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Advice please!! :(

Hobovillia
29-12-2005, 21:45
Well I have this really great friend (thats a girl) and I really really like her, right? I know she used to like me and I really wanna ask her out... I would but I'm too shy, advice please?!:( But I have been a real bitch to her in the past, purposely (I get annoyed easily) and accendentally. And umm, ahh help!
Cabra West
29-12-2005, 21:48
Well I have this really great friend (thats a girl) and I really really like her, right? I know she used to like me and I really wanna ask her out... I would but I'm too shy, advice please?!:(

Advice against shyness? There's no instant remedy for that...

Make sure it's what you really, really want, keep that in mind, take a really deep breath and ask her.
Hobovillia
29-12-2005, 21:50
Advice against shyness? There's no instant remedy for that...

Make sure it's what you really, really want, keep that in mind, take a really deep breath and ask her.
Well the thing is I can never talk to her away from both our friends and also its the school holidays here and shes going to Spain for awhile (maybe even moving there:( )
Cabra West
29-12-2005, 21:53
Well the thing is I can never talk to her away from both our friends and also its the school holidays here and shes going to Spain for awhile (maybe even moving there:( )

Why can't you just call her?
If you are really too shy to do that, how about an email? A letter?
The Supreme Rulers
29-12-2005, 21:56
A letter is better than email, but a phone call is better than that. Basically you want to do it in person, or by phone. What i've learned (and this don't make it any easier, that DEEEEP breath is the key) is to decide if it's what you really want and if it is, just find any way to do it that you can. If you really wanted it and you don't, then you'll be pissed at yourself for wussing out, trust me.
Phyritia
29-12-2005, 22:01
the best thing to do is go for it. other wise you won't feel like a man. and if you don't feel like a man how can you date anyone
The Magyar Peoples
29-12-2005, 22:05
Sort your life out so you're no longer a pussy seeking advice on an internet forum.
Terecia
29-12-2005, 22:09
Imagine if she moved to spain. What would have happened if you asked her out? Would things be different? Don't be the guy left sitting there on corner with those questions. Just do it!
Cannot think of a name
29-12-2005, 22:10
Burn your name into her lawn.


Or wait, is it don't burn your name into her lawn...

I'll have to check what the restraining order says, I'll get back to you...
The Magyar Peoples
29-12-2005, 22:11
Imagine if she moved to spain. What would have happened if you asked her out? Would things be different? Don't be the guy left sitting there on corner with those questions. Just do it!

But he is, cos he's a loser. Face it.
Terecia
29-12-2005, 22:13
But he is, cos he's a loser. Face it.

Oh yeah....forgot.
Madnestan
29-12-2005, 22:17
But he is, cos he's a loser. Face it.

...or then he's a professor doing a study of internet forums, trying to figure what's the percentage of those who try to give friendly advice and help compared to those wwho just want to boost their own, staggering ego by beeing an asshole.
GoodThoughts
29-12-2005, 22:30
Rent the DVD "Swingers" (no not that kind of swinging) and watch it to the end. You couldn't make yourself look anymore foolish that the "lead" in that movie and he ended up with the right girl eventually.
ARF-COM and IBTL
29-12-2005, 22:59
Well I have this really great friend (thats a girl) and I really really like her, right? I know she used to like me and I really wanna ask her out... I would but I'm too shy, advice please?!:( But I have been a real bitch to her in the past, purposely (I get annoyed easily) and accendentally. And umm, ahh help!

Walk up to her "Hey Hottie are you doign anything..[date/time]"
Highly Evolved Evil
29-12-2005, 23:07
You could just try the direct approach. Just walk up to her wherever and ask her if she wants to go see a movie or something. If you're worried, think of it this way. The most likely worst thing that could happen is that she says no. But you've just asked her out in a casual sort of way, so provided you don't look mortally wounded (or ask her again 5 secs later) she won't know how desparate/shy you are, because you could just be asking her out as a friend. See?
Czardas
29-12-2005, 23:48
Ask her out in a very nervous and obviously really shy way. When she refuses, go crazy and start blowing random people up. If she accepts (it won't happen, but you never know...), go crazy and start blowing random people up anyway. It might not help, but it would amuse me.

Well, ok. Do not ask for advice on an internet forum containing Czardas as a member. Clear? Clear. ;)
Branin
29-12-2005, 23:55
Ask her out in a very nervous and obviously really shy way. When she refuses, go crazy and start blowing random people up. If she accepts (it won't happen, but you never know...), go crazy and start blowing random people up anyway. It might not help, but it would amuse me.

Well, ok. Do not ask for advice on an internet forum containing Czardas as a member. Clear? Clear. ;)
Clear as Mud.

So how do I get the girl oh mighty one?
Elsburytonia
30-12-2005, 00:04
Ask her out to a movie or perhaps arrange a picnic which is better for personal time together.

What ever you do, do it now!

I let a crush go for 3 years before acting and by the time I did the "let's just be friends," clause could be invoked.