NationStates Jolt Archive

I know there are lots up there already, but I've got another. It's for guys on here:

If you're dating or planning on building a life with a woman, would you like to know if she's had an abortion in the past?

Do you believe it's your business to know about her past decision, even if it was years and years ago?

Although it would be nice to know, just to clear the air, I really wouldn't care.

(although i would like to know if they're is a clotheshanger shank in her vagina :p )

Personally, I wouldn't care less.

It wouldn't matter to me one way or the other. If I loved her, who gives a damn?

I'd like her to feel comfortable enough to tell me, but my own knowing or not knowing is not that important.

I think the idea of not wanting to know something is silly. How can you Not want to know something about someones past, it might be BEtter if you didnt know but...

Is that something you think you'd be better off not knowing?

I am not a guy, but I think it is important for your spouse to know your medical history, now it isn't any of his business in the moral sense but, for some reason doctors ask (esp. if you are having a baby) if you have ever had an abortion, if for some reason you were pregnant and got into an accident or something, and the doctor needed to know(I am not sure why he would) it would be nice for your spouse to know the facts.

I think the idea of not wanting to know something is silly. How can you Not want to know something about someones past, it might be BEtter if you didnt know but...

It's not that I don't want to know. If fact I probably would be a little curious. However, whatever the case would be I still wouldn't care one way or the other. If she did tell me she had an abortion, I'd try to be understanding and supportive (while in the back of my mind be thankful that there's no obxious little brats to deal with ;) )

The way I see it, it's none of my business, nor is it any one else's business considering that abortion records are confidential.

What would be a more interesting question is would you perform a criminal background check on someone you were dating and would positive results affect your decision to continue the relationship?

I don't care honestly.

The way I see it, it's none of my business, nor is it any one else's business considering that abortion records are confidential.

What would be a more interesting question is would you perform a criminal background check on someone you were dating and would positive results affect your decision to continue the relationship?

Well, it'd depend on the nature of the crime(s) they were convicted of.

Yes I would want to know ... but no it is not dealbreaking
I would want to know just as I would want to know everything else about my lover

I figure that if it's important to her that I know, then she'll tell me, but it's not my place to go prying into her past when she may have very good reasons for not wanting me to know about it.

The way I see it, it's none of my business, nor is it any one else's business considering that abortion records are confidential.

What would be a more interesting question is would you perform a criminal background check on someone you were dating and would positive results affect your decision to continue the relationship?
ive never considered doing a criminal background check on anyone. (although i did once do an elementary search to find out of someone was married)

its a really good idea if you can bring yourself to do it.

yeah it would make a big difference to me depending on what he did that he didnt tell me about.

ive never considered doing a criminal background check on anyone. (although i did once do an elementary search to find out of someone was married)

its a really good idea if you can bring yourself to do it.

yeah it would make a big difference to me depending on what he did that he didnt tell me about.
now that i think about it more

you should never do that kind of bg check on a potential mate

your mother should.

I know there are lots up there already, but I've got another. It's for guys on here:

If you're dating or planning on building a life with a woman, would you like to know if she's had an abortion in the past?

Do you believe it's your business to know about her past decision, even if it was years and years ago?

Well, I guess my answer would be yes - if I was planning on building a life with somebody - but only because that would be a sign of how much she trusted me.

But in my opinion, it is completely up to the other person. I doubt I would feel differently toward her either way. :)

The poll options are insufficient.

There should have been a choice along the lines of "I would like to know, but do not think she is under any obligation to tell me."

The poll options are insufficient.

There should have been a choice along the lines of "I would like to know, but do not think she is under any obligation to tell me."
Fair enough...

but I did want to leave room for discussion rather than a poll that takes care of everything and then nobody answers the thread.

I would want to know, but only from the viewpoint of wanting to know everything about her. Wouldn't make a scrap of difference to me.

Well, unless the aborted kid had been mine, or while she was with me.