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I apoligise if this is not interesting to the majority of you, but I really need to know this. I have been going out with my gf for a long time now, but it has gone kinda on and off and to be honest I thought it was pretty much over. Then she gives me for christmas one of those necklaces that is half a heart and showed me her other half!!! I was speechless for a moment, but I managed to give it back gracefully by basically saying that because of school work I couldn't really do anything for a while, and so we should look at that sort of thing when we had both got out of this work heavy period. I havn't seen her for about four or more weeks, and I'm going to see her today at a skating thing we both go to. I am going to try and play it cool, but soon I know I'm gonna have to tell her I have moved on. But I really don't know how to do it without hurting her feelings, can any of you help?

Edit: BTW I'm fifteen, and so is she.

Tell her you're joining the Priesthood.

You would be the greatest judge of what to say, TBH. As long as you keep yourself in perspective, think of who you are and how insignificant your existence really is compared to the rest of the world (hey, calms me down), and say what you think is best; you should come out of it relatively un-embarrassed.

Tell her you got Herpes from her Dad and gave them to her mom.

i doubt i can say something helpful, most likely it would be something completely rude and disgusting, though it is probably likely to work, not that i would suggest actually doing it

I think that if you've already told her you're not ready for the commitment that comes with the kind of novelty necklace that can sometimes be aquired with a skill crane she might have already gotten an early signal that the end is nigh. This might be a shorter conversation than you think it will be.


How about, "I had to choose between you and tacos, and this place just opened up next to me that's got really good tacos, so..." (that'll be short, if you don't mind it ending suddenly with a slap...)

The main problem I have is that I see her every week at a skating thing we both go to. So I really need to keep us on friendly terms.

The main problem I have is that I see her every week at a skating thing we both go to. So I really need to keep us on friendly terms.
try being honest and saying something along the lines of "the spark just isn't there anymore"

The main problem I have is that I see her every week at a skating thing we both go to. So I really need to keep us on friendly terms.
Dump her. Keep flirting. If she bites, you might have a friend with benefits for the rest of you High School career, and those are hard to come by. In other words: be really playful boy who is just a friend.
I think that's pretty non-commital.
Its jock mentality, but non-commital nevertheless.

But I really don't know how to do it without hurting her feelings, can any of you help?

The person who could tell you a sure way to do this would not be posting on this forum, but getting a nice tan on the tropical island of his/her choice with the money they made from putting the knowledge in books & talkshows.

Basicly: she will probably be hurt somewhat. I recommend honesty over sweet little lies; little lies can give false hope and people tend to find out about them - getting hurt even more.

The main problem I have is that I see her every week at a skating thing we both go to. So I really need to keep us on friendly terms.

So tell her you still like her and value her as a friend, but don't feel anything more for her. Also, make absolutely certain that she knows you still want to be friends. It sounds as though you haven't been that close lately anyway, so this may not be exactly unexpected.

Good luck anyway.

How about, "I had to choose between you and tacos, and this place just opened up next to me that's got really good tacos, so..." (that'll be short, if you don't mind it ending suddenly with a slap...)

Do that one, and have a friend take a picture of the reaction.. then post it here. . . . .;)

You're asking how to *end* a relationship? Er...don't mind me, but...yeah. I'll be in the next thread.

Convince her that you're gay.

i doubt i can say something helpful, most likely it would be something completely rude and disgusting, though it is probably likely to work, not that i would suggest actually doing it
Herpes.

hey dude if u feel like it cant go on dont let it...sit down and have a talk with her and see if she feels the same way...try and still be friends with her afterwards. lol careful she doesnt do this to ya though


you her

:eek: :sniper:

if you pay the airfare to get over to you, i'll walk up to you and kiss you in front of her. it should work considering i'm a guy. it'd make an amusing story for the next time i'm drinking with friends.
i can't be nice and helpfull all the time, can i? :p

Herpes.

Nuh-uh. Gonorrhoea.

give her the song sex dwarf by softcell and tell her it applies to your relationship with her
yes, that is the song i'm currently listening to

Nuh-uh. Gonorrhoea.
Ye don't need to tell the mabout that they can smell it from a mile well when i aint stenching the place up covered in Carrion or Spaniard.

Whatever you do, don't say "Its not you, its me."


Just talk to her. If you've been avoiding her for a month, I'm sure she'll have an idea somethings not right.

i don't know... i've never dumped a girl so i have no experience.

i think what i would do would be to sit her down somewhere quiet and at least give her that respect rather than just telling her off the cuff in the middle of a social event. tell her how your feelings have changed, and why if you can explain it. be honest and tell her the whole story. just be sure to still be tactufl cos the truth - while it is better to know it - can hurt.

Dear baby:

Welcome to dumpsville, population: you.

I apoligise if this is not interesting to the majority of you, but I really need to know this. I have been going out with my gf for a long time now, but it has gone kinda on and off and to be honest I thought it was pretty much over. Then she gives me for christmas one of those necklaces that is half a heart and showed me her other half!!! I was speechless for a moment, but I managed to give it back gracefully by basically saying that because of school work I couldn't really do anything for a while, and so we should look at that sort of thing when we had both got out of this work heavy period. I havn't seen her for about four or more weeks, and I'm going to see her today at a skating thing we both go to. I am going to try and play it cool, but soon I know I'm gonna have to tell her I have moved on. But I really don't know how to do it without hurting her feelings, can any of you help?
Edit: BTW I'm fifteen, and so is she.
And what about your feelings?
You moved on means you are with someone else? Or that you have to go far away? Or that you have forgot what it's like to be with her?
Maybe she moved on too after you rejected her gift? Then telling her you moved on doesn't make much sense.

"Hey, babe-It's nice to see you. I've been thinking about you a l-...Hey, look at that ass! Maybe we should see other people..."

"I just think I'm looking for different things, you know? Do you have a younger sister, maybe with bigger breasts?"

Her: "Hi."
You: "Yak yak yak. Damn bitch, you ever shut up? Fuck this, we broken up."

Her: "Hi! I miss-"
You: "Tell it to the hand."

(Have her get your skates for you, when she comes back with them-)
"How could you get me these skates? You don't know anything about me. We should break up.

I'm probably only amusing myself, so I'll give a 'real' answer, which is kind of prevelent-it's going to take a long conversation where you're honest with her and yourself, and you're going to make promises and assurances that you may or may not keep. And maybe she'll cry. And maybe you'll cry. Maybe one of you will stop going to the skating thing. Maybe you won't. It will suck more than you think but won't be as bad as you expect. One thing is for sure, you're not going to discover a formula.

And what about your feelings?
You moved on means you are with someone else? Or that you have to go far away? Or that you have forgot what it's like to be with her?
Maybe she moved on too after you rejected her gift? Then telling her you moved on doesn't make much sense.

I just don't like her in that way any more. I suppose more accurately I WANT to move on. I suppose I understand what you are all saying, which seems to basically be that I just need to talk to her, and take all that comes with that. It just seems so hard to do...

I just don't like her in that way any more. I suppose more accurately I WANT to move on. I suppose I understand what you are all saying, which seems to basically be that I just need to talk to her, and take all that comes with that. It just seems so hard to do...

Welcome to the start of your adult life ;)

So tell her you still like her and value her as a friend, but don't feel anything more for her. Also, make absolutely certain that she knows you still want to be friends. It sounds as though you haven't been that close lately anyway, so this may not be exactly unexpected.

Good luck anyway.
That is the exact same advice I was going to give:)

If you want to be friends make sure she knows you do, most guys say "let's be friends" but they don't really mean it, so she may take it that you don't really want to be friends, and if you don't want to be friends for God's sake DO NOT say "let's just be friends" because it's not very nice.

One thing is for sure, you're not going to discover a formula.

*critically* I'm not so sure bout that CtoaN....
...I mean, just look at this -
"I just think I'm looking for different things, you know? Do you have a younger sister, maybe with bigger breasts?" -:p

Thats a sure fire way to get slapped, but get it over with quick. Sounds like a formula ^^.

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444 posts!:)

Tell her that you are really a furry and always imagined having a threesome with another guy.

If you find it hard to talk about your feelings with her you can always try to pretend nothing happened. I mean, if you haven't seen her for about 4 weeks she probably already understands you wanna break up with her. So you can just be friendly and pretend you never had a relationship.
That's how must of my relationship ended when I was 15 years old.

*critically* I'm not so sure bout that CtoaN....
...I mean, just look at this -
"I just think I'm looking for different things, you know? Do you have a younger sister, maybe with bigger breasts?" -:p

Thats a sure fire way to get slapped, but get it over with quick. Sounds like a formula ^^.

Edit: W00t!!!!onehundredthousaneleventy!!11!
444 posts!:)
Touche. I should have said a "formula for ending it well."

Now, for causing a trainwreck-yeah, as we can see I've got a few ideas...:cool:

Bah, trainwreck is easy, it is trying to keep it together that is the problem. If I wanted a train wreck I'd just walk up to her and say: "So sexy, wanna fuck?", and the relationship would be over is seconds ;)

Bah, trainwreck is easy, it is trying to keep it together that is the problem. If I wanted a train wreck I'd just walk up to her and say: "So sexy, wanna fuck?", and the relationship would be over is seconds ;)

Well.. she could say yes :P

:)
Do it!
Do it!

Basically the same way you dump a guy. Be honest and tell her that she is very special to you and because of that, you have to be honest with her-because she deserves that. Then just tell her how you feel. If you feel its time to see other people, then tell her that. If its because you have your own personal issues that need sorting out and you dont have time to commint to a relationship, tell her that. Whatever the reasons are for you to want to move on and end the relationship....just tell her. If its because you want to date other people, but you give her the excuse "I dont have time to date." then when she see's you with another girl, it will feel like a slap in the face. Be honest with yourself, then honest with her. Be gentle and polite and she may take it very well. Break ups are hard. Thats just the way it is.

-snip-

On the flip side, she can become very emotional, refuse to believe anything you tell her, blame either you/her and give you death glares every class, while doing other things like cultivating rumors.
:)
Good luck.

On the flip side, she can become very emotional, refuse to believe anything you tell her, blame either you/her and give you death glares every class, while doing other things like cultivating rumors.
:)
Good luck.

Thanks for the pep talk :(

Two options essentially, be honest, be courageous, and tell her you would frankly rather be "just friends", but do tell her you cherish her freindship, it always helps. Or, cheat on her, screw someone else, and eventually, word will arrive at her ears by virtue of rumours, and one need not dump her oneself.

Well, there's two way I see it that coud help, and it would only leave for minimal retaliation. Both of them are going to need you to be suggestively calm and natural for her, and never try to move too quickly if you still want her to be friends. Try simple calm reasoning, and never be irrational.

Sympathy:
There's sympathy you can try. You can talk to her about what you've been doing, how much you had to work, but blow it slightly out of proportion so it seems that you have much more work than the average person. There's a chance that you could get more than you bargained for, as that if she is sympathetic to you, if the workload goes down, then your relationship might have another chance, which might not be a good thing from your view since you wanted to end it.

Honesty
This, I guess, is the best way. Just be honest with her, but also calm, smooth, and accomodating. She (if your girlfriend will respond to the women I've seen before, of which only one I've 'dumped') will most likely agree, but it might not really sink in until a little later.

Then again, this is just me, and what you believe in my words is of the value you believe in me.

Thanks for the pep talk :(

*shrug* Sometimes it goes that way, sometimes their angels about it. Just remember, if you ignore her afterwards, it wont even matter/ be a thought at the forefront.

Tell her you've been experimenting with guys and think that inside you're really a girl. Ask her what it's like and if she would recommend surgery.

"Hey, babe-It's nice to see you. I've been thinking about you a l-...Hey, look at that ass! Maybe we should see other people..."

"I just think I'm looking for different things, you know? Do you have a younger sister, maybe with bigger breasts?"

Her: "Hi."
You: "Yak yak yak. Damn bitch, you ever shut up? Fuck this, we broken up."

Her: "Hi! I miss-"
You: "Tell it to the hand."

(Have her get your skates for you, when she comes back with them-)
"How could you get me these skates? You don't know anything about me. We should break up.


Damn that made me laugh!

You're asking how to *end* a relationship? Er...don't mind me, but...yeah. I'll be in the next thread.

Seconded. And to whoever suggested the "I just don't feel that way about you, but I'd still like to be friends line," that hurts too. I should know, I've heard it a few times, albeit before any relationship started.

be TRUE to yourself, be TRUE to her. truth works wonders.. you can't argue with it.

Best practice is to find a friend interested in her and send him to talk to her, pickup line "are you still Moto the Wise's girlfriend?"
if she says no, then it's ok. It's a win-win-(potential)win situation.
if she says yes, then you'll have to deal with it, but hey, you tried, and she won't feel as bad for breaking up if your friend made a good impression and gave the right hints.

Honesty is the best policy. Even if one thinks that they are trying to be nice, compromising one's integrity is not the way to do it. As far as being honest goes, tell her how you feel, not what you think of her.

I suppose you could do it the same way that you would fire someone from a job. If you have some place that is considered to be "your" space, invite her to meet you there, say your peace, and since she has no choice but to leave afterwards, that would be an acknowledgement of the breakup. Friday would be best, that way she can go find her other friends and get together rather than stewing all week and coming up with a way to go postal on you.

Walk with her, perferably outside, look her in the eyes and say: "I think things might be over with us...her potential questions as to why...because bitch your face is extreme!"

Minus that last part is usually a good way to break up with someone you like. My first girlfriend broke up with me the day before I left to college over a fucking email, for the love of god don't do that to someone. I broke up with my second girlfriend in a pretty ugly fight, she kept trying to control me and I just got pissed and let her have it. Now the entirety of her dorm wants me dead.

Be gentle about it and add niceties into it.

Try the old "I think maybe we should see other people" technique. Tell her you have been speaking with some family members (uncle, dad, grandfather, or some other older male that she knows you respect) and you are convinced that this thing is moving too fast. She doesn't deserve to be tied down to you, and you don't deserve to be tied down either. Express to her that you don't intend for this to be permanent, but you are too young to give up your freedom and so is she. If you want to maintain a relationship with her, then you can continue to enjoy the benefits of your relationship without the "strings". Good luck man!!

Thanks guys. BTW if there are any girls reading this, could you possibly give your perspective, how would you like to be dumped (if you had to be)?

Thanks guys. BTW if there are any girls reading this, could you possibly give your perspective, how would you like to be dumped (if you had to be)?Girl here.
Honestly, it sounds to me like you're already broken up - I mean hell, you haven't seen her for four weeks. That isn't exactly a relationship. If you want to make sure that you actually are, and get some 'closure' - which isn't a bad idea fgor both of you, just approach her before/after the skating thing and say that since you're boith so busy, you think its better that you stay officially friends, and not kep up the ruse of beeing together. Honestly just talk to her in a normal, friendly way - there probably won't be any resentment.

aw, this reminds me of when i was 15! i went out with those boy who skated, but only to make his best friend jealous. and then i think that when i realized it wasn't working i dumped him by calling him and singing "I Know that its Over" by The Smiths on his voicemail. But I don't recommend that. I think he called me a bitch after that.

But yeah, just say "Hey, I'm a 15 year old boy. I can't be held responsible for my actions, so I am going to break up with you. And you are a 15 year old girl, which means that you will be over it and in love with someone else in 3 days. So yeah. See you at the mall."

or you could sleep with her best friend. that always works!

Achually that's not a bad idea...

...but then we wouldn't still be on good terms. Still, it's all good :fluffle:

Moto, you should get involved on TVP's regional forum. We're nice. [/off-topic]

Moto, you should get involved on TVP's regional forum. We're nice. [/off-topic]

But to be honest little goes on there. Too few people posting. Still, I'll have a look in (I'm there now) [/off-topic]

I apoligise if this is not interesting to the majority of you, but I really need to know this. I have been going out with my gf for a long time now, but it has gone kinda on and off and to be honest I thought it was pretty much over. Then she gives me for christmas one of those necklaces that is half a heart and showed me her other half!!! I was speechless for a moment, but I managed to give it back gracefully by basically saying that because of school work I couldn't really do anything for a while, and so we should look at that sort of thing when we had both got out of this work heavy period. I havn't seen her for about four or more weeks, and I'm going to see her today at a skating thing we both go to. I am going to try and play it cool, but soon I know I'm gonna have to tell her I have moved on. But I really don't know how to do it without hurting her feelings, can any of you help?

Edit: BTW I'm fifteen, and so is she.

Be honest and just tell her you have moved on. You don't mind remaining friends, but nothing more. She will be hurt but she will get over it. If you are not honest with her she will find out and be hurt even more.

If you're rich, just emigrate.

To quote the Genie in Aladdin...

...tell her THE TRUTH!

I mean, it's not rocket science. Don't be rude. Don't be mean. Just tell her how you feel, and if you like, apologize. She might be a little hurt still - I mean, you just said she doesn't do it for you - but at least you didn't make an idiot of yourself or of her. Usually things will be ok not too long after that.

If you're rich, just emigrate.

If you're poor, fake your own death.

If you're poor, fake your own death.

There we go then! Problem solved!

If you're poor, fake your own death.

that could be awkward when you run into her at the mall though....you'd have to pretend to be your own secret identical twin and unless you're a pro, it could get messy.

Theres no way u can tell her without breaking her heart what ever u say will break her heart no matter what so just go out there and tell her u are dumping her.

Theres no way u can tell her without breaking her heart what ever u say will break her heart no matter what so just go out there and tell her u are dumping her.

Doyouknowhowtowrightusingproperspellingpunctuationandcapitalization?:eek:

"Hey, babe-It's nice to see you. I've been thinking about you a l-...Hey, look at that ass! Maybe we should see other people..."

"I just think I'm looking for different things, you know? Do you have a younger sister, maybe with bigger breasts?"

Her: "Hi."
You: "Yak yak yak. Damn bitch, you ever shut up? Fuck this, we broken up."

Her: "Hi! I miss-"
You: "Tell it to the hand."

(Have her get your skates for you, when she comes back with them-)
"How could you get me these skates? You don't know anything about me. We should break up.

I'm probably only amusing myself, so I'll give a 'real' answer, which is kind of prevelent-it's going to take a long conversation where you're honest with her and yourself, and you're going to make promises and assurances that you may or may not keep. And maybe she'll cry. And maybe you'll cry. Maybe one of you will stop going to the skating thing. Maybe you won't. It will suck more than you think but won't be as bad as you expect. One thing is for sure, you're not going to discover a formula.
Keep going you are amusing me too.*
*Easily amused

When my fiance' was caught sleeping with another guy, it was pretty straight forward. "Get out of my house you $%&*#&(#**($@#&%$@^@&@#*#&$*@&#*@&#*%&*@($*@&!"

When my fiance' was caught sleeping with another guy, it was pretty straight forward. "Get out of my house you $%&*#&(#**($@#&%$@^@&@#*#&$*@&#*@&#*%&*@($*@&!"

I really, really want to know what word you just self-censored

I really, really want to know what word you just self-censored
I'm going to guess it was the full Sailor's Dozen...

I'm going to guess it was the full Sailor's Dozen...

That it was. ;) Although it all came out as one word.

ok tell her str8 up u cant do it anymore... but explain exactly everything..... but make damn sure she will be friends..... and watch out for immidiate family/friends of hers who get the rong idea....... but u gotta be completely honest yet u gotta use the right words that wotng et u hit.... take this from a gy whos done shit alot and had lots of bad experiences.... liek the family thng...... a gurls dad with a shotgun isnt very funny......

Kaish']ok tell her str8 up u cant do it anymore... but explain exactly everything..... but make damn sure she will be friends..... and watch out for immidiate family/friends of hers who get the rong idea....... but u gotta be completely honest yet u gotta use the right words that wotng et u hit.... take this from a gy whos done shit alot and had lots of bad experiences.... liek the family thng...... a gurls dad with a shotgun isnt very funny......
Yikes, you doing this on your cell phone or PSP? It's not a chat board, you can take the extra half second and spell out the words. They went through all that trouble developing the QWERTY keyboard...

I'm going to guess it was the full Sailor's Dozen...

Which are?

Which are?

that's what I was wondering

Tell her you're giving birth to another woman's child.

It's so much easier to screw it up before you start dating or right after going out... trust me, I have plenty experience. :-(

I have just started to turn to http://www.sosuave.com for advice (and most of it makes sense, and matches some of the advice I've gotten previously), maybe it will help you...

Doyouknowhowtowrightusingproperspellingpunctuationandcapitalization?:eek:

How to 'right' eh? Irony? Or elaborate joke at my expense?

If it's the latter, I demand a refund!

It's so much easier to screw it up before you start dating or right after going out... trust me, I have plenty experience. :-(

I have just started to turn to http://www.sosuave.com for advice (and most of it makes sense, and matches some of the advice I've gotten previously), maybe it will help you...

Hahahahahaha! Are you serious?

If a guy tried that 'Share a Kiss With Her' (http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip221.htm)thing, there is no way in hell he would ever have a chance with me. Or any other non-idiotic woman. You'd be better of wearing a shirt that reads "Will act pathetic for pity sex" (not that there's anything wrong with that :p) And the rest of that site seems equally lame. Never take advice from people who think they're good at wooing. Chances are the only women they're getting are call girls their mates are buying for them on the sly, just to fuel their delusional state of mind for their mates own personal amusement (memo to self: find a guy to do this to. And get a job to fund it)

Good advice: pick up lines only work on stupid girls. And you know what else works on stupid girls? "Hey, you remember when I asked you out and you said yes, right? Right" Easier, less potential for being laughed into oblivion.

On topic? Remember that you're 15. What seems emotional and confusing now will seem incredibly unimportant in hindsight. You probably won't even know this girl in a few years, and if you do, none of this will ever factor into anything. So no matter which tactic you use, don't let the implications of it all stress you out. It's not as huge a deal as it feels (says the girl who spent her 13-15 years moping about guys literally ALL THE GODDAMNED TIME. Yuck, youth. Who needs it?)

You could always try to hit on her mom

Doyouknowhowtowrightusingproperspellingpunctuationandcapitalization?:eek:

Write, not 'wright'.

First of all, you're 15. Expecting anything more than a few months of fun is unrealistic. However, this doesn't mean she won't be hurt. As a girl who has been dumped a few times (and done my share of dumping) I can say honesty is the best policy, but don't be mean. Ask her if she wants a little space before you guys try to be friends, and respect whatever she decides about that.

1. Get into a big fight, and then don't talk to her for a while. When she comes around again, insist that when you fought, she broke up with you, so you've been seeing other people.

2. Who the hell cares about hurting her feelings? If she gets clingy, start saying things like, "Fine, you can spend the night. But I get anal and you have to sleep on the floor." She'll be gone in no time.

Tell her you're giving birth to another woman's child.
Genius!

Offensive Singing Telegram

Hahahahahaha! Are you serious?

If a guy tried that 'Share a Kiss With Her' (http://www.sosuave.com/quick/tip221.htm)thing, there is no way in hell he would ever have a chance with me. Or any other non-idiotic woman. You'd be better of wearing a shirt that reads "Will act pathetic for pity sex" (not that there's anything wrong with that :p) And the rest of that site seems equally lame. Never take advice from people who think they're good at wooing. Chances are the only women they're getting are call girls their mates are buying for them on the sly, just to fuel their delusional state of mind for their mates own personal amusement (memo to self: find a guy to do this to. And get a job to fund it)

Good advice: pick up lines only work on stupid girls. And you know what else works on stupid girls? "Hey, you remember when I asked you out and you said yes, right? Right" Easier, less potential for being laughed into oblivion.

On topic? Remember that you're 15. What seems emotional and confusing now will seem incredibly unimportant in hindsight. You probably won't even know this girl in a few years, and if you do, none of this will ever factor into anything. So no matter which tactic you use, don't let the implications of it all stress you out. It's not as huge a deal as it feels (says the girl who spent her 13-15 years moping about guys literally ALL THE GODDAMNED TIME. Yuck, youth. Who needs it?)

I never said that everything on that site was right. Just like asking a friend (which I've done) sometimes you get sheisty advice... and some of it is absolutely rediculous.

Alot of it is corny. But a few things, like maintaining eye contact, is something a guy like me has to be reminded of quite often. ;-)

Other useful advice- act confident, not overly cocky; women like carismatic, powerful men (and most will chose this over looks to a degree), how to not act nervous, etc. Again, it may be intuitive to you, but not everybody is like that.

Girls have it good. They've been contriving and planning for this sort of thing for many more years than us guys. Lets face it, some guys are born with the gift for that sort of thing, and others of us have to learn how.

Unfortunately for the rest of us to figure it out we need to make mistakes and take good advice anywhere we can get it.

And if you think that taking advantage of a guy financially or emotionally because he's infatuated with you, then you are really, REALLY sick. To attack a person when he leaves himself vulnerable is so wrong. How could/can you sleep at night knowing you've done that?

I pity any guy that would even think about liking you. May God have mercy on his soul.

I'm afraid there really is no way of doing it without hurting her feelings. Even if she feels the same it'll still feel bad. However the trick is minimising the amount of pain caused. You sound fairly mature for your age, and I think that if you phrase it like you did in your first post, then she won't be too upset. But don't ever make it out like it's her fault. In fact if you can avoid placing blame, then good. If you haven't seen her in about four weeks, then I take it she's not too interested either. If you like even mention the fact that you were so upset about hurting her, that you asked many people how you could make it easier for her. Then again maybe she mightn't like the idea of you sharing with many anonymous people possible details about your realtionship, so you decide really...

Hope that this in some way helped. This is coming from a girl so it may be a little more useful than silly excuses. In this case I'd say honesty is the best policy.

I really don't know what you should say... But your only 15, it's not like the relationship was going to last forever. There are 3 options I would use.

1. Tell her your gay. She won't hate you for breaking up with her this way.

2. Just tell her that you don't like her. She'l be sad and heart-broken but hey, it's not the end of the world or anything.

3. Show up, tell her it's over, and walk out. She won't be able to retaliate.

I really don't know what you should say... But your only 15, it's not like the relationship was going to last forever. There are 3 options I would use.

1. Tell her your gay. She won't hate you for breaking up with her this way.

2. Just tell her that you don't like her. She'l be sad and heart-broken but hey, it's not the end of the world or anything.

3. Show up, tell her it's over, and walk out. She won't be able to retaliate.

1. She'll tell the whole school and/or set you up with her gay cousin.

2. Best option. Try to be gentle.

3. Unnecessarily mean and cruel.

When you next see her, fake a sneeze and grab a hankerchief out of your pocket. Said hankie being a pair of girl's knickers. Look confused and say 'So that's WHERE they got! We looked everywhere!'

I wouldn't go for the gay option, as word's likely to spread round and you'll find yourself the centre of unwanted attention. Also, then girls won't view you as a potential. Worse - they may want you as a 'friend'. Girls just love to have at least one gay friend. It's part of the set, along with someone from a different culture, lower socio-economic class and a cripple. If they really lucky, they'll get all four rolled into one and be the envy of all their other friends!

When my fiance' was caught sleeping with another guy, it was pretty straight forward. "Get out of my house you $%&*#&(#**($@#&%$@^@&@#*#&$*@&#*@&#*%&*@($*@&!"
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This was a serious question and deserves a serious answer...

First of all, none of us know you, so none of us know the specifics of your situation, but I'd listen to those who've been telling you that you're going to hurt her feelings no matter what you do, even if she's seen it coming.

I think it reflects well on you that you don't _want_ to hurt her feelings, but that's life, unfortunately. It's unavoidable. One of the true measures of a person is _how_ they manage situations where causing pain to someone else is unavoidable.

In my experience, most people know in their heart of hearts when the feelings of the person they're dating have changed, even if they don't want to admit it to themselves, and from what you've written I suspect that this is true of your girlfriend as well.

The best thing you can do is to be completely upfront and honest with her about the way you feel, but to do it either in person or - if this is impractical - by telephone. NEVER use SMS or e-mail. Reassure her that she's not a bad person. If you have to say (or want to say) 'let's be friends' try and preface it with something along the lines of "I know this is corny..." or "I know this is a cliche..." before going ahead with 'but all the same I'd still like to stay friends if you want to - but I won't push you either.'

And remember, while I don't doubt that your feelings for each other were genuine, you are only 15. Learning how to break up with someone is just part of learning how to cope with relationships.

depends on how worse you want it, you could always tell her you got something important to say to her, then say this

"I just can't fit
Yes, I believe it's time for us to quit
When we meet again
Introduced as friends
Please don't let on that you knew me when
I was hungry and it was your world.
Ah, you fake just like a woman, yes, you do
You make love just like a woman, yes, you do
Then you ache just like a woman
But you break just like a little girl."

a probable gurantee to get you both split up

Give her a box with a specially trained ninja kitten hidden within. Thusly when she opens the box it will spring forth and claw out her eyes like so.

*makes eye clawing motion*

And then she will never want (or be able to) see you again.

When you next see her, fake a sneeze and grab a hankerchief out of your pocket. Said hankie being a pair of girl's knickers. Look confused and say 'So that's WHERE they got! We looked everywhere!'

I wouldn't go for the gay option, as word's likely to spread round and you'll find yourself the centre of unwanted attention. Also, then girls won't view you as a potential. Worse - they may want you as a 'friend'. Girls just love to have at least one gay friend. It's part of the set, along with someone from a different culture, lower socio-economic class and a cripple. If they really lucky, they'll get all four rolled into one and be the envy of all their other friends!

:) I'm all four. So that's why the girls all want me as a "friend."