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Is that still considered a taboo after High School?

Was it ever a taboo, or did I make it all up in my head while buzzed off of second hand smoke of questionable nature?

Anyway, on a scale from one to ten, how silly is this post?

Is that still considered a taboo after High School?

Was it ever a taboo, or did I make it all up in my head while buzzed off of second hand smoke of questionable nature?

Anyway, on a scale from one to ten, how silly is this post?

It goes to eleven.

No, it was never taboo to kiss on the first date. Well, kissing their lips, anyway. There are other kinds of kissing that would be generally taboo, but that's not what you were talking about. A kiss is kind of expected at the end of date one.

Kissing on the first date was taboo during highschool?


I remember my very first date ever consisted of making out before the movie even started.

It goes to eleven.

No, it was never taboo to kiss on the first date. Well, kissing their lips, anyway. There are other kinds of kissing that would be generally taboo, but that's not what you were talking about. A kiss is kind of expected at the end of date one.

That should be corrected. A kiss is kind of expected at the end of GOOD date one. You don't take a girl to the ferris wheel and puke on her, then expect to get to kiss her.

Yeah, I didn't kiss someone on a date once.

But it was one of those set up dates. He had a crush on me and I didn't reciprocate at all. It was terribly awkward, plus he went on about how he'd never been kissed... so that freaked me out a bit.

He got a handshake.

Well, I guess I really am sleep deprived.

The conventional wisdom when I was in high school was that you'd wait until at least three dates to introduce that kind of thing... I know nothing about this from experience, but I heard it a couple of times.

That should be corrected. A kiss is kind of expected at the end of GOOD date one. You don't take a girl to the ferris wheel and puke on her, then expect to get to kiss her.

I suppose so. You'll have to forgive me; I don't have bad dates.

I suppose so. You'll have to forgive me; I don't have bad dates.

Neither do I. In fact, I haven't had one in three years. Bad or otherwise.

I'm gonna go hit myself with a book until I fall alseep now.

Yeah, I didn't kiss someone on a date once.

But it was one of those set up dates. He had a crush on me and I didn't reciprocate at all. It was terribly awkward, plus he went on about how he'd never been kissed... so that freaked me out a bit.

He got a handshake.


Yikes, you should have at least hugged him, or given him the ole
"Just Friends speech"

Yikes, you should have at least hugged him, or given him the ole
"Just Friends speech"
My dad gave him a ride home, I wasn't going to initiate awkward conversation around my dad and I wasn't going to try to hug him in the car.

wow... I always got at least a little tongue on first date... of course, now I'm married. So that does'nt happen as often anymore.

Oh God you're lucky he didn't hang himself that night.
Who the hell would hang themselves after a date?

Oh God you're lucky he didn't hang himself that night.

He should have played it cooler, but I definately feel his pain. When a guy is inexperienced like that, you ladies need to cut the poor boy a little slack for getting nervous.

Who the hell would hang themselves after a date?
After discovering that there really are people with tetrabytes of porn, nothing surprises me anymore.

He should have played it cooler, but I definately feel his pain. When a guy is inexperienced like that, you ladies need to cut the poor boy a little slack for getting nervous.
I was inexperienced too, I'm still pretty inexperienced, I don't really know how to deal with people who are making things more and more awkward.

I was inexperienced too, I'm still pretty inexperienced, I don't really know how to deal with people who are making things more and more awkward.

. . .Probably best just to be honest with him: "I think you're all right, and I realize that you are nervous as hell, but you're starting to freak me out with all the talk about kissing."

Of course it's ok to kiss on the first date...

It's rude not to kiss during afterglow.

. . .Probably best just to be honest with him: "I think you're all right, and I realize that you are nervous as hell, but you're starting to freak me out with all the talk about kissing."
It's not something I'm likely to have to deal with in the future.
I only went on a date with the guy because one of our friends set us up and after that, I'm never going on a date that involves being set up, and by pickign my own dates, I generally have a good enough idea of who I will be attracted to and like so I won't be ending dates with handshakes. I'm also getting to an age where most people have been kissed and if they haven't they're smart enough to shut up and not say anything.

Neither do I. In fact, I haven't had one in three years. Bad or otherwise.

That's okay... better to have no date than a bad date. No dates are passing things... a disasterous date is something you'll remember til your dying day.

Not that I know anything about those...

I didn't know there was a methodology to it. I figured that was just crappy sitcoms. I usually just kiss if it feels appropriate, first date or nth date.

crappy sitcoms set the standard :p

It's not something I'm likely to have to deal with in the future.
I only went on a date with the guy because one of our friends set us up and after that, I'm never going on a date that involves being set up, and by pickign my own dates, I generally have a good enough idea of who I will be attracted to and like so I won't be ending dates with handshakes. I'm also getting to an age where most people have been kissed and if they haven't they're smart enough to shut up and not say anything.

...come on I have to know, how old was he.

Is that still considered a taboo after High School?

Was it ever a taboo, or did I make it all up in my head while buzzed off of second hand smoke of questionable nature?

Anyway, on a scale from one to ten, how silly is this post?


Why would you ever listen to what someone else tells you is taboo anyways. Do whatever you want to do on the first date. Rating for this post on silly scale: 37 out of 10

Why would you ever listen to what someone else tells you is taboo anyways. Do whatever you want to do on the first date. Rating for this post on silly scale: 37 out of 10

I usually don't/didn't/whatever. One of the reasons women as a species hate me.

I actually french kissed someone on my first date...but she's my best friend so I guess it didn't count (we decided not to go out anyway). I don't have any qualms about kissing on the first date in any case, and I'm only about 14.

He got a handshake.
man thats harsh, I would rather a kick in the crotch then a handshake :D
a hug would have be much more appropriate.:p

Man, now I feel all guilty...

I had been going out with my boyfriend for 3 months before we ever kissed...

I wonder if he thought I hated him or something...? lol

I've never been kissed. :(

I've never been kissed. :(

How old are you?

I've never been kissed. :(

Ouch.

A deep kiss on the first date is a bad move, no matter how much she/he likes you. It scares the crap out of the inexperienced ones, I know I was scared shitless...

How old are you?
21

I've never really "dated," strictly speaking. I've had girlfriends, but I've never really done the romantic dinner and a movie thing with anyone I wasn't already in an established relationship with. It's kind of sad, really: I'm almost 30, and I have no clue about first-date etiquette.

Well, I've managed to go this long without playing the dating game, and I've still managed to have some success with the opposite sex. I guess there's no reason to try to figure it out now.

Is that still considered a taboo after High School?

Was it ever a taboo, or did I make it all up in my head while buzzed off of second hand smoke of questionable nature?

Anyway, on a scale from one to ten, how silly is this post?
haha umm 8:)

haha umm 8:)
Ashley, you didn't happen to live in oregon in the foreseeable past, did you?

Ashley, you didn't happen to live in oregon in the foreseeable past, did you?
How do you foresee the past?

Perhaps you mean "hindseeable past," but I'm not sure if that's a word. It should be, though.

How do you foresee the past?

Perhaps you mean "hindseeable past," but I'm not sure if that's a word. It should be, though.I like to play with words like that. Use them out of context, but just enough in context so people know what I mean. Such as when I borrow something I ask if I can steal it from them.

Damn.... I don't know know about this crowd.

Kissing on the first date? Hell, I've had several relationships (including my marraige and the woman I'm currently seeing) that began with sex on the first date...

Yeah, I didn't kiss someone on a date once.

But it was one of those set up dates. He had a crush on me and I didn't reciprocate at all. It was terribly awkward, plus he went on about how he'd never been kissed... so that freaked me out a bit.

He got a handshake.

Wow, all i got was a punch in the ribs, and i reciprocated, so yeah, it was pretty good.

21

I can't believe I'm reading this, but I guess if you were not trying to go on dates, it could happen.

And to Piresia, how could you possibly go out for 3 months without kissing?

I can't believe I'm reading this, but I guess if you were not trying to go on dates, it could happen.
Moving from the Big City to a rural town of 4,000 could also cause this. :(

Damn.... I don't know know about this crowd.

Kissing on the first date? Hell, I've had several relationships (including my marraige and the woman I'm currently seeing) that began with sex on the first date...

Yes, but you are obviously very old fashioned.

Though like you I am disgusted with the "so-called" moral standards of youth today.

I can't believe I'm reading this, but I guess if you were not trying to go on dates, it could happen.


Or if you don't like the idea. :) I'm much happier for giving up notions like that.. give the guy a break.

Wow, all i got was a punch in the ribs, and i reciprocated, so yeah, it was pretty good.

But those were differnet times back then. People didnt oh and ah if you got a kiss, if you got anything, you were ahead of the game.

Moving from the Big City to a rural town of 4,000 could also cause this. :(

I see the light!

I see the light!
Eh? what do you mean?

what do YOU mean, joy boy

Dating is old fasioned.

FREE LOVE FOR ALL!

Yeah, I didn't kiss someone on a date once.

But it was one of those set up dates. He had a crush on me and I didn't reciprocate at all. It was terribly awkward, plus he went on about how he'd never been kissed... so that freaked me out a bit.

He got a handshake.
I wonder about this geek reflex of dwelling on being sad when trying to get some.

I've seen it quite a few times, and I've even wound up doing it myself and am still not any closer to understanding it. I guess they (okay, after that admission I probably should say we, but I like to think that I'm past all of that...) are hoping for the pity play. But how insulting is pity action?

Look, I know that you're (sigh, we) are trying to seperate your(our...dammit)selves from arrogant jocks or whatever other characature, but damn.

Look, geeks and losers or whatever-I know it sucks, you feel like you're constantly out of reach, whatever. However, if you get close enough that they're talking to you keep stories about you being a loser to yourselves. Fuck man, if you can't control yourself just ask her questions and let her talk about herself. It may not work but at least you won't shoot yourselves in the foot.

"No one wants me" is not a selling point.

I wonder about this geek reflex of dwelling on being sad when trying to get some.

I've seen it quite a few times, and I've even wound up doing it myself and am still not any closer to understanding it. I guess they (okay, after that admission I probably should say we, but I like to think that I'm past all of that...) are hoping for the pity play. But how insulting is pity action?

Look, I know that you're (sigh, we) are trying to seperate ourselves from arrogant jocks or whatever other characature, but damn.

Look, geeks and losers or whatever-I know it sucks, you feel like you're constantly out of reach, whatever. However, if you get close enough that they're talking to you keep stories about you being a loser to yourselves. Fuck man, if you can't control yourself just ask her questions and let her talk about herself. It may not work but at least you won't shoot yourselves in the foot.

"No one wants me" is not a selling point.

This young lady is absolutly correct, why, bcak in my day (the good old days) beatng yourself upwas not the way to get women. What you had to do was beat up others. that was it, the more others you beat up the more women you got, then, you beat the women and you got better women. Face it, women just want some one who can beat people. I never beat myself up, AND I HAVE Downsyndrome!!

This young lady is absolutly correct, why, bcak in my day (the good old days) beatng yourself upwas not the way to get women. What you had to do was beat up others. that was it, the more others you beat up the more women you got, then, you beat the women and you got better women. Face it, women just want some one who can beat people. I never beat myself up, AND I HAVE Downsyndrome!!
I'm a dude.

I'm a dude.
Dont get smart with me youg lady, ive beaten plenty of people like you.

I'm a dude.
Damn, pronouns. Damn them all!

REVOLT AGAINST PRONOUNS!
3rd PERSON, ALL DAY, EVERYDAY!

*begins cleaning AK-47s and hunting rifles*

I had been going out with my girlfriend for a couple months before I kissed her. then again, that's what happens when you get a pair of nerds who really have no idea between them what they're doing. for the record, we've been going out for well over a year now.

I don't think thre's anyhting wrong with kissing on a first date, but I doubt I would.

As for the guy that got a handshake, ouch.

Dont get smart with me youg lady, ive beaten plenty of people like you.

Damn, pronouns. Damn them all!

REVOLT AGAINST PRONOUNS!
3rd PERSON, ALL DAY, EVERYDAY!

*begins cleaning AK-47s and hunting rifles*
See? See where pathetic loser stories get you? People think you're a chick and try and bitchslap you. Let that be a leason...

See? See where pathetic loser stories get you? People think you're a chick and try and bitchslap you. Let that be a leason...

What are you, some kind of astronoght? You think your so smart. Well good job, congradulations, you just outsmarted an 85 year old with downsyndrome. Amazing.

Do you know how much medication i have to take just so i dont shit myself?

Shame on you

NoF finds this new string of conversation very amusing, and wishes to express his graditude at the creators of such conversation.

NoF finds this new string of conversation very amusing, and wishes to express his graditude at the creators of such conversation.
NoF, take this, for the tools will be required for the task at hand!

*throws AK-47, sling shot, various AP clips, and bags of polished rocks*

PURIFY THE WORLD OF PRONOUNS!

Shall a thread be started to garner more support for this movement! The need for conscripts is high, indeed, and this effort will require sacrifices that two people cannot bear alone!

What are you, some kind of astronoght? You think your so smart. Well good job, congradulations, you just outsmarted an 85 year old with downsyndrome. Amazing.

Do you know how much medication i have to take just so i dont shit myself?

Shame on you
You just...you just don't understand me, man...I'm going somewhere, I'm gonna be something. You don't know! I'm never gonna turn out like you!!! When I turn, uh, 35 I am so outta here....




...these tears aren't for you...

You just...you just don't understand me, man...I'm going somewhere, I'm gonna be something. You don't know! I'm never gonna turn out like you!!! When I turn, uh, 35 I am so outta here....




...these tears aren't for you...
You think your better then me, i'll show you. As soon as i get my nurse to get me out of my whellchair, youll be in truble. Your gonna see what it's like to get it upside the head with a cane.

MY NURSE STEALS FROM ME, i'll get her too!!

Eh? what do you mean?

I mean that I see why it never happened. (the kissing)

Moving from the Big City to a rural town of 4,000 could also cause this. :(
Wait, you're a big city boy in the sticks? If teen movies and sex comedies have taught me anything, and I like to think that they have, you should be raking in the tail until that one smart chick that seems immune to your charms teaches you what real love is.

You're clearly not playing your game right...

Kissing? Heh. That is so cute...