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do you think you can love someone without sex ?

do you think you can love someone without sex ?


I love my dog.

I do not want to have sex with my dog.

do you think you can love someone without sex ?

Someone's been watching The Wright Stuff... :)

No, I gotta stick myself into everyhole hole of everyone I've ever met. The usual holes, and then you gotta move up to ears and eye sockets eventually. Nostrils are rough. But always remember:

Penetration means I love you!

I think it's possible. Difficult to make the relationship work, perhaps, depending on your age/libido, but not impossible.

do you think you can love someone without sex ?
yep. i love my gf and won't get any till april probably :P

long-term? no.

Right now, I'm not in the mood for love. :p

I like to think that, at its core sex is only a way of demonstrating love. Oh and reproducing, if ya wanna think of it like that, but thats not the case anymore. All I really need is love, sex has always been just a minor benefit in relationships. =p

All I really need is love, sex has always been just a minor benefit in relationships. =p

I think you are wrong...it´s the major benefit

I'm missing the "I want it all" option... :p

None of those options are for me, i think love without sex and sex without love are both great but they are better when combined

I'm missing the "I want it all" option... :p
Same here. :fluffle: :D

None of those work for me either. I can have sex with someone and not love them, but love someone and not have sex with them.

I love plenty of people...there are only a select few who I would ever consider having sex with.

Conversely, I don't think I'll ever have sex with someone I don't love ever again. I had my fill of that...and it's just not the same if you don't love your partner.

I love plenty of people...there are only a select few who I would ever consider having sex with.
yeah. there are, of course, different kinds of 'love'. i think most of us were assuming non-platonic... i was.

I think I could love someone, without sex, for a finite period of time. I don't think I could spend the rest of my life with them though, if it was to be non-sexual.

I think you can share eros love someone without having sex - look at a lot of Christian couples who wait until they're married before having sex, for example, they wouldn't be getting married if they weren't in love (I disagree with this, for the record, but that's a whole new thread). However, I do think that having sex helps a serious, loving relationship, and I don't think a romantic but non-sexual relationship could last forever. Well, maybe it could, but I suspect it would be very difficult to sustain.

Personally speaking, I would only have sex with people I really care about (in a romantic way, obviously).

yep. i love my gf and won't get any till april probably :P

long-term? no.
Sucks eh?

Or rather.....doesn't suck :eek:

I think you can love someone without sex. Thats all. I'm in it more for companionship than for physical gratification.

I think it depends on the person and the relationship, and how you look at sex. I tend to prefer to be at the point of saying I love you, before I consider sex. However, I don't think it's wrong to have sex in a casual relationship - after all, it is damn good! :)

I think you can love someone without having sex with them, but personally I find it too important to a relationship to go without bringing it into the equation at some point.

I think you are wrong...it´s the major benefit

Yeah but if you only want someone for the sex, then its just lust, and that would be shallow. ^_~

I would like to think the major benefit is the person.

Sucks eh?

Or rather.....doesn't suck :eek:
both :p

tell me about it... (but then she's *cough* underage till then anyway... so...uh... look over there! *runs*)

both :p

tell me about it... (but then she's *cough* underage till then anyway... so...uh... look over there! *runs*)
:eek:

Cradle snatcher!

I voted 1.

:eek:

Cradle snatcher!
*runs away more*

she's obviously a graverobber tho... she's just with me to get her hands on my millions before i die ;)

*runs away more*

she's obviously a graverobber tho... she's just with me to get her hands on my millions before i die ;)
Aaaaahahahaha

You just admitted to being a goth :p

:eek:

Cradle snatcher!
I was going to say that i just didn't want to double post.-Like it has ever stopped me anyways.:D

*Yells Kiddy Fiddler at Pure Metal*:eek:

I love someone now and always will. But I'll never have sex with them again. I'll always think about it,though.

I can only love someone without wanting sex. The real questions are: can other people love me (in a non-platonic sense) without sex? and Do I love someone enough to put out if it turns out they do need it?

I love my dog.

I do not want to have sex with my dog.

By the way, did you know Massachussets legalised zoophilia?

I think you are wrong...it´s the major benefitIt isn't necessary to have a relationship in order to have sex, so why would you go through the trouble of having a relationship if your main reason is to have sex?

None of those options are for me, i think love without sex and sex without love are both great but they are better when combined

Exactly!

It isn't necessary to have a relationship in order to have sex, so why would you go through the trouble of having a relationship if your main reason is to have sex?

The minor benefits?

The minor benefits?I suppose someone could, in theory, really like being in love and kissing and cuddling and really really really like sex.

Sex without love is usually wrong, IMO. There are very few instances when it doesn't end up hurting somebody. If your own feelings are not on the line, your partner's probably are, and if they aren't before the encounter, they may be afterward. Many people, women especially, form an attachment once the relationship goes physical... whether they want to or not (usually not).

I also want the "I want it all" option.

For the record, I don't think a serious long-term relationship can last without some type of physical, sexual contact. And I won't have sex without any type of emotional bond (tried it, just not for me).

For the record, I don't think a serious long-term relationship can last without some type of physical, sexual contact.
Yay for me!

I suppose someone could, in theory, really like being in love and kissing and cuddling and really really really like sex.

Well, personally, I don't enjoy being in love very much at all. But I like the kissing and the cuddling and the sex :D

Yay for me!
yay for you!

*plots some way to get you in trouble now... hmmm* ;) :D

Well, personally, I don't enjoy being in love very much at all. But I like the kissing and the cuddling and the sex :DLol. Then perhaps you could hook up with someone for that purpose, and then be on your way?

Yay for me!

*snickers*
So?
*licks tip of pencil*
when can i pencil you in for?
*sweet smile*

*snickers*
So?
*licks tip of pencil*
when can i pencil you in for?
*sweet smile*
Aren't I supposed to pencil you in? :confused: :eek:

Lol. Then perhaps you could hook up with someone for that purpose, and then be on your way?

It might be the reason why I'm not in a relationship at the moment.
Well.... not a convertional one, at least.

Aren't I supposed to pencil you in? :confused: :eek:

*licks*
My.. aren't we sharp today...
*big grin*

*licks*
My.. aren't we sharp today...
*big grin*
:D Sharp and sizzling

Bring it on PM!

It might be the reason why I'm not in a relationship at the moment.
Well.... not a convertional one, at least.If you don't want to be in a conventional relationship at the moment, then I'd say that's a good thing, and if so, congrats. :D

:D Sharp and sizzling

Bring it on PM!
nah i don't really see the point of waving my pencil about needlessly ;)

nah i don't really see the point of waving my pencil about needlessly ;)

needlessly?
is that even possible?

nah i don't really see the point of waving my pencil about needlessly ;)
It's fun. And the breeze tickles a bit :eek:

If you don't want to be in a conventional relationship at the moment, then I'd say that's a good thing, and if so, congrats. :D

I'm an unconventional person.
The relationship is not perfect, but, hey, it's still good :D

It's fun. And the breeze tickles a bit :eek:
ooh so it does... *waggles pencil*

lets see if i can write my name in the snow... cos thats what pencils are for, right? :P

ooh so it does... *waggles pencil*

see see if i can write my name in the snow... cos thats what pencils are for, right? :P
In the snow, onto people.....whichever

ooh so it does... *waggles pencil*

see see if i can write my name in the snow... cos thats what pencils are for, right? :P

roflmao
*imagines PM and LP writing with their pencils on pristine Canadian snow*

*wipes tear*

Please let me know how that turns out

roflmao
*imagines PM and LP writing with their pencils on pristine Canadian snow*

*wipes tear*

Please let me know how that turns out
Yeah. I forgot to pee in public in Canada..... :(

Yeah. I forgot to pee in public in Canada..... :(
hey, its cold... you did yourself a favour :p


and TCG, i pity your mental image right now *shudders* :P

do you think you can love someone without sex ?
Of course, but sex as an expression of love is almost always better than either alone. :p

IMO it is possible to have sex w/o love. I personally have a few "friends" - who I am actually friends with as well as having casual sex.

If you meet someone there are a few ways you always tell if they are "into" you and would be open to the idea of letting you get into them.

The easiest way to penetrate the subject (or maybe I should say topic ) is to talk about relationships. Ask a few simple questions like what is it she's looking for and so on. Talk to her (or him if that's your thing). Get to know if they are open minded or a republican. (sry had to)

I usually say that I am not really looking for a serious G/F right now but am into the idea of friends with benefits. Just make it very clear otherwise you could have a disaster on your hands. I had to move once because of it. Two females were a bit competitive and decided to put me in the middle. (which in itself doesn't sound like a bad idea......)

LAST WORDS for this post: MAKE IT CLEAR WHAT YOU WANT and always have a sense of humor about sex. \

Oh and don't eat yellow snow.

hey, its cold... you did yourself a favour :p
What? Hell no! I definately have to soil the soil over there :D

hey, its cold... you did yourself a favour :p


and TCG, i pity your mental image right now *shudders* :P

*disgusted look*
actually, it's not that cold. LP thinks i lie when i say we have -30 celsius temps... not even a snowstorm.. so disappointed...

What? Hell no! I definately have to soil the soil over there :D

Then you'll just have to come back before spring.. won't you?
:D

What? Hell no! I definately have to soil the soil over there :D
I hear it's so cold in Canada that you might have trouble finding the danmed thing! :D

Son, there's a difference between sex and making love.

the supposed snowstorm I had, was a few flakes falling down. :p

And I guess I do have to come back for the pee thing. Among other things.

And Eut: it's pretty much in the same place as always, if that's some help for you.
*imagines Eut:"Damnit, where did I put my weenie?"*

Eut: it's pretty much in the same place as always, if that's some help for you.
*imagines Eut:"Damnit, where did I put my weenie?"*
ROFLMFAO!!! Um ... never had that problem, but I know whereof you speak. ;)