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..next time I want to get into a relationship, how much they suck to end.

Maybe I won't try again if I keep that in mind.

I know it was probably the right thing to do, but I just feel like such shit.

True, it does suck. But we always search for greater happiness, so we try. There are more, and if you feel what you did is right, then that's great.

..next time I want to get into a relationship, how much they suck to end.

Maybe I won't try again if I keep that in mind.

I know it was probably the right thing to do, but I just feel like such shit.


What's the problem Dakini???? Want to hear your story.... Some guy a jerk to ya?

What's the problem Dakini???? Want to hear your story.... Some guy a jerk to ya?
He was. I didn't end it when he was being a jerk though, I ended it when he was trying to make ammends.

It's just that he'd made ammends so many times before and something had always happened. It becomes hard to believe that it won't happen again.

Hmm I'll try getting into one and then comparing notes with you :p

Perhaps this guy that Goddess Dakini was involved with was not worth being upset about? For she sounds truly heaven sent..... I doubt he was deserving..

He was. I didn't end it when he was being a jerk though, I ended it when he was trying to make ammends.

It's just that he'd made ammends so many times before and something had always happened. It becomes hard to believe that it won't happen again.


Feel free to tell us your story, please do not let this relationship spoil you for others.... Tis a very big world......

..next time I want to get into a relationship, how much they suck to end.

Maybe I won't try again if I keep that in mind.

I know it was probably the right thing to do, but I just feel like such shit.
Hey, hey, Dakini. Next time you want to get into....a.....oh, that's probably not what you meant, eh?

Yo, we can be single together! I swore off relationships for the time being after my last boyfriend went a little, um.....sanity-impaired.

perhaps it just means meeting the right person to put things into perspective....

I've told bits and pieces of this over some time on here. He would get in these moods and say stupid things and I would always forgive him and he would always promise that things would be better and then they would be better for a while and then he would say or do something else incredibly stupid and jerk-ish and i would forgive him and et c.
Most recently (though it was nearly a month ago) he said that my friends must refer to me as a sperm recepticle (of course all my friends offered to kick his ass for me...). Since then he's been trying to make ammends and I don't trust that things will always be good and I've really been questioning whether I want to be in a relationship anymore and really, whether we had a future to begin with...

As Feist says "The hardest part of a broken heart isn't the ending so much as the start."

My contribution to this thread, over.

Sounds like it's about time to get very, very drunk.

..next time I want to get into a relationship, how much they suck to end.

Maybe I won't try again if I keep that in mind.

I know it was probably the right thing to do, but I just feel like such shit.
Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Sounds like you don't need that guy at all.. As you said, you have a group of friends, plus you have us lowly NS players to keep you company, (although we can't see how cute you are from across the globe)... Surely that guy will keep trying to make amends, just remember how he treated you, and make the right choice....

I think we would all be better off and know your situation if we could get a pic of the Canadian Hottie. Agreed??

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
Naw.
It's better to have loved and lost.
Much better.

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

Whoever said that never read the maintence clause (Alimony) of my divorce decree.

Whoever said that never read the maintence clause (Alimony) of my divorce decree.
Well, I guess it is a good thing we never got to that point and then broke up.

Most recently (though it was nearly a month ago) he said that my friends must refer to me as a sperm recepticle
You should have loudly and repeatedly said 'Nah, that's your sock, you little wanker'

Well, I guess it is a good thing we never got to that point and then broke up.


I think it is great that you sobered up while you are ahead.... There is a big world out there with lots of single, attractive, disease-free people out there..

Ah, the dude was a serious dickwad. Chances are pretty good that anything is going to be a step up. And if you remember that it can be a pain in the ass then you won't enter into another one unless it's for the right reason (like, you really dig the dude, not just want to be with someone).

And seriously, don't feel bad about this-that dude was a total dickwad. Just remember what he said. He's manipulating you to feel bad because you wouldn't otherwise because you shouldn't.

Well, I guess it is a good thing we never got to that point and then broke up.

I said that mainly in jest. Even though such laws make divorce a cottage industry, it is impossible to place a monetary value on the lessons learned, or the good things that come from a long term relationship. Just keep an open mind and never let bitterness overwhelm you. In this day and age, one's survival no longer depends on a cooperative pair, so people change and drift their own directions.

I still don't think we've discussed the real issue at hand here... Why is there not a picture of this hot Canadian chick on the forum anywhere where we can see what that lowlife passed up.... Surely you are quite yummylicious....

I'm not really bitter about anything. It just hurts to put so much into something when it doesn't pan out. I wish I could master just casually dating, but I always seem to end up drawn into relationships.

Also,
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v283/vajaradakini/IMG_0696.jpg
better?

Perhaps this guy that Goddess Dakini was involved with was not worth being upset about? For she sounds truly heaven sent..... I doubt he was deserving..
My thoughts exactly.:)

Sounds like you don't need that guy at all.. As you said, you have a group of friends, plus you have us lowly NS players to keep you company, (although we can't see how cute you are from across the globe)... Surely that guy will keep trying to make amends, just remember how he treated you, and make the right choice....
Not all of us NS players are so lowly. Besides, I think some relationships can be more intimate across virtual distances.

I'm not really bitter about anything. It just hurts to put so much into something when it doesn't pan out. I wish I could master just casually dating, but I always seem to end up drawn into relationships.

Also,
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v283/vajaradakini/IMG_0696.jpg
better?


It is official..... You are tooooo toooooooo cute..... I am getting dizzy...... Now I have to know this girl.... That guy is an IDIOT for this one...

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
:gundge: Despite your more extensive experience with the subject, I'm afraid I must disagree with the cliche. Perhaps it is just as painful. More so if it is the beloved who betrayed your love. Funny that emotion, so often our greatest strength, could also be our greatest weakness.

Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

True that. It's pain that lets you know you're still alive. If you go through life avoiding pain, then you don't really get to feel anything.

If there's anything scarier than feeling hurt, it's feeling nothing at all.

I'm not really bitter about anything. It just hurts to put so much into something when it doesn't pan out. I wish I could master just casually dating, but I always seem to end up drawn into relationships.

Also,
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v283/vajaradakini/IMG_0696.jpg
better?

MUCH better! I now defer to my former concurrence with the statement about him not deserving the Goddess Dakini. You are an embodiment of loveliness. Strange that you should look exactly as you sound, exquisitly beautiful, yet veiled in despair, cloaking an overwhelming desire for hope. I see it would be rather easy to be happy with you, Goddess, and one day you will find the center you seek, may the Fates bless it.

I'm not really bitter about anything. It just hurts to put so much into something when it doesn't pan out. I wish I could master just casually dating, but I always seem to end up drawn into relationships.

Also,
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v283/vajaradakini/IMG_0696.jpg
better?

Well it is good to find something we both agree on. I wouldn't be too concerned with the pain though as much as I would if there were none. You would then be in danger of becoming a cynical realist like the battle hardened Liverbreath!
For what it is worth, all the people you believe that have mastered the so called "casual dating" mentality, are among the loneliest people you have ever met. They just hide it well.

You are a very beautiful young lady with the world at your fingertips. Take it for all it's worth and never accept second best.

I usually find that I'm better off on my own in the end. Haven't had a good relationship yet and the one I thought meant something really was nothing at all.

If you have never loved at all you will always have a profound misunderstanding of it, a dream sort of.

You always have yourself to fall back on in the end.

True that. It's pain that lets you know you're still alive. If you go through life avoiding pain, then you don't really get to feel anything.

If there's anything scarier than feeling hurt, it's feeling nothing at all.
Embracing pain and embracing agony are far from the same. Everything must have its balance, but what of those whose social lives are wave upon wave of agony? How does the ecstacy others feel their entire lives balance that? Despite Hamlet, for some, to sleep is worth the risk of nightmares. What is a life with nothing but pain and despair? Is that the best consolation you have: you're still alive!?

Forgive the rant, Goddess.

Where's the blushing emoticon when you need it?

I'm no goddess, I'm just socially inept.

Where's the blushing emoticon when you need it?

I'm no goddess, I'm just socially inept.
Where indeed. Actually, you are a Goddess. It's my religion: the universe, which includes anima(Latin for "soul"). Within everything resides a god or godling. By my feel of your soul, you rank as a Goddess, not one of the minor godlings. Actually, you rank higher than I do. Congratulations, Goddess, you have defeated my ego! ;)

Most good things, were ment to end badly. Before you get down on yourself, think of all the good things that came out of the relationship, the good is always more powerful then the bad.

Some good news is that I don't feel quite so miserable now. At least I can still make older women blush.:cool::D

Sorry; I can only envy you.

Sorry; I can only envy you.
Which "you"?:confused: