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Ok so i have been with my girlfriend for a wee while now and turned down a date last night with someone else to a very nice formal event, and weell today my girlfriend well ex broke up with me and didnt state why, but wants to talk on monday cause i aint gonna see her for a while.

so what should i do, shout at her lots for messing me about,
be nice and just say fine,
turn into the hulk?
get some other female to flatten teh bitch??

i would make a poll but i am a lazy plonker so erm help please.

Pretend like she's the gasoline refinery from Mad Max, and "Just walk away".

The fuel-truck-full-of-sand gambit doesn't always work...

The way I see it, there are two reasons that she may have broken up with you

1 There is something wrong with you.

try to figure out if there is something wrong with you, are you selfish, are you mean, did you cheat on her?

If you think for a good amount of time (say 20 minutes) and you can't figure out that anything is wrong with you then it's option 2

2 There is something wrong with her

This one requires much less thought, in fact none. If there isn't anything wrong with you then something is wrong with her. There is nothing you can do to fix it.

Best advice, if you are screwed up then fix it and try again with a new girl, if she is screwed up then try again with a less flawed girl. Repeat until you find the least flawed girl and then treat her like a queen.

I vote the Hulk option.

"Don't make Cheese penguins angry, Mr. McGee. You wouldn't like him when he's angry."

Now, let's see how many even get that reference...

i prefer the passive/agressive approach

if you are sure its over (beyond a reasonable doubt) and if it wont make you crazy to not find out "why" (you wont understand it anyway "its me, not you" "i need space" or some other bullshit)

then dont let her break up with you on her terms. go out tonight and have a great time as a single man.

make an appointment to see her on monday and DONT GO. let her sit and wait and wonder if you are gonna show. if she calls, dont talk to her. you owe her nothing now and it wll drive her crazy that she cant "have closure"

I vote the Hulk option.

"Don't make Cheese penguins angry, Mr. McGee. You wouldn't like him when he's angry."

Now, let's see how many even get that reference...
lol i like this bit.. but i dont think i am going to kill her.. no matter how much i wanna.

Bumps. sorry people i really need help with this, as many opinions as possible would be very appreciated.

I'd say be nice about it. Take the moral high-ground. But then I'm ... what's the word?... oh yeah, a doormat when it comes to women.

Also, you can't hold your ex responsible for the date you turned down. That's just shit that happened. I would at least give the girl the opportunity to explain herself

i prefer the passive/agressive approach

if you are sure its over (beyond a reasonable doubt) and if it wont make you crazy to not find out "why" (you wont understand it anyway "its me, not you" "i need space" or some other bullshit)

then dont let her break up with you on her terms. go out tonight and have a great time as a single man.

make an appointment to see her on monday and DONT GO. let her sit and wait and wonder if you are gonna show. if she calls, dont talk to her. you owe her nothing now and it wll drive her crazy that she cant "have closure"
you rule :cool:

Slap her and kick her in the head and rip out her guts.

Slap her and kick her in the head and rip out her guts.

Ah yes...the intelligent response... :rolleyes:

Slap her and kick her in the head and rip out her guts.

Well, cheese penguins, you did ask for it...

Slap her and kick her in the head and rip out her guts.
thanks for that, ok as of now i refuse to use violence unless i get a sex change before monday... no im not getting a sex change, 1. i cant afford it, 2. i like having a penis, 3. i cant think of any more reasons... anyways i ma not going to be violent atall. so erm any other suggestions something to hurt her real bad emotionaly??

Ouch on the timing :/

I'd ask her why. It's straightforward, but so am I. Be nice; you get a better response about anything that way.

Why is it, no matter what color clothes Dr. Banner is wearing, the hulk's pants are always purple?

WTF?

so erm any other suggestions something to hurt her real bad emotionaly??

There has to be more to this than you've said. Otherwise, I think you're a bit of a headcase.

There has to be more to this than you've said. Otherwise, I think you're a bit of a headcase.
i am a total headcase im here arent i... but nothing else to it i am willing to post on this lovely site... pg-13 remember...

Why is it, no matter what color clothes Dr. Banner is wearing, the hulk's pants are always purple?

WTF?

His pants get consumed with rage, too.

i am a total headcase im here arent i... but nothing else to it i am willing to post on this lovely site... pg-13 remember...

Hmm, ok. It just seems odd that you have a massive axe to grind with this woman yet you were prepared to stay faithful to her and turned down a date it seems you really wanted.

His pants get consumed with rage, too.

Was he wearing those pants in when he sprayed himself with radiation? If so, why hasn't he changed them since then.

Just move on. If she did that to you, an you didn't do ANYTHING wrong, espcecially since you've been faithful, then she's not good enough for you. think of it that way. there will always be others out there.

Just move on. If she did that to you, an you didn't do ANYTHING wrong, espcecially since you've been faithful, then she's not good enough for you. think of it that way. there will always be others out there.
thanks dude.

How can you expect advice when you've given us basically no information?
The best you can do is just discuss it rationally, and not get too worked up untll you know her reasons.

Get drunk. Best till, and including, Monday. Doesnt help, but its fun.

Was he wearing those pants in when he sprayed himself with radiation? If so, why hasn't he changed them since then.
Do you know how hard it is to find pants that big?

incase anyone wonders, i saw her, and we talked i kept a level head, she cried adn i gave her a hug!! you hear that i gave her a hug, did not push her down stairs...

Dropkick her into New Years.

Just wondering...did the other girl (I assume the 'someone else' is female) say anything to your ex about you? She might have bitched in some way, or made up something completely, perhaps that you came onto her or something. Ah well, hope everything's ok for you.

well im still alive, the ex said today that she didnt want anyone to get hurt if the spark goes out... creepy in my opinion... soooooooo i am gonna have another talk with her tomoro and see if together we can sort out what it is that is making her be weird about it.

well im still alive, the ex said today that she didnt want anyone to get hurt if the spark goes out... creepy in my opinion... soooooooo i am gonna have another talk with her tomoro and see if together we can sort out what it is that is making her be weird about it.

It's not creepy, it's cryptic. She has her eyes elsewhere, but has no clue if she can obtain her new goal. Do not pursue her, in fact, do your best to avoid her intentionally. When she speaks, reply with shortest possible answer and excuse yourself. Do not be rude, get mad, threaten anyone or make a scene. Be completely indifferent, and be patient.