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Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?

Looking at this white forum doesn't help.

....i enjoy crying and wish i did so more often, but i do it hardly ever, maybe twice in the last 5 years (beyond that i cant remember well)
edit: wait just thought of a third time

I don't cry often.

My mom watches Lifetime because she needs a "good cry". Why do women need a "good cry"? God that is depressing.

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?
I have cried last monday on the funeral of my aunt...
i let my tears roll
and i would do it even if i have another reason to cry...

I don't cry often.

My mom watches Lifetime because she needs a "good cry". Why do women need a "good cry"? God that is depressing.

It does serve as a catharsis sometimes...

I have cried last monday on the funeral of my aunt...
i let my tears roll
and i would do it even if i have another reason to cry...

What would be another reason?

I rarely ever cry. I could probably make myself if I wanted though. Pain doesn't make me cry but I could get myself depressed enough if I dwelled on the deaths of friends and family (real of imagined).

What would be another reason?

you know....:fluffle:

You can change the colours in your profile.

Hmm, no I think the NS forums override what you specify in your profile.

It says here where you have the option to change the color:
"Please note that some forums here may override your skin choice temporarily."


And I suppose NS is one of those forums.

I do not cry often, in fact, since my childhood, I cried only a few times, either when people close to me died, or when I had a broken heart about a girl ;)

But many times, I do feel as if I were about to cry, mostly when watching people suffering, or even just thinking about it. How could I not, when thousands of kids die each day from hunger, while we destroy tons of food, and while just 10% of world advertising, or 10% of world military spendings, could grant any human being on the planet decent food, water, housing, basic health care and basic education ?

Hmm, no I think the NS forums override what you specify in your profile.

It says here where you have the option to change the color:
"Please note that some forums here may override your skin choice temporarily."


And I suppose NS is one of those forums.

Yeah, I forgot. I use a Firefox extension called Greasemonkey (http://greasemonkey.mozdev.org/) to override some forum settings, including the colour.

Three most common reasons for me to cry:


1. Too much booze.

2. Great physical pain.

3. Few songs.

It does serve as a catharsis sometimes...

Yea, but it's still annoying, Maybe it's just me but I hate crying, it just makes me uncomfortable.

Yea, but it's still annoying, Maybe it's just me but I hate crying, it just makes me uncomfortable.

Trust me, you're not alone with that one.

I do not know your gender nor your enviroments reactions towards it (perhaps you meant only the physical uncofmort), but atleast in Finland -no matter what is said- man is considered weak if he cries.
Deep inside, I seem to think so too, and so do many others. It just makes me feel ashamed and embarrased, and I very, very rarely cry if there's someone seeing it.

Trust me, you're not alone with that one.

I do not know your gender nor your enviroments reactions towards it (perhaps you meant only the physical uncofmort), but atleast in Finland -no matter what is said- man is considered weak if he cries.
Deep inside, I seem to think so too, and so do many others. It just makes me feel ashamed and embarrased, and I very, very rarely cry if there's someone seeing it.

I am a man, and I grew up with a dad who's the same way. I never cried in public, and the only time I cried was when both of my grandparents died on my dad side, and when my cat died. I did the crying in the comfort and privacy of my own home.

Do you cry a lot? no but sometimes

Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad? both

Can you influence it in any way? I can hold them back

Crying is good for you.

Only tears of joy- but that isn't crying.....
Or when i see something especially Patriotic.

There are only two instances where I Cry:

1. When I was younger and in great physical pain. I don't cry over this anymore.

2. When I am under great emotional stress. This is not very often as I am pretty stable.

When I grew up I was one of those guys who was taught not to cry and If I start to feel like I want to cry I can hold it back it's not too hard anymore. I never cry in public either. Also people crying makes me very uncomfortable.

I don't cry often.

My mom watches Lifetime because she needs a "good cry". Why do women need a "good cry"? God that is depressing.
Actually, tears release buildups of proteins caused by stress and hormones. Crying is kinda like peeing. It flushes bad stuff out of you.

Unfortunately, I have a hard time crying. (Lion King made me cry though. Damn stampedes :( )

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Or when i see something especially Patriotic.

If I see something especially patriotic, I can normally feel something welling up... but it's not tears :p

If I see something especially patriotic, I can normally feel something welling up... but it's not tears :p
Well you don't have some neighbour constanlty berating you.
*Shakes fist at Australia*

I honestly can't remember the last time I cried.

A little while ago, my dog was sick.
Hes 14 years old, and I was worried I was going to have to have him put down.
I balled a bit the night before I took him to the vet.

Hes fine now, although his medication makes him very thirsty, and he's bugging the fuck out of me at the moment for more water.

Cant give him too much though, not good for him.
That, and the fact that hes 14, and doesnt have the greatest bladder control anymore.

A little while ago, my dog was sick.
Hes 14 years old, and I was worried I was going to have to have him put down.
I balled a bit the night before I took him to the vet.

Hes fine now, although his medication makes him very thirsty, and he's bugging the fuck out of me at the moment for more water.

Cant give him too much though, not good for him.
That, and the fact that hes 14, and doesnt have the greatest bladder control anymore.

Ehh. I lost my dog earlier this year to bloat...it happened so quickly that I couldn't really get upset, only stare in stunned shock at his swollen dead body lying on the vet's table at 3 in the morning. He was only 8. :(

Got a new pup now, though, so it's not all doom and gloom. Only chewed up possessions and wet patches.

Ehh. I lost my dog earlier this year to bloat...it happened so quickly that I couldn't really get upset, only stare in stunned shock at his swollen dead body lying on the vet's table at 3 in the morning. He was only 8. :(

Got a new pup now, though, so it's not all doom and gloom.
What on earth is bloat?
I know when something is bloated but i have never heard of something having Bloat.

What on earth is bloat?
I know when something is bloated but i have never heard of something having Bloat.

It's when their stomach twists, and they end up swallowing air but not being able to expel it (or something). Eventually they swell up and their internal organs shut down.

Horses can get it too. I'm not sure about any other animals.

Ehh. I lost my dog earlier this year to bloat...it happened so quickly that I couldn't really get upset, only stare in stunned shock at his swollen dead body lying on the vet's table at 3 in the morning. He was only 8. :(

Got a new pup now, though, so it's not all doom and gloom. Only chewed up possessions and wet patches.


Its funny how most of the time, we men could get shot in the leg, we remain stoic and tough.
However, show me a golden retriever puppy..and Im a gibbering idiot, who can speak only in baby-talk.

It's when their stomach twists, and they end up swallowing air but not being able to expel it (or something). Eventually they swell up and their internal organs shut down.

Horses can get it too. I'm not sure about any other animals.
Then i must ask how does one manage to twist their stomach?

I almost got misty after watching a History Channel Special on the last days of World War On and why they certain commanders continued to fight over land that the next da they could be walking over without contest for instance an American general used his General to capture the Meuse River just to have a photo opurtunity(He took two steps onto a plank and then got off it again)

Or the British recapturing Merdop after losing it 4 years previously effectivly meaning 700,000 Britishs SOldiers had died for no reason at all.

Its funny how most of the time, we men could get shot in the leg, we remain stoic and tough.
However, show me a golden retriever puppy..and Im a gibbering idiot, who can speak only in baby-talk.

Heh, yeah :p

Then i must ask how does one manage to twist their stomach?

I don't think anyone really understands why it happens.

Heh, yeah :p



I don't think anyone really understands why it happens.
Better not be because of too much laughing.

What breed was your old dog and what is your new one?

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?

I hardly ever cry. I can't recall the last time that I did. Probably about four years ago, mostly stress related.

I have laughed several times to the point of tears since then, but that doesn't really count.

Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?

The only time a movie ever made me cry was during Pickett's Charge in the movie Gettysburg.

Some songs, upon first listen, have made me tear up a little. Nothing recently, however.

Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?

I can't cry at will, but I can stop crying fairly easily. I just remember that life is one big practical joke, and we are all the victims. Works pretty good. :p

It does serve as a catharsis sometimes... That's just strange. If I want catharsis, I play Unreal Tournament.


I'm unable to cry most of the time. Pain doesn't make me cry, oddly, although it does make me very loud.

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?


I rarely cry anymore. I used to have fits of crying when I was a teenager, but I've been through enough that it takes a lot to make me cry.

Some movies do hit me in a soft spot. I can't remember a time that I cried from happiness. When I'm really down and out, I'll bawl like a big baby especially if I think about certain things too hard. I hate it when other people see me cry though so I try to hide it.

I can't make myself cry at the snap of a finger, but when I feel like I need to release some tears I can work myself up. Stopping tears usually requires that I write down what I'm feeling or take a very hot bath,

I almost got misty after watching a History Channel Special on the last days of World War On and why they certain commanders continued to fight over land that the next da they could be walking over without contest for instance an American general used his General to capture the Meuse River just to have a photo opurtunity(He took two steps onto a plank and then got off it again)

Or the British recapturing Merdop after losing it 4 years previously effectivly meaning 700,000 Britishs SOldiers had died for no reason at all.
Or the Christmas Eve/Day '14 when the guns fell silent.

What breed was your old dog and what is your new one?

Both Rhodesian Ridgebacks. :)

no offence to anyone who has posted here but this is kind of an emo thread.

no offence to anyone who has posted here but this is kind of an emo thread.

I still have no clue what "emo" is... :rolleyes:

I still have no clue what "emo" is... :rolleyes: Apparently it's a thread about crying. There now, you have your answer.

I still have no clue what "emo" is... :rolleyes:

Emo Song (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=AkZu3KrLyOu67bMvm3alhQ1XNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2cDZxbGtwBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMQRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGN TYxXzk0/SIG=11dinkspq/EXP=1136639821/**http%3a//emosong.ytmnd.com/)

Emo Song (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=AkZu3KrLyOu67bMvm3alhQ1XNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2cDZxbGtwBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMQRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGN TYxXzk0/SIG=11dinkspq/EXP=1136639821/**http%3a//emosong.ytmnd.com/)

Nah, apart from the lyrics it doesn't sound emo.

Nah, apart from the lyrics it doesn't sound emo.

It's the best I could come up with on short notice.:p

Emo Song (http://rds.yahoo.com/_ylt=AkZu3KrLyOu67bMvm3alhQ1XNyoA;_ylu=X3oDMTE2cDZxbGtwBGNvbG8DZQRsA1dTMQRwb3MDMQRzZWMDc3IEdnRpZANGN TYxXzk0/SIG=11dinkspq/EXP=1136639821/**http%3a//emosong.ytmnd.com/) That is very drLOL. :D

I never cried, until my divorce, now I cry at almost anything and can make myself cry uncontrolably at will.

I even managed to send my wife (now ex wife) a bottle of tears for our aniversary when seperated I cried that much.

Now I need to get back into cat mode and become master of my emotions again.

It's the best I could come up with on short notice.:p

Haha. I should record an emo song.

Haha. I should record an emo song.

Go for it! I'd be interested in hearing it.

Go for it! I'd be interested in hearing it.

Eh, i'll give it a shot but I can't make too much noise right now.

I'd love to record an emo song now :D but I don't know what they sound like. Which sort of impedes the effort. :)

It seems that everyone is stressed and close to tears at any given time. It is much harder to make a good comedy than a movie that brings people to tears.

It seems that everyone is stressed and close to tears at any given time. It is much harder to make a good comedy than a movie that brings people to tears. Unless it's black comedy.

Only movie real men are allowed to cry in is Shawshank Redemption.
God Damn that kicks arse

Only movie real men are allowed to cry in is Shawshank Redemption.
God Damn that kicks arse

Been there, done that - awesome flick. Also Braveheart is excuseable.

The last time I cried was so long ago I don't remember it, probably in infancy.

Even when people die I just feel emotionally blank, as though incapable of caring, which is true. Under great stress I may snap and start breaking things and hurting people, but I don't cry. When I'm feeling very depressed, I just tend to sleep too much and spend too much time on NS. Emotions as such are not a part of my life; indeed, I've developed my mind in such a way as to eliminate all emotional responses to stimuli and control my impulses to cry, laugh, smile, etc.

Unless it's black comedy.

Please don't be prejudiced in the threads. Black comedies are great, especially, "Don't Be a Menace to South Central While Drinking Your Juice in the Hood". Holy shit is that movie funny. :)

I'd love to record an emo song now :D but I don't know what they sound like. Which sort of impedes the effort. :)

Haha...i've come up with something that sounds very cliche emo...but my mic doesn't want to record properly. (the volume is too low, and it has a lot of background hissing)

Emo? (http://www.mesaverde.co.uk/mp3/)

There may be a difference here between "crying" and shedding tears.

I shed tears at each of my grandmother's funerals.

I shed a few tears when "Mickey" died in "Rocky III".

I shed a tear when "Ave Maria" is sung well. Andrea Bocelli also sings a song that will make tears well up.

I cant say I can recall crying,though. Not since I was a young child. I dont make noise and its not prolonged-just tears.

Been there, done that - awesome flick. Also Braveheart is excuseable.


You just reminded me of Braveheart. It does get me a bit emotional, but I think the musical score has more to do with that than the scene.
Braveheart is an epic to me.

Emo? (http://www.mesaverde.co.uk/mp3/)

A lot of it is screamo stuff which isn't the really cliche crappy emo i'm referring to. The "early emo" listed there is closest (especially during the intros and such), but the early stuff was actually okay.

*reads on* Hey, in actual fact, this guy hates the cliche crappy stuff too. Oh well.

Emo? (http://www.mesaverde.co.uk/mp3/)

Oh.


Turns out 1) I had no idea what emo sounds like and 2) I don't like any of it.

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?
The only movies which will almost always bring tears to my eyes are ones like "Saving Private Ryan" which tap into my deep love for my brothers and sisters in arms. Sometimes I will cry when reading about the neglect and/or abuse of small children. That's about it, though.

I can usually get myself to cry by just thinking about The Vietnam Veterans Memorial ( The Wall ). I can usually stop myself from crying about most other things, just kinda "suck it up." I will admit, however, that I cried when I found out Zooke had cancer and was suffering greatly. :(

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?
I cry more so recently than when I was young. Hormones, or something.

I can turn it off, when I want to. Don't always want to.

Sometimes I will cry when reading about the neglect and/or abuse of small children. Might I suggest that you do not read this book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1558743669/103-0070126-3058210?v=glance&n=283155).

How come women are able to turn on and off crying at will, eh? What's with that?

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I can usually get myself to cry by just thinking about The Vietnam Veterans Memorial ( The Wall ). I can usually stop myself from crying about most other things, just kinda "suck it up." (


You reminded me of another- I have visited the Vietnam War Memorial each time of been in DC and gotten choked up each time. The impact of all the names right in front of you. And men kneeling with their hand or head resting on the black stone. The hush over the whole area. You go in knowing its a somber memorial, but it still catches you off guard.

The World War II Memorial there is complete now. It is overwhelming too and stirs up emotion.

Might I suggest that you do not read this book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1558743669/103-0070126-3058210?v=glance&n=283155).

How come women are able to turn on and off crying at will, eh? What's with that?

My wife-from time to time-seems to look for a good cry. A sad movie is usually the subject.
I never sought to cry. I guess its not a release or relief for me? I cant understand it.

Might I suggest that you do not read this book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1558743669/103-0070126-3058210?v=glance&n=283155).

How come women are able to turn on and off crying at will, eh? What's with that?
You're right, I shouldn't read that one. I'm afraid I'm all too familiar with child abuse and neglect to be able to handle that one.

Women are granted that skill as one of their "arsenal" of weapons to use against men. It's a force of nature. :)

Oh.


Turns out 1) I had no idea what emo sounds like and 2) I don't like any of it.

Scarily, there ar emo bands many, many times worse than those. :/

You're right, I shouldn't read that one. I'm afraid I'm all too familiar with child abuse and neglect to be able to handle that one. I read it when I was about 12. Didn't make me cry, although the end of Gladiator nearly did. :p
Women are granted that skill as one of their "arsenal" of weapons to use against men. It's a force of nature. :) I can think of better ways to emotionally blackmail people.

You reminded me of another- I have visited the Vietnam War Memorial each time of been in DC and gotten choked up each time. The impact of all the names right in front of you. And men kneeling with their hand or head resting on the black stone. The hush over the whole area. You go in knowing its a somber memorial, but it still catches you off guard.

The World War II Memorial there is complete now. It is overwhelming too and stirs up emotion.
I understand. For me, The Wall is a classic case of approach-avoidance: I want to go to honor my bros, but I dread it because it always affects me so deeply. I'm pretty much worthless for several days after a visit. I'm probably going to visit again this year, but I know I'll put it off until the last minute. Sigh.

Haven't seen anything but pictures of the WWII Memorial, but it looks beautiful. I'll stop by when I go next.

I don't cry a lot in/over real life. Rather stoic there. Apart from in arguments, that is - always very easily tearing up there, which is incredibly frustrating.

And funerals, dead pets, or evil break-ups are obviously exceptions.

I don't normally cry from pain, though I find it completely fascinating how really sharp pain can make you tear up in a split-second. I remember walking down the street with some friends and tossing my hair to get it out of my eyes - cricked my neck in the worst way ever and tears were streaming down my face immediately and completely involuntarily. My friends had no idea what had hit them (or me, as it were).

Movies and books:
With movies, I tear up very easily but very rarely full out cry.
With books, the chance for a veritable cry-fest are higher (probably because it just takes longer to read through the sad bits than to watch them). The absolutely worst cry I've ever had over a book was over "The Notebook" by Nicholas Sparks, way back when I had never heard of him or the book and just bought it because it was on sale (honest!).

And I've yet to get through Lord of the Rings without bawling all through "The Grey Havens".

I can think of better ways to emotionally blackmail people.
It's not really "emotional blackmail," it's just one tool women have developed to offset the ( usually ) greater physical strength of men. :p

On topic:
We were on topic! We were talking about things that make us cry. If you don't like the things that make us cry, then don't read the damned posts! :mad:

Haven't seen anything but pictures of the WWII Memorial, but it looks beautiful. I'll stop by when I go next.

You could spend many hours there. Its incredible.

We were on topic! We were talking about things that make us cry. If you don't like the things that make us cry, then don't read the damned posts! :mad:

Aaaaah, no, don't be mad at me! I typed that because I started writing it immediately after my off-topic comment about emo music! When It was posted I realized that it obviously came across like referring to the ongoing discussion and deleted it - too late, though, it seems. :(

We were on topic! We were talking about things that make us cry. If you don't like the things that make us cry, then don't read the damned posts! :mad:

Whoa, Eut! Forget your prozac this morning?

You could spend many hours there. Its incredible.
I intend to. One of the few groups of people for whom I have great respect are those who lay their lives on the line for their families and communities. All too many times, most of the others are ignorant or disrespectful or just downright hateful. :(

Aaaaah, no, don't be mad at me! I typed that because I started writing it immediately after my off-topic comment about emo music! When It was posted I realized that it obviously came across like referring to the ongoing discussion and deleted it - too late, though, it seems. :(
Ok.

Whoa, Eut! Forget your prozac this morning?
No, I just misunderstood what he was referring to. My bad.

I just get so angry sometimes when the people for whom I have such great respect are being dissed. Again, my bad.

No, I just misunderstood what he was referring to. My bad.

I just get so angry sometimes when the people for whom I have such great respect are being dissed. Again, my bad.

Nah, not really your bad - the way it was posted there was really only one way to understand it... So, sorry again for the mix-up. :(

Do you cry a lot? Or not at all, ever?
Do some movies bring tears to your eyes, do you cry out of happiness, do you cry when you're sad?
Can you influence it in any way? Like a little mind trick to stop you crying or to make you cry at will?

the only thing that can force me to cry are onions. lord, they really hurt my eyes. i do cry but not much at all. many friends have told me how they've never seen me cry, that's really because i don't cry in front of people. i don't want it to feel like i want attention or pity. there are few movies that have made me tear up and there's only one movie i have ever cried at. i don't cry when i'm physically hurt, i just blurt out a load of expletives and kick whatever made me hurt myself. i don't use crying really to express my sadness, but there are times where i've let it all out.

i don't cry when i'm physically hurt, i just blurt out a load of expletives and kick whatever made me hurt myself. Same here, except I tend to react in a worse way - like hitting my head on something and then headbutting whatever hurt me!

Same here, except I tend to react in a worse way - like hitting my head on something and then headbutting whatever hurt me!

That sort of defeats the purpose of being upset about getting hurt in the first place, doesn't it?