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Seeing that I myseld seem to be rather unconventional in that respect, I'd like to find out what it is that others are looking for in a relationship mostly.

Do you mean what are we looking for in a partner or what we're looking to get out of the relationship?

Companionship. Trust,Love,Communication and knowing that person loves you with all their heart and you feel the same. The willingness to always be there for each other are the only things that matter in any relationship. Sex isn't really important, a relationship is strong if you focus on other things.

Like...um...all of that.

poorly..just one possibility to vote...
I think
1. Security
2. Companionship
3. Great Sex
4. Romantic Love

Do you mean what are we looking for in a partner or what we're looking to get out of the relationship?

What you're looking to get out of the relationship.

poorly..just one possibility to vote...
I think
1. Security
2. Companionship
3. Great Sex
4. Romantic Love

That's because I want to know the number 1 thing... if it was multiple choice, it would be muddled up beause everybody would pick everything.

What you're looking to get out of the relationship.
Ah, in that case, a partner. An honest to goodness person who is equal with me, who complements my strengths, compensates for my weaknesses, and is someone I can share all things with until I die.

No, seriously.

Ah, in that case, a partner. An honest to goodness person who is equal with me, who complements my strengths, compensates for my weaknesses, and is someone I can share all things with until I die.

No, seriously.



Thats cool.:)

i think mostly someone to share my life with, to share my experiences; security; trust; romantic love, of course; sex; companionship; to know someone cares and to be able to care in the same way back; communication; and, eventually, family/children - preferably a long term commitment

hm that turned into a bit of a list...

Thats cool.:)
Thank you. :)

i think mostly someone to share my life with, to share my experiences; security; trust; romantic love, of course; sex; companionship; to know someone cares and to be able to care in the same way back; communication; and, eventually, family/children - preferably a long term commitment

hm that turned into a bit of a list...

It sure did.... and it makes me feel a bit weird now. Most of thosae things would scare me away, actually.

As Scott Benzel of Machines of Loving Grace so eloquently put it in the song,
Lilith/Eve ....

"... I'm looking for something in-between."

Thank you. :)



I respect people who put other things above sex, from what I read you did just that and earned some respect from me for it.

It sure did.... and it makes me feel a bit weird now. Most of thosae things would scare me away, actually.
maybe i'm the weird one. i've been called a hopeless romantic before. maybe my ideas and hopes are outdated or naive.

what is so scary about those things, may i ask?

It sure did.... and it makes me feel a bit weird now. Most of thosae things would scare me away, actually.
Everyone's looking for something different, so why should you feel weird about that?

maybe i'm the weird one. i've been called a hopeless romantic before. maybe my ideas and hopes are outdated or naive.

what is so scary about those things, may i ask?



If I may ask, why should you care what people think about your ideas and hopes, they are yours not theirs. I don't mean to be rude.

If I may ask, why should you care what people think about your ideas and hopes, they are yours not theirs. I don't mean to be rude.


edit: ok i read that the wrong way round. well i'm just curious

maybe i'm the weird one. i've been called a hopeless romantic before. maybe my ideas and hopes are outdated or naive.

what is so scary about those things, may i ask?

Well, I definitely would be ok with sex and to some extend with companionship. And I know from experience that I would have major issues with trust... not so much with people trusting me but with me trusting others, or worse, being expected to trust others.
As for everything else, I might be ok with that for a week. And then I'd start feeling asphyxiated and react irrational.
I'm a strange kind of person, I guess. :(

Everyone's looking for something different, so why should you feel weird about that?

Social pressure.
What PM said there seems to be a very accurate list of what the vast majority of people are looking for.
And I feel weird that I don't. Especially after being told that I am weird if I don't.

i think mostly someone to share my life with, to share my experiences; security; trust; romantic love, of course; sex; companionship; to know someone cares and to be able to care in the same way back; communication; and, eventually, family/children - preferably a long term commitment

hm that turned into a bit of a list...

Mostly the same for me :) Except that sex doesn't matter as much as others for me (sure, it's greet, but well, I could be happy even without). And that since a very deer friend had a kid, I'm all luvluv for the young kid, and family/children is becoming more and more important for me :)

Mostly the same for me :) Except that sex doesn't matter as much as others for me (sure, it's greet, but well, I could be happy even without). And that since a very deer friend had a kid, I'm all luvluv for the young kid, and family/children is becoming more and more important for me :)



You are cool.

Where did that Moral Order: -6 / Moral Rules: 2.5 thing come from?

Social pressure.
What PM said there seems to be a very accurate list of what the vast majority of people are looking for.
And I feel weird that I don't. Especially after being told that I am weird if I don't.
*lol* What we say we want and what we're really after may be quite different. Also, I'd say that there is no such thing as a standard list, because what each person values and wants is unique, if it was all standard, realtionships would be MUCH easier as we'd all want the same things. But since we don't, it's a compromise.

The trick is how much you're willing to bend, and if a particular person makes you bend.

So, nope, don't think you're weird for not wanting the homelife package. ;)

Well, I definitely would be ok with sex and to some extend with companionship. And I know from experience that I would have major issues with trust... not so much with people trusting me but with me trusting others, or worse, being expected to trust others.
As for everything else, I might be ok with that for a week. And then I'd start feeling asphyxiated and react irrational.
I'm a strange kind of person, I guess. :(
not necessarily. surely there are other people out there who hold similar views and would be 'compatible' in that way?

but it does sound like a long-term relationship would be difficult. but then, if that's not really what you want then thats ok, i guess

personally, the only kind of relationship i would find meaningful or want is a long term one of some kind. i don't mean that it has to be long term but a knowingly short-term relationship would be off the cards for me. basically, i'd like to try and keep a relationship going as long as i/we can

You are cool.

Thanks :)

Where did that Moral Order: -6 / Moral Rules: 2.5 thing come from?

That comes from http://www.moral-politics.com/xpolitics.aspx?menu=Home

Thanks :)



That comes from http://www.moral-politics.com/xpolitics.aspx?menu=Home



Thank you.


You know people like you are hard to find, its nice to see someone who doesn't think sex is all that important. Any person would be lucky to have you.

maybe i'm the weird one. i've been called a hopeless romantic before. maybe my ideas and hopes are outdated or naive.

Same for me :)

/me gives Pure Metal a friendly tap ;)

Mostly the same for me :) Except that sex doesn't matter as much as others for me (sure, it's greet, but well, I could be happy even without). And that since a very deer friend had a kid, I'm all luvluv for the young kid, and family/children is becoming more and more important for me :)
i hear that... i've often thought, for a long time, that one of the few things truly worthwhile doing in life is having and raising a family well. everything else we do should be - or is, whether we know it or not - in support of that dream.

i'm probably the opposite end of the spectrum to CW :D
but if she's "wierd" then so am i :fluffle:

edit: the scary thing is my gf might well read these posts and i'm getting really 'heavy', obviously... i hope she doesn't feel asphyxiated in the same way CW describes :(

not necessarily. surely there are other people out there who hold similar views and would be 'compatible' in that way?

but it does sound like a long-term relationship would be difficult. but then, if that's not really what you want then thats ok, i guess

personally, the only kind of relationship i would find meaningful or want is a long term one of some kind. i don't mean that it has to be long term but a knowingly short-term relationship would be off the cards for me. basically, i'd like to try and keep a relationship going as long as i/we can

Knowing what I want is just the problem ;)
The next problem then would be trying to figure out how to get it...
The relationship I'm in right now is definitely long-term, it's been going for a little over 2 years now. It's a compromise, but one I'm happy with overall.
I just now and then get the feeling that something's missing, and it drives me nuts not knowing if that's really me or if somebody talked me into feeling that way...

i hear that... i've often thought, for a long time, that one of the few things truly worthwhile doing in life is having and raising a family well. everything else we do should be - or is, whether we know it or not - in support of that dream.

I mostly agree... but sometimes, my depressed side comes back, and I feel bad when I think about in which world the kid(s) would be born... a world full of wars, misery, inequalities, sufferings, a planet we currently destroying with this insane lust of profit... I'm very afraid of how the world will be in 30 years, the world we'll give to our kids...

But well, enough despair for today, let's struggle to prevent the worse from happening, and building together a better world ! Workers of all countries, unite ! ;)

edit: the scary thing is my gf might well read these posts and i'm getting really 'heavy', obviously... i hope she doesn't feel asphyxiated in the same way CW describes :([/COLOR]

You've a gf ? All my wishes of good luck for your couple then ;)

I just now and then get the feeling that something's missing, and it drives me nuts not knowing if that's really me or if somebody talked me into feeling that way...
Well, what do you feel is missing? I'd say that's the place to start. Meaning if you figure it out, you'll also figure out if it's you or someone else, and if it's meaningful or not.

Well, I'd definetly have to say companionship. I have a lot of goals I haven't reached yet, and it would be wonderful if I had someone to support me in my efforts, as I would support hers. I'm only interested in long-term relationships, so while everything is important, if we don't get along well with each other, there's not much point, is there?

I think NERVUN put it better than I could. :)

I mostly agree... but sometimes, my depressed side comes back, and I feel bad when I think about in which world the kid(s) would be born... a world full of wars, misery, inequalities, sufferings, a planet we currently destroying with this insane lust of profit... I'm very afraid of how the world will be in 30 years, the world we'll give to our kids...

But well, enough despair for today, let's struggle to prevent the worse from happening, and building together a better world ! Workers of all countries, unite !

well thats the thing. if you raise them well with a good concience, and raise them well in that they ask questions of things/the world, use their intelligence and you give them the best education you can, then maybe - just maybe - they could be born into this depressing, miserable place we know now, but make it better for themselves (and their own children).
i should think if they don't find the world a cruel, unpleasant place, then i haven't done my job properly :p
(disclaimer: that may only make sense to leftists/environmentalists... i don't want to indocrtinate my (future) kids with those ideologies, but i do want to give them the mental tools and grounding to be able to come to those conclusions themselves)

You've a gf ? All my wishes of good luck for your couple then ;)
yup... online: we met on this very forum, hehe, and have been 'going out' (in one sense or another) for 5 months or so already... seems like yesterday :p
we're going to meet up for the first time in just over a couple of weeks on valentine's day :D
really can't wait! :D :fluffle: (getting quite a nice day planned, too ;))

the thing is i know a lot of my thoughts and feelings about relationships are quite romanticised (and probably, as i've said, nieve), certainly compared to those of most people i know IRL; and it (still) scares me sometimes that those same 'hopeless romantic' notions will scare her off, or be too much for her to handle... to "live up to them" if you know what i mean :( (which is utterly not the case that she has to do that... though, she does, and more :p :fluffle: )

*snip*

That might just be the most smileys I've ever seen in one post! :eek: :p

Well, I definitely would be ok with sex and to some extend with companionship. And I know from experience that I would have major issues with trust... not so much with people trusting me but with me trusting others, or worse, being expected to trust others.
As for everything else, I might be ok with that for a week. And then I'd start feeling asphyxiated and react irrational.
I'm a strange kind of person, I guess. :(
So you're afraid of getting hurt (again, I assume)

I know so many people who waste their lives because they are too afraid to be happy. It's sad. Yes, life kicks you in the head every now and then but wouldn't it be nice to be happy between those "kicks".

the thing is i know a lot of my thoughts and feelings about relationships are quite romanticised (and probably, as i've said, nieve), certainly compared to those of most people i know IRL; and it (still) scares me sometimes that those same 'hopeless romantic' notions will scare her off, or be too much for her to handle... to "live up to them" if you know what i mean :( (which is utterly not the case that she has to do that... though, she does, and more :p :fluffle: )

You're going to be fine, trust me. You two will have the best Valentine's day of your lives :fluffle:
Knowing you, I'd say you'll be pretty fast to pick up should you start to actually bother, and you'll adapt on the spot, so don't worry. As long as you're not planning on anything involving pink cuddly teddybears, you'll be just grand.

You're going to be fine, trust me. You two will have the best Valentine's day of your lives :fluffle:
Knowing you, I'd say you'll be pretty fast to pick up should you start to actually bother, and you'll adapt on the spot, so don't worry. As long as you're not planning on anything involving pink cuddly teddybears, you'll be just grand.
hehe there goes the trip to pink-cuddly-teddyworld :( ;)

and the only other thing of note that's ever happened to me, at least, on valentine's day is a car-crash. that was a lot of fun :headbang:
therefore, i think this can't fail to be better... besides, i've never had anyone to celebrate the day with before, so i fully intend to let her know what she means to me and how special she is to me :fluffle:
and thanks for your vote of confidence :)

That might just be the most smileys I've ever seen in one post! :p
:D
i always use "too many" smilies! lol
that said, you can quite successfully communicate only using smilies...as amy and i know full well :P

Knowing what I want is just the problem ;)
The next problem then would be trying to figure out how to get it...
The relationship I'm in right now is definitely long-term, it's been going for a little over 2 years now. It's a compromise, but one I'm happy with overall.
I just now and then get the feeling that something's missing, and it drives me nuts not knowing if that's really me or if somebody talked me into feeling that way...
how to get it? well i have to say that the internet is your friend here (and your 'friend' you also know through the internet anyway, right?)
as for what's missing... i don't really understand :confused:

how to get it? well i have to say that the internet is your friend here (and your 'friend' you also know through the internet anyway, right?)
as for what's missing... i don't really understand :confused:

Maybe that's the problem... I wouldn't ever want to lose this friend of mine. But there are a few factors that just bug me, and I can't change them....

And maybe, just maybe, I'm just starting to miss the physical contact. Seeing and hearing are nice for a while, but there's no comparing a :fluffle: to a real hug, is there?
And it's been almost a year and a half... :(

Hi Cabra,

I voted other because like most people here I would choose more of your list...simplified all except mother for my children (I don´t intend to promulgate my genetic heritage), but mostly companionship on a par with great sex...in that trust is a major foundation

Hi Cabra,

I voted other because like most people here I would choose more of your list...simplified all except mother for my children (I don´t intend to promulgate my genetic heritage), but mostly companionship on a par with great sex...in that trust is a major foundation

That makes you a lot more balanced than me :D ;)

That makes you a lot more balanced than me :D ;)

May I offer you my balancing pole, madam? :D

No pun intended, seriously

Trust, companionship, someone who doesn't assume everything is my fault and who makes me feel good, and someone I can be there for.

great huggs, creative immagination, intillectual honesty, pointy ears, snuggly fur and a long bushy tail.

=^^=
.../\...

May I offer you my balancing pole, madam? :D

No pun intended, seriously

*lol
It doesn't seem to be a question of poles, somehow ;)

*lol
It doesn't seem to be a question of poles, somehow ;)

So you don´t like poles (like the people from poland) or do you have difficulties with the magnetic field of the poles...or do you need a balancing rod:confused:

And I second your notion on red underwear:

1) It wouldn´t suite your hair
2) Red underwear is more like Berufsbekleidung, this typical red...not that dark, rich, saturated red which...oops, carried away

So you don´t like poles (like the people from poland) or do you have difficulties with the magnetic field of the poles...or do you need a balancing rod:confused:

And I second your notion on red underwear:

1) It wouldn´t suite your hair
2) Red underwear is more like Berufsbekleidung, this typical red...not that dark, rich, saturated red which...oops, carried away

I don't have a problem with any of these ;)

Thread hopping, are we? I've been thinking about getting something in deep red, that's right... I do have some purple stuff that's gorgeous. But it's just not a very common colour, especially not for underwear.

I don't have a problem with any of these ;)

Thread hopping, are we? I've been thinking about getting something in deep red, that's right... I do have some purple stuff that's gorgeous. But it's just not a very common colour, especially not for underwear.

Sometimes I like hopping...and for your shopping look here (http://www.palmers.at/index_start.aspx#), I recently bought some of those rich red...

*drools in remembrance*

but I never wanted to hijack in your thread :p

Sometimes I like hopping...and for your shopping look here (http://www.palmers.at/index_start.aspx#), I recently bought some of those rich red...

*drools in remembrance*

but I never wanted to hijack in your thread :p

I hate online shoppong for clothes... it's more expensive than iin the shops, you can't try it on, the colours always turn out different than on the pics... :(

And hey, it's my thread. Hijack all you want as long as the topic interests me :D

Companionship

I hate online shoppong for clothes... it's more expensive than iin the shops, you can't try it on, the colours always turn out different than on the pics... :(

And hey, it's my thread. Hijack all you want as long as the topic interests me :D

I only wanted to show you...I have been buying presents (birthday, anniversary, christmas) there for some time, but not online...and I have never ever been disappointed (neither her, I guess)...but on a quick glance my favourite is no longer for sale...dark rich red with lace, optional push-up pads (removable/augmentable), nice color matched lace thong...

*comes back smiling*

And if you live on a small island (yours somewhat bigger than mine) you get used to e-shopping...

But I expect more from a relationship than excellent underwear...:D

Sometimes I like hopping...and for your shopping look here (http://www.palmers.at/index_start.aspx#), I recently bought some of those rich red...

i heartily recommend this (http://www.threewisheslingerie.com/schoolgirl.asp)site ;)

i heartily recommend this (http://www.threewisheslingerie.com/schoolgirl.asp)site ;)

Hmm, must take a longer look, but I´m not into that schoolgirl thing...but some of the others look promising...back later

Edit: have looked, the bra/panties departement is good, some of the costumes are funny but on seeing the fraulein costume I vomited on my touchpad...what a mess

I only wanted to show you...I have been buying presents (birthday, anniversary, christmas) there for some time, but not online...and I have never ever been disappointed (neither her, I guess)...but on a quick glance my favourite is no longer for sale...dark rich red with lace, optional push-up pads (removable/augmentable), nice color matched lace thong...

*comes back smiling*

And if you live on a small island (yours somewhat bigger than mine) you get used to e-shopping...

But I expect more from a relationship than excellent underwear...:D


If there's one thing I definitely don't need, it's push-ups... ;)
But come to think of it, we didn't have a lingerie-thread here in a while. Maybe I'll just start one now...

Hmm, must take a longer look, but I´m not into that schoolgirl thing...but some of the others look promising...back later
schoolgirl thing is just an example *nods*

a very sexy example...... *mind wanders* :P

i heartily recommend this (http://www.threewisheslingerie.com/schoolgirl.asp)site ;)

oooooooo... like it already. ;)

I'll be in Berlin in a few days, anything I won't find there, I'll get online

i heartily recommend this (http://www.threewisheslingerie.com/schoolgirl.asp)site ;)
School girls just don't do anything for me any more. I found this out when I went to a maid cafe in Akihabara that was doing a To Heart Cosplay night. The seifuku the girls were wearing wasn't exciting, it just caused me to want to fix their grammar and start an English lesson. ^_^;;

PM, good luck with your meeting date on the Evil Day. I'll be rooting for ya.

Cabra, long distance relationships SUCK! And yeah, not having physical contact hurts. But, as I keep telling myself a lot, if you make it through this, you've got the best rock solid relationship in the world.

Companionship.

I need to know whether she would be willing to open her mind to me, and vice versa.

I need to know whether she would be willing to open her heart to me, and vice versa.

I just don't want to become a friend.

If there's one thing I definitely don't need, it's push-ups... ;)
But come to think of it, we didn't have a lingerie-thread here in a while.
Guess so...the fun is the variability...or do you mean you don´t like your morning exercise...:D
Maybe I'll just start one now...
I´m looking forward to it;)

Someone who:

1. Aint into Jesus.
2. doesnt want kids.
3. likes to smoke a bit of weed, now and then.
4. Loves dogs.
5. likes music.

Thats pretty much it.

Everything else is secondary.

School girls just don't do anything for me any more. I found this out when I went to a maid cafe in Akihabara that was doing a To Heart Cosplay night. The seifuku the girls were wearing wasn't exciting, it just caused me to want to fix their grammar and start an English lesson. ^_^;;

PM, good luck with your meeting date on the Evil Day. I'll be rooting for ya.

Cabra, long distance relationships SUCK! And yeah, not having physical contact hurts. But, as I keep telling myself a lot, if you make it through this, you've got the best rock solid relationship in the world.
1. i'm dating a schoolgirl... http://www.ironmaiden.org/images/smilies/extras/eusa_shifty.gif :D (hence: sexy!)

2. thank you :fluffle:

3. long distance relationships don't suck, but yeah... make it through hardship and good things happen [/vague distractedness]

Right now I think I want polyamorous relationships... from my understanding, friends with benefits with a number of people, sort of.

I don't want a serious commitment now, I want to be free to look and to touch and to have some fun et c. as my last exclusive relationship sucked horribly.

And quite frankly, I don't want to date someone exclusively right now because everytime I do, I end up hating a formerly nice guy.

1. i'm dating a schoolgirl... http://www.ironmaiden.org/images/smilies/extras/eusa_shifty.gif :D (hence: sexy!)
Ah, that's the difference. I'm teaching them (and being sekkuhara'ed by a few as well) so that's probably what got me over it. ;)

Initially I picked "other" because it's a combination of the first four. Then I read the thread and saw that Cabra wanted us to just pick the most important one, so I'd say I view romantic love as the most important.

Seeing that I myseld seem to be rather unconventional in that respect, I'd like to find out what it is that others are looking for in a relationship mostly.

How about you just add one vote to every category and call it mine. I was looking for (and found) all of those things. =) Well, technically, he's not the father of my children yet...

As for picking the most important, I really can't. I think all are necessary (except, perhaps, the parenthood part - some people don't want to have kids).

Then I read the thread and saw that Cabra wanted us to just pick the most important one, so I'd say I view romantic love as the most important.
Same here. Of course, I'm another of those hopeless romantics, and it may well be that my view of how relationships should be is skewed. Wouldn't like to think so, though.

And as for the rest: companionship, great sex and security are all just as important to me, really. The only thing I could do without is "a mother/father for my kids". Ask me again in a few years. Or never, actually.

Same here. Of course, I'm another of those hopeless romantics, and it may well be that my view of how relationships should be is skewed. Wouldn't like to think so, though.

And as for the rest: companionship, great sex and security are all just as important to me, really. The only thing I could do without is "a mother/father for my kids". Ask me again in a few years. Or never, actually.I have to agree. The odd thing is is that this isn't necessarily consistent with my real-life romantic history; I dunno if I'm settling or being realistic. But I still think romantic love is more important, perhaps in spite of that.

I have to agree. The odd thing is is that this isn't necessarily consistent with my real-life romantic history; I dunno if I'm settling or being realistic. But I still think romantic love is more important, perhaps in spite of that.

God, no, this is in no way consistent with my dating history either. Pity, really. And, to make us both a little depressed, it may really be a bit of both settling and being realistic.
I don't really mean this in a bad way, it's just that looking back at past relationships, of course I really, really liked the guy and was "in love". I just don't think I ever really loved someone.
And sometimes, I do have this sneaking suspicion that my mind really has been fucked up by Hollywood and I'm really only waiting for this knight in shining armour that doesn't even exist and this "love" thing is just hyped-up, unfulfillable expectation on my part.
But, but...then I get all sad and defiant and determined to show everybody that he does exist indeed. Sans armour, maybe, but still. :)

All of the options (except the one about the kids, since I intend never to have any). The most important aspect for me is friendship/companionship, followed by romantic love. Sex is very important to me, but if I could live without it if I really had to.

Seeing that I myseld seem to be rather unconventional in that respect, I'd like to find out what it is that others are looking for in a relationship mostly.
My main thing I was looking for is someone I could spend the rest of my life with and not want to murder........so I suppose companionship.

It's not like we don't have all the other great stuff too, but in the end someone who will be my partner is more important than the rest of it.

All of the above :p :fluffle:

(re the poll) All of the above. And more.

I've had enough "relationships" to last several lifetimes. What I need is raw, wild, totally uninhibited SEX! :D

I've had enough "relationships" to last several lifetimes. What I need is raw, wild, totally uninhibited SEX! :D

What he said ^. That guy knows what he's talking about!

...uninhibited...
Too bad old man :p

Romantic love for me, the rest in my opinion are natural but no less important spin-offs from love.
Pure Metal, you are not alone mate, I've recently discovered just how sappy and mushy I can get. It's finding a girl who appreciates it that proves to be the hard part. In that respect I've recently gotten very, very lucky...finally:) Good luck to you next month, hope it all goes well:D

A title, land and sizeable family fortune. I would also expect at least 500 serfs of working age, workable fields and pasture for the serfs and a small woodland.

Fetch me the Earls daughter!

Money! Damn it... how could I forget the option for all the honest people?

Love, good sex, trust, someone who adores music and hates cats (I never used to hate cats. They started it.)

Romantic and Passionate Love.

Romantic Love is tied with Companionship, for me. In such circumstances the sex would probably be great anyway.

I'm 19 y.o. and male, btw. (Perhaps we should specify our age and gender for more statistical fun?)

Romantic love, since it constitutes a compound of all the other factors.

Romantic love, since it constitutes a compound of all the other factors.

'cept other

(I never used to hate cats. They started it.)
Woot!
And in my experience, they'll try and finish it, too.

At 16, I'm really not sure what I'm looking for in a relationship. Having said that, I've been with my gf for 9months today... But I still don't know what I 'want'. I guess a mixture of companionship and great sex. Hmm, not too sure.

Ah, that's the difference. I'm teaching them (and being sekkuhara'ed by a few as well) so that's probably what got me over it. ;)
lol yes... i can quite see how teaching them would take the fun out of it :p


now, picturing a certain schoolgirl i know in a short skirt and a tight white shirt two sizes too small.... mmmmm that's yummy :fluffle: ;)

Romantic love for me, the rest in my opinion are natural but no less important spin-offs from love.
Pure Metal, you are not alone mate, I've recently discovered just how sappy and mushy I can get. It's finding a girl who appreciates it that proves to be the hard part. In that respect I've recently gotten very, very lucky...finally:) Good luck to you next month, hope it all goes well:D
and the same to you! :)
see, the thing is, because being 'slushy' isn't the stereotypically "manly" thing to do/be (and in fact many men would frown upon it), i sometimes can't believe i've found a girl who'll put up with that mushy side (let alone like it)... i keep looking over my own shoulder worrying that i'm being too mushy, compared with 'what a man should be', but you've just got to grit your teeth and hope for the best, cos being anything but yourself would be lying... and i don't want to lie to her (but you can still be tactful). besides, whenever i worry that i'm being OTT or silly, or sharing too much, she completely dissuades those fears, at the very least being glad we can be open and trusting enough to talk about such things... she's wonderful like that :fluffle: (and in so, so many other ways too!)

hmm maybe i'm getting a little heavy here (mostly just a clarification of what i was saying before). suffice it to say: hooray for finding women who appreciate a good mushy man! :p ;)

security is the #1 thing I dont want. It makes everything so boring. I want an open relationship, with someone who loves adventure. I also wants lots of teh buttsechs. (or teh regular sechs) someone who is just a best friend, plus sechs.

see, the thing is, because being 'slushy' isn't the stereotypically "manly" thing to do/be (and in fact many men would frown upon it), i sometimes can't believe i've found a girl who'll put up with that mushy side (let alone like it)...hooray for finding women who appreciate a good mushy man! :p ;)Kudos to you for just being yourself, PM! :) My friends tell me I'm the most unromantic, cynical auld bitch anyone could ever hope to meet...But I'll let you lot in on a secret. Even I like it when my boyfriend gets mushy and 'sweet' (the latter being a word I despise) ;) We have all these 'cute' in-jokes and commentaries, and it's just really nice.

I hope no one I know IRL ever sees this post or I'll have damaged my reputation :p

Too bad old man :p
Com'ere, young phoole. I wanna show you just how "old" I am. [ evil grin ]

I want a kind love that costs less than 10 dollars an hour.


~Alan Smithee
Puppet of [censored]~

I want a kind love that costs less than 10 dollars an hour.


~Alan Smithee
Puppet of [censored]~
ROFLMAO!!! Good luck wid dat! :D

I want a kind love that costs less than 10 dollars an hour.


~Alan Smithee
Puppet of [censored]~

Go Look in another country.

I want a kind love that costs less than 10 dollars an hour.


~Alan Smithee
Puppet of [censored]~
For that amount I'm sure you'll get more than love.

I think I'll buy myself one of these:

http://img24.imageshack.us/img24/1708/beaverstuff4om.gif (http://imageshack.us)

LOL!

Com'ere, young phoole. I wanna show you just how "old" I am. [ evil grin ]
This reminds me of Adam Sandler's "Memory Lane" sketch on "What The Hell Happened to Me?"
:eek:
:eek:

I want a kind love that costs less than 10 dollars an hour.


~Alan Smithee
Puppet of [censored]~
....my love don't cost a thing....

Yeah right.

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