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On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)

On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)


male nerds are a strange breed. Unless you RP as a hentai character of some sort? Actually, even if that's so, I refer to my first point.

Some people fail at life.

I don't RP as a hentai character, tht'd just b inviting the masses on, I'd like to meet a guy online that dusent have other motives, every single one iv struck a friendship with iv ended up blocking because theve asked me for favours...

I don't RP as a hentai character, tht'd just b inviting the masses on, I'd like to meet a guy online that dusent have other motives, every single one iv struck a friendship with iv ended up blocking because theve asked me for favours...

how old are you?



(just to get an idea of the age of kids that you're dealing with. 13 and I'll smile and nod. 25 and I'm more worried.)

I have had that (though what I was doing on a girly website I will never know;) )

my advice is use it for porn (if you know its a girl of course)

I'm practically 16, and i don't want a relationship online, iv alredy got a bf, I just want a good friend, someone i can talk 2.

I'm practically 16, and i don't want a relationship online, iv alredy got a bf, I just want a good friend, someone i can talk 2.


almost 16? You'll only find dodgy loser early-teens who completely lack social interaction. If you're looking for a good friend to talk to, real life is probably a good start although people there generally completely suck too. The internet is only really good for making fun of people. Like Harlesburg.

I DO have real life friends :P I just love chatting to people iv neva met, it intrigues me what is going on beyond the borders of my life and the lives of people onvolved in it, i love it, telegram my nation if u want my addy, but if u have any strange motives or anything like that u WILL be blocked, i have a block list about 100 people long atm

On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)
well they probably like your personality, and might not care what you look like.

thats the real advantage with online relationships/dating - because you can't see the person, you don't make automatic assumptions based on the way they look (or even how old they are). its a real case of personality > looks, and you can only really get to know a person's personality online... so its a great way of forgoing predjudice and getting to know the real person.

two things to that though:
1. of course, it is possible to lie about your personality online (create a persona or just lie through your teeth... ahem (http://www.hlj.me.uk/pwned2.jpg))
2. if you get on with a person online and get to know and love their personality AND they're/they turn out to be a looker, you R teh w1n!! (as is the case with Amy of course! w00t! :-D)

I DO have real life friends :P I just love chatting to people iv neva met, it intrigues me what is going on beyond the borders of my life and the lives of people onvolved in it, i love it, telegram my nation if u want my addy, but if u have any strange motives or anything like that u WILL be blocked, i have a block list about 100 people long atm

Dats all very nice but I think the txt speak is making ppl think that ur really not all tht smart even tho dey are probably mistaken....u gotta h8 tht.

I go for personality anyways tho... ah well, again if u wanna chat, telegram my nation (High_Priestess_Em) for the addy

Testosterone is an evil master. Males (whether or not they're nerds) generally want to sleep with anything and everything they can find that's willing (and, for some of them, even the unwilling will do). And, often times, they don't care what you look like. They'll sleep with you anyway. The only question is whether they'll tell their friends about it.

This is just the nature of the beast. It's how most men are wired. Nothing you can do about it other than to disassociate yourself from all 3 billion of us (and that's not very practical). Most women, I think, learn to appreciate all the attention. Most of them also find all the attention rather annoying, from time to time, but my basic answer to your question is that your online male friends ask you out because they're biologically urged (or compelled) to do so.

Not the answer you wanted, probably. ;)

Lol, that answers fine, and the attention IS nice, but not when this convo takes place:

Random guy: Hey
Me: Hey
Random guy: How old r u?
Me: How old r u??
Random guy: 12, u?
Me: Older than u
Random guy: ok

(10 mins later)

Random guy: I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?
Me: No thanks :confused:

I go for personality anyways tho...
not all people do.
and you may have a preference for 'going for personality' but we all also have physical/'looks' preferences also. hence, remove that and getting to know someone 'properly'/personality-wise (rather than just making snap judgements about looks) is what you have online.

Of course I have a looks preference, what my bf looks like :P but his personality played a bit part in the whole deal, i only realised how gorgeous he was about a week after I asked him out

Well, this is a jolly topic, having descended into teenage girl giggling and gossip.

The answer is: stop going to chat rooms for: instant messengers, myspace, or anything else like that.

Hey, I was just wondering why it happened, if you want to help answer my question theres no point in trying to offend people

The thing is that while roleplaying on ANYTHING, your imagination is at the top of the list as far as thought processes. Thus, imagination overtakes logic, and people can basically visualize whatever THEY want to visualize, as they do while RPing. Especially people who roleplay that much (i.e. nerds). On the same token, all they are seeing is your personality and that you are a female. So from this we can deduct that your personality turns people on, I guess? For my own safety I like to visualize everyone ugly ;)

:) incredibly sensible of u :P

Random guy: Hey
Me: Hey
Random guy: How old r u?
Me: How old r u??
Random guy: 12, u?
Me: Older than u
Random guy: ok

(10 mins later)

Random guy: I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?

LOL! Well, I gotta give the kid credit for being direct. No mamby-pambying around, there. I take it you're not expecting much stimulating conversation from this guy? hehe. Nor should you.

The biggest problem I've had with my online interactions have been the result of age differences, not gender differences. This kid is just way too young for you. You might want to look for sites that cater to a more "mature" audience. And it's always a good idea to figure out the age of the person with whom you're interacting. It helps you to gague how to respond. It's not nice to beat up on unsuspecting little boys.

i dont accept any advances over the net, its just not safe, the games i paly are played for their content not the dating possibilities, and this is what Should happen, but unfortunately dusent...

I think that's incredibly ridiculous that people are engaging in "relationships" online anyways....it's basically a long distance relationship from the start :mad: , and relationships like that that truly work are few and far between. And again...its on....the internet; I mean come on, this isn't match.com for christ sakes...And I resent that comment about 16 year old males being dodgy losers who lack social interaction...O_o

I think that's incredibly ridiculous that people are engaging in "relationships" online anyways....it's basically a long distance relationship from the start :mad: , and relationships like that that truly work are few and far between. And again...its on....the internet; I mean come on, this isn't match.com for christ sakes...
:rolleyes:

I think that's incredibly ridiculous that people are engaging in "relationships" online anyways....it's basically a long distance relationship from the start :mad: , and relationships like that that truly work are few and far between. And again...its on....the internet; I mean come on, this isn't match.com for christ sakes...And I resent that comment about 16 year old males being dodgy losers who lack social interaction...O_o

I meant 16 year old males who are jizzing all over their keyboard over someone they've just met online. That may or may not be you.


As for meeting online, anyone who has been on NS for a year and a half or longer will know: Jim and Roan.

As for meeting online, anyone who has been on NS for a year and a half or longer will know: Jim and Roan.
quite.
plus there's katganistan and her bf
and myself and glitziness
and a thread a few weeks back bursting to the seams with posters engaged in long distance relationships that are/have worked. if i didn't have things to go and do, i'd go find it.
the internet is just the medium by which people in long-distance relationships can communicate - it may seem more 'geeky' than wrtiting romantic letter etc etc, but its more instant and much better (and it doesn't stop you from doing all the old fashioned 'romantic' stuff anyway ;))

quite.
plus there's katganistan and her bf
and myself and glitziness
and a thread a few weeks back bursting to the seams with posters engaged in long distance relationships that are/have worked. if i didn't have things to go and do, i'd go find it.
the internet is just the medium by which people in long-distance relationships can communicate - it may seem more 'geeky' than wrtiting romantic letter etc etc, but its more instant and much better (and it doesn't stop you from doing all the old fashioned 'romantic' stuff anyway ;))

**nods in approval**

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=455103

Not sure if that's the thread you meant, PM, but it certainly adds weight

I seriously think theat some of your problem here is the way you come across. Like Kanabia (I think it was) said, the way you type gives off an image that attracts the type of people you seem to have a problem with. I think that if you were to type in full sentences with properly spelled words (for the most part, at least; everyone makes typos) then that would help.

almost 16? You'll only find dodgy loser early-teens who completely lack social interaction. If you're looking for a good friend to talk to, real life is probably a good start although people there generally completely suck too. The internet is only really good for making fun of people. Like Harlesburg.
Tell me do you wear pink and call yourself Barbie? Oh, and do you cry whenever you break a nail? :rolleyes:

Tell me do you wear pink and call yourself Barbie? Oh, and do you cry whenever you break a nail? :rolleyes:

I cry whenever I break a nail. Got a problem? Because, really, unless you can break masonry nails with your eyelids, I suggest you go home.

Tell me do you wear pink and call yourself Barbie? Oh, and do you cry whenever you break a nail? :rolleyes:

ofc. Doesn't everyone?

ofc. Doesn't everyone?
Yep, Cindy does too :)

I cry whenever I break a nail. Got a problem? Because, really, unless you can break masonry nails with your eyelids, I suggest you go home.
Bark only when you are told to, mongrel.

**nods in approval**

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=455103

Not sure if that's the thread you meant, PM, but it certainly adds weight

I seriously think theat some of your problem here is the way you come across. Like Kanabia (I think it was) said, the way you type gives off an image that attracts the type of people you seem to have a problem with. I think that if you were to type in full sentences with properly spelled words (for the most part, at least; everyone makes typos) then that would help.
thats the one, thanks! :)
(i was about to go look for it lol)


and i agree with that. stop typing in purple too...
if you don't want to attract 12 year old boys who'll "fall in love with you" at the drop of a hat, stop typing in a way that attracts 12 year old boys. type like a grown-up ;)
that said i don't know how you type/come accross on whatever other RP games you play/other forums/chatrooms etc, but as an assumption i think it holds water.
and you don't want to attract anyone, so that'll help there too (cos non-12-year-old boys have a little more smarts than that and shouldn't bother you in quite the same way)

I can say that I've had some degree of success with online relationships. After all, 90% of any good relationship is communication. One tends to attract the same kind of people that one attracts IRL. Of course, if you are the kind of person that attracts flaky, fake people IRL, chances are you are going to have the same kind of experience online as well.

Really though, what would make more sense: going out with someone you know nothing about or getting to know someone and then going out with them?

Bark only when you are told to, mongrel.

Hey, I'm a pedigree weirdo, so STFU, m'kay?

Lol, that answers fine, and the attention IS nice, but not when this convo takes place:

Random guy: Hey
Me: Hey
Random guy: How old r u?
Me: How old r u??
Random guy: 12, u?
Me: Older than u
Random guy: ok

(10 mins later)

Random guy: I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?
Me: No thanks :confused:
Conclusion: you can break a teen in ten minutes. I for one wouldn't like to know what happened during those minutes.

Hey, I'm a pedigree weirdo, so STFU, m'kay?
Sorry, I forgot...silly me :rolleyes:

Has anyone suggested that gay guys from Canada might be the solution to this problem?

Sorry, I forgot...silly me :rolleyes:

That's okay, I forgive you

almost 16? You'll only find dodgy loser early-teens who completely lack social interaction. If you're looking for a good friend to talk to, real life is probably a good start although people there generally completely suck too. The internet is only really good for making fun of people. Like Harlesburg.


-_- i resent that! i wouldnt consider myself a loser... and i'm 16! i'm not one that would ask for "favors" either...

I have plenty of female friends who game online, many of whom I met gaming online.

Don't give up hope Em :) There are plenty of guys out there who are not sexually frustrated Otaku and who are capable of friendship with "real girls".

My only advice would be, anyone who asks if you are a "real girl" right off the bat is almost definitely a perv. I'd suggest telling them that you are a hairy 40 year old man and watch them run like their arse is on fire :)

Conclusion: you can break a teen in ten minutes. I for one wouldn't like to know what happened during those minutes.

Nothing, He didn't talk 2 me at ALL for that time, kinda strange...

Nothing, He didn't talk 2 me at ALL for that time, kinda strange...

You're either lying or painfully lacking in humour.

You're either lying or painfully lacking in humour.

I'm not lying, this guy was just desparate, veeeeeeeery desparate

I'm not lying, this guy was just desparate, veeeeeeeery desparate

There's nothing wrong with being desperate, only with letting people know **sagely nod**

almost 16? You'll only find dodgy loser early-teens who completely lack social interaction. If you're looking for a good friend to talk to, real life is probably a good start although people there generally completely suck too. The internet is only really good for making fun of people. Like Harlesburg.
Hey this isn't the type of thing i wantto see when i search my name.:(

Hey this isn't the type of thing i wantto see when i search my name.:(
dont worry mate, you rock

and Em he was 12, what the hell did you expect from a pubescent boy? I think you should start with finding people with a similar level of maturity to you.

"think about it"

Hey this isn't the type of thing i wantto see when i search my name.:(

That's why I stopped searching for my name ages ago... ;)

That's why I stopped searching for my name ages ago... ;)
mines just to hard to search, everyone abbreviates it differently

I'm practically 16, and i don't want a relationship online, iv alredy got a bf, I just want a good friend, someone i can talk 2.
I'm 16 now. I went through the internet "relationship" stage when I was 12/13.... *shudder*. Never ever again.

Although, there is of course nothing wrong with it.. Just not for me anymore.

Although, there is of course nothing wrong with it.. Just not for me anymore.

Maybe your problem with it is that you did it when you were too young?

mines just to hard to search, everyone abbreviates it differently
I spell it correctly.http://67.18.37.16/html/emoticons/wub.gif
At least i think i do

Maybe your problem with it is that you did it when you were too young?
Probably. I was "going out" with this girl. Don't know why, she was 3 years older than me. She said I had a way with words or something equally stupid.
Didn't meet while we were "going out" but sometime after that I saw her and she was with her boyfriend of the time. Well long story short he was on drugs and wanted to kill me. So, that probably didn't help either.

I spell it correctly.http://67.18.37.16/html/emoticons/wub.gif
At least i think i do
yeah but you're awesome

yeah but your awesome

And you act like you care about spelling. Leave now.

And you act like you care about spelling. Leave now.
I never said anything about spelling, and technically, it is spelt correctly it is my grammar that was wrong

Hey this isn't the type of thing i wantto see when i search my name.:(


Took you a while :p

Took you a while :p
I haven't been on as much as i normally would since Christmas.
*Types scandalous things about Monkeypimp*

yeah but you're awesome
*Offers some Blackforest Cheese cake*

Probably. I was "going out" with this girl. Don't know why, she was 3 years older than me. She said I had a way with words or something equally stupid.
Didn't meet while we were "going out" but sometime after that I saw her and she was with her boyfriend of the time. Well long story short he was on drugs and wanted to kill me. So, that probably didn't help either.

Ouch. How did you manage to escape?

I never said anything about spelling, and technically, it is spelt correctly it is my grammar that was wrong

You bitched about the spelling of your name. Shallow, hollow fraud!!

You bitched about the spelling of your name. Shallow, hollow fraud!!
only that it makes it hard to search for :p
honestly I dont even know how to pronounce it myself

mines just to hard to search, everyone abbreviates it differently

I feel your pain.

only that it makes it hard to search for :p
honestly I dont even know how to pronounce it myself

LMAO :D

Just say: "I'm really a guy"

I'm not lying, this guy was just desparate, veeeeeeeery desparate

I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?

I feel your pain.
:D Mate, I hate your name

I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?
Yes.... I mean..... I'm really a guy

I love you with all my heart, and I will forever, will you be my girlfriend?
will you be mine forever?

Yes.... I mean..... I'm really a guy
Im okay with that

This thread has turned rather homo erotic...



More so than usual I mean.

I go for personality

Lmao, no you dont.

But seriously.. Why are you asking a question like this anyway? Isnt it obvious that people who are serious about online relationships are like that because they are desperate, sad, lonely or screwed up (and I dont mean any of those things in a *mean* way)?

This thread has turned rather homo erotic...



More so than usual I mean.
you love it :fluffle:

you love it :fluffle:




well........











yeah.

Im okay with that
You'd better be. I'm not getting transvestite just for you. :p

Isnt it obvious that people who are serious about online relationships are like that because they are desperate, sad, lonely or screwed up?
aw :(

actually i was pretty much all of them (apart from desperate). so fair point.


edit: checklist:
desperate: no
sad: yes
lonely: yes
screwed up: yes

that was when i started this online relationship... now i'm less sad and less lonely... in some ways at least

aw :(

actually i was pretty much all of them (apart from desperate). so fair point.
But I'm not damnit!

Lmao, no you dont.

But seriously.. Why are you asking a question like this anyway? Isnt it obvious that people who are serious about online relationships are like that because they are desperate, sad, lonely or screwed up (and I dont mean any of those things in a *mean* way)?

Then how do you mean them?

Lmao, no you dont.

But seriously.. Why are you asking a question like this anyway? Isnt it obvious that people who are serious about online relationships are like that because they are desperate, sad, lonely or screwed up (and I dont mean any of those things in a *mean* way)?

I wasn't any of those when I started mine.


Well...okay...I'm screwed up, but not in a bad way. ;)

I met my boyfriend of almost three years online. I came across his profile on some site one day and we started emailing back and forth - that went on for 10 months until we met. The advantage was that we knew each other's interests and opinions well, but not so well we didn't have that lovely getting-to-know-you honeymoon period when we first met. That made for a great friendship, which of course is the core basis of any serious relationship. We'd seen photos of each other, and while that is very different from seeing the real person, at least we had a good idea that we weren't going to be repulsed by each other :)

However, we both had bad experiences with meeting others online prior to meeting each other. He discovered he didn't really know his ex that well at all and they split up (nothing malicious or anything; it just turned out they weren't compatible). I got lied to quite badly by an ex; such things are so simple on the internet, where you have no definitive way of knowing exactly what the person is like. But if you're careful with getting to know the person both online and in real life, it can be a great way to meet like-minded people.

will you be mine forever?

That's hot.

The biggest problem I've had with my online interactions have been the result of age differences, not gender differences. This kid is just way too young for you. You might want to look for sites that cater to a more "mature" audience. And it's always a good idea to figure out the age of the person with whom you're interacting. It helps you to gague how to respond. It's not nice to beat up on unsuspecting little boys.Yep, I agree. I talk to several people I've never met IRL (some of them female; yes, I'm a guy) on AIM and via sites. I've never asked them for 'favors' and I never will - it's an easy thing to forget that there are real people behind the screenname, but so far I haven't. :D

I keep it around my age group though; people that are younger than 17 (no offense to you, of course) I generally can't stand talking to because they're often too immature to even be vaguely interesting. Plus they use colored text, like dark blue on black, or something else that makes me have to highlight it to prevent an aneurysm...

On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)
The probably like the way you Role-play. the fact that your name indicates Female is also something.

also, in posting you do, inadvertently give hints to your personality. one that people may find attractive. either that or you are an awsome role-player and they fell in love with your personality.

I keep it around my age group though; people that are younger than 17 (no offense to you, of course) I generally can't stand talking to because they're often too immature to even be vaguely interesting. Plus they use colored text, like dark blue on black, or something else that makes me have to highlight it to prevent an aneurysm...
i talk to one very mature 15 year old :)
they're not all like that
good evening amy...just saw you sign in :P
hows things?

i talk to one very mature 15 year old :)
they're not all like that
good evening amy...just saw you sign in :P
hows things?
I was just going to point that out ;)
things are ... okay. how about you? get my most recent, very short, email? *hugs*

I was just going to point that out ;)
things are ... okay. how about you? get my most recent, very short, email? *hugs*
haha beat you to it *points and laughs*
*giggles* - 20 year olds can be immature too :D
"...okay"? don't sound too convinced :-(
got your email, yeah, was gonna reply but i'll just say it here: fine by me :P
i can sign in if you fancy a breif chat (tho i have work to do so i can't stay long)?

On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)
Yes, this is in our DNA, our genes even. We all feel the need to try to communicate with others to the point that, it doesn’t matter if you were a mole, as long as you were an interesting mole, people would want to be closer to you, get to know your moleish ways, maybe even have your mole-like picture on their wall.

The biggest problem I've had with my online interactions have been the result of age differencesIt depends on the person/people, though, as to whether or not age differences equate to problems. I was 18 when I met my boyfriend online - he was 28. It was a non-issue to us then, and remains so.

haha beat you to it *points and laughs*
*giggles* - 20 year olds can be immature too :D
"...okay"? don't sound too convinced :-(
got your email, yeah, was gonna reply but i'll just say it here: fine by me :P
i can sign in if you fancy a breif chat (tho i have work to do so i can't stay long)?
meanie! :P
where would we be without some immaturity? :D
Meh, nothing much. Just not feeling great. I'll end up distracting you, heh, and I have stuff I should do... so probably be best to chat later... love you
oh, and *hugs* for your other post in this thread today :-( (yay for being less sad and lonely though :-))

aw :(

actually i was pretty much all of them (apart from desperate). so fair point.


edit: checklist:
desperate: no
sad: yes
lonely: yes
screwed up: yes

that was when i started this online relationship... now i'm less sad and less lonely... in some ways at least

Relationships can really help ease the sadness and loneliness. I certainly understand that, given my personal experiences in that area. But I don't recommend that people use relationships to do that. If they do, and come to rely on them to keep from being so sad and lonely, it tends to create bigger problems later if and when the relationships end.

Work on not being lonely and sad when you're with yourself, and then you'll have a solid emotional base to start from when beginning relationships, is my suggestion. For everyone, not just you, PM. I'm certainly not trying to pick on you or anything. Just wanted to share that. :)

i talk to one very mature 15 year old :)
they're not all like thatYeah, that's why I said 'mostly'. :D

On a lot of roleplaying games that I play, I'm often asked out or simply for a little :fluffle: I don't get this, these people have never seen me, for all they know I could be an ugly mole, but yet they still ask me out :confused: If anyone has any insight into this, it would be greatly appreciated :)

Finding a girl into roleplaying is like "jackpot!" I'm pretty sure they don't care in the slightest what you look like (ok, maybe they do, but the roleplaying probably trumps it)

Lmao, no you dont.

But seriously.. Why are you asking a question like this anyway? Isnt it obvious that people who are serious about online relationships are like that because they are desperate, sad, lonely or screwed up (and I dont mean any of those things in a *mean* way)?

Hey, there is nothing wrong with being desperate, sad, lonely, or screwed up...um...I mean...I'll sit down now.

Hi Priestess,
I don't know if you role-play with the same name, but it's pretty clearly female. Even still, my names are fairly gender neutral and people ask if I'm fem and my age. You can rest assured that if someone's first question is whether you are fem and your age, they're hoping for a cyber hard-on. Block them immediately or just politely avoid the question. Instead, steer the conversation where you seem to want it to go. Ask about their character or what they think of such and such...try to get a read on whether they can have an interesting conversation with you. If no...adios. It's not that different from real life, it simply allows for people to skip some social steps and possibly forget their manners with no consequences. This can be great, some people are socially awkward but really very fascinating. Some people are socially awkward and really very creepy. To tell the difference is a skill you'll hone throughout your life. You're very young, it's great that you are so eager to meet people, so you're ahead of the game.

I think one problem is if you are tryin' to start a online relationship, you are bound to meet some people who just aren't right. But if you are looking for a friend online, it can be easier, because you can both start to trust eachother and know eachother, and if you are to be in a relationship. That's how it worked out with my girlfriend , we talked for 8 and a half months on MSN and created a really close friendship, and then 2 and a half months ago she told me she loved me. Only draw back to it is that she lives on the other side of the world but I am sure that she is the only person for me,a nd I will do anything to make this work out.

I think one problem is if you are tryin' to start a online relationship, you are bound to meet some people who just aren't right. But if you are looking for a friend online, it can be easier, because you can both start to trust eachother and know eachother, and if you are to be in a relationship. That's how it worked out with my girlfriend , we talked for 8 and a half months on MSN and created a really close friendship, and then 2 and a half months ago she told me she loved me. Only draw back to it is that she lives on the other side of the world but I am sure that she is the only person for me,a nd I will do anything to make this work out.
thats the right attitude to have :)
good on you (and good luck)

(welcome to NS btw)