested.

if someone of the gender you are not interested in took interest in you? Just curious based on past experiences.
That has happened to me several times. The first couple of times I was so nonplussed that I was speechless. Later, I began to look on it as a compliment, depending to some extent on who it was and what they were like. It certainly doesn't offend me and I always try to thank them and assure them that I'm almost disgustingly hetero. :D

Sure, as long as their style of flirting isn't the hands on type.