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I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

=)

Congratulations! :)

Congratulations!

Congratulations!

The ring idea isn't outdated, it's a nice tradition. As for how long an engagement should last, well I guess it's up to the couple. It should be long enough to let both people get used to the idea that they'll be spending their lives together, but I'm not sure that I could pick a definite length of time.

Congratulations! :D Happy Happy, Joy Joy! :D Best of luck and long happiness to you and yours!





Proposed to my wife at a Renascence Festival's special 7 course meal and entertainment feast. It must have worked, she said yes ;) Poor girl :p

I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

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Congratulations.

Rings and things have something of a history, but I think people should do what they are comfortable with. If you and your partner like rings, "Go, Rings!)

Congratulations! :)

super congrats :D

I was engaged for about 7 days, my friend has been engaged for about 6 years, I think shorter is better, but maybe not as short as mine, just long enough to plan the wedding really.

I didn't get an engagement ring (we figured it was a waste of money since we weren't going to be engaged long) I did get a wedding band, but I haven't worn it in about a year or so, I don't really care for jewelry, I figure I know I am married, I don't need a ring. ;)


My engagment story is like the best ever, but then again I am biased. ;)

super congrats :D

I was engaged for about 7 days, my friend has been engaged for about 6 years, I think shorter is better, but maybe not as short as mine, just long enough to plan the wedding really.

I didn't get an engagement ring (we figured it was a waste of money since we weren't going to be engaged long) I did get a wedding band, but I haven't worn it in about a year or so, I don't really care for jewelry, I figure I know I am married, I don't need a ring. ;)


My engagment story is like the best ever, but then again I am biased. ;)

Your engagement story sounds a lot like mine... but mine involved intercontinental flights... and an engagement ring. :)

I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

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hooray!! :fluffle:
go you :)


as for your questions: no stories, but i can kinda imagine good ones... and just look to american pie 3 for a bad one :P
how long: dunno, a few months why not, up to a couple of years at most.
ring: up to the individuals. i quite like the idea for girls but i don't like wedding bands on blokes - not sure why, just kinda wierd. depends on what fiancee thinks of course *nods*

Congrats

Yay Dempublicents!

I'm only fifteen, so I don't have a story to share. :p

Your engagement story sounds a lot like mine... but mine involved intercontinental flights... and an engagement ring. :)
LOL I had just finished eating Taco Bell food when he proposed.

He said (and it's almost word for word) "I have never met anyone so perfectly matched for me than you are, I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you, will you marry me?"

I almost cried, and then I sat there frozen trying not to cry, he said it was like 5 minutes of silence, it scared him. I think it was more like 20 seconds, but who am I to argue. LOL.

anyway, I wanted to get married right away, I didn't see the point in being engaged for very long, so he said "what about friday?" and I said "sure"

I picked up a wedding dress that was on sale for about $20, and we got married at midnight (well a minute after) in a park, on a bridge over a duck pond.

We invited family to a reception a week later. Most of them didn't know we were engaged, some of them didn't even know we were dating (like my husband's parents :eek: they found out through the invitation)

We were married at 12:01:00am on 12/01/00
:D

We were married at 12:01:00am on 12/01/00
:D

Haha, nice. :D

Haha, nice. :D
yeah, people meet us and ask "how long have you been married?" and my husband looks at his watch and says

5 years 1 month 10 days 15 hours 43 minutes and 7......no 8........no 9 seconds approximatly............


it freaks people out until he explains. LOL

Congratulations and good luck!

Congrats! So happy for you Dem!

おめでとうございます!

This January 21, I'll have been engaged for 2 years with the wedding coming up (finally) in this year, but then again our engagement has been mainly spent with the both of us on the opposet side of the planet from each other. ;)

As for asking, I asked her the night she returned from Japan after two weeks without her and I realized screw waiting till right before I left for Japan myself, now was the time.

*Lol* The ring thing has been fun though, she's been wearing a cheap promise ring I bought for her. We FINALLY went a bought her a ring, but she won't be able to see it and wear it till late May when she comes back to Japan.

But still, congratulations.

Congratulations!

Thanks!

The ring idea isn't outdated, it's a nice tradition.

I think so too. =) And I'm not giving up my ring even if people do think it's outdated! =)

As for how long an engagement should last, well I guess it's up to the couple. It should be long enough to let both people get used to the idea that they'll be spending their lives together, but I'm not sure that I could pick a definite length of time.

I think we're used to that idea by now, but I know both of our families want a traditional wedding, and that takes a bit of time to plan for. I think we're looking at a little over a year, so we can get married next spring.


LOL I had just finished eating Taco Bell food when he proposed.

That's aweseome! My fiancee apparently spent a couple of weeks trying to come up with a big elaborate plan, but couldn't think of anything he thought was good. I had a really bad day yesterday, so we went out to dinner with friends. Then, when we got home and I was getting ready for bed, he pulled out the ring and asked, not "will you marry me?" although I made him actually ask that question, but, "So, when do you want to get married?" hehe

Congrats, Dem!

How long the engagement should last? In my case, oooh, around three margaritas should do it.

This January 21, I'll have been engaged for 2 years with the wedding coming up (finally) in this year, but then again our engagement has been mainly spent with the both of us on the opposet side of the planet from each other. ;)
i must know your secret!
only 60 miles between me and a certain lady but still :P

and congrads to you too! :)

I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

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I think the ring is a pretty dumb way to pledge your love to another person. How 'bout a nice Engagement Stereo?" - Norm McDonald.

I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

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Hey, congrats! :)

i must know your secret!
only 60 miles between me and a certain lady but still :P
Spending every Saturday and Sunday with a phone to my ear, emails and IMing every other day of the week, one letter written every month, and the knowledge that she is the most wonderful woman on the planet (IMHO of course) and why should I even bother looking at another?

Oh, and knowing she feels the same about me.

and congrads to you too! :)
Thanks. :)

I think the ring is a pretty dumb way to pledge your love to another person. How 'bout a nice Engagement Stereo?" - Norm McDonald.
I admit, I always thought the ring thing was a bit unfair. I mean, us guys have to spent a heckova lot of money on the bloody things, but while we get a wonderful woman in exchange, we don't get nice presents. I tried convicing my fiancee I should get an engagement computer (Or an X-Box 360), but she wouldn't hear of it. :p

(Or an X-Box 360), but she wouldn't hear of it. :p

How disappointing. :(

:D 'tis a shame, they get rings, you get...her. But she gets you, too, so she gets the better end of the deal. Hmm... >.> <.<

LOL I had just finished eating Taco Bell food when he proposed.

He said (and it's almost word for word) "I have never met anyone so perfectly matched for me than you are, I love you and I want to spend the rest of my life with you, will you marry me?"

I almost cried, and then I sat there frozen trying not to cry, he said it was like 5 minutes of silence, it scared him. I think it was more like 20 seconds, but who am I to argue. LOL.

anyway, I wanted to get married right away, I didn't see the point in being engaged for very long, so he said "what about friday?" and I said "sure"

I picked up a wedding dress that was on sale for about $20, and we got married at midnight (well a minute after) in a park, on a bridge over a duck pond.

We invited family to a reception a week later. Most of them didn't know we were engaged, some of them didn't even know we were dating (like my husband's parents :eek: they found out through the invitation)

We were married at 12:01:00am on 12/01/00
:D


Oooh, Taco Bell... the food of love... :)

My wife and I met over the internet. I had never yahoo chatted before, and only went online to talk to my two brothers who lived in London (I lived about 100 miles north of there). She had never been online before, and was online over her friend's house... they were experimenting with yahoo chat.

We ended up chatting. Then nothing for a few days. Then I emailed her. This was... say August. The usual thing of more and more yahoo and emails added up, plus some huge phonebills (she lived in Georgia, I was still living in the UK)... my phonebill for December of that year was about $2000.

We visited back and forth, a few days or weeks at a time (mainly, because it turned out to be cheaper than the phone thing)... and I asked her to marry me a couple of times (my wording was fairly similar to that you list above).

Then, in September, the year after we met online, I got a phonecall, saying "Did you mean it when you asked me to marry you?". "Yes, of course". She said "Okay, it's Saturday today. Let's get married next week".

Wednesday I flew to the US. Thursday I had my bloodtests, etc... and bought the rings. Friday, I got my suit. And Saturday we were married in a little Baptist church, in the foresty-goodness of NE Georgia...

My advice is use two rings. It deters some of the temptations.

You should know each other for at least a year. But after you decide to get married, do it quick.

Keep the wedding simple. The length of the marrriage is in reverse proportion to the cost of the wedding. The more it costs, the shorter the marriage.

No matter how long you've known each other, you will be marrying a stranger. Expect strange things.

Don't start a child for at least a year. You need that long to get to know each other and form a unit. Babies, as wonderful as they are, are a major stress on a couple.

Good Luck!

My wife and I met over the internet. I had never yahoo chatted before, and only went online to talk to my two brothers who lived in London (I lived about 100 miles north of there). She had never been online before, and was online over her friend's house... they were experimenting with yahoo chat.

-snip-

Spending every Saturday and Sunday with a phone to my ear, emails and IMing every other day of the week, one letter written every month, and the knowledge that she is the most wonderful woman on the planet (IMHO of course) and why should I even bother looking at another?

Oh, and knowing she feels the same about me.

*takes notes* ;)
hah i believe my amy to be the most amazing woman on the planet (imho this time), we talk a lot on msn/IM (most evenings and usually for many an hour), we email and have sent letters, and i make it damn clear how special she is as best i can, but we have yet to talk on the phone at all (or meet :(). i suppose you two would say thats pretty damn important for a "long-distance" relationship (as i say, we're just 60 or 70 miles away)? thing is we're both pretty nervous on the phone in general, and, by extension, with the notion of speaking to each other (especially first time) cos we don't want to risk what we have in any way (in case it doesn't go well). then again i know its necessary and i want to do it and take our relationship further (even if its not 'far' - you know)... any hints?
we've known each other online for over a year and have been going out for... many months (between 3 and 6... it just sorta happened). so i suppose another question here is how long were you going out before you proposed?

and apologies once again for twisting another thread to suit my own agenda (i don't stop thinking about her so what do you expect? :P)

*Snipage*
As for the phone thing, I guess you both would just have to bite the bullet and make arangements to call each other, then work out a time and place to actually meet (70 miles isn't bad). Personally I'd say all ahead slow, and make sure that each and every step is done in a way that makes the both of you tutles feel safe. ;) . Just beware of Honeymoon Syndrome

My fiancee and I had been offically going out for a month shy of a year before I asked her to marry me, but we had been hanging out for quite a bit more before that, and we were actually physically together at that time, with her moving in with me to share the months before I departed to Japan.

My advice is use two rings. It deters some of the temptations.

You should know each other for at least a year. But after you decide to get married, do it quick.

Keep the wedding simple. The length of the marrriage is in reverse proportion to the cost of the wedding. The more it costs, the shorter the marriage.

No matter how long you've known each other, you will be marrying a stranger. Expect strange things.

Don't start a child for at least a year. You need that long to get to know each other and form a unit. Babies, as wonderful as they are, are a major stress on a couple.

Good Luck!

I agree, the first 2 years of marriage are crazy, you will learn things about your mate that you had no idea you needed/wanted to know.

Mine may have been crazier than normal because we had a kid and moved cross country like twice. I am surprised we didn't kill eachother, between my pregnancy hormones and being away from my family for the first time ever (2,000 miles away mind you) and we moved actually 3 times in the first year which I hate to move anyway, but moving while pregnant double not fun, esp. since the second time we moved from a nice summer (in the 70's) and a bad evil summer (in the 110's) and I was 7 months pregnant on a 26 hour car drive......

anyway, hold off on the kids (if you can) and try not to move, or make any other uber-big changes for a while. :p

I admit, I always thought the ring thing was a bit unfair. I mean, us guys have to spent a heckova lot of money on the bloody things, but while we get a wonderful woman in exchange, we don't get nice presents.

:) I bought my fiance a ring for our engagement. :) I figured he got me one, I should get him something :)

Congratulations!
Both to you and to Smunkeeville

:) I bought my fiance a ring for our engagement. :) I figured he got me one, I should get him something :)
See? Now that's playing fair. Tht should be the standard, I think.

Of course I'd much rather get a new computer than a ring (good for making Lord of the Rings jokes though) however. ;)

woohoo...good for you :rolleyes:

*takes notes* ;)
hah i believe my amy to be the most amazing woman on the planet (imho this time), we talk a lot on msn/IM (most evenings and usually for many an hour), we email and have sent letters, and i make it damn clear how special she is as best i can, but we have yet to talk on the phone at all (or meet :(). i suppose you two would say thats pretty damn important for a "long-distance" relationship (as i say, we're just 60 or 70 miles away)? thing is we're both pretty nervous on the phone in general, and, by extension, with the notion of speaking to each other (especially first time) cos we don't want to risk what we have in any way (in case it doesn't go well). then again i know its necessary and i want to do it and take our relationship further (even if its not 'far' - you know)... any hints?

Well, take it slow, but do move forward. And don't worry if it isn't perfect at first. My fiancee and I had our first dates in December of 2000, then didn't see each other at all and both pursued other interests for the better part of a semester. It was that summer that we finally started dating officially.

we've known each other online for over a year and have been going out for... many months (between 3 and 6... it just sorta happened). so i suppose another question here is how long were you going out before you proposed?

As of the day he proposed, we had officially been dating for 4 years, 5 months, and 23 days. =) We've known each other socially for over 5 years. I think I actually first met him in 1999.

Not that everyone has to take that long. I knew he was the one I wanted to marry within 6 months, and probably would have accepted if he had proposed then. In the meantime, we've moved in together, adopted a dog together, and even bought a house (with the requisite mortgage) together. We're doing things a little backwards, we're told. =)

and apologies once again for twisting another thread to suit my own agenda (i don't stop thinking about her so what do you expect? :P)

No problem, I said I didn't want it to just be a me thread. =)

I bought my fiance a ring for our engagement. I figured he got me one, I should get him something

I would consider that, but he's got pretty much a "no-jewelry" policy. He's already bitching about breaking it when we get married to wear the wedding band. =)

Well, take it slow, but do move forward. And don't worry if it isn't perfect at first. My fiancee and I had our first dates in December of 2000, then didn't see each other at all and both pursued other interests for the better part of a semester. It was that summer that we finally started dating officially.

yup, we have moved forward a little. i called her last night - it was supposed to be out of the blue/spontaneous but that kinda screwed up lol. still, it was good to get the intimidating 'first call' out the way so we won't be quite so nervous next time(s) :P


As of the day he proposed, we had officially been dating for 4 years, 5 months, and 23 days. =) We've known each other socially for over 5 years. I think I actually first met him in 1999.

Not that everyone has to take that long. I knew he was the one I wanted to marry within 6 months, and probably would have accepted if he had proposed then. In the meantime, we've moved in together, adopted a dog together, and even bought a house (with the requisite mortgage) together. We're doing things a little backwards, we're told. =)
lol no it actually makes sese to do it that way round :P
maybe not take that long but whatever works ;)


No problem, I said I didn't want it to just be a me thread. =)
well thats good cos i have a habit of turning everything into 'me threads' :p

good luck.

yup, we have moved forward a little. i called her last night - it was supposed to be out of the blue/spontaneous but that kinda screwed up lol. still, it was good to get the intimidating 'first call' out the way so we won't be quite so nervous next time(s) :P


Good going. I was going to respond to the earlier post about 'first calls'... but I guess that problem is solved. It can be quite a handful... but at least you two talk mutually-recognisable versions of the language.

My first conversation with my wife was about an hour long... and neither of us actually understood more than a few words the other was saying. That's the problem with a Georgia girl trying to understand an East-End London accent... and vice versa.

You only have 60 miles to cover... that's only about an hour on the train (well, depending on the route)... so you've no excuse for not meeting up. You need to grab your courage firmly in both hands, and go for it, I think.

Maybe you can agree to meet 'on neutral territory'? I can't rightly recall which part of the country you said you lived in... but Sheffield and Nottingham are both fairly central, fairly 'neutral', (fairly student friendly), and have quite a lot of 'stuff to do'...

I'm engaged! =)

Ok, now to make this more than a self-centered me post, let's discuss proposals and engagements. What are the best (and worst) proposal stories you've heard? How long do you think an official engagement should last? Do you think the ring idea is old and outdated, or do you like it? And so on....

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Yayyy! [ does the Happy Dance for Dempublicents! ]

God bless your relationship, and may you have many, many, many years of happiness together! :)

Good going. I was going to respond to the earlier post about 'first calls'... but I guess that problem is solved. It can be quite a handful... but at least you two talk mutually-recognisable versions of the language.

My first conversation with my wife was about an hour long... and neither of us actually understood more than a few words the other was saying. That's the problem with a Georgia girl trying to understand an East-End London accent... and vice versa.

You only have 60 miles to cover... that's only about an hour on the train (well, depending on the route)... so you've no excuse for not meeting up. You need to grab your courage firmly in both hands, and go for it, I think.

Maybe you can agree to meet 'on neutral territory'? I can't rightly recall which part of the country you said you lived in... but Sheffield and Nottingham are both fairly central, fairly 'neutral', (fairly student friendly), and have quite a lot of 'stuff to do'...
lol at least you both spoke english :p
but an hour long? ours was little more than a couple of minutes :(
however there was nothing specific to say and with general phone-nervousness i think it was still a 'success'

and 60 miles is about an hour away and i have a car, which makes things easier and gives us a great choice of 'stuff to do'... already agreed to meet at her house in april cos a) she feels more comfortable there, b) she'll be 16 then, and c) her parents will be more comfortable with that. i'd kind of prefer neutral territory cos 'meeting the parents' on the very first date is kind of nervewracking, but i think i can deal with my nerves and it'll be worth it to see her :)

its still great to know that things can (and do) work out between long-distance people (thats a 'go you :fluffle:' by the way ;))

Well, take it slow, but do move forward. And don't worry if it isn't perfect at first. My fiancee and I had our first dates in December of 2000, then didn't see each other at all and both pursued other interests for the better part of a semester. It was that summer that we finally started dating officially.



As of the day he proposed, we had officially been dating for 4 years, 5 months, and 23 days. =) We've known each other socially for over 5 years. I think I actually first met him in 1999.

Not that everyone has to take that long. I knew he was the one I wanted to marry within 6 months, and probably would have accepted if he had proposed then. In the meantime, we've moved in together, adopted a dog together, and even bought a house (with the requisite mortgage) together. We're doing things a little backwards, we're told. =)



No problem, I said I didn't want it to just be a me thread. =)



I would consider that, but he's got pretty much a "no-jewelry" policy. He's already bitching about breaking it when we get married to wear the wedding band. =)


My fiancee and I both kenw each other since high school but didnt start dating till years afterwards. We dated for 4 years before we moved in together (by purchasing a house together), then I proposed after about a year of living together.