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i need help figuring out what to get my girlfriend for her birthday/christmas. she is my first girlfriend(im only 14) and we've been going out for a little over a month and she is really special to me. plz help me get ideas.

Well you could get her flowers, a teddy bear and something you know she will like. (oh and also have a nice card that says you love her or something like that)

Yea some pretty roses...maybe a little box of chocolates...and a lovely card along with a wonderful kiss...you sould skip the kiss but the other three are always nice safe choices...

I'll give you a hint - find out what she likes.
If that doesn't work, jewellery and chocolates are good plans. But don't buy cheap jewellery, whatever you do. But they're not really as personal as something that your girlfriend likes - is she into books? Films? Music? Buy her something like that and she'll probably like it a lot more. It'll be a lot more special.

Great views here. Find out what she likes, then buy it. Or, if you can't figure it out, get flowers or jewlery. It always works.

Then again, my first girlfriend broke up with me and went lesbian, but that's another story......

how should i find out what she likes? i've been meaning to do that but i haven't found a way to do it with out ruining the surprise

i need help figuring out what to get my girlfriend for her birthday/christmas. she is my first girlfriend(im only 14) and we've been going out for a little over a month and she is really special to me. plz help me get ideas.
Well, I heard that women are from Venus, so you might want to get her some breathing aparatus to help her get used to the Earth's atmosphere.

Well, I heard that women are from Venus, so you might want to get her some breathing aparatus to help her get used to the Earth's atmosphere.
what the hell?

Well, I heard that women are from Venus, so you might want to get her some breathing aparatus to help her get used to the Earth's atmosphere.

NICE!!!!

how should i find out what she likes? i've been meaning to do that but i haven't found a way to do it with out ruining the surprise

Ask her friends what she likes...or what she has been wanting. Make sure to not be too suspicious and make sure your inquiries are keep in trusting secrecy (sp?)

Don't get her something flashy. It seems like a cliché and to me at least a little too clingy. I would get her something personal. If you have insiders I would get something, which relates. Prove to her you know her, love her, and enjoy being around her. Plus its cheep lol

Bake her a nice chocolate birthday cake. Being able to cook is always a plus, and effort counts for a little as well. Of course you shouldn't leave it at that, because it'd look cheap.

i need to get her something she likes and that's nice but i'm a little short on cash

Are you perpetually short on cash, or just momentarily?

i need to get her something she likes and that's nice but i'm a little short on cash
aren't all fourteen year olds?

actually i have like $228 but i'm plannin on buyin an airsoft gun that's like $250. i didn't want to admit it cause i no it's selfish.

Well, tell us what she likes then!

i know she reads a lot and i'm pretty sure of an author she likes but i'm not sure which of his books she's read.

Your fourteen. I hate to break your little heart, but this relationship won't last long. Don't fret over it too much, just get her something like chocolate thta is fairly cheap yet thougthful, but don't over do it.

actually i have like $228 but i'm plannin on buyin an airsoft gun that's like $250. i didn't want to admit it cause i no it's selfish.Nothing says *love* like sacrificing something else you want for the one you care about ;)
Although I certainly wouldn't suggest spending $200 on her quite yet. (I'm a pessimist, and a month isn't that much)

i need help figuring out what to get my girlfriend for her birthday/christmas. she is my first girlfriend(im only 14) and we've been going out for a little over a month and she is really special to me. plz help me get ideas.

I don't want to insult you, but making a thread like this while having about 14 posts or something (meaning no one knows you) and not even the slightest attempt to describe the character of you girlfriend or what her hobbies are, I could easily dismiss you as a "cry for help" troll.

My advice:

Buy her something that she might like.

Your fourteen. I hate to break your little heart, but this relationship won't last long. Don't fret over it too much, just get her something like chocolate thta is fairly cheap yet thougthful, but don't over do it.
i'm aware that our relationship may be shrt-lived but i am going to do the best i can to make it last long.

actually i have like $228 but i'm plannin on buyin an airsoft gun that's like $250. i didn't want to admit it cause i no it's selfish.
<SLAP> Bad boy. I thought she was special? You're saying that the girl means less to you than plastic and metal that fires ickle plastic things? For shame!
If you like her, then take, oh, say $50 dollars, or maybe more, and buy her something nice. Fifty bucks will get you a nice piece of jewellery, or a couple of books/CDs/DVDs. As Damor be saying, sacrifice gratification for the one you ostensibly love. Twoul be nice to give up a few weeks of playing with airsoft gun for a happy girlfriend, even if it only lasts a while longer.
Oh, and prepare for the wave of vitriol that be coming your way...

Edible panties. She will go for them if you say it’s a big funny joke… not to mention you could get something in return.

i know she reads a lot and i'm pretty sure of an author she likes but i'm not sure which of his books she's read.I assume it's possible to exchange a book at the bookstore right? Just keep the receipt. If she already has the book, exchange it for another.

I don't want to insult you, but making a thread like this while having about 14 posts or something (meaning no one knows you) and not even the slightest attempt to describe the character of you girlfriend or what her hobbies are, I could easily dismiss you as a "cry for help" troll.

My advice:

Buy her something that she might like.
im not insulted, yet. what is a "cry for help troll"?

Nothing says *love* like sacrificing something else you want for the one you care about ;)
Although I certainly wouldn't suggest spending $200 on her quite yet. (I'm a pessimist, and a month isn't that much)
Actually when your fourteen a month is a really long time, and two hundered dollars is alot of money. This past semester I spent over double that on textbooks, and didn't even get anywhere near that much back.

I don't want to insult you, but making a thread like this while having about 14 posts or something (meaning no one knows you) and not even the slightest attempt to describe the character of you girlfriend or what her hobbies are, I could easily dismiss you as a "cry for help" troll.

My advice:

Buy her something that she might like.

Why don't you shut up and leave the dude be? I bet you wouldn't like it if you were in his shoes. Have some courtesy, he isn't trolling in any way, he's just looking for help.

<SLAP> Bad boy. I thought she was special? You're saying that the girl means less to you than plastic and metal that fires ickle plastic things? For shame!
If you like her, then take, oh, say $50 dollars, or maybe more, and buy her something nice. Fifty bucks will get you a nice piece of jewellery, or a couple of books/CDs/DVDs. As Damor be saying, sacrifice gratification for the one you ostensibly love. Twoul be nice to give up a few weeks of playing with airsoft gun for a happy girlfriend, even if it only lasts a while longer.
Oh, and prepare for the wave of vitriol that be coming your way...
yeah i feel really bad about that. what is "vitriol" i feel so naive

Edible panties. She will go for them if you say it’s a big funny joke… not to mention you could get something in return.
The thought of fourteen year olds doing anything sexual is just kind of icky. kinda strange I didn't think that five years ago.

EDIT: I'll shut up now, I realize I'm kinda borderline on the troll thing myself at this point.

and a cry for help troll is someone who consitantly asks people for help with trivial situations like this.

<SLAP> Bad boy. I thought she was special? You're saying that the girl means less to you than plastic and metal that fires ickle plastic things? For shame!
If you like her, then take, oh, say $50 dollars, or maybe more, and buy her something nice. Fifty bucks will get you a nice piece of jewellery, or a couple of books/CDs/DVDs. As Damor be saying, sacrifice gratification for the one you ostensibly love. Twoul be nice to give up a few weeks of playing with airsoft gun for a happy girlfriend, even if it only lasts a while longer.
Oh, and prepare for the wave of vitriol that be coming your way...

While you make a good point, 50 dollars is still alot at this point. I'm several years older, have had a couple of relationships, and never spent more than 30 dollars. It makes more sense to buy the gun, seeing as he'll get more enjoyment out of it in the long run.

yeah i feel really bad about that. what is "vitriol" i feel so naiveMeet mister dictionary, he knows lots of words: http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=vitriol ;)

im not insulted, yet. what is a "cry for help troll"?

Someone who posts threads like "need help" about a personal topic, while not really being a member of a community. Often way more extreme like this one with threats of suicide and so on.

Characteristics are a low post counts, lack of detail of the problem (which is then described further, depending on how the thread develops) and so on.

If you are not familiar with the term of an internet troll, just check here. (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Internet_troll)

I'm sure your girlfriend likes music or something? Buy her a CD.

She like to read? A good book.

A movie fan? A DVD.

If nothing above is true, invite her to dinner (+a book or a cd or a dvd).

yeah i feel really bad about that. what is "vitriol" i feel so naive
Vitriol is anger, spite, that kinda stuff - don't feel naive cos ya don't know it, I use uncommon words all the time. Cos I'm a bastard. And don't feel naive about relationships either - everyone is at 14. Hell, sometimes I feel everyone is full stop.
Pschycotic Pschycos, I don't think so. OK, it is a fair amount, but it's only about thirty euros, so it doesn't seem that much to me - I spent that sort of money on family presents when I was fourteen. If SHF likes her a lot, then it's not that much. Even if they break up soon (and by soon I mean inside the next three months, not weeks), it's not that much. I'd say a book or two, or a CD, is probably an appropriate gift if you can find something you KNOW she'll like. Otherwise, just go with chocolates. Maybe flowers too.

thank you all for the advice, you have helped me a lot. i have to go now

Meet mister dictionary, he knows lots of words: http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=vitriol ;)
Meet Mr. Nice and Mr. The Guy's Only New So Let's Not Scare Him Off...
Dinner wouldn't be great, I don't think. Cos a romantic style dinner is gonna be mad expensive... Unless you can cook, in which case that's a great idea. But not as an only present...

If you have only been goin out for one month...just get her something basic...the simple flower-chocolate-card is classic and though it doesnt seem original atleast it shows you care. Thats all you need to do at this point. Wait for other occasions for more personalized gifts (jewelry, books, cds, etc.) remember, if things dont work out she will take it out on the presents you gave her...so dont do anything rash until you know you two are gonna be together for a year or two.

my g/f lives with her parents. they don't know about me yet.

ergo i had to get her some pretty standard-issue stuff (and not all the romanitic crap i wanted to get her)... but if you get her anything its the thought that counts :)

Listen up kid. Forget what the others are saying about the 14 year old stuff. If this is your first serious girlfriend and are willing to give it your best shot, here's the deal.

#1. What do women want? The answer is a heck of a lot more simple than most schmucks (or even girls) might think: They want to feel special. That simple.

So, knowing that, it's not the gift that matters, per se, but when and how it's given.

A. I'd recommend picking up something small but nice. Don't spend ten bucks on a box of chocolates at Wal MArt. Find a plac where you can get your hands on Belgian or hand made truffles. They're to chaocolate what a BMW is to the Ford Pinto. For the same ten bucks, you'll be able to get maybe four, five if you're lucky. Make sure they wrap them in a nice box. It's a nice gift and it shows some sophistication.

You can also make her something. A card, a plate, a picture frame, whatever, so long as it's not too tacky. It shows effort, it shows thought. It's all good.

Avoid the following: roses (orchids, however are worth their weight in gold), cheap chocolates, CD's of anything mainstream (ask your local indy store for help on this one). Essentially, avoid any clichés. They lack originality, and, as such, you'll soon be lacking a girl.

B. Now, this is the important part: delivery.

Find a nice coffee shop or even a local restaurant which might have good deals. It doesn't have to be expensive, just nice. What you're looking for is a quiet evening where SHE is the centre of YOUR attention. Find the moment when she is oblivious to the rest of the universe, and at that moment, let her know you got her 'a little something. They're from Europe.'.

Do this around the 23rd.

*If you're daring, tell her to open them on Christmas morning, obviously in front of her family. Now, when her mom sees the Belgian chocs, she will, 1, be jealous, and 2, ask her where they came from. The girl will answer you, thus making you A-1 in the mother's books, because any nice boy who buys her daughter belgian truffles is a nice boy indeed. Win the mom, win the war.


Call her on the 26th, see how Christmas was. Ask her out for the next day or the day after, skating or something. DOn't see her too often during the holidays, though.

When school is back in, you'll have stretched your one-month into almost two, without it looking too serious.

Good luck!

... 14, unh? Lessee now... nope. No, no drugs... no expensive tipples, either... no fancy knickers, no toys... Ye Gods! I'd forgotten how badly 14 sucked. I can't think of a single thing they could legally obtain that'd be at all romantic, except all that mamby-pamby symbolic crap.

i need help figuring out what to get my girlfriend for her birthday/christmas. she is my first girlfriend(im only 14) and we've been going out for a little over a month and she is really special to me. plz help me get ideas.
I don't know if you're still reading this, but if you are...

DON'T buy a single gift and say "this is for both Christmas and your birthday". I bet she's been hearing that for years, and would prefer two smaller gifts... at least according to one "Christmas baby" girlfriend (Dec 24, poor thing) I had a relationship with several years ago.

As for specific gifts, I dunno... it's been a long time since I was 14. Maybe a nice necklace or bracelet for her birthday (which is HER day), and something less expensive for Christmas? Nice cards for both of course.

Let her know that you didn't want to just combine the two, and I can almost guarantee she'll appreciate two less expensive gifts more than one combined gift.