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Anger can galvanize you to action, can help vent excess stress, and can scare the shit out of some people.

But anger is not always healthy. If kept inside it can eat you alive. You gotta open up and get all that bad karma out of there.

Personally, I write out all my thoughts which in effect puts my anger into physical form. I can then do whatever I wish with it.

What do you do...?

I plot the destruction of those around me.
So far I have about 200 plans for the extermination of my roomie, simply because he somehow hits that magic combination of exposure and annoyance that can only be generated by living with someone you haven't known your whole life and aren't banging.
Anyway, the planning is incredibly relaxing, especially when you spend about an hour researching a particularly gruesome or intricate method and how best to pull it off.

punch people

I tend not to get angry at other people IRL, but when I do, I internalise it and vent it through exercise.

Normaly, I would yell at Bolol.


Barring that, I go for a long run.

Normaly, I would yell at Bolol.


Barring that, I go for a long run.

I knew I could count on you.

I sit and simmer.

I listen to Mayhem (the band) and let the sheer ugliness and aggression of the music wash over me, and that is calming.

If my husband is around I vent to him, until he gets tired of hearing it and says "grow the fuck up smunkee!!!!!" then I go pout in my room for about 10 min, and realize that I should grow up, and then I go apologize to my husband, and he laughs, and I laugh..............

If he isn't around then I write down all the stuff I am mad about and then tear it up into little peices.

High Explosives.

It keeps me from poisining the water supply.

I sit and simmer.

Yeah, have fun with that eventual meltdown and the ensuing mass devastation.

I have experience with this. You remember Atlantis? That was me...

I knew I could count on you.

If I am one thing (besides insane), I am accountable.

High Explosives.

It keeps me from poisining the water supply.

C4 or Semtex?

i just repeat "serenity now" and it all just melts away

i run or if i get really mad i stick a knife through my desk

One of two things usually happens with me. I either ignore it until the issue has gotten on my last nerve, blow up and yell at the top of my voice for about ten minutes and then it's gone *poof* like nothing ever happened OR I sit down, try to figure out what the root of the problem is, seperate real issues from the imaginary and then discuss how I feel about the situation with whomever is the subject of my frustration for about five hours or more. I haven't figured out which is best, yet.

I take my guitar, open the window, and play "Smoke on the water" as loud as my amp lets me

goosfraba...goosfraba...

Anger can galvanize you to action, can help vent excess stress, and can scare the shit out of some people.

But anger is not always healthy. If kept inside it can eat you alive. You gotta open up and get all that bad karma out of there.

Personally, I write out all my thoughts which in effect puts my anger into physical form. I can then do whatever I wish with it.

What do you do...?
First thing one needs to do, is figure out WHY they are angry.

Second, one needs to figure out what part they played in WHY they are angry.

Third, one needs to understand that they themselves are ultimately responsible for their own happiness.

Fourth, one needs to understand that thoughtfully praying for the individual(s) that angered you is probably the best way to rid oneself of the anger/resentment/hatred.

I have seen people here on these boards expressing anger/hatred/rage against individuals that was born 20, 30, 40 years ago. That is totally unhealthy for those individuals.

Fifth and most important is forgiveness (http://www.guidetopsychology.com/forgive.htm):

Anyone who has ever been victimized—and that includes victims of crime, accident victims, adult survivors of childhood abuse, political prisoners, and so on—must decide whether or not to forgive the perpetrator. There can be no middle ground to this decision: either you decide to forgive the person who hurt you, or you hold on to bitterness and anger.

Holding on to bitterness and anger can cause problems of their own, so if you have ever been victimized, being able to forgive your victimizer is a crucial part of your healing.

Your choice. For me, the choice is clear.

I come here and take it out on all the Liberals, Terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitists Europeans, and Fass. :D

I come here and take it out on all the Liberals, Terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitists Europeans, and Fass. :D
Only if they are willing to take in your anger. :)

Meanwhile, while you are venting your anger, does it go away or is it still there, day after day?

I tend not to get angry at other people IRL, but when I do, I internalise it and vent it through exercise.
Pretty much the same here, except I use music to rid of any anger.

Only if they are willing to take in your anger. :)

Meanwhile, while you are venting your anger, does it go away or is it still there, day after day?
No, it doesn't matter if people listen to me. I get it out through the keyboard, and yes, it makes me feel much calmer!

And if that doesn't work, I always have a big fat joint to fall back on! ;)

i let it all out at the source rather than bottling it up too much. makes me seem like a really angry person but its better that way :)

No, it doesn't matter if people listen to me. I get it out through the keyboard, and yes, it makes me feel much calmer!

And if that doesn't work, I always have a big fat joint to fall back on! ;)
Drugs and alcohol are not good anger management tools.

Drugs and alcohol are not good anger management tools.
But without them it is even no solution...

Drugs and alcohol are not good anger management tools.
Alcohol?) NO Most drugs?) NO Pot?) Oh yes, my friend, it is the ultimate "calmer downer!" I guarantee it!

I come here and take it out on all the Liberals, Terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitists Europeans, and Fass. :D

Doesn't "Liberals, terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitist Europeans" = Fass?

Doesn't "Liberals, terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitist Europeans" = Fass?
All-in-one then? :p

All-in-one then? :p

I strive, but "baby steps, baby steps."

Doesn't "Liberals, terrorist apologists, anti-war moonbats, anti-American assholes, elitist Europeans" = Fass?
Nah. I don't think your a European! :D *insert American geography skills joke here*

Nah. I don't think your a European! :D *insert American geography skills joke here*
Yep, its the USA and everything that's not the USA :p

PS: Thank god I am European :p

Nah. I don't think your a European! :D

I'll tell you a secret: neither do I, nor do most Swedes think themselves for that matter. :p

I'll tell you a secret: neither do I, nor do most Swedes think themselves for that matter. :p
The EU you will get you yet! :p To tell the truth though, Sweden is the country I want to live in most. The rest of the EU fascinates me not.

The EU you will get you yet! :p To tell the truth though, Sweden is the country I want to live in most. The rest of the EU fascinates me not.

Neither should Sweden, really.

Neither should Sweden, really.
Perhaps, perhaps not. I will be able to tell for myself after my studies :)

Perhaps, perhaps not. I will be able to tell for myself after my studies :)

Stay away during the winter is all I'll say.

Stay away during the winter is all I'll say.
I am in Britain during the winter right now. A little bit of cold and snow never hurt anyone ;) In fact, I love it.

I am in Britain during the winter right now. A little bit of cold and snow never hurt anyone ;) In fact, I love it.

It's not that. It's the darkness that gets to you.

It's not that. It's the darkness that gets to you.
That too exists in Britain. The sun only truly rises at 9 am and sets at 3 pm. Very short days. That said, I am usually asleep during the day anyway :p

That too exists in Britain. The sun only truly rises at 9 am and sets at 3 pm. Very short days. That said, I am usually asleep during the day anyway :p

Heh, well take our motto "Land of the midnight sun." The sun hardly sets, if at all, during the summer in large parts of the country. That also means it hardly ever properly rises during the winter.

Heh, well take our motto "Land of the midnight sun." The sun hardly sets, if at all, during the summer in large parts of the country. That also means it hardly ever properly rises during the winter.
I think Britain will serve as good preparation for this, as its as if the sun never rises here at all during winter as well. In any case, with all the cute swedish guys around, I'll find something to keep my mind off the absence of sunshine ;)

It very much depends on HOW angry I am.

If Im only a little pissed, I simply work on my ongoing plans to take over the world.
...baby steps, man, baby steps.

If Im good and mad, and usually twitch a bit, and breathe regularly, so as not to stomp anyone(thing).
Immediately following I curse a blue streak in the air.
This is especially fun for the kids, and Im always asked to get pissed on the 4th of july.
I usually oblige.

If Im really pissed, something, preferably an inamimate object, must suffer my wrath.
Take THAT exspensive item, I will later regret breaking!

If Im beyond that, and am blowing Warsnot kinda pissed, I usually have a spastic come-apart, and proceed to make all living things, including myself suffer greatly.
Afterwich, we progress down the aforementioned steps, until I come back to furthering my goal of world domination.

Its a lengthy process.

I think Britain will serve as good preparation for this, as its as if the sun never rises here at all during winter as well. In any case, with all the cute swedish guys around, I'll find something to keep my mind off the absence of sunshine ;)

Many moons you'll see, no doubt. :)

Many moons you'll see, no doubt. :)
I'll take my chances ;) From what I have seen, the odds are in my favour :p

I don't do anything. I can't, really. My dad only allows one emotion: Happiness. If he even so much as sees me with a frown, he tells me to "get happy", and he lectures me for fuck-knows-how-long, telling me why I have no reason to be anything but happy.

And some of you wonder why I'm cynical.

I don't do anything. I can't, really. My dad only allows one emotion: Happiness. If he even so much as sees me with a frown, he tells me to "get happy", and he lectures me for fuck-knows-how-long, telling me why I have no reason to be anything but happy.

Your father monitors you 24/7?

I don't do anything. I can't, really. My dad only allows one emotion: Happiness. If he even so much as sees me with a frown, he tells me to "get happy", and he lectures me for fuck-knows-how-long, telling me why I have no reason to be anything but happy.

And some of you wonder why I'm cynical.
How frightening.

Your father monitors you 24/7?

I'm lucky I actually have a few hours each day to myself... That's "pissed off time" for me.

I'm lucky I actually have a few hours each day to myself... That's "pissed off time" for me.

Hmm, you should pick up some sport. That way it comes to use.

Hmm, you should pick up some sport. That way it comes to use.

The man doesn't let me go outside, in fear of "somebody raping me". I'm 5'10"... The only people bigger than me on the entire block are my brother and a guy across the street, and he's way too nice to do something like that.

I can go outside... If I stay in the front yard. Or on my bicycle. But then, when I'm on my bike, I can only ride in a four-block radius.

Yeeeeah.

Edit: I'm pretty handy at throwing the football, but the above pretty much negates that.

The man doesn't let me go outside, in fear of "somebody raping me". I'm 5'10"... The only people bigger than me on the entire block are my brother and a guy across the street, and he's way too nice to do something like that.

I can go outside... If I stay in the front yard. Or on my bicycle. But then, when I'm on my bike, I can only ride in a four-block radius.

Yeeeeah.

Edit: I'm pretty handy at throwing the football, but the above pretty much negates that.
How old are you exactly? And are you male or female (raping can happen to either sex, so its not a granted)? Your father seems extremely over-protective.

How old are you exactly? And are you male or female (raping can happen to either sex, so its not a granted)? Your father seems extremely over-protective.

I'm 17 (turning 18 in March). I'm much bigger than my dad, by the way.

And yes, he's extremely over-protective... And overbearing... And he's a control freak... A selfish one, at that.

The man doesn't let me go outside, in fear of "somebody raping me". I'm 5'10"... The only people bigger than me on the entire block are my brother and a guy across the street, and he's way too nice to do something like that.

I can go outside... If I stay in the front yard. Or on my bicycle. But then, when I'm on my bike, I can only ride in a four-block radius.

Yeeeeah.

Edit: I'm pretty handy at throwing the football, but the above pretty much negates that.

Your father is whack like crack, yo.

Your father is whack like crack, yo.

Which is why I'm moving in with my sister soon.

I'm 17 (turning 18 in March). I'm much bigger than my dad, by the way.

And yes, he's extremely over-protective... And overbearing... And he's a control freak... A selfish one, at that.
Would you be male or female? Some fathers are excessively overprotective of their daughters. On the other hand, my father was over-protective of my younger brother.

Your father is whack like crack, yo.
Yeah, I have never heard of a person being so overbearingly protective (even possessive) before.

Which is why I'm moving in with my sister soon.

That reassures me. Does he have any sort of reason fro treating you like a baby at your age? Do you have some sort of condition or something, if you don't mind me asking? Because your father is starting to sound quite monsterish...

Would you be male or female? Some fathers are excessively overprotective of their daughters. On the other hand, my father was over-protective of my younger brother.

Sorry, had a bit of a mind slip. I'm a guy, which makes things even weirder. :p

Sorry, had a bit of a mind slip. I'm a guy, which makes things even weirder. :p
No, my father was rather over-protective of my brother as well. With me, I was always too stubborn and wilful to be controlled. It is odd though. :p

That reassures me. Does he have any sort of reason fro treating you like a baby at your age? Do you have some sort of condition or something, if you don't mind me asking? Because your father is starting to sound quite monsterish...

Oh, no conditions whatsoever. He's been like this with two out of four of his kids... Two of them being my sister (thirteen years my senior) and myself.

No, my father was rather over-protective of my brother as well. With me, I was always too stubborn and wilful to be controlled. It is odd though. :p

Heh, I'm that way, too. It *REALLY* pisses him off.

My sister was also that way. They fight a lot. :p

Oh, no conditions whatsoever. He's been like this with two out of four of his kids... Two of them being my sister (thirteen years my senior) and myself.
Psychological conditions? I think you could find a couple that would describe this scenario :p

Oh, no conditions whatsoever. He's been like this with two out of four of his kids... Two of them being my sister (thirteen years my senior) and myself.

Oh, dear. Well it's nice to see that you are getting the hell out of this man's clutches.

Oh, dear. Well it's nice to see that you are getting the hell out of this man's clutches.
Doesn't the father still have legal authority over the daughter though? She is a minor, at 13 years.

Psychological conditions? I think you could find a couple that would describe this scenario :p

Well, he thinks I'm psychotic, but it's more of a problem with his mentality than mine...

...See, since my mother bore me, I must be psychotic. Know what I mean?

I think you get the picture here...

Well, he thinks I'm psychotic, but it's more of a problem with his mentality than mine...

...See, since my mother bore me, I must be psychotic. Know what I mean?

I think you get the picture here...
:rolleyes: Be happy that you are turning 18 :p

Doesn't the father still have legal authority over the daughter though? She is a minor, at 13 years.

"thirteen years my senior" :p

Doesn't the father still have legal authority over the daughter though? She is a minor, at 13 years.

No no no. She's thirteen years my senior... She's 30.

Though he has expressed the want to have authority over her to this day. He's got issues.

:rolleyes: Be happy that you are turning 18 :p

Heh, my sister moved out when she turned 18, too. :D

No no no. She's thirteen years my senior... She's 30.

Though he has expressed the want to have authority over her to this day. He's got issues.
lol 13 years your senior? I must be getting tired, I am missing details.

lol 13 years your senior? I must be getting tired, I am missing details. That is the weirdest thing I have heard to date. :confused: She is 30 and he still controls her?

Well, *tries* to control her. He's a very difficult person, you see.

Well, *tries* to control her. He's a very difficult person, you see.
At least she has the will to fight him back though :p

At least she has the will to fight him back though :p

At least. :p

I'd fight back when my dad starts his bullshit, but I can't. See, when my sister fights back, she's expected to do it, so he's lenient (well, lenient in the most extreme sense of the word). If I so much as talk back, he threatens to do shit to me.

Let's see... He's threatened to take all of my stuff away (and I don't really have much stuff), put me in the army, put me in a coma, force me to walk shirtless through the neighborhood in my underwear... There's more, but these are the ones worth mentioning.

He already made me wear underwear (no shorts or pants over them) to a sporting goods store a few years ago. I was still a lot smaller than him, so I couldn't beat the shit out of him.

At least. :p

I'd fight back when my dad starts his bullshit, but I can't. See, when my sister fights back, she's expected to do it, so he's lenient (well, lenient in the most extreme sense of the word). If I so much as talk back, he threatens to do shit to me.

Let's see... He's threatened to take all of my stuff away (and I don't really have much stuff), put me in the army, put me in a coma, force me to walk shirtless through the neighborhood in my underwear... There's more, but these are the ones worth mentioning.

He already made me wear underwear (no shorts or pants over them) to a sporting goods store a few years ago. I was still a lot smaller than him, so I couldn't beat the shit out of him.
Right. I wonder if your father is the reincarnation of Hitler :p

Right. I wonder if your father is the reincarnation of Hitler :p

Does the "right" mean "yeah right", or "wow, he's a dick"? I hate it when my signals get crossed.

Does the "right" mean "yeah right", or "wow, he's a dick"? I hate it when my signals get crossed.
"Right" basically is a common British way of saying okay, in its original sense. A little something I picked up in Britain :p I am just amazed at how controlling he is.

"Right" basically is a common British way of saying okay, in its original sence. A little something I picked up in Britain :p

Ah. Well that's better. :p

I've decided to go easy on dear old dad. See, I'm moving in with my sister to finish high school. Once I'm done, I'm off to UCLA. When I go, I'm never talking to the man again. Ever.

Ah. Well that's better. :p

I've decided to go easy on dear old dad. See, I'm moving in with my sister to finish high school. Once I'm done, I'm off to UCLA. When I go, I'm never talking to the man again. Ever.
Good luck then. :) I have yet to tell mine I am gay. He is in no position to attempt to exercise control over me anymore, yet depending on how he takes it, I might decide to break contact if he is a prick about it.

Good luck then. :) I have yet to tell mine I am gay. He is in no position to attempt to exercise control over me anymore, yet depending on how he takes it, I might decide to break contact if he is a prick about it.

I kept a secret from my dad... Sadly, he found it.

It's a music stash on my laptop, full of vinyl rips (mostly classic Punk Rock). He ridiculed me for "liking that shit", calling me a "moron", a "dipshit", and a "Punk Rock retard". To this day, he makes fun of me for liking what I like. And he wonders why I hid my music. :rolleyes:

Just thinking about that makes me wanna forget about going easy on him...

I kept a secret from my dad... Sadly, he found it.

It's a music stash on my laptop, full of vinyl rips (mostly classic Punk Rock). He ridiculed me for "liking that shit", calling me a "moron", a "dipshit", and a "Punk Rock retard". To this day, he makes fun of me for liking what I like. And he wonders why I hid my music. :rolleyes:

Just thinking about that makes me wanna forget about going easy on him...
Definitely some kind of psychopath you have there.

Definitely some kind of psychopath you have there.

Oh, definitely. He's an ABBA fan, after all.

Oh, definitely. He's an ABBA fan, after all.
Hey they aren't that bad :p I like some of their songs. But yeh, not my main preference in music :p

Hey they aren't that bad :p I like some of their songs. But yeh, not my main preference in music :p

He's a Beach Boys nut, too. He dumped a girl for saying she didn't like them that much.

He's a Beach Boys nut, too. He dumped a girl for saying she didn't like them that much.
Heh, I can't say my music tastes extend that far :p Never liked them, or the Beatles, or most pre-90s contemporary music.

Heh, I can't say my music tastes extend that far :p Never liked them, or the Beatles, or most pre-90s contemporary music.

Heh, same here.

Well, I'll be off, then. My dad's starting his bullshit again... Ugh.

I really wanna give him a bloody lip.

Heh, same here.

Well, I'll be off, then. My dad's starting his bullshit again... Ugh.

I really wanna give him a bloody lip.
I have classes so I best be off as well. :p Good luck with the whole situation.

I have classes so I best be off as well. :p Good luck with the whole situation.

I don't need luck. I need to go apeshit and scare the hell out of him. :D