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Uniquely Japanese phenomenon? Staying in your room for 15 years or longer!

Eutrusca
15-01-2006, 16:44
COMMENTARY: Although this article links the phenomenon to aspects peculiar to Japanese culture, I have heard similar ( though not nearly as widespread ) stories here in the US. What do you think of this, and what, if anything, can be done about it? Are you a "hikikomori?"


Shutting Themselves In (http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/15/magazine/15japanese.html?th&emc=th)


By MAGGIE JONES
Published: January 15, 2006
One morning when he was 15, Takeshi shut the door to his bedroom, and for the next four years he did not come out. He didn't go to school. He didn't have a job. He didn't have friends. Month after month, he spent 23 hours a day in a room no bigger than a king-size mattress, where he ate dumplings, rice and other leftovers that his mother had cooked, watched TV game shows and listened to Radiohead and Nirvana. "Anything," he said, "that was dark and sounded desperate."

I met Takeshi outside Tokyo not long ago, shortly after he finally left his parents' house to join a job-training program called New Start. He was wiry, with a delicate face, tousled, dyed auburn hair and the intensity of a hungry college freshman. "Don't laugh, but musicians really helped me, especially Radiohead," he told me through an interpreter, before scribbling some lyrics in English in my notebook. "That's what encouraged me to leave my room."

The night Takeshi and I met, we were at one of New Start's three-times-a-week potluck dinners at a community center where the atmosphere was like a school dorm's - a dartboard nailed to the wall over a large dining table, a worn couch and overstuffed chairs in front of a TV blaring a soccer match. About two dozen guys lounged on chairs or sat on tatami mats, slurping noodles and soup and talking movies and music. Most were in their 20's. And many had stories very much like Takeshi's.

Next to us was Shuichi, who, like Takeshi, asked that I use only his first name to protect his privacy. He was 20, wore low-slung jeans on his lanky body and a 1970's Rod Stewart shag and had dreams of being a guitarist. Three years ago, he dropped out of high school and became a recluse for a miserable year before a counselor persuaded him to join New Start. Behind him a young man sat on the couch wearing small wire-frame glasses and a shy smile. He ducked his head as he spoke, and his voice was so quiet that I had to lean in to hear him. After years of being bullied at school and having no friends, Y.S., who asked to be identified by his initials, retreated to his room at age 14, and proceeded to watch TV, surf the Internet and build model cars - for 13 years. When he finally left his room one April afternoon last year, he had spent half of his life as a shut-in.

Like Takeshi and Shuichi, Y.S. suffered from a problem known in Japan as hikikomori, which translates as "withdrawal" and refers to a person sequestered in his room for six months or longer with no social life beyond his home. (The word is a noun that describes both the problem and the person suffering from it and is also an adjective, like "alcoholic.") Some hikikomori do occasionally emerge from their rooms for meals with their parents, late-night runs to convenience stores or, in Takeshi's case, once-a-month trips to buy CD's. And though female hikikomori exist and may be undercounted, experts estimate that about 80 percent of the hikikomori are male, some as young as 13 or 14 and some who live in their rooms for 15 years or more.

South Korea and Taiwan have reported a scattering of hikikomori, and isolated cases may have always existed in Japan. But only in the last decade and only in Japan has hikikomori become a social phenomenon. Like anorexia, which has been largely limited to Western cultures, hikikomori is a culturebound syndrome that thrives in one particular country during a particular moment in its history.

As the problem has become more widespread in Japan, an industry has sprung up around it. There are support groups for parents, psychologists who specialize in it (including one who counsels shut-ins via the Internet) and several halfway programs like New Start, offering dorms and job training. For all the attention, though, hikikomori remains confounding. The Japanese public has blamed everything from smothering mothers to absent, overworked fathers, from school bullying to the lackluster economy, from academic pressure to video games. "I sometimes wonder whether or not I understand this issue," confessed Shinako Tsuchiya, a member of Parliament, one afternoon in her Tokyo office. She has led a study group on hikikomori, but most of her colleagues aren't interested, and the government has yet to allocate funds. "They don't understand how serious it is."

That may be in part because the scope of the problem is frustratingly elusive. A leading psychiatrist claims that one million Japanese are hikikomori, which, if true, translates into roughly 1 percent of the population. Even other experts' more conservative estimates, ranging between 100,000 and 320,000 sufferers, are alarming, given how dire the consequences may be. As a hikikomori ages, the odds that he'll re-enter the world decline. Indeed, some experts predict that most hikikomori who are withdrawn for a year or more may never fully recover. That means that even if they emerge from their rooms, they either won't get a full-time job or won't be involved in a long-term relationship. And some will never leave home. In many cases, their parents are now approaching retirement, and once they die, the fate of the shut-ins - whose social and work skills, if they ever existed, will have atrophied - is an open question.

[ This article is six pages long. To read the rest of the article, go here (http://www.nytimes.com/2006/01/15/magazine/15japanese.html?pagewanted=2&th&emc=th). ]
Randomlittleisland
15-01-2006, 17:17
I don't know whether to laugh or cry so I'll compromise by sniggering quietly but feeling guilty about it later.
Eutrusca
15-01-2006, 17:21
I don't know whether to laugh or cry so I'll compromise by sniggering quietly but feeling guilty about it later.
LOL! Um ... yeah ... whatever. :rolleyes:
Letila
15-01-2006, 17:48
Well, at least I'm not as pathetic as I feared. Yeah, I know, but let's face it, we're all thinking the same thing about this guy.
Bodies Without Organs
15-01-2006, 17:51
Well, at least I'm not as pathetic as I feared. Yeah, I know, but let's face it, we're all thinking the same thing about this guy.

Yes. Are we talking about a pair of biological functions? Maybe he had a window?
Ceia
15-01-2006, 18:03
ニート
Nee-to
Not employed, educated or in training.

It might not be a purely Japanese phenomena but it is turning Japanese tradition on its head. When I studied Japanese, my teacher brought in a professor from Japan to explain this phenomena to us. Everyone in the class was looking at each other like "Is this guy for real?"
Eutrusca
15-01-2006, 18:06
ニート
Nee-to
Not employed, educated or in training.

It might not be a purely Japanese phenomena but it is turning Japanese tradition on its head. When I studied Japanese, my teacher brought in a professor from Japan to explain this phenomena to us. Everyone in the class was looking at each other like "Is this guy for real?"
Apparently it's for real. I'm just wondering how many there are in the US like this. I've talked with quite a number of people who say their 20-something son doesn't want to get a job and just stays in his room.
Achtung 45
15-01-2006, 18:10
:eek: Apparently it's for real. I'm just wondering how many there are in the US like this. I've talked with quite a number of people who say their 20-something son doesn't want to get a job and just stays in his room.
I can get away with both. I sit at home in my room (I have a fridge and microwave so I need not leave at all ;) ), and only leave to go to work. I'm just not quite as hardcore as them Japs.

lol and right now I'm listening to Radiohead! :eek:
Megaloria
15-01-2006, 18:14
Now we just have to bottle the scent from that room and market it as "Lonely Nerd" perfume.
Ifreann
15-01-2006, 18:31
Apparently it's for real. I'm just wondering how many there are in the US like this. I've talked with quite a number of people who say their 20-something son doesn't want to get a job and just stays in his room.

If they're still in their room by time they're 35 then the parents may have a problem.
Lunatic Goofballs
15-01-2006, 18:38
:eek:

My god! The smell of old socks and dried semen would force me out of my room within six months! Tops! :eek:
Eutrusca
15-01-2006, 21:07
If they're still in their room by time they're 35 then the parents may have a problem.
Uh huh. I told mine from the time they could understand that at age 18, they would either go to college or go to work, and that if they wanted to still live at home they could, but they would have to pay rent. All of them elected to go to college ( with one exception ). I wonder why? It's a mystery! :D
The Plutonian Empire
15-01-2006, 21:40
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Ya, I'm one of those recluses. :D

Although these days, especially the past year or two, I seem to be departing that world... :hmm:
The Plutonian Empire
15-01-2006, 21:41
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Ya, I'm one of those recluses. :D

Although these days, especially the past year or two, I seem to be departing that world... :hmm:
Texoma Land
15-01-2006, 22:31
Sounds like a from of agoraphobia to me. It is a fairly common disorder in the west too.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agoraphobia
Katganistan
15-01-2006, 22:48
A boot out the door might help.
DrunkenDove
15-01-2006, 23:11
I've heard about this. Apparent some go "feral" and will viciously attack anyone who tries to get them out of their room. Other times they'll force their parents out and take over the house. It's not just lonely guy either, sometimes it's brothers, sisters, friends and lovers that shut themselves away.

The programme I saw it profiled in theorized that it was caused the massive amount of pressure that the average Japanese schoolchild receives. They have a very strenuous education system, which can send people over the edge sometimes.