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What are the things, you don´t like about your partner ???

Well.... difficult to say. I don't really know if I'm in a relationship or not. :)

don't i like? :confused:


well not much, if anything, really :)
i got quite upset the other day after a fun arguement turned sour, and i was thinking that she was really quite stubborn and things like that... then as soon as she realised that i had taken things that way (when she thought it was still just a laugh) there were apologies, understanding and good stuff galore :) :fluffle:



i don't like the fact that she's still at school cos if she were my age things would be a hell of a lot easier... ditto for her living miles away... and yes, that is all her fault ;) :p


the only "real" one is that she can be a tad blunt sometimes... but i'm getting used to it, heh, and its not a problem anyway ;) :fluffle:


there are things about herself that she doesn't like, but i like her for them cos they make her who she is and i wouldn't have it any other way (more fluffles! :fluffle: )

edit: hmm i always end up saying too much in personal threads like these... ah well *megahugs for amy if you read this!* (hope your exam(s) went well today)

Absolutely nothing. Except maybe the fact that he is perfect and sometimes I just want him to have a flaw, haha. And the fact that he's not in my bed right now.

She can be a tad bad/short tempered at times and sometimes a little over powering. Not to mention a bit stubborn and easiy wound up (:D sarcasm can be a wonderful thing).

Still, i would never want her to be perfect in every way, as through her imperfections she is perfect to me :) And considering that we have been together 2 1/2 years now (one of which I was away for), i think we are doing pretty well :D

If there were anything I didn't like about her, I would have been stupid to marry her and let her bear my children.

Things I dont like about my wife are far too insignificant to mention.
Her only flaw was her weakness for me.

Things I dont like about my wife are far too insignificant to mention.
Her only flaw was her weakness for me.

:p fine..how long you are married?

:p fine..how long you are married?

13 years. But we've been close for just over 20 now.

I don't like the fact that they both live far away from me, and they both think I don't talk enough. Aside from nagging me to talk more (which is only a problem in MSNmessenger and phone conversations, it seems, not face-to-face), there's nothing, really.

13 years. But we've been close for just over 20 now.

like me ....i first met my wife 1981 and we married 1993

I don't like the fact that they both live far away from me, and they both think I don't talk enough. Aside from nagging me to talk more (which is only a problem in MSNmessenger and phone conversations, it seems, not face-to-face), there's nothing, really.

so why not travel to them?

so why not travel to them?

Well

for one of them, it's completely impractical. Not only is she in the USA and I'm in England, but she's currently going through a messy divorce and her lawyers have advised her that having me there would make things worse.

For the other, she's in school almost all the time, and I would have nowhere to live up there. She's at least in the same country as me, so we meet up as often as possible.

my girlfriend makes me look bad.

so were are back in a thread with "relationship over long distances" ;)

so were are back in a thread with "relationship over long distances" ;)

It's my favourite complaint;)

everything apart from me getting some duh

He is a man. He has a man-ego. He likes to annoy me. He says exactly what he thinks at all times, and really expects me to do the same, and gets annoyed when I don't. ;)

i don't like the fact that she's still at school cos if she were my age things would be a hell of a lot easier... ditto for her living miles away... and yes, that is all her fault ;) :p
Nuh uh! It's your fault for being older and living far away! You're older - you take responsibilty ;)

the only "real" one is that she can be a tad blunt sometimes... but i'm getting used to it, heh, and its not a problem anyway ;) :fluffle:
At least I'm honest.... (dammit, where's that nodding smiley when I need one?!) :p (and yes, I know (well, hope) you agree with me that the honesty is the advantage of it)

:fluffle:

there are things about herself that she doesn't like, but i like her for them cos they make her who she is and i wouldn't have it any other way
Damn you! I'm supposed to be trying to think of things I dislike about you but you make it too hard when you just keep making me smile! :p :D

I really can't think of anything. There's things I would change but only so that you found life easier. There's silly things (yay tabbed browsing, hehe). But I can't think of anything serious. I suppose I don't like it when you assume things through insecurity because it can come across as accusing me of stuff, but I would never hold it against you because I can be equally as bad at doing stuff like that and I understand how you feel anyway. So it's really just something which initially irritates me but in the end, I understand why you do it, I like that you can be honest with me about it and I love that I can comfort you about it :)

I came upstairs feeling all crappy but your email put the hugest smile on my face *megahugs back* I think the exams went okay... I'll be on msn to chat with you hopefully.

hmmmmm....i don't like it that she's two years younger than me, because that freaks my parents out and makes them impose all these stupid rules about how we're not alowed to act like we're going out in public and we're never alowed to be alone...i don't like it that she lives an hour away from me, because i have no car...i sort of don't like her nose, but i played around with a pic on my comp for a while and realised that it can't work any better with the rest of her face (i only don't like her nose because she doesn't like her nose, and whenever i take notice of it she gets all shy:( )........i think that's about it. and the fact that she's not a millionaire. that would be nice.:D

anyways, i really love my gf, i can't imagine loving her any more, and i really couldn't care less about any minor flaws she might have.

edit: i actually thot of some things. her best friend likes her, which is sad, and she sorta liked him too. anyways, he lives within, like, 5mins of her, and soemtimes she really misses me and starts crying on the phone, and i feel horrible for making her fall in love with me. that and people usually whistle and ask me how i got so lucky whenever we're out in public.

Nuh uh! It's your fault for being older and living far away! You're older - you take responsibilty

bah! :mp5:

At least I'm honest.... (dammit, where's that nodding smiley when I need one?!) :p (and yes, I know (well, hope) you agree with me that the honesty is the advantage of it)

:fluffle:


oh i totally agree honesty is the good that comes of it, and i'm not really that sensative in that it doesn't bother me 99% of the time... its just that with msn/emails sometimes things - especially 'blunt' things lol - can be taken the wrong way (by me)... which in turn can lead to bad things.
i shouldn't think it'll be a problem IRL but as we know, emails/msn is just not as straight forward as chatting in person...


Damn you! I'm supposed to be trying to think of things I dislike about you but you make it too hard when you just keep making me smile! :p :D
mwuahahaha the plan is working :cool: ;) *hugs*

I really can't think of anything. There's things I would change but only so that you found life easier. There's silly things (yay tabbed browsing, hehe). But I can't think of anything serious. I suppose I don't like it when you assume things through insecurity because it can come across as accusing me of stuff, but I would never hold it against you because I can be equally as bad at doing stuff like that and I understand how you feel anyway. So it's really just something which initially irritates me but in the end, I understand why you do it, I like that you can be honest with me about it and I love that I can comfort you about it

I came upstairs feeling all crappy but your email put the hugest smile on my face *megahugs back* I think the exams went okay... I'll be on msn to chat with you hopefully.
tabbed browsing = teh sUckz0rz. so there. ;)
but i don't mean to accuse you of anything, or irritate you :( ... i'll be on later (with a bit of luck... gotta present the project i've working at on thursday (which is why things should be better at the end of the week!) so i might have to work tonight) so if you wanna talk about it at all, i'll be all ears :)
*more megahugs*

Wish he had a bit more self-confidence. I worry about him a lot. Just want him to be happy. :( I moved away this summer, so I can't keep a watch on him =D

hmmmmm....i don't like it that she's two years younger than me, because that freaks my parents out and makes them impose all these stupid rules about how we're not alowed to act like we're going out in public and we're never alowed to be alone...i don't like it that she lives an hour away from me, because i have no car...

and soemtimes she really misses me and starts crying on the phone, and i feel horrible for making her fall in love with me.
heh you should try 5 years :p :eek:

we're in almost the same situation... weird... *is very glad he has a car though* :D


and similarly i hate that she feels lonely and i hate that i can't be with her when she needs me (or someone), or when i need her :(
then again she felt lonely before me and i felt lonely before her, so its not like we can blame each other for it :p

heh you should try 5 years :p :eek:
you should try 7, I have been places with my husband numerous times when people thought I was his daughter :eek:

you should try 7, I have been places with my husband numerous times when people thought I was his daughter :eek:
:p i'm not too sure what to make of that... i'm sure your husband isn't complaining tho ;)
lol anyway :D

The only thing I don't like about my g.f. is that she lives halfway around the world. I live in Minneapolis, Minnesota, she lives in Davao City, Philippines. :(

What are the things, you don´t like about your partner ???

I love everything about my armed wife. :D

:p i'm not too sure what to make of that... i'm sure your husband isn't complaining tho ;)
lol anyway :D
I look a lot younger than I am, and he looks a lot older than he is when he has a beard.

Once I heard someone at the Denny's talking about "How cute is that? He is taking his daughter out to breakfast"

so I leaned over the table and planted a messy wet kiss...........:D I thought that old lady was going to die:p

I have a lot of trouble thinking of things about my girlfriend that I don't like. Sometimes she can be a little loud, but that's rare and I usually just laugh it off.

She doesn't like her nose, and gets very shy about it when I kiss it and tell her it is cute.

like me ....i first met my wife 1981 and we married 1993

Sounds like you're older than me then.

I look a lot younger than I am, and he looks a lot older than he is when he has a beard.

Once I heard someone at the Denny's talking about "How cute is that? He is taking his daughter out to breakfast"

so I leaned over the table and planted a messy wet kiss...........:D I thought that old lady was going to die:p
lol you're trouble ;) :p

oh i totally agree honesty is the good that comes of it, and i'm not really that sensative in that it doesn't bother me 99% of the time... its just that with msn/emails sometimes things - especially 'blunt' things lol - can be taken the wrong way (by me)... which in turn can lead to bad things.
i shouldn't think it'll be a problem IRL but as we know, emails/msn is just not as straight forward as chatting in person...
:) Yeah, just another reason why real life > msn. As long as you feel able to tell me when I say something stupid, we should be okay.

mwuahahaha the plan is working :cool: ;) *hugs*
And you have me laughing again! :D :p *hugs back*

tabbed browsing = teh sUckz0rz. so there.
But (my new compromise argument) with tabbed browsing, you can still have new windows if you want. Best of both worlds ;)

but i don't mean to accuse you of anything, or irritate you :( ... i'll be on later (with a bit of luck... gotta present the project i've working at on thursday (which is why things should be better at the end of the week!) so i might have to work tonight) so if you wanna talk about it at all, i'll be all ears
*more megahugs*
I know, I know. (This is an example of my bluntness coming out all wrong...)What I mean is that it could get to me if I didn't just stop and think about it. But I do stop and think about it and it just takes a second for me to forget any thoughts of being at all annoyed and instead just want to hug you because I know what it feels like :fluffle:
Everyone has little things that annoy them about people but when you put the effort into talking about things or simply stopping and remembering to think about how the other person feels, a lot can be cleared up easily :)
Okay. Well, good luck with the project and presentation! If you can't get on, don't worry - I'll make sure to email you at least and I'm feeling okay right now. Oooo, but I need your address to send... things.... to *is mysterious* :p

Not in one, yet. But not for lack of trying!
So.. does that count?

'Cuz if it does, she confuses the hell out of me and that is at least annoying (And usually just confusing in and of itself).

hmmmmm....i don't like it that she's two years younger than me, because that freaks my parents out and makes them impose all these stupid rules about how we're not alowed to act like we're going out in public and we're never alowed to be alone
heh you should try 5 years
you should try 7, I have been places with my husband numerous times when people thought I was his daughter :eek:
ha, you guys should try 10. But I didn't encounter much resistance among my family and friends - they all trusted me for the most part, and they all liked him as well.

ha, you guys should try 10. But I didn't encounter much resistance among my family and friends - they all trusted me for the most part, and they all liked him as well.

You should try 15. Although I'm not entirely certain if it's technically a relationship.:confused:

What are the things, you don´t like about your partner ??? She doesn't exist. It can be an irritating trait, especially with quiet people.

You should try 15. Although I'm not entirely certain if it's technically a relationship.:confused:Yeah, well, I could up the ante even more, but the same confusion would apply in the case of Harrison Ford and I. I don't think fantasy qualifies.
What's your 15-year difference story?

What are the things, you don´t like about your partner ???

She can be very shrill. She also has excessively long nails.

She can be very shrill. She also has excessively long nails. Shrew.

Shrew.

...what? The word is 'shrill': it means high-pitched. Maybe it's an Britishism?

Yeah, well, I could up the ante even more, but the same confusion would apply in the case of Harrison Ford and I. I don't think fantasy qualifies.
What's your 15-year difference story?

I'm 18, she's 33. We met online, and as yet we haven't met in person(she has to stay where she is {Ohio, I'm in England} for the minute to sort out her divorce and, although I could go over to her, it's not really a good idea given how it would look and the fact that her almost-ex is a certifiable nut job).

Before she knew my actual age, she assumed I was a lot older from the way I conduct myself, and by the time she found out how old I actually was, we'd become quite close. She got a little uncomfortable about the fact that I was young enough to be her son, but I got her through that with my super-maturitiy and powers of greatness.

...what? The word is 'shrill': it means high-pitched. Maybe it's an Britishism?

Maybe he's calling her a shrew?

...what? The word is 'shrill': it means high-pitched. Maybe it's an Britishism? I am a Britishism. Sort of.

Go see the Taming of the Shrew, and you'll understand my "Shrew" comment. ;)

I am a Britishism. Sort of.

Go see the Taming of the Shrew, and you'll understand my "Shrew" comment.

I'm British. I thought you didn't understand 'shrill'. The Taming of the Shrew is a sack of hateful crap, and it would have been better off unwritten.

I'm British. I thought you didn't understand 'shrill'. The Taming of the Shrew is a sack of hateful crap, and it would have been better off unwritten. Eh?

I'm 18, she's 33. We met online, and as yet we haven't met in person(she has to stay where she is {Ohio, I'm in England} for the minute to sort out her divorce and, although I could go over to her, it's not really a good idea given how it would look and the fact that her almost-ex is a certifiable nut job).

<snip>.A long-distance-internet-15-year-age-gap-relationship!!!! Perfect. It is a bit awkwrd about not knowing to begin with; I didn't know how old my ex-boyfriend was until it was a bit too late (and I met him in person) - not that that would have changed anything, but it was a surprise. Anyway, Your chances seem pretty darn slim, but best of luck.

Eh?

I mean, Taming is a fundamentally horrid play. Given his portrayal of women in other plays, I just don't understand why he wrote it; I presume it was a semi-commission, or something. The idea that an outspoken woman can basically be fucked into submission just...isn't comfortable.

I mean, Taming is a fundamentally horrid play. Given his portrayal of women in other plays, I just don't understand why he wrote it; I presume it was a semi-commission, or something. The idea that an outspoken woman can basically be fucked into submission just...isn't comfortable. It's the only language they understand.

A long-distance-internet-15-year-age-gap-relationship!!!! Perfect. It is a bit awkwrd about not knowing to begin with; I didn't know how old my ex-boyfriend was until it was a bit too late (and I met him in person) - not that that would have changed anything, but it was a surprise. Anyway, Your chances seem pretty darn slim, but best of luck.

It's definitely the ideal, isn't it.

Everyone tells me our chances are slim, but I'm willing to give it a go. Thanks for the luck:)

Sounds like you're older than me then.
I think so ....

What are the things, you don´t like about your partner ???

As you mentioned earlier, maybe the original poster would like to talk about his experiences as well?

So let's hear it from you...

As you mentioned earlier, maybe the original poster would like to talk about his experiences as well?

So let's hear it from you...

I don´t find anything wrong at her

Heterosexist.

mm...nothing yet. It's only been 6 weeks though.

Heterosexist. Wassat?

It's only ever petty things, and we get over them really quickly. Sometimes he just has to be right, but that's only over trivia so it's ok. And he can ramble on a bit can my boy. Heh. But I wub him. :D

Mostly my problem with my boyfriend consists of the fact that he got married during one of the times that we split up (I've been with him off and on for 15 years... wow) and even though they separated after a year, he's still married to her for almost 11 years. He got together with me again after they separated. At that point I hadn't known he was married to her, but when I found out I tried to help pay for the divorce. Unfortunately he lacked follow-through and I left him after waiting three years for the divorce. I got back with him when he thought the divorce was final. I found out it's not but I've been with him again for four more years. :(

Aside from that, the bedroom life could be a little spicier and more frequent.

don't i like? :confused:


well not much, if anything, really :)
i got quite upset the other day after a fun arguement turned sour, and i was thinking that she was really quite stubborn and things like that... then as soon as she realised that i had taken things that way (when she thought it was still just a laugh) there were apologies, understanding and good stuff galore :) :fluffle:
PM I'm really happy to hear that you have found a girlfriend. We all told you that you would! (I was Swimmingpool, btw, before I got deleted).

He is a man.
This is a problem?

You should try 15. Although I'm not entirely certain if it's technically a relationship.:confused:
You should try 35 years! Beat that!

You should try 35 years! Beat that!

Okay. You know the "face that launched a thousand ships"? It's fading. That happens, you know.

**nod**

Be disturbed by the implications.

**more nodding**

PM I'm really happy to hear that you have found a girlfriend. We all told you that you would! (I was Swimmingpool, btw, before I got deleted).

woo! :fluffle: thank you :)

(and i'd been wondering where swimmingpool had got to - nice to know you're still about! :))


edit:
You should try 35 years! Beat that!
*raises eyebrow*

wow... but if its good, go for it! don't let my eyebrows stop you ;) :p

PM I'm really happy to hear that you have found a girlfriend. We all told you that you would! (I was Swimmingpool, btw, before I got deleted).Hey, I wondered where you'd got to! welcome back. And don't encourage him, the critical masses of smilies in this thread alone are enough to arrest one's muscles in a permanent grimace.
You should try 35 years! Beat that! You win. But wait, maybe you don't win at all. Does this mean you've slept with a 55-year old (assuming you're around 20)?

don't encourage him, the critical masses of smilies in this thread alone are enough to arrest one's muscles in a permanent grimace.

:D
the amount of white text is pretty exasperating too :P


but you know, i think i could really give tink a run for her money for the 'person who fluffles the most' award now (i was a close second before damnit! :p)

Hey, I wondered where you'd got to! welcome back. And don't encourage him, the critical masses of smilies in this thread alone are enough to arrest one's muscles in a permanent grimace.
You win. But wait, maybe you don't win at all. Does this mean you've slept with a 55-year old (assuming you're around 20)?
Damn right! With older women I don't need to use a condom or pull out!

:D
the amount of white text is pretty exasperating too :P


but you know, i think i could really give tink a run for her money for the 'person who fluffles the most' award now (i was a close second before damnit! :p)That honor, PM, is something you should avoid, not aspire to. *runs away*
Damn right! With older women I don't need to use a condom or pull out!*faster*

There were a few things that really annoyed me earlier in our relationship, such as my boyfriend's heavy drinking. He's moderated that considerably now; I think my complaints were certainly the catalyst for that, but he's clearly realised for himself that drinking like that is pointless and potentially dangerous anyway.

There were a few raised eyebrows when we first got together because he's 10 years my senior, but I was born old anyway so it was never a problem for me (nor for him). Thinking about it, actually, the youngest bloke I ever dated for anything more than a few weeks was six years older than me!

There are one or two 'typical man' things he does that I'm sure would annoy many a woman (such as leaving dirty socks lying on the floor or leaving the house in a complete tip), but because I do exactly the same, I couldn't care less.