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Okay...so...

There is this girl, and she's kind of cool...maybe worth dating...but...
I work with her, and I don't know whether she's straight, bi, lesbian, etc. Normally it doesn't matter at all, but when you think you might want to date the person, it obviously does...and there are things about her that make me think she may be not straight...

Directly asking her is obviously not a good idea. If we didn't work together, I would, but since we work together, she could probably get me fired, just for asking, if she wanted too...

So, what are some definitive tells on a woman's sexuality without making it obvious to the woman that you're interesting in knowing her sexuality...?

What are your reasons for suspecting she isn't straight?

Well, I doubt girls that work at that age would have a myspace that you could just look up like I do. :D

Trust me, you look at some girls in a whole different light with that site.

Um... show her a pic of a half naked Brad Pitt and she if she melts into a puddle of goo?

Depending on your job type, age, and her personality, I'd say flirt heavily. Make downright sexually offensive comments. Gauge her reaction. Try not to get fired.

Here's a simple test:

If she f*cks dudes, she's straight.

If she f*cks chicks, she's lesbian.

If she f*cks both, I wanna meet her.

Just assume she's straight... you'll be right 95% of the time.. play the odds, c'mon now.

Well, I doubt girls that work at that age would have a myspace that you could just look up like I do. :D

Trust me, you look at some girls in a whole different light with that site.
At what age? She's 18.

As far as things that make me question her sexuality...

For one, she's sometimes commented that she hates all the guys that work where we work (of course, almost all the guys that work there are assholes though. we're all the type of guys that give each other a hard time and understand amongst each other that we're all just giving each other a hard time and we can take a dose of our own medicince, but I guess not all the girls don't really get that...).

Also, she owns and occasionaly wears a rainbow belt.

And...short haircut (this is the sign that I'm least worried about, but when you view it in light of the other two...it kind of all just adds up).

Um... show her a pic of a half naked Brad Pitt and she if she melts into a puddle of goo?
I think that's a good way to convince her that I'm not straight.

My actual advice is FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY, DON'T DATE YOUR COWORKERS.

For your actual question, just freaking ask the girl. Use a little tact and charm, but seriously, just ask.

Or bite the bullet and ask her out. The worst she can do is say no.

At what age? She's 18.

Eh, it couldn't hurt to look and see if she has a myspace.

Here's a simple test:

If she f*cks dudes, she's straight.

If she f*cks chicks, she's lesbian.

If she f*cks both, I wanna meet her.
And I determine who she fucks via regular workplace conversation, right?

Or bite the bullet and ask her out. The worst she can do is say no.Actually the worst she can do is tell you to get lost. Only to come back to you at the end of the year at school and pretend to be your best fucking friend while your wondering if that bitch is for real and you proceed to hurl your yearbook at her face.

...Middle-school...good times.

Try to stick your penis in her. If she becomes upset then she is a lesbian.
This test is amazingly accurate and has shown me that 98.9% of all women are lesbians.

Eh, it couldn't hurt to look and see if she has a myspace.
Eh, question answered. Thanks for the myspace suggestion.

What does a rainbow colour belt have to do with being gay?

I know more straight girls than gay girls that wear rainbow coloured belts.

And I determine who she fucks via regular workplace conversation, right?

Actually, yeah. Talk to her. Listen. She's 18, right? She's gonna talk about sex eventually.

Okay...so...

There is this girl, and she's kind of cool...maybe worth dating...but...
I work with her, and I don't know whether she's straight, bi, lesbian, etc. Normally it doesn't matter at all, but when you think you might want to date the person, it obviously does...and there are things about her that make me think she may be not straight...

Directly asking her is obviously not a good idea. If we didn't work together, I would, but since we work together, she could probably get me fired, just for asking, if she wanted too...

So, what are some definitive tells on a woman's sexuality without making it obvious to the woman that you're interesting in knowing her sexuality...?
Turn the subject to "Who'd you fuck for a million <insert relevant currency>". You don't need to be alone with her when you do it, and it's almost guaranteed to give you some idea. If nothing else, then the ensuing conversation will.

Try to stick your penis in her. If she becomes upset then she is a lesbian.
This test is amazingly accurate and has shown me that 98.9% of all women are lesbians.

You have a penis? And you haven't shown me it? :eek:

Try to stick your penis in her. If she becomes upset then she is a lesbian.
This test is amazingly accurate and has shown me that 98.9% of all women are lesbians.
ROFL

Actually, I'd say ask her out if you're interested. If she's not interested in your gender, she'll speak up at that point. No harm, no foul.

Eh, question answered. Thanks for the myspace suggestion.
You serious? I actually helped somehow someway? :eek:

You have a penis? :eek:
I've got five, but four of them are nailed to the wall in my closet, and thus aren't quite so handy for easy use.
And you haven't shown me it?
Your fault for not subscribing to the monthly newsletter.

I think that's a good way to convince her that I'm not straight.
Can't help you with the side effects, but you would find out.

You have a penis? And you haven't shown me it? :eek:
As the bit you quotet leads me tu suspect you might suddenly turn into a lesbian if he did, so.. Don't ask him that. There are few enuff gays as it is.

Turn the subject to "Who'd you fuck for a million <insert relevant currency>". You don't need to be alone with her when you do it, and it's almost guaranteed to give you some idea. If nothing else, then the ensuing conversation will.

Or tell an embarrassing, yet funny story about an ex-girlfriend. The listen to her response. Ask her about what celebrities she admires. Tell her what celebrity you have a crush on. Find out the music she listens to. What magazines does she read? What websites does she frequent?

I've got five, but four of them are nailed to the wall in my closet, and thus aren't quite so handy for easy use.
HEADHUNTER!

I've got five, but four of them are nailed to the wall in my closet, and thus aren't quite so handy for easy use.

I find wrapping them individually in some silk paper and putting them in decorative hickory boxes adorned with tiny snippets of hand-painted prepuce is the most festively practical approach to phallic storage.

Your fault for not subscribing to the monthly newsletter.

I knew I made a mistake opting for "O" magazine. Didn't have much to do with "O" faces at all.

As the bit you quotet leads me tu suspect you might suddenly turn into a lesbian if he did, so.. Don't ask him that. There are few enuff gays as it is.

Not to worry. Buggery is strong in me.

The best way to find something out is through a story, tell her about your friend who just happens to be gay who is going through a horrible breakup. And tada, you're suddenly talking about relationships and sexuality, making it very easy too slip in your questions. Never appear to interested, people get susicious if you look like you really want to know. Appear mildly curious, assuming you can pull it off.

What does a rainbow colour belt have to do with being gay?

The rainbow has been the international symbol of homosexuality (and tolerance towards it) since 1978.

http://jasewells.com/gayicons/#rainbow

Trivia: that is also the reason that old msn versions "hid" the smiley - it was not accessible through the smiley menu but you had to type the (r) manually. Just like the (%) handcuffs ;)

My actual advice is FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY, DON'T DATE YOUR COWORKERS.

For your actual question, just freaking ask the girl. Use a little tact and charm, but seriously, just ask.

Or bite the bullet and ask her out. The worst she can do is say no.

Ditto.

Do not mix Business and Pleasure because if it goes wrong then work will be twice the shite experience. lol

The rainbow has been the international symbol of homosexuality (and tolerance towards it) since 1978.

http://jasewells.com/gayicons/#rainbow

Trivia: that is also the reason that old msn versions "hid" the smiley - it was not accessible through the smiley menu but you had to type the (r) manually. Just like the (%) handcuffs ;)
While I knew the rainbow part

While I find it entirly plausable that it was not on the list because of homosexuality
There are a lot of other symbols that you had to look up anyways off that list besides rainbows and handcuffs
Maybe it was just one they determined not important enough to make it on the main list?

Ditto.

Do not mix Business and Pleasure because if it goes wrong then work will be twice the shite experience. lol
Well, I wasn't really thinking of dating her while I was working with her. Maybe if one or both of us quit...but it was really bothering me whether she was straight or not...and know I undoubtedly know...I also know that she's not single.

"He who hesitates is lost."

Ask her out when you're having some idle conversation (preferably when its quite), make it flow, make it natural.

If she is on the other side of the street, she'd most likely politely inform you. Unless she happens to be of the militant man-hating type, which is unlikely since they make themselves quite obvious.

The rainbow has been the international symbol of homosexuality (and tolerance towards it) since 1978.

http://jasewells.com/gayicons/#rainbow

Trivia: that is also the reason that old msn versions "hid" the smiley - it was not accessible through the smiley menu but you had to type the (r) manually. Just like the (%) handcuffs ;)

I know that it is the international symbol of homosexuality. I stated that I see more straight girls than gay girls wearing the rainbow belts.

I know that it is the international symbol of homosexuality. I stated that I see more straight girls than gay girls wearing the rainbow belts.
Before here, I'd never noticed anyone wearing a rainbow belt...

Next time I see her wearing the belt, I will say "Nice belt" and see her response? Although, via myspace, I've already determined her sexuality, so, whatev.

Before here, I'd never noticed anyone wearing a rainbow belt...

Next time I see her wearing the belt, I will say "Nice belt" and see her response? Although, via myspace, I've already determined her sexuality, so, whatev.
Hey hey, don't leave us hanging after we all got into this lesbian-bisexual-straight topic!


Plzzzzzzz tell us?

Or are you not happy with the results?

While I find it entirly plausable that it was not on the list because of homosexuality
There are a lot of other symbols that you had to look up anyways off that list besides rainbows and handcuffs
Maybe it was just one they determined not important enough to make it on the main list?

In the old msn versions the only three possible smileys not to appear on the list were the rainbow, handcuffs and the sun. All three have sexual connotations.

In the old msn versions the only three possible smileys not to appear on the list were the rainbow, handcuffs and the sun. All three have sexual connotations.
For as long as I have known it there have been a few more then that
But I dont know if I used the origional emoicons

(just as a note here is a fairly complete list ... I remember most of them for the time I was using msn ... 10 years or so if I remember right (sheesh so long ago I dont remember))
http://messenger.msn.com/Resource/Emoticons.aspx

Hey hey, don't leave us hanging after we all got into this lesbian-bisexual-straight topic!


Plzzzzzzz tell us?

Or are you not happy with the results?
She's lesbian, and on her myspace, she claims to be "out," so now I guess my goal is to get her to actually make it obvious to me in a way that she knows I know...without me telling her I looked her up on myspace...because that's a little creepy, right? But I want her to know I know so that she's more comfortable around me,etc. whatev.,...especially in this area of the states...

I dunno.

I'm not really not happy. I'm not overjoyed, but at least there is closure in knowing. And this will be really interesting now, because despite being pretty good friends with a handful of gay males, I don't think I've ever known a lesbian very well at all...