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This coming Monday, the 23rd, my wife and I will have been married for 35 years! OMG! I still can't believe she's put up with me this long, but I sure am grateful. Even though we've been separated for several years now, we still care very much about each other, and even "date" about once or twice a month. Go figure!

I've reserved a table for us at a really nice local restaurant, advance ordered a really good wine, paid for a local florist to deliver a dozen, long-stemmed red roses to the restaurant, and have told her that we'll go shopping for a new television ( which is what she really wanted ) for her sometime next week.

Yes, I'm trying to "romance" the old girl. :D

So what else can I do? Help me out here, girls and boys, but kindly avoid the obscene suggestions ( I've already thought of all of those! ). :D

tell her how much you really are happy that you have her in your life....girls like that.

Oh and congrats, I can't imagine even knowing someone for 35 years LOL 24 yeah, but not 35...........:D

tell her how much you really are happy that you have her in your life....girls like that.

Oh and congrats, I can't imagine even knowing someone for 35 years LOL 24 yeah, but not 35...........:D
Me either! Heh!

I have a list of things in my mind that I want to say to her, "happy that you're in my life" is one of them. :)

Woo! Go Eut you love-panda you :D Nice one!

As for suggestions... I'll let you know when/if I actually find something that works lol.

Congratulations! :D

Nowasays, it is rare. Congrats.
I advise you to cook instead of inviting her to the restaurant. Women like that. Put some flowers for her and some candles.

BTW I'm married since 16 days now (I married her on 1st of january, 2006)

:) Awesome.

* rubs the back of his head * Suggestions? Uhm... you got the flowers... wine.. Chocolate?

Woo! Go Eut you love-panda you :D Nice one!

As for suggestions... I'll let you know when/if I actually find something that works lol.
"What works" varies from woman to woman, from day to day, and from an entire universe of other variables. This is why guys who are married, engaged, or even just dating often walk around with a dazed look on their faces, talking to the frackking walls! Heh!

Nowasays, it is rare. Congrats.
I advise you to cook instead of inviting her to the restaurant. Women like that. Put some flowers for her and some candles.

BTW I'm married since 16 days now (I married her on 1st of january, 2006)
Son, I can't boil water without scorching it! :D

Wow! Congratulations, if somewhat belated. Just keep in mind those three little words: "Of course, dear!" :D

:) Awesome.

* rubs the back of his head * Suggestions? Uhm... you got the flowers... wine.. Chocolate?
Hmmm. She's not really into chocolate, but I'll give it some thought. Thanks!

Oh yeah, and you know open the door for her, push in her chair at the table, hold her hand, ect.



(hey, it works on me, and since you and my husband are so similar maybe it will work on her, you know like maybe she has similar taste in men or something)

Oh yeah, and you know open the door for her, push in her chair at the table, hold her hand, ect.

(hey, it works on me, and since you and my husband are so similar maybe it will work on her, you know like maybe she has similar taste in men or something)
I've done those things my entire life and don't plan on changing at this late date. My grandmother, God rest her sweet soul, didn't insist on much from me, but being a gentleman was definitely on the list.

I sure wish I could surprise her with a new car, but that's just a tad out of reach right now. Sigh.

EDIT: BTW ... thanks for the nice compliment. :)

yay! nice one Eut :fluffle:

BTW I'm married since 16 days now (I married her on 1st of january, 2006)
and yay for you too :p


Just keep in mind those three little words: "Of course, dear!" :D
haha thankfully i learned the easy (2nd hand ;)) way that the boss is always right *nods* ;)


my suggestion would be to write down some of your thoughs on how grateful you are she's in your life (and put up with you so long ;)) in a nice (romanticised) letter and send it to her the morning of the dinner. that + flowers + talking about it should be good, i think...

i have other ideas but if you're seperated it makes them a little harder, so go with that one :P

N/P
(Good job with the manners, not a common trait)

Got the candles?
Outdoor table?
View of a body of water?
Moonlight? (:p)
<Insert her favourite sweet here> ?
A good bit of good memories to talk about? ( No sense in not being prepared with small talk )

Hope it helps, you can prob. tell but this really isn't my thing :D
*EDITED*
Doh! Reread your first post, I realize some of those may be out-of-reach.

my suggestion would be to write down some of your thoughs on how grateful you are she's in your life (and put up with you so long ;)) in a nice (romanticised) letter and send it to her the morning of the dinner. that + flowers + talking about it should be good, i think...

i have other ideas but if you're seperated it makes them a little harder, so go with that one :P
I already inquired, somewhat obliquely, if I should rent a hotel room. She was, shall we say, "underwhelmed." :D

I've been trying to come up with a bit of poetry for her, but my muse seems to be on holiday or something. Damned muse! :(

I've been trying to come up with a bit of poetry for her, but my muse seems to be on holiday or something. Damned muse! :(
This should help. (http://www.rhymezone.com/)
I already inquired, somewhat obliquely, if I should rent a hotel room. She was, shall we say, "underwhelmed." :D

*Brain fueled by caffiene, doesn't get it*

(Good job with the manners, not a common trait)

1. Got the candles?
2. Outdoor table?
3. View of a body of water?
4. Moonlight? (:p)
5. <Insert her favourite sweet here> ?
6. A good bit of good memories to talk about? ( No sense in not being prepared with small talk )[/SIZE]
Thanks about the manners.

1. The restaurant uses candles on the tables.
2. It's cold as shit here just now! Heh!
3. Uh ... this is the center of North Carolina, dude; lakes don't "do" Central Carolina. :)
4. There may be moonlight. We might see it between the car and the restaurant. :p
5. She's not really into sweets ... well, she use to be majorly into me, but that's another story. :D
6. After 35 years??? Get real, man! LOL!

Congrats :) :fluffle:

I would give advice but you know her better than all of us and, as you said,

"What works" varies from woman to woman, from day to day, and from an entire universe of other variables.

This should help. (http://www.rhymezone.com/)

*Brain fueled by caffiene, doesn't get it*
Doesn't "get" what? "Underwhelmed?"

Thanks for the link, but from experience I have learned that my poetic side has its own timetable and absolutely refuses to perform on cue. Sigh.

Not to be a downer.. but my parents for example were married for 45 years and spent those 45 years together until my father passed away in 2001.

we've been separated for several years now

I don't think that really counts. Because no, if you're separated you're not really living as husband and wife. So maybe legally you're married, but not in the ways that matter in a technical sense. So she isn't exactly "putting up with you" is she? A date once or twice a month a marriage does not make.

But I do hope you have a nice evening out with her all the same. :)

I already inquired, somewhat obliquely, if I should rent a hotel room. She was, shall we say, "underwhelmed." :D

I've been trying to come up with a bit of poetry for her, but my muse seems to be on holiday or something. Damned muse! :(
actually my "other ideas" didn't involve a hotel room, somewhat surprisingly :p
but still, shame :(

and we need to get you a new muse! get yourself a parrot *nods* ;)
though, if you want a sounding board, don't be afraid to email me stuff... i've written corny (read: awful :p ) love poetry a few times before and can at least offer "constructive criticism" ;)

Congrats!

Not to be a downer.. but my parents for example were married for 45 years and spent those 45 years together until my father passed away in 2001.

I don't think that really counts. Because no, if you're separated you're not really living as husband and wife. So maybe legally you're married, but not in the ways that matter in a technical sense. So she isn't exactly "putting up with you" is she? A date once or twice a month a marriage does not make.

But I do hope you have a nice evening out with her all the same. :)
Picky, picky! Tsk! :D

actually my "other ideas" didn't involve a hotel room, somewhat surprisingly :p
but still, shame :(

and we need to get you a new muse! get yourself a parrot *nods* ;)
though, if you want a sounding board, don't be afraid to email me stuff... i've written corny (read: awful :p ) love poetry a few times before and can at least offer "constructive criticism" ;)
Heh! Thanks ... I think. :confused:

"Here's a poem I wrote for you, sweetie. I ran it by some young dweeb on Nation Sates online and he made a few minor corrections. Like where he substituted 'loving glitziness' for 'host of witnesses.' At least it still rhymes." :D

Heh! Thanks ... I think. :confused:

"Here's a poem I wrote for you, sweetie. I ran it by some young dweeb on Nation Sates online and he made a few minor corrections. Like where he substituted 'loving glitziness' for 'host of witnesses.' At least it still rhymes." :D
damn right!! :p

though i resent being called a dweeb :mad:

Well congratulations.....even though you are not together as man and wife now.

You just beat us by 5 months...it's our 35th in June!

I'm sure that you don't actually need ideas, you must know by now what will please.

I would be thrilled if my hubby were to take me away for a supprise romantic weekend for our anniversary, but knowing him as I do, it won't be anything at all like that!
:rolleyes:

damn right!! :p

though i resent being called a dweeb :mad:
ROFLMAO!!! Hahahahaha! Son, if that's the worst anyone ever calls you, you'll be light years ahead of the rest of us! :D

Well congratulations.....even though you are not together as man and wife now.

You just beat us by 5 months...it's our 35th in June!

I'm sure that you don't actually need ideas, you must know by now what will please.

I would be thrilled if my hubby were to take me away for a supprise romantic weekend for our anniversary, but knowing him as I do, it won't be anything at all like that!
:rolleyes:
Send me his email address and I'll lay the word on him, hon! :D

Congrats on your upcoming 35th. It takes a lot of heart to hold on that long. My hat's off to you and him both. :)

ROFLMAO!!! Hahahahaha! Son, if that's the worst anyone ever calls you, you'll be light years ahead of the rest of us! :D
i generally inflict pain those who insult me *nods*
then again i try not to give people reason to insult me so meh... it all works out.

if only you weren't 2000 miles that way! *shakes fist* ;)

id give her divorce papers. living apart doesnt make any sense. either fix whats wrong or move on.

i generally inflict pain those who insult me *nods*
then again i try not to give people reason to insult me so meh... it all works out.

if only you weren't 2000 miles that way! *shakes fist* ;)
Rant on, young dweeb! :p

:D

id give her divorce papers. living apart doesnt make any sense. either fix whats wrong or move on.
If only it were that easy! SIGH!

No, I don't wanna go into all the "whys and wherefores."

Rant on, young dweeb! :p

:D
:mad: http://clicksmilies.com/s0105/waffen/violent-smiley-026.gif

Dont know whether to laugh or appluade. Quite an achievement in the modern world (well, for the last 15 years that is:p ).