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and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:

how is this NS's fault?

Hang in there buddy, I know what you're going through.

because i met her on NS of course :D

how is this NS's fault?

For being so gosh-darned inclusive?

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:
Suggested alternatives:

1. Move.

2. Leave NS.

3. Decide to not be "in love." :p

ah...been there, done that.
oh wait. I still am there ;)
here, have some chocolate. it helps.

Suggested alternatives:

1. Move.

2. Leave NS.

3. Decide to not be "in love." :p

1. i'm 18 and i can't
2. how will that help?
3. i tried!!!

because i met her on NS of course :D
ooooooo, so who's the lucky lady?

ooooooo, so who's the lucky lady?

:D
she doesn't post on the forums so you wouldn't know her

1. i'm 18 and i can't
2. how will that help?
3. i tried!!!
1. And your reasoning behind that would be?

2. Less exposure to her?

3. So did I. ( shrug )

:D
she doesn't post on the forums so you wouldn't know her
:eek: there are people that don't post on the forums?!

:D
she doesn't post on the forums so you wouldn't know her

Ahhh, file this one under "International Affairs".

Is she Orange?

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:
Ok, for the fourth 'and', the most important thing is, does she know? If she does, then for buggery's sake (possibly literally...) do something about it. If she doesn't, then for buggery's sake (I just like the phrase), tell her. Simple really.
The other points, well:
Arrange to meet. Hopefully, she won't think you're a psycho.
I know the feeling. I swallowed two matchbox racers once :p
No one can help being in love.
Look on the bright side - it's NS's fault you know she exists.

because i met her on NS of course :D
Don't worry. 'She' is probably a 40 year old, pot-bellied USian who lives in his parent's basement.

1. And your reasoning behind that would be?

2. Less exposure to her?

3. So did I. ( shrug )

1. i have school, and then next year college
2. MSN :D
3. poor us

:eek: there are people that don't post on the forums?!
yes, absolutely no one in my region posts on the NS forums :confused:

Is she Orange?

i see, now how did i not think of that joke? :p

yes, absolutely no one in my region posts on the NS forums :confused:
then why do they bother playing the game? it's so boring after like a month

wait...so you haven't ever met her irl? :(

Ok, for the fourth 'and', the most important thing is, does she know? If she does, then for buggery's sake (possibly literally...) do something about it. If she doesn't, then for buggery's sake (I just like the phrase), tell her. Simple really.
The other points, well:
Arrange to meet. Hopefully, she won't think you're a psycho.
I know the feeling. I swallowed two matchbox racers once :p
No one can help being in love.
Look on the bright side - it's NS's fault you know she exists.

yes she knows, she loves me too.
i plan on meeting her in the future but thats not for months yet :(
i used to put matchbox racers into my vcr, dunno why....

Don't worry. 'She' is probably a 40 year old, pot-bellied USian who lives in his parent's basement.

yeah, that is just what i needed, possible doubts of lying :p

yes she knows, she loves me too.
i plan on meeting her in the future but thats not for months yet :(
i used to put matchbox racers into my vcr, dunno why....
Quit complaining then. She knows, you're going to meet. Look forward to it with a smile on your face. You love someone who loves you too - there is no greater feeling in the world.


Hey, Eutrusca, still think I'm a cynic? :p

then why do they bother playing the game? it's so boring after like a month
i really have no idea, very few of them even use the regions forum
its strange, i mean i guess some just keep their nations alive

Sort of the same thing happened to me on xbox live.

wait...so you haven't ever met her irl? :(

no :(

Quit complaining then. She knows, you're going to meet. Look forward to it with a smile on your face. You love someone who loves you too - there is no greater feeling in the world.


Hey, Eutrusca, still think I'm a cynic? :p

yes, i know, and i am happy, and i love the way she makes me smile
BUT this feeling in my stomach and chest have to stop, or i may explode in some way.
plus i am kinda of kiddish in the way that i want it now!!! :)

Is she Orange?


Very clever!! (applauds, then bites you anyway)

Very clever!! (applauds, then bites you anyway)

:eek:
biting in my thread????
hey, i didn't say stop :p

Don't worry. 'She' is probably a 40 year old, pot-bellied USian who lives in his parent's basement.


Even then, he'd still be more desireable and much higher on the social ladder than the vast majority of our friends to the north.

Very clever!! (applauds, then bites you anyway)
Hey! I missed you today!

:eek:
biting in my thread????
hey, i didn't say stop :p


I usually do things when it suits me and no one has ever declared me as "Joe Appropriate".

Even then, he'd still be more desireable and much higher on the social ladder than the vast majority of our friends to the north.
Puleez. One Newfie trailer park boy would beat out one Jersey banker any day. And you know it. Canuks are the creme de la creme...that's why we're on top.

Hey! I missed you today!

thanks-missed you too. I've had a splitting headache and have been taking it easy for a few days. I've been on very little- a little yesterday and a little now.

thanks-missed you too. I've had a splitting headache and have been taking it easy for a few days. I've been on very little- a little yesterday and a little now.
[last hijack] You never explained how you got a concussion...[/last hijack]

Puleez. One Newfie trailer park boy would beat out one Jersey banker any day. And you know it. Canuks are the creme de la creme...that's why we're on top.

Beat? Beat how? Arm wrestling? More teeth?

Ponds have pond scum floating on top too.

[last hijack] You never explained how you got a concussion...[/last hijack]


Out of respect for the Original Poster, I will TG you.


I Love Oranges- best wishes in a potentially tricky situation.

And,actually- I Love Orange juice. Think about it.

Out of respect for the Original Poster, I will TG you.


I Love Oranges- best wishes in a potentially tricky situation.

And,actually- I Love Orange juice. Think about it.

meh respect shnespect, i don't really care, i just realised you people will be no help to me as either way i'm gonna go for it.

and yes Orange Juice is very good ;)

meh respect shnespect, i don't really care, i just realised you people will be no help to me as either way i'm gonna go for it.

and yes Orange Juice is very good ;)

Good on ya. Only piece of advice I could give you is "Don't listen to my advice." And you should always listen to my advice. :cool:

:eek: there are people that don't post on the forums?!

Don't believe it! That's just what they want you to think. And remember: There is no conspiracy.
FNORD

Good on ya. Only piece of advice I could give you is "Don't listen to my advice." And you should always listen to my advice. :cool:



but you said.....
and then you said.....
but if the first one, then the second one and.....

*head explodes*

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:
What kind of orange is she? Navel? Because you know they're sterile. No little oranges in your future if you marry a Navel orange.

:eek: there are people that don't post on the forums?!
Of course not. He's talking about an orange. They don't post because typing is hard when you've got no fingers.

meh respect shnespect, i don't really care, i just realised you people will be no help to me as either way i'm gonna go for it.

and yes Orange Juice is very good ;)
First rule of NSGeneral...if its something you want actual help with (well, really, anything at all) you wont get it. What you will get are alot of random comments.

Of course not. He's talking about an orange. They don't post because typing is hard when you've got no fingers.
Ah...you only said it's hard...not impossible.

*Imagines an orange bouncing on a keyboard typing up shakespearian sonnets*


creepy. Maybe the oranges are plotting a takeover.

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:
I hope it's not one of the three chicks Zilam is in love with.

Ok, for the fourth 'and', the most important thing is, does she know? If she does, then for buggery's sake (possibly literally...) do something about it. If she doesn't, then for buggery's sake (I just like the phrase), tell her. Simple really.
The other points, well:
Arrange to meet. Hopefully, she won't think you're a psycho.
I know the feeling. I swallowed two matchbox racers once :p
No one can help being in love.
Look on the bright side - it's NS's fault you know she exists.
Why'd you have to bring buggery into this. I LOVE ORANGES is from Ireland and I think buggery is illegal there.

yes she knows, she loves me too.
i plan on meeting her in the future but thats not for months yet :(
i used to put matchbox racers into my vcr, dunno why....
Is she going to put out?

I Love Oranges] or i may explode in some way.That's called ejaculation. It may be self-induced or it may come in the way of a dream (i.e. - nocturnal emission). ;)

That's called ejaculation. It may be self-induced or it may come in the way of a dream (i.e. - nocturnal emission). ;)

It can also happen when women do stuff to you:eek:

It can also happen when women do stuff to you:eek:
Or when you do stuff to sheep, but I've said too much.

What kind of orange is she? Navel? Because you know they're sterile. No little oranges in your future if you marry a Navel orange.

no i've broken my pact and went for a woman this time and not an Orange, i still love them in my own special way. but i love her more

Or when you do stuff to sheep, but I've said too much.


Mmmm... sheep. Baaaa.... come here you fluffy little pillow of cottony softness....

Oh sorry. Did I write that out loud?

First rule of NSGeneral...if its something you want actual help with (well, really, anything at all) you wont get it. What you will get are alot of random comments.

yes i know, but at the time it was building up in me and i had to do something and this happened to be it


Ah...you only said it's hard...not impossible.

*Imagines an orange bouncing on a keyboard typing up shakespearian sonnets*

creepy. Maybe the oranges are plotting a takeover.

yes they are, and i'm there leader

I hope it's not one of the three chicks Zilam is in love with.

no, its not, that whole story sounds a little shady to me anyway :rolleyes:

Why'd you have to bring buggery into this. I LOVE ORANGES is from Ireland and I think buggery is illegal there.

oh bugger, i think he's right

Is she going to put out?

does that really matter? and if yes, its still none of your freaking business :D

no i've broken my pact and went for a woman this time and not an Orange, i still love them in my own special way. but i love her more
Well, just remember not to peel her rind off, pull her apart into wedges, and chew them into a pulp before swallowing them. It's ok with oranges, but with women it gets you locked up for murder and cannibalism.

Poor ISLO.
The only sane solution is to build a large catapult and fire yourself into her waiting arms. Nothing else even comes close to making sense.

Well, just remember not to peel her rind off, pull her apart into wedges, and chew them into a pulp before swallowing them. It's ok with oranges, but with women it gets you locked up for murder and cannibalism.

your telling me, i just got out of prison from the last "mis understanding"

Mmmm... sheep. Baaaa.... come here you fluffy little pillow of cottony softness....

Oh sorry. Did I write that out loud?

No, you're fine. The out-loud part was really more like "uhh...uhh...ahh...UHH...oh, yeah..."

Poor ISLO.
The only sane solution is to build a large catapult and fire yourself into her waiting arms. Nothing else even comes close to making sense.

:eek:
you called me ISLO
ya, very little of this whole situation makes sense to me :confused:

Poor ISLO.
The only sane solution is to build a large catapult and fire yourself into her waiting arms. Nothing else even comes close to making sense.

Especially since I'm offering discounts on my hand-crafted catapults.

I know it's hard to do but time will heal, and if you can't wait find some1 else to take her off your mind. that's about it.

I know it's hard to do but time will heal, and if you can't wait find some1 else to take her off your mind. that's about it.

time will heal what?
i like being in love, only problem is she is too far away and my stomach feels it wants to explode sometimes

Do you know what she looks like Oranges:p

time will heal what?
i like being in love, only problem is she is too far away and my stomach feels it wants to explode sometimes

Dude, you just have to work through it. It sucks, but that's all you can do, and if you're really in love it'll be worth it in the end.

Do you know what she looks like Oranges:p

Since you don't use grammar, I'll make it up

Do you know what? she looks like Oranges:p

Duh. That's why he loves her.

mmm...cellulite

Seriously, people, grammar is your friend. As is reading a thread to avoid the same tired jokes.

Do you know what she looks like Oranges:p

yup, from her msn thing and other pics she's sent me

Since you don't use grammar, I'll make it up



Duh. That's why he loves her.

mmm...cellulite

Seriously, people, grammar is your friend. As is reading a thread to avoid the same tired jokes.

how many jokes about her being Oranges has her been now i wonder? :rolleyes:

Mmmm sheep, oranges and catapults... You really can't ask for more. This thread adresses all the age-old questions anybody has ever had concerning love and relationships.

And war, come to think of it. (Beware the army of sheep armed with angry oranges flung from catapults! :eek: )

What's worse is being in love with someone who told you they liked you, but because they refuse to leave their boyfriend (who her whole family hate, and who she always complains about), and because you refuse to be
'the other guy' know that things are never meant to be.

:eek:
you called me ISLO
ya, very little of this whole situation makes sense to me :confused:

Yes. Yes I did.

Another possible solution is to wank her out of your mind.see babe thread link in signatorio
vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvv

just cos they like you doesn't mean they don't love their boyfriend. and if they aren't happy with their boyfriend and stay wiith him then that is a problem of theirs and you should just be there for her if she needs you, not in a swoop in and steal her way but in a way where she needs dsupport and you should give it to her. maybe in the future she will realise you are the better option but knowing irony you will be with someone then and it will all just be more confused.

Since you don't use grammar, I'll make it up

Seriously, people, grammar is your friend. As is reading a thread to avoid the same tired jokes.
Grammar is not my friend, never say otherwise! I fail all grammar quizes! And what thread are you refering to...

just cos they like you doesn't mean they don't love their boyfriend. and if they aren't happy with their boyfriend and stay wiith him then that is a problem of theirs and you should just be there for her if she needs you, not in a swoop in and steal her way but in a way where she needs dsupport and you should give it to her. maybe in the future she will realise you are the better option but knowing irony you will be with someone then and it will all just be more confused.

He's showing maturity?
:confused:
Who are you and what have you done with ISLO?

I'm in love too :( And my bottle of chloroform hasn't gotten here :(

All right I have it better than you Oranges, me love is for a dashing (can you use the adjective "dashing" for a female person?) young woman who likes sports, works hards, and loves family. ANd she is less than 15 miles away from me. Now alll i gotsta do is convince her to smell the rag..

He's showing maturity?
:confused:
Who are you and what have you done with ISLO?

i know!!! whats wrong with me?
i am so freakin confused

I'm in love too :( And my bottle of chloroform hasn't gotten here :(

All right I have it better than you Oranges, me love is for a dashing (can you use the adjective "dashing" for a female person?) young woman who likes sports, works hards, and loves family. ANd she is less than 15 miles away from me. Now all i gotsta do is convince her to smell the rag..
Ah, the old 'Does this rag smell of chloroform to you?' trick. Can't say it's ever been a success for me, but then, I've never tried it. Not sure it works on oranges *ducks*

3. i tried!!! Try harder! Have some willpower man! I managed to purge the weak feelings!

just cos they like you doesn't mean they don't love their boyfriend. and if they aren't happy with their boyfriend and stay wiith him then that is a problem of theirs and you should just be there for her if she needs you, not in a swoop in and steal her way but in a way where she needs dsupport and you should give it to her. maybe in the future she will realise you are the better option but knowing irony you will be with someone then and it will all just be more confused.

Hey, I don't plan on swooping for her. She is one of my best friends and I would never do anything to hurt her. Whatever happens, I will be there for her. Doesn't stop it driving me mad though does it? Probably best she doesn't know how I feel about her as that would just fuck things up.

I think all of you need to have a good long talk with Armandian Cheese. Or Czardas.

Actually, no. Not Czardas.

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:

*licks chocolate off fingers*
Well, Sweetness, good luck with that...;)

Try harder! Have some willpower man! I managed to purge the weak feelings!

oh i have, i was even only able to text her (sporodically) for over a month and i still couldn't get over it. so i've given in :fluffle:

Hey, I don't plan on swooping for her. She is one of my best friends and I would never do anything to hurt her. Whatever happens, I will be there for her. Doesn't stop it driving me mad though does it? Probably best she doesn't know how I feel about her as that would just fuck things up.

well then i wouldn't say it was worst then, everything is relative really, if you really love her then you might have to tell her and take a chance.

Just curious...is buggery illegal in Ireland? Someone said earlier that it is...I just want to know, in case I ever go there.

And what thread are you refering to...

The one where people did the obvious joke before the fifty-somethingth post

Just curious...is buggery illegal in Ireland? Someone said earlier that it is...I just want to know, in case I ever go there.

Sure...in case...

*licks chocolate off fingers*
Well, Sweetness, good luck with that...;)

how very strange.....
and very ironic....
almost as if you knew....

I think all of you need to have a good long talk with Armandian Cheese. Or Czardas.

Actually, no. Not Czardas.

why?

well then i wouldn't say it was worst then, everything is relative really, if you really love her then you might have to tell her and take a chance.

There's no point mate, she's fixed on him and I have to accept it. It's just on my mind as I am seeing her everyday at work atm. When we both go back to our distant universities after the XMAS break it'll be much better. I just needed to release it somewhere into the world as it is really killing me. And forget other relationships. Since I realised how I felt, I have not been able to chat to other women.

Thanks for all your help though.

Just curious...is buggery illegal in Ireland? Someone said earlier that it is...I just want to know, in case I ever go there.

what exactly is buggery?

why?
You've never talked to Czardas have you? Have a look at his sig, and take a look at the 'Thing people have said about me' link...

what exactly is buggery?

I believe it is something similar to bestiality only with insects.

I believe it is something similar to bestiality only with insects.


LMAO!

what exactly is buggery?
Ah, innocence...:p
Anal sex.

Ah, innocence...:p
Anal sex.
then yes, its legal

Ah, the old 'Does this rag smell of chloroform to you?' trick. Can't say it's ever been a success for me, but then, I've never tried it. Not sure it works on oranges *ducks*

Don't you mean duck al'orange?

*sound of a catapult being fired* :eek:

Don't you mean duck al'orange?

*sound of a catapult being fired* :eek:

Surely you mean 'Duck a la range'?

Surely you mean 'Duck a la range'?

That's the one! *quacksplatt!*

oh its just one horrible pun after another :rolleyes:

oh its just one horrible pun after another :rolleyes:

Well, what do you expect? We are, after all, talking about love? :fluffle:

how very strange.....
and very ironic....
almost as if you knew....
:O
*impish smile*
It seems like it's catching...
;)

:O
*impish smile*
It seems like it's catching...
;)

its like you know more then you do
its all so suspicous and confuses me greatly

yes they are, and i'm there leader
*grabs pitchfork and torch*
WHO'S WITH ME?! KILL THE ORANGES BEFORE THEY TAKE OVER!!!
*begins charge, looks around, stops, looks back at rest of NSGen pointing and laughing*
Oh screw you guys, I never liked you anyway.
*walks away dragging pitchfork behind*

its like you know more then you do
its all so suspicous and confuses me greatly

Have a chocolate... it helps with certain.. erm.. urges...

Oh screw you guys, I never liked you anyway.


Slut

Have a chocolate... it helps with certain.. erm.. urges...

you wouldn't believe how funny this is to me, just of the sheer coincidence. her nation involves chocolate, her nickname (by me) is chocos and she loves chocolate and here you are offering me chocolates to make it better. yes, yes she would :D

you wouldn't believe how funny this is to me, just of the sheer coincidence. her nation involves chocolate, her nickname (by me) is chocos and she loves chocolate and here you are offering me chocolates to make it better. yes, yes she would :D

Chocolate covered oranges... yum. I'm sorry, it's just that now I have a craving for dipped fruit.

Chocolate covered oranges... yum. I'm sorry, it's just that now I have a craving for dipped fruit.

that was one of the first things i said to her i offered her chocolate oranges to come to my region :D

that was one of the first things i said to her i offered her chocolate oranges to come to my region :D
ROFL

you are a smooth one...

ROFL

you are a smooth one...

:D
sometimes ya
i do my best anyway

Slut
whore

whore

(Ooh a slanging match, can I join in?)

Bitch!

(Ooh a slanging match, can I join in?)

Bitch!
Trollop

Trollop

oh NS, where even a love thread can become a slagging match

Trollop

Scallop

Trollop
wench

Scallop
Jackanape

I met the love of my life here and as soon as we can work out that whole pesky immigration thing we will be hitched.. *smiles* we just look forward to our plane trips and spend lots of time in Im's. We have been together for 2 years now... good luck!

wench

nice first post.

I met the love of my life here and as soon as we can work out that whole pesky immigration thing we will be hitched.. *smiles* we just look forward to our plane trips and spend lots of time in Im's. We have been together for 2 years now... good luck!

Congratulations to you!

wench
hag

Jackanape

sheepshagger

I met the love of my life here and as soon as we can work out that whole pesky immigration thing we will be hitched.. *smiles* we just look forward to our plane trips and spend lots of time in Im's. We have been together for 2 years now... good luck!

wow, two years. i'm coming up on 4 months of really seriousness. and a few months before that too

wench
baboon

wench

*Falls on her pile of tassled pillows*

i wonder if Max Barry is actually some sort of Cupid :eek:

because i met her on NS of course :D


How can you be in love with someone you "met" on the internet? Did you actually meet in person? please explain...:confused:

sheepshagger
bint

baboon

Lawyer!

How can you be in love with someone you "met" on the internet? Did you actually meet in person? please explain...:confused:

no, when you talk to someone everyday by MSN and text them and ring them and email them, you can fall in love. love can conquer any obstacle (wow, i sound corny)

Lawyer!
duuuuuuude! harsh!


scutter

wow, two years. i'm coming up on 4 months of really seriousness. and a few months before that too

Yeah it takes us by surprise too..lol But there is at least one other couple i know of that has gotten married after meeting here, and another that are engaged... so you never know *smiles* if you are committed enough anything is possible....

duuuuuuude! harsh!


scutter

Skidmark!

How can you be in love with someone you "met" on the internet? Did you actually meet in person? please explain...:confused:

Why would that matter? Over the internet, you can become intimately familiar with somebody's personality, their lifestyle, interests, etc.

Why do you think you have to meet them?

baboon
baby lemur (http://www.strangedangers.com/images/content/106985.jpg)

Skidmark!
nincompoop

Why would that matter? Over the internet, you can become intimately familiar with somebody's personality, their lifestyle, interests, etc.

Why do you think you have to meet them?

You can also order fried chicken via internet!

no, when you talk to someone everyday by MSN and text them and ring them and email them, you can fall in love. love can conquer any obstacle (wow, i sound corny)

sound like a cheap salesman. selling love.

I guess that makes you a manwhore

Yeah it takes us by surprise too..lol But there is at least one other couple i know of that has gotten married after meeting here, and another that are engaged... so you never know *smiles* if you are committed enough anything is possible....

Good luck to you too, then... and I feel your pain.. and joy.

Here, have a chocolate.

baby lemur (http://www.strangedangers.com/images/content/106985.jpg)
that's strangely cute......



****

You can also order fried chicken via internet!

I love fried chicken!!

nincompoop

Slovakian!

no, when you talk to someone everyday by MSN and text them and ring them and email them, you can fall in love. love can conquer any obstacle (wow, i sound corny)
cue sappy love song and cut to Oranges and um... his girl (don't think a name was given) running towards eachother in a field of daisies

*Falls on her pile of tassled pillows*
At least someone welcomed me back... even if (sorry ladies) im only here for a short time.

After all, what ought I to have done? ... threads about 'love' attract me as you well know.

But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? ;)

sound like a cheap salesman. selling love.

I guess that makes you a manwhore

i'm not gonna deny that allegation :eek:

and she doesn't even live in the same country as me!!!
and it feels like there is a car crash in my stomach
and i have all these stupid feelings which i can't help cos she's so far away
and i don't know what to do....

and its all NS's fault :mad:
aha you and me both buddy... love seems to be in the air at the moment round here... as LP said yesterday "NS General is becoming an international singles club" (ok i paraphrase but its something like that).

i'm in love with an NSer myself y'see (hooray for amy!)
so i know where you're coming from.

my advice is long-distance relationships can work (there are a great many more NSers who can attribute to this fact - katganistan the mod for one IIRC and also here (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=361203)), you just need to get chatting proper-like (and frequently) on msn/email/phone. if things really do hit off and work out then arrange to meet up at some point

though some questions:
1. does she feel the same way?
2. what kinda distance we talking here? relationships at 3000 miles can work but obviously they're gonna be a bit harder still...

of course you also gotta bear in mind that any such long-distance relationship you enter into is a) gonna be really quite obvious with only the emotionless text of the internet to 'flirt' with, so a fair bit of romance is gonna be lost (unless you put it back in, heh (heh on two counts there ;))), and also that because its not a physical thing, and quite difficult, its gonna be something of a long-er term relationship than something you might stumble into with someone you actually know IRL - be sure you both know (and want) this. (i'm damn lucky in that being the case superw00t!)
the other thing is that because its difficult, if you do get it to work, when you do finally get to be together properly, your relationship will be that much stronger for it :)


hope that helps.
whatever you do, don't simpy "convince yourself you're not in love" because love is a rare thing, and you just can't pass up the opportunity because its 'hard' (hahaha)
go for it and try to make it work! :fluffle:

Slovakian!
plonker

i'm not gonna deny that allegation :eek:

**puts incriminating photos away**

**because he's in them**

:eek:

cue sappy love song and cut to Oranges and um... his girl (don't think a name was given) running towards eachother in a field of daisies

lol

only for them to reach the middle of their daisy fields and remember they are in different countries and just runnin around in random daisy fields while locals point and laugh

At least someone welcomed me back... even if (sorry ladies) im only here for a short time.

After all, what ought I to have done? ... threads about 'love' attract me as you well know.

But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? ;)
:fluffle:

At least someone welcomed me back... even if (sorry ladies) im only here for a short time.

After all, what ought I to have done? ... threads about 'love' attract me as you well know.

But soft! What light through yonder window breaks? ;)

*fans self*
We.. (you know who i am talking about)... will always embrace your coming with open arms and loads of secret sauce...

plonker

Man-who-likes-to-make-love-to-horses-bottom!

Secret Sauce! :D

:fluffle:'s! :D

ah... it doth me good to see you... :fluffle:

that's strangely cute......



****
haha...if you think thats cute, you should see my picture (oh self depricating humor, how I love thee)

scumbag

Man-who-likes-to-make-love-to-horses-bottom!
blighter

My only advice is to not take internet love adivce for granted, if you should use it at all.
:rolleyes:
:(
:headbang:
:fluffle:

blighter

Scruffy so and so!

I was thinking someone might finish my quote though... well, unless no one had picked up on it... :p

haha...if you think thats cute, you should see my picture (oh self depricating humor, how I love thee)

scumbag
wanker

Scruffy so and so!
skank

My only advice is to not take internet love adivce for granted, if you should use it at all.


DUH!!!!

I shall offer you return advice. Use smilies sparingly, if at all.

aha you and me both buddy... love seems to be in the air at the moment round here... as LP said yesterday "NS General is becoming an international singles club" (ok i paraphrase but its something like that).

i'm in love with an NSer myself y'see (hooray for amy!)
so i know where you're coming from.

my advice is long-distance relationships can work (there are a great many more NSers who can attribute to this fact - katganistan the mod for one IIRC and also here (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=361203)), you just need to get chatting proper-like (and frequently) on msn/email/phone. if things really do hit off and work out then arrange to meet up at some point

though some questions:
1. does she feel the same way?
2. what kinda distance we talking here? relationships at 3000 miles can work but obviously they're gonna be a bit harder still...

of course you also gotta bear in mind that any such long-distance relationship you enter into is a) gonna be really quite obvious with only the emotionless text of the internet to 'flirt' with, so a fair bit of romance is gonna be lost (unless you put it back in, heh (heh on two counts there ;))), and also that because its not a physical thing, and quite difficult, its gonna be something of a long-er term relationship than something you might stumble into with someone you actually know IRL - be sure you both know (and want) this. (i'm damn lucky in that being the case superw00t!)
the other thing is that because its difficult, if you do get it to work, when you do finally get to be together properly, your relationship will be that much stronger for it :)


hope that helps.
whatever you do, don't simpy "convince yourself you're not in love" because love is a rare thing, and you just can't pass up the opportunity because its 'hard' (hahaha)
go for it and try to make it work! :fluffle:

she loves me, she lives in europe as do i so its not too bad, its only a short flight away. we have talked A LOT, i mean every day on msn we are always talking or else texting. i know this can work i'm just afraid that eventually the waiting will catch up on us and we begin to doubt it. but we aren't anywhere near that. and good for you with amy:D

skank

Pissbag!

lol

only for them to reach the middle of their daisy fields and remember they are in different countries and just runnin around in random daisy fields while locals point and laugh
damn shrooms and LSD

Secret Sauce! :D

:fluffle:'s! :D

ah... it doth me good to see you... :fluffle:

YOu are such a tease... *licks finger dipped in said sauce*
Don't be a stranger now.. we all long for you.. ;)

**puts incriminating photos away**

**because he's in them**

:eek:

hey, just cos you are a good customer, doesn't mean you can post those pics we took together

Pissbag!
minger

What's worse is being in love with someone who told you they liked you, but because they refuse to leave their boyfriend (who her whole family hate, and who she always complains about), and because you refuse to be 'the other guy' know that things are never meant to be hence you won't tell her how you feel.

Sighs.:(

My only advice is to not take internet love adivce for granted, if you should use it at all.
:rolleyes:
:(
:headbang:
:fluffle:

i wasn't looking for advice
i was letting it all out in an attempt to not die :D

Sighs.:(

SAD BASTARD!

Scruffy so and so!
sow

damn shrooms and LSD

hehe *inserts very corny comment about no drug being better then love then goes and bangs head off a wall*

she loves me, she lives in europe as do i so its not too bad, its only a short flight away. we have talked A LOT, i mean every day on msn we are always talking or else texting. i know this can work i'm just afraid that eventually the waiting will catch up on us and we begin to doubt it. but we aren't anywhere near that. and good for you with amy:D
I agree with PM. They can work...

*sighs* at least you're on the same continent... lol

hey, just cos you are a good customer, doesn't mean you can post those pics we took together

That's what your mum said so I gave her a biscuit!

YOu are such a tease... *licks finger dipped in said sauce*
Don't be a stranger now.. we all long for you.. ;)
well - I miss you all - and you know, the sauce too... *licks* Mmm! :D

That's what your mum said so I gave her a biscuit!

why the fuck did you just comment about my mother exactly?

Lasc, why ain't you on msn?

why the fuck did you just comment about my mother exactly?

Cos she likes digestives.

Cos she likes digestives.

ya but why the hell bring a comment about my mother to ME in this thread?

Why would that matter? Over the internet, you can become intimately familiar with somebody's personality, their lifestyle, interests, etc.

Why do you think you have to meet them?

Are you nuts? I prefer my relationships to actually be real and in person, not synthetically filtered through cyberspace. Having fallen in love through the "traditional" way face to face, I can't help but be skeptical that internet "love" could even approach the intimacy and connection you can make with someone who is physically right next to you.

Let me ask you something, would you marry someone you've never met in person but have fallen in "love" with over the internet? If so, then I guess we just have a fundamental difference of opinion. If not, then perhaps you need to ask yourself why meeting them matters so much.

Cheers

Lasc, why ain't you on msn?
I just dont have the capacity for all that - I get spammed so bad on there these days, people all *hug this* and *im sorry that* not that I didnt bring it on myself... but still, its not the help I need right now. :rolleyes:

well - I miss you all - and you know, the sauce too... *licks* Mmm! :D

*naughty laugh*
You know where to find me.. erm.. I mean us... lol

she loves me, she lives in europe as do i so its not too bad, its only a short flight away. we have talked A LOT, i mean every day on msn we are always talking or else texting. i know this can work i'm just afraid that eventually the waiting will catch up on us and we begin to doubt it. but we aren't anywhere near that. and good for you with amy:D
As long as you talk about these doubts, worries and insecurities, you should be fine and you'll get a much stronger relationship. It means being open with each other, acknowledging potential problems and dealing with them, being able to reassure each other etc.
And being the Amy Huw's talking about, thanks!
And Huw, your post made me laugh at all your little joke comments and smile at the sweet ones! :-)

ya but why the hell bring a comment about my mother to ME in this thread?

*shrugs shoulders*

As long as you talk about these doubts, worries and insecurities, you should be fine and you'll get a much stronger relationship. It means being open with each other, acknowledging potential problems and dealing with them, being able to reassure each other etc.
And being the Amy Huw's talking about, thanks!
And Huw, your post made me laugh at all your little joke comments and smile at the sweet ones! :-)

There is only one secret.. ok, two: openess and honesty.

Visit, talk and remember that the written word can be interpreted differently from one person to the next... so no needless drama

Actually, I do have some advice that can be taken seriously. One word: Communicate.

As long as the communication between you works, you may be able to maintain a long-distance relationship.
But don't believe anything else I would say right now, I'm in a bitter period because I'm having trouble of my own due to lack of proper communication, and thus cannot be trusted to give sane advise.

Lawyer!

Careful! You don't want to get banned for being too nasty now, would you? Not when this tasty thread is alive and kicking... Mmmm, we've got mutton, fruit, chocolate, duck, chicken and lemurs, and a partridge in a pear tree - and it's still a few days 'till Christmas! :p

Lasc? Where the heck have you been?

Anyway, back to ISLO...you're not in love. Love doesn't exist. You may feel physically, mentally, or emotionally attracted to someone, but "love" in the sense you're describing it is just a common delusion and myth. It's not eternal, everlasting, etc. or anything, and it'll probably end badly if it begins at all. Relationships are rarely successful or happy in real life, and even less so on the internet... so don't hope too much.

(Huw, Amy, I'm talking to you, too. Although you wouldn't find out unless I use white text... :P)

Lasc? Where the heck have you been?

Anyway, back to ISLO...you're not in love. Love doesn't exist. You may feel physically, mentally, or emotionally attracted to someone, but "love" in the sense you're describing it is just a common delusion and myth. It's not eternal, everlasting, etc. or anything, and it'll probably end badly if it begins at all. Relationships are rarely successful or happy in real life, and even less so on the internet... so don't hope too much.

(Huw, Amy, I'm talking to you, too. Although you wouldn't find out unless I use white text... :P)


Ahhh, there's our daily does of happiness and sunshine. *sends fluffles and puppies and all that crap to you*

she loves me, she lives in europe as do i so its not too bad, its only a short flight away. we have talked A LOT, i mean every day on msn we are always talking or else texting. i know this can work i'm just afraid that eventually the waiting will catch up on us and we begin to doubt it. but we aren't anywhere near that. and good for you with amy
good to hear that :)
and thank you, you too :)

i understand that fear myself, but i'm pretty confident with me and amy that its not gonna be an issue. 1. because i have faith in her and what we have built between us (even if its only a couple of months old (but far older than that as friends)), and 2. because i live with, and work for my parents... so there's no practical way i can really "get bored waiting" if you know what i mean *wink* :p
3. because we only have to wait till early april, and thats only a matter of weeks away (or thats what i keep telling myeslf... its actually 16 weeks or so, but who's counting?)

if that fear starts to become reality or cause a problem, do something about it! see her! (at all costs... love really is that rare and so worth it *gets all slushy*)
but also make sure you talk to her about this. cos you gotta share everything - when its so easy to keep things to yourself on the anonymity of the internet, the only way to combat any insecurity and potential problems rising from this is to purposefully be totally open and honest with each other (which you should do IRL of course anyway, but its of paramount importance in long distance relationships imho)


As long as you talk about these doubts, worries and insecurities, you should be fine and you'll get a much stronger relationship. It means being open with each other, acknowledging potential problems and dealing with them, being able to reassure each other etc.
And being the Amy Huw's talking about, thanks!
And Huw, your post made me laugh at all your little joke comments and smile at the sweet ones! :-)
what she said too :D
the boss is always right. thats another thing you gotta learn! ;)
hehe i figured 'if amy reads this, she'll appreciate some white-text dirty fun!' :D
sleep well and i hope you're having "sweet" dreams *winkwink* :D :fluffle:

edit:

Visit, talk and remember that the written word can be interpreted differently from one person to the next... so no needless drama
indeed. already caused problems :headbang:
but problems = overcome! no worries :)

Are you nuts? I prefer my relationships to actually be real and in person, not synthetically filtered through cyberspace. Having fallen in love through the "traditional" way face to face, I can't help but be skeptical that internet "love" could even approach the intimacy and connection you can make with someone who is physically right next to you.

Let me ask you something, would you marry someone you've never met in person but have fallen in "love" with over the internet? If so, then I guess we just have a fundamental difference of opinion. If not, then perhaps you need to ask yourself why meeting them matters so much.

Cheers

Would I marry them? no. because people have annoying personal habits you can't see on the net, but can in real life. I wouldn't marry someone I hadn't lived with, either.

Ahhh, there's our daily does of happiness and sunshine. *sends fluffles and puppies and all that crap to you*
We all need some of that stuff once in a while. And stop using white text. We don't want to convince those two that their plan is catching. Oh wait. >.<

We all need some of that stuff once in a while. And stop using white text. We don't want to convince those two that their plan is catching. Oh wait. >.<

Never said a truer word *goes off and smokes sommat*

Never said a truer word *goes off and smokes sommat*
You're obviously a newbie.... everyone else already knows that I'm always right, except when I'm wrong. *nods* ;)

You're obviously a newbie.... everyone else already knows that I'm always right, except when I'm wrong. *nods* ;)

What? *Puts smoke out* Sorry did you say sommat? I didn't hear you over the bullshit coming out of your mouth.

Lasc? Where the heck have you been?

Anyway, back to ISLO...you're not in love. Love doesn't exist. You may feel physically, mentally, or emotionally attracted to someone, but "love" in the sense you're describing it is just a common delusion and myth. It's not eternal, everlasting, etc. or anything, and it'll probably end badly if it begins at all. Relationships are rarely successful or happy in real life, and even less so on the internet... so don't hope too much.

(Huw, Amy, I'm talking to you, too. Although you wouldn't find out unless I use white text... :P)
yes i actually didn't find out till i found the white text :p ;)

i used to be as cynical as you... once. i gave up on "love", believing it to be nothing more than a myth created by delusional happy people, trapped in their silly 'happy' little worlds full of kittens and barbie dolls and sunshine and farts... sometimes i believed it to be nothing more than a word corporations had invented to sell more of their crap, and that magazines bought into to sell more of their pap... in short, i had given up on ever "finding someone"

and then along came amy :fluffle:
she has shown me otherwise. love isn't a mythical 'joy joy and happy fluffy bunnies' fairytale stuff of nonsense, but a real, tangiable connection between two people who care about each other in a special way. i care about amy in deeper, new and different ways each day, and each day she finds ways to suprise and amaze me. in that, and in so many other ways, i fall in love with her more each and every day. :fluffle:

it is true what they say... once you stop looking for love it'll come knocking on your doorstep (or something like that i dunno). maybe not in your case yet, but sometime soon you'll see. it just feels so right. i can't really explain it any more fully than that...

and it only seems slushy and 'bunnies and kittens' happy nonsense to you lot on the outside. on the inside - between her and me - its feels great (and its also pretty funny trying to be cheesy on purpose... but that doesn't mean i don't still mean what i say)

mock me if you will, but it won't change how i feel or how i know one day you'll see the light (and if you don't i feel sorry for you already :()

no white text this time. look? see?
shit.

You're obviously a newbie.... everyone else already knows that I'm always right, except when I'm wrong. *nods* ;)
*gasp*...Did Czardas almost just admit to the notion that it is concievable that he could maybe one day be wrong?! Oh look, a pretty blood red horse!

yes i actually didn't find out till i found the white text :p ;)

i used to be as cynical as you... once. i gave up on "love", believing it to be nothing more than a myth created by delusional happy people, trapped in their silly 'happy' little worlds full of kittens and barbie dolls and sunshine and farts... sometimes i believed it to be nothing more than a word corporations had invented to sell more of their crap, and that magazines bought into to sell more of their pap... in short, i had given up on ever "finding someone"

and then along came amy :fluffle:
she has shown me otherwise. love isn't a mythical 'joy joy and happy fluffy bunnies' fairytale stuff of nonsense, but a real, tangiable connection between two people who care about each other in a special way. i care about amy in deeper, new and different ways each day, and each day she finds ways to suprise and amaze me. in that, and in so many other ways, i fall in love with her more each and every day. :fluffle:

it is true what they say... once you stop looking for love it'll come knocking on your doorstep (or something like that i dunno). maybe not in your case yet, but sometime soon you'll see. it just feels so right. i can't really explain it any more fully than that...

and it only seems slushy and 'bunnies and kittens' happy nonsense to you lot on the outside. on the inside - between her and me - its feels great (and its also pretty funny trying to be cheesy on purpose... but that doesn't mean i don't still mean what i say)

mock me if you will, but it won't change how i feel or how i know one day you'll see the light (and if you don't i feel sorry for you already :()

no white text this time. look? see?
shit.
*grabs tissue*
I wasn't crying...I just had dust in my eye. I swear.;)
white text is a serious addiction, methinks. Worse than the heroin.

Would I marry them? no. because people have annoying personal habits you can't see on the net, but can in real life. I wouldn't marry someone I hadn't lived with, either.
agreed. this is why meeting is important.

agreed. this is why meeting is important.

Got any tang?

Got any tang?

I wish I had some Tang right now.

yes i actually didn't find out till i found the white text :p ;)
You thrive on that stuff, don't you? :p


i used to be as cynical as you... once. i gave up on "love", believing it to be nothing more than a myth created by delusional happy people, trapped in their silly 'happy' little worlds full of kittens and barbie dolls and sunshine and farts... sometimes i believed it to be nothing more than a word corporations had invented to sell more of their crap, and that magazines bought into to sell more of their pap... in short, i had given up on ever "finding someone"
Ok... that's pretty much what happened to me too.

and then along came amy :fluffle:
she has shown me otherwise. love isn't a mythical 'joy joy and happy fluffy bunnies' fairytale stuff of nonsense, but a real, tangiable connection between two people who care about each other in a special way. i care about amy in deeper, new and different ways each day, and each day she finds ways to suprise and amaze me. in that, and in so many other ways, i fall in love with her more each and every day. :fluffle:
Yes, I know. That is kind of what I'm talking about... the idea that love is a happy thing, something that causes joy... and more specifically something that resolves everything, that just because two people "love" each other, nothing else matters. Because that's wrong on so many levels. So much else matters, despite what it may seem like at first.

it is true what they say... once you stop looking for love it'll come knocking on your doorstep (or something like that i dunno). maybe not in your case yet, but sometime soon you'll see. it just feels so right. i can't really explain it any more fully than that...
No, I know it'll never come to me, in that clichéd way as you like to put it (:p). I'm incapable of feeling love for someone else, even if they were capable of feeling that way about me. That's the primary reason why I don't believe it in.... it requires trust and real communication, which I can't do...

I don't regret anything. And you shouldn't feel sorry for me. It's my choice, really. And it is a very conscious one. You can choose not to fall in love if you really don't want to.

And I'm avoiding the white text on purpose this time. :p

*gasp*...Did Czardas almost just admit to the notion that it is concievable that he could maybe one day be wrong?! Oh look, a pretty blood red horse!
No, I was joking. :p

No, I was joking. :p

Where's my tang?

No, I was joking. :p
Oh good. I think.:confused:

I was worried that you were feeling ill.

So what happened to I Love Oranges? I only had the patience to read the first few posts (14 pages, c'mon!) before replying (to I Love Oranges):

Been there, too. Weird how much of life happens in the first two decades, huh? Even if it's hopeless, even if you know that things could never work out, and EVEN if there's a cultural/language barrier (as in my experience), don't give up. Don't deny it or fight it, just do what you have to do. You already know how you want to address the situation, you just need encouragement. Go for it; have no regrets. Don't miss an oppurtunity because of fear or pride. If you're in the same place I was earlier this year, you'll know what I mean and what to do, when the time comes.

To all others:

Hiya, I'm Hope for Humanity, aka HfH. See ya in the forums!

~HfH

:eek: there are people that don't post on the forums?!
yes amazing isnt it? for the longest time my stupid comp wouldnt let me post...but that was bc it was swamped wit viruses:D

*grabs tissue*
I wasn't crying...I just had dust in my eye. I swear.;)
white text is a serious addiction, methinks. Worse than the heroin.
Yeah. Sure.

*mutters* You heartless narcissist. :p

Yeah. Sure.

*mutters* You heartless narcissist. :p
like looking into a mirror, ain't it?;)

I was worried that you were feeling ill.
That would be a good thing, though. At least IMO...

mock me if you will, but it won't change how i feel or how i know one day you'll see the light (and if you don't i feel sorry for you already :()

Mind if I mock you for a bit? I can't turn such an offer down.

*mock* :D
Besides, I can't find the donkey from the other thread... And by the way, I knew that feeling you're talking about. Not that that's got anything to do with the donkey. Two completly different things, there...

Mind if I mock you for a bit? I can't turn such an offer down.

*mock* :D
Besides, I can't find the donkey from the other thread... And by the way, I knew that feeling you're talking about. Not that that's got anything to do with the donkey. Two completly different things, there...

From what I have heard that donkey is a right bastard?

From what I have heard that donkey is a right bastard?

Vicious, he is... Be careful around him.

On that note, I'm off. (stop that cheering, you!)

:fluffle:

ah...been there, done that.
oh wait. I still am there ;)
here, have some chocolate. it helps.

Liar. Nothing helps, not even three thousand years. I was once the consort of an Athenian Queen...I think....And I still can't forget her. Unless, your love is normal, not epic. In which case, have a rice crispy treat (sorry, out of cookies). I agree with everyone else who says you should try to pursue a relationship. The worst she could do is say no...oh, wait, that's worse than a slow painful death...because there is no death...:headbang: :(

(stop that cheering, you!)
I tried but it's too hard.

You thrive on that stuff, don't you?

lol! but of course! :p

Ok... that's pretty much what happened to me too.

i know. this is why i'm telling you this shit... cos i understand where you're coming from :)

Yes, I know. That is kind of what I'm talking about... the idea that love is a happy thing, something that causes joy... and more specifically something that resolves everything, that just because two people "love" each other, nothing else matters. Because that's wrong on so many levels. So much else matters, despite what it may seem like at first.


of course other things matter, and of course love isn't the 'be all and end all' of life, but it helps so much just to know someone else cares. to know that no-matter what, they'll still be there for you, that you can act as one, one voice, one... body. that there's more to life than just being alone and endless searching.
what i'm trying to say is that it provides a great level footing to really make things better and start really resolving things. in that sense, it does resolve everything (and it does make you feel pretty damn good about things and yourself, so it 'resolves' things in itself too)

and the people that say "nothing else matters cos we're in love!" are the ones caught up in the passion of the moment... something i quite understand lol, but here i'm trying to be objective and analytical, heh :P


look at me, i've been in love under 2 months and i'm dispensing advice like a love machine :p
so: take everything i say with a pinch of salt i suppose :(

No, I know it'll never come to me, in that clichéd way as you like to put it (:p). I'm incapable of feeling love for someone else, even if they were capable of feeling that way about me. That's the primary reason why I don't believe it in.... it requires trust and real communication, which I can't do...

I don't regret anything. And you shouldn't feel sorry for me. It's my choice, really. And it is a very conscious one. You can choose not to fall in love if you really don't want to.

ok. good luck with that.
i still think one day the right girl (or guy maybe, you never know :eek: ) will come along and "melt your heart" (haha cliché :D), stripping away the layers of bitterness, secret envy and anger, leaving you naked in their warm embrace (i could write clichés alllll day! :p)... sufficed to say there is hope for you yet - just because you feel incapable of feeling or caring, now, and unable to communicate/trust, doesn't mean you always will. when the right person comes along, we'll see (and i'll be so glad when i'm right! :D)
take me for (another) example: these last three years i've gone through the depths of clinical depression (as you well know), and this year was the worst by far. not only did i totally give up on "love" but i finally lost the ability to feel (positive) emotions (like joy or exhillaration... all i had was anger, fear, hate and sadness), and i also turned my back on friends, preferring isolation to communication. i lost a lot of friends (and have since lost more, but thats a whole different story), and frankly i stopped trusting anyone too (i've never been that trusting as it is, heh) in that i became increasingly paranoid to the point where i thought my (only remaining) friends had only befriended me in the first place to mock me and learn things about me to use in mocking and insulting me. i was on my own.
i climbed my way out of the pit myself (and with a lot of help from my parents - some other wonderufl people who care), but i'm discovering lost emotions i haven't felt in years (those 'positive emotions') thanks to a certain girl, and the love that i feel for her (and that which she feels for me) really gives me a solid footing to begin to be more confident in myself, believe in myself (because someone else does!) and generally get better. i'm now a half decent communicator, i trust a shitload more, and i know love isn't a myth... things and people change.
i trust you will too because you can only be so cynical/depressed for so long :fluffle:

Mind if I mock you for a bit? I can't turn such an offer down.

*mock* :D
Besides, I can't find the donkey from the other thread... And by the way, I knew that feeling you're talking about. Not that that's got anything to do with the donkey. Two completly different things, there...
mock me all you please (moc-moc-a-moc!) :p
and there's a donkey about :confused: *raises eyebrow suspiciously*

Lasc? Where the heck have you been?

Anyway, back to ISLO...you're not in love. Love doesn't exist. You may feel physically, mentally, or emotionally attracted to someone, but "love" in the sense you're describing it is just a common delusion and myth. It's not eternal, everlasting, etc. or anything, and it'll probably end badly if it begins at all. Relationships are rarely successful or happy in real life, and even less so on the internet... so don't hope too much.

(Huw, Amy, I'm talking to you, too. Although you wouldn't find out unless I use white text... :P)


:rolleyes:

Ignore Czardas... (sorry Czardas but in matters like this, sometimes I just have to say that)

Anyway ISLO, I hope it all works out well for you...:fluffle:

And Czardas who are Huw and Amy????

i know. this is why i'm telling you this shit... cos i understand where you're coming from :)
You'd better.... you went through almost the same thing, from what I can see. ;)

of course other things matter, and of course love isn't the 'be all and end all' of life, but it helps so much just to know someone else cares. to know that no-matter what, they'll still be there for you, that you can act as one, one voice, one... body. that there's more to life than just being alone and endless searching.
what i'm trying to say is that it provides a great level footing to really make things better and start really resolving things. in that sense, it does resolve everything (and it does make you feel pretty damn good about things and yourself, so it 'resolves' things in itself too)
Well, it doesn't help me. In fact, it makes me feel guilty that even my parents care about me because I can't return their feeling...And the fact that they'll 'always be there for me' makes me feel worse because I wont always be there for them...

and the people that say "nothing else matters cos we're in love!" are the ones caught up in the passion of the moment... something i quite understand lol, but here i'm trying to be objective and analytical, heh :P
I like being objective and analytical. It comes easily, I guess.

look at me, i've been in love under 2 months and i'm dispensing advice like a love machine :p
so: take everything i say with a pinch of salt i suppose :(

Ah, now I understand. Of course you still hold these beliefs, because you're still newly in 'love'... it'll take three or four years before you become disillusioned, and then it'll be too late. :( Well, it's really your choice I suppose.



i still think one day the right girl (or guy maybe, you never know :eek: ) will come along and "melt your heart" (haha cliché ), stripping away the layers of bitterness, secret envy and anger, leaving you naked in their warm embrace (i could write clichés alllll day!)... sufficed to say there is hope for you yet - just because you feel incapable of feeling or caring, now, and unable to communicate/trust, doesn't mean you always will. when the right person comes along, we'll see (and i'll be so glad when i'm right! :D)
You do realize that because you're saying this now, if I ever do meet the right person/animal/alien/household appliance, I'll make the strongest effort possible not to fall in love with them just to prove you wrong? ;)

take me for (another) example: these last three years i've gone through the depths of clinical depression (as you well know), and this year was the worst by far. not only did i totally give up on "love" but i finally lost the ability to feel (positive) emotions (like joy or exhillaration... all i had was anger, fear, hate and sadness), and i also turned my back on friends, preferring isolation to communication. i lost a lot of friends (and have since lost more, but thats a whole different story), and frankly i stopped trusting anyone too (i've never been that trusting as it is, heh) in that i became increasingly paranoid to the point where i thought my (only remaining) friends had only befriended me in the first place to mock me and learn things about me to use in mocking and insulting me. i was on my own.
i climbed my way out of the pit myself (and with a lot of help from my parents - some other wonderufl people who care), but i'm discovering lost emotions i haven't felt in years (those 'positive emotions') thanks to a certain girl, and the love that i feel for her (and that which she feels for me) really gives me a solid footing to begin to be more confident in myself, believe in myself (because someone else does!) and generally get better. i'm now a half decent communicator, i trust a shitload more, and i know love isn't a myth... things and people change.
i trust you will too because you can only be so cynical/depressed for so long :fluffle:
I intend to remain cynical all my life, thank you very much. :D

As for the depression, I'm getting over that right now... but I'm still going to prove you wrong.

Never mind, Pure Metal and someone called Amy right?:D

Ignore Czardas... (sorry Czardas but in matters like this, sometimes I just have to say that)
*shoots Sylvia* ¬_¬

And Czardas who are Huw and Amy????
That's for me to know, and you to wonder about forever... (I love calling people on the internet by their real names.)

*shoots Sylvia* ¬_¬


That's for me to know, and you to wonder about forever... (I love calling people on the internet by their real names.)

lol, anyhow what about my grandparents who are still married after I don't know how many years and still love one another??

Never mind, Pure Metal and someone called Amy right?:D
Wouldn't you like to know? ;)

(In a few minutes one of them is going to come along and spoil it all for me. :()

I just read the last page so I know it's PM, I just don't know who Amy is cause I haven't posted much on general for a while...

Damn... I don't know your RL name...

Anyways, talk to you later cause I have to go eat lucnh now...

mmm, food...

*licks lips*

I just read the last page so I know it's PM, I just don't know who Amy is cause I haven't posted much on general for a while...
I'll give you a hint. :p (http://www.nationstates.net/glitziness)

Damn... I don't know your RL name...
That's ok. You'd never be able to pronounce it anyway.

You'd better.... you went through almost the same thing, from what I can see.

indeed.


Well, it doesn't help me. In fact, it makes me feel guilty that even my parents care about me because I can't return their feeling...And the fact that they'll 'always be there for me' makes me feel worse because I wont always be there for them...

ok, i understand there too, but seperate issue... different 'kind' of love for a start. and there i don't have any advice to offer cos i haven't been through anything like that myself. i suppose you could at least try and return their affection (even if you don't "mean it")and see where it goes from there


I like being objective and analytical. It comes easily, I guess.

hah and for me... sometimes too much :(

Ah, now I understand. Of course you still hold these beliefs, because you're still newly in 'love'... it'll take three or four years before you become disillusioned, and then it'll be too late. Well, it's really your choice I suppose.


if those are my choices then i choose love now and pain later. better than no love ever.
but i disagree with that in general. i think its entirely possible to stay "in love" and not become disillusioned if you work at it. my parents: together 35 years +; amy's parents: together 30 years + (IIRC). the former met when my dad was 20 and my mum was 18. the latter (IIRC) were 17 and 19 respectively... love can be timeless if its kept alive and passionate! (and i'm not deluding myself that a loving relationship is a walk in the park either... thats what all this talk of "work"/effort is about... you gotta put in effort to make it work (and when it does its its own reward!) :))

hmm also noticed i'm on the defensive tack here now :p
damn yous and your debating technique... (doesn't matter anyway cos i'm off to bed shortly after this post)


You do realize that because you're saying this now, if I ever do meet the right person/animal/alien/household appliance, I'll make the strongest effort possible not to fall in love with them just to prove you wrong?

you'll never meet the person of your dreams and when you meet that person you're going to drive them insane and running for the hills within 48 hours.

[/reverse psychology] ;) :D


I intend to remain cynical all my life, thank you very much. :D

As for the depression, I'm getting over that right now... but I'm still going to prove you wrong.
well good luck, and may you meet someone as amazing as amy! :fluffle:




Wouldn't you like to know? ;)

(In a few minutes one of them is going to come along and spoil it all for me. :()
not me :D
*is all mysterious*

though it might be obvious from some of the posts round here *cough*

ok, i understand there too, but seperate issue... different 'kind' of love for a start. and there i don't have any advice to offer cos i haven't been through anything like that myself. i suppose you could at least try and return their affection (even if you don't "mean it")and see where it goes from there
Well, true, but I have a feeling I'd react the same way to 'romantic' love...

if those are my choices then i choose love now and pain later. better than no love ever.
Love now and pain later? Love is pain. It's also passion, hatred, sadness, restriction, and happiness.... You'll get them all at the same time. Sorry. :p

but i disagree with that in general. i think its entirely possible to stay "in love" and not become disillusioned if you work at it. my parents: together 35 years +; amy's parents: together 30 years + (IIRC). the former met when my dad was 20 and my mum was 18. the latter (IIRC) were 17 and 19 respectively... love can be timeless if its kept alive and passionate! (and i'm not deluding myself that a loving relationship is a walk in the park either... thats what all this talk of "work"/effort is about... you gotta put in effort to make it work (and when it does its its own reward!))
See, "work" is the crucial word there. ;]


you'll never meet the person of your dreams and when you meet that person you're going to drive them insane and running for the hills within 48 hours.

[/reverse psychology] ;) :D
You always contradict yourself when you try to use reverse psychology. Then again, it's 3 AM in Southampton... ;-P


well good luck, and may you meet someone as amazing as amy!
Preferably more so. If she settled for you, that automatically diminishes my respect for her by several percentage points.

Preferably more so. If she settled for you, that automatically diminishes my respect for her by several percentage points.
:eek: ouch :p (i KNOW you're j/k or i'd have to fly over there and beat you to death with a cucumber for that)

:eek: ouch :p (i KNOW you're j/k or i'd have to fly over there and beat you to death with a cucumber for that)
The barbs strike again. ;) (You don't know I'm joking. I could be dead serious. I could ... and I'd respond by electrocuting her with a bunch of gooseberries. You would have to watch. ;))

The barbs strike again. ;) (You don't know I'm joking. I could be dead serious. I could ... and I'd respond by electrocuting her with a bunch of gooseberries. You would have to watch. ;))
nuh-uh cos you'd be lying on the ground face down with a rather large member (hahaha!) of the Cucurbitaceae family protuding from your skull... ;)

and you can't electrocute somebody with gooseberries :rolleyes:
thats tayberries... as in taser? ring a bell? honestly, some people... :rolleyes: ;)

and you can't electrocute somebody with gooseberries :rolleyes:


Huh... is that like, a rule, or something?

So - if I can just find some gooseberries, I'll be lightning-proof?

Cograts to Oranges, and good luck.

Looks like NS has become a regular love-shack.:D

then why do they bother playing the game? it's so boring after like a month
You just need to be insired by someone like yourself.

Or Win an International Sporting Trophey.

WTF? :eek: This thread turned from having Huw say the loveliest things about me and having me all smiling and cheered up (:fluffle: btw :D)... and then it started to have stuff about me being electrocuted! Damn you Czardas.... :mad: :p

And I'm Amy! *waves hand* will she see the white text? ....

See, "work" is the crucial word there. ;]
But it's worth the work. And once you've experienced love, you'll know that.

You know, you contradict yourself an awful lot. You say you can't experience emotions, yet you talk about all the bad emotions of love. You talk about not being able to care about anyone, yet pain only comes from love if you care about them. You say that you are incapable of falling in love, then say it's a concious choice.

I just think you haven't fallen in love and feel like you never will so you protect yourself by pretending it's a choice and better that way.

*nods thoughtfully*

WTF? :eek: This thread turned from having Huw say the loveliest things about me and having me all smiling and cheered up (:fluffle: btw :D)... and then it started to have stuff about me being electrocuted! Damn you Czardas.... :mad: :p

And I'm Amy! *waves hand* will she see the white text? ....


But it's worth the work. And once you've experienced love, you'll know that.

You know, you contradict yourself an awful lot. You say you can't experience emotions, yet you talk about all the bad emotions of love. You talk about not being able to care about anyone, yet pain only comes from love if you care about them. You say that you are incapable of falling in love, then say it's a concious choice.

I just think you haven't fallen in love and feel like you never will so you protect yourself by pretending it's a choice and better that way.

*nods thoughtfully*
I've already told her.:p
*shifty eyes* not really......

I've already told her.:p
*shifty eyes* not really......
:confused: now I don't know what to think?! :p
cursed white text being so confusing...
no, wait, can't be blaming the white text...
I'll blame Czardas instead!

WTF? :eek: This thread turned from having Huw say the loveliest things about me and having me all smiling and cheered up (:fluffle: btw :D)... and then it started to have stuff about me being electrocuted! Damn you Czardas.... :mad: :p

And I'm Amy! *waves hand* will she see the white text? ....
yay! :fluffle: :fluffle:
how did things go btw?
i told em to use tayberries cos i knew it wouldn't work *nods*


But it's worth the work. And once you've experienced love, you'll know that.

You know, you contradict yourself an awful lot. You say you can't experience emotions, yet you talk about all the bad emotions of love. You talk about not being able to care about anyone, yet pain only comes from love if you care about them. You say that you are incapable of falling in love, then say it's a concious choice.

I just think you haven't fallen in love and feel like you never will so you protect yourself by pretending it's a choice and better that way.

*nods thoughtfully*
agreed. once again you cut through the BS and get to whats important :fluffle:
(awesome insightfulness from an awesome lady!)

:confused: now I don't know what to think?! :p
cursed white text being so confusing...
no, wait, can't be blaming the white text...
I'll blame Czardas instead!
Half of a melon is still half of a melon.Blame Czardas

yay! :fluffle: :fluffle:
how did things go btw?
i told em to use tayberries cos i knew it wouldn't work *nods*
Ingenious ;) :fluffle:
she's ultra busy doing stuff today and I said it was better for her to read it when she has time to think about it and talk it over with me, rather than her having to go and do loads of stuff and go to a christmas lunch with it all on her mind so it'll all probably happen this afternoon/evening :-S
I got your email btw :-) *fluffles* I shall reply soon...
agreed. once again you cut through the BS and get to whats important :fluffle:
(awesome insightfulness from an awesome lady!)
Indeed.
Nothing's perfect: people, relationships and life in general aren't perfect*. But somehow the amazing feelings you get when you're in love make all the crap stuff worthwhile. There really is nothing like it. It's overwhelming and exciting and exhilerating, but at the same time it gives you a peace and a calmness and an overall feeling of security that nothing else can.

*I do believe you can have people who are realistically "perfect" for you though.

(amazing awareness of awesomeness from an amazing guy! :P)

Half of a melon is still half of a melon.Blame Czardas
True, true... *ponders* (not in that way Huw! :P)
Damn you Czardas!
As ruler of the universe, everything that goes wrong in it is your fault! Including any pain from love - ha! :P

But somehow the amazing feelings you get when you're in love make all the crap stuff worthwhile.
(not in that way Huw! :P)

amen :fluffle:
:eek: there are other ways?! what else haven't you told me? ;)
and sorry that had to be a patched-together amalgamation of two of your posts, but i wasn't prepared to do a whole post of nothing but white text lol!

amen :fluffle:
:eek: there are other ways?! what else haven't you told me? ;)
and sorry that had to be a patched-together amalgamation of two of your posts, but i wasn't prepared to do a whole post of nothing but white text lol!
:) :fluffle: uh, I need something to say to stay on topic...
Actually, all these posts of ours are a demonstration of the wonderfulness and happiness produced by love ;) so, if you think about it, we're very much ontopic... *cough*...
haha - I think you've forgotten that (shock horror) there is still a percentage of my mind, however small, which isn't dirty :P but, just for you... *ponders in the more fun way* hehe

You guys are freaks.*White noise*

:) :fluffle: uh, I need something to say to stay on topic...
Actually, all these posts of ours are a demonstration of the wonderfulness and happiness produced by love ;) so, if you think about it, we're very much ontopic... *cough*...
haha - I think you've forgotten that (shock horror) there is still a percentage of my mind, however small, which isn't dirty :P but, just for you... *ponders in the more fun way* hehe
ok guys, I have a pretty strong stomach but seriously....http://67.18.37.16/1381/85/emo/puke.gif



:p

:) :fluffle: uh, I need something to say to stay on topic...
Actually, all these posts of ours are a demonstration of the wonderfulness and happiness produced by love ;) so, if you think about it, we're very much ontopic... *cough*...
haha - I think you've forgotten that (shock horror) there is still a percentage of my mind, however small, which isn't dirty :P but, just for you... *ponders in the more fun way* hehe
of course!! :)

*ponders*











... http://67.18.37.16/1381/85/emo/puke.gif ;) :p (that's a j/k for the record! i love amy's mushyness :P )

I tell ya its even worse wen u work with a girl that u have a crush on, who then goes off to university, and when she finally comes back for the summer has a boyfriend

... http://67.18.37.16/1381/85/emo/puke.gif ;) :p (that's a j/k for the record! i love amy's mushyness :P )
pft.. you're just as bad :rolleyes: :p

pft.. you're just as bad :rolleyes: :p
she has a point

she has a point
:D good