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People keep accusing me of being gay (not that I care about gay, I'm liberal), right? And then they go on about it and everything and it just pisses the hell out of me and then someone that used to be my friend told his friends that I was hitting on him (if I was gay he'd be the last person I'd hit on) and people are absolutely sure tht I'm gay, anyway advice?

Unless someone is threating to lynch you for supposedly being gay, why should you care? If any girl in which you're interested chooses to believe these people rather than you, I'd say she isn't really the right girl for you.

poor you

u could get a realy hot girl to go out with you to prove them wrong

or

you could just laugh it off

i dont realy care if ur gay

:fluffle:

u shuldnt care if they think ur gay if ur not

People keep accusing me of being gay (not that I care about gay, I'm liberal), right? And then they go on about it and everything and it just pisses the hell out of me and then someone that used to be my friend told his friends that I was hitting on him (if I was gay he'd be the last person I'd hit on) and people are absolutely sure tht I'm gay, anyway advice?

Remember, they're 95% probably just kidding. Make jokes about them too.

1. Don't get annoyed, or at best, don't show that your annoyed - they will keep doing it. If possible try to laugh with them.
2. Wait for them to grow up.
3. Accuse them of being something even more contraversial, but don't sound angry when you do.

Dont pay attention to them, they dont have any idea what they are talking about

Come up with some witty comebacks for 'you're gay'

Like 'Only in your dreams'

3. Accuse them of being something even more contraversial, but don't sound angry when you do.
Like "Only French, Muslim terrorists hate gay people that much."

if they are "jocks" I believe the word is then just point out that it seems the people doing the outing seem to enjoy activities that involve getting hot and sweaty with other men and then having a group shower......

Like "Only French, Muslim terrorists hate gay people that much."

I was thinking more along the lines of less mainstream sexual practices. The idea is to have fun with it, not get pissed and end up in a verbal slapping match.

if they are "jocks" I believe the word is then just point out that it seems the people doing the outing seem to enjoy activities that involve getting hot and sweaty with other men and then having a group shower......
Its not really like that because we don't have jocks in NZ, most people that play sports (including myself) are in the intelligent classes

You should really not take it seriously, a lot of people may just be joking around with you. You should just ignore them and find a hot girlfriend!

Apparently accusing everyone else of being a Homosexual leads to people thinking you are gay.

You should just ignore them and find a hot girlfriend!

Don't just find any old hot girlfriend, find one of their hot girlfriends! Vengeance and vindication!

Don't just find any old hot girlfriend, find one of their hot girlfriends! Vengeance and vindication!
Excellent advice. Then if they call him gay he can just tell them to ask their girlfriends.

Excellent advice. Then if they call him gay he can just tell them to ask their girlfriends.

Or just tell them to ask their mothers.

Why do you think that they think you are gay? Do you have what they consider 'abnormal' interests?


the best advice I can give you is to be yourself, if people ask tell the truth, if they assume, then maybe they aren't the type of people that you want to hang out with anyway.

I had a friend in highschool that everyone thought was gay, he wasn't, and he didn't really care what other people thought, it didn't really keep him from dating or anything, he just had to be more outgoing (in case the girls he liked didn't know he was available)

Come up with some witty comebacks for 'you're gay'

Like 'Only in your dreams'

"For you baby, I'd be anything you want." (actually I used that one and the other person reacted rather violently.)


For some reason lots of people thought I was guy (including my parents :confused: ). Its just a phase though, they'll grow out of it.

"For you baby, I'd be anything you want." (actually I used that one and the other person reacted rather violently.)


For some reason lots of people thought I was guy (including my parents :confused: ). Its just a phase though, they'll grow out of it.


:eek: Your Parents?! Why did they think so?

:eek: Your Parents?! Why did they think so?

No idea. Didn't have a girlfriend 'til I was 20, never caught looking at porn, possibly other reason. Honestly I have no idea. One of the wierdest conversations with my mother started with her saying, "You know Tim, it's ok..."

I hate the fact that some people think that all teens should date when they're in high school. A lot don't start dating until college. In high school it's rare that you have a long term relationship. Most I've seen last only for a few days.

I hate the fact that some people think that all teens should date when they're in high school. A lot don't start dating until college. In high school it's rare that you have a long term relationship. Most I've seen last only for a few days.

I think it was that and a combination of the fact that I never appeared to take any interest in girls. It wasn't that I was still in the "girls are icky" at age 19, just I never saw the need to go around telling all and sundry that I found girls attractive and would really like to see more of them. (Especially not my parents anyway.)

People keep accusing me of being gay (not that I care about gay, I'm liberal), right? And then they go on about it and everything and it just pisses the hell out of me and then someone that used to be my friend told his friends that I was hitting on him (if I was gay he'd be the last person I'd hit on) and people are absolutely sure tht I'm gay, anyway advice?


I used to suffer from this, although im Bisexual i would get pissed off when people called me gay. I would just say fuck you, pack it in, or just take the piss out of them

I think it was that and a combination of the fact that I never appeared to take any interest in girls. It wasn't that I was still in the "girls are icky" at age 19, just I never saw the need to go around telling all and sundry that I found girls attractive and would really like to see more of them. (Especially not my parents anyway.)

Some people feel that they have to in fear that they will be called gay. Strange how to call somone gay is such a strong insult these days. It has the same affect as if you were to call somone a butthead in the 50's.

If they think you're gay, offer to take their girlfriends out. Obviously, if they think you're gay, nothing could possibly happen, right?;)

I think it was that and a combination of the fact that I never appeared to take any interest in girls. It wasn't that I was still in the "girls are icky" at age 19, just I never saw the need to go around telling all and sundry that I found girls attractive and would really like to see more of them. (Especially not my parents anyway.)
so, basically because you are not running around letting everyone know which girls you like then they think you are gay? that's screwed up.

couldn't they just assume that you were shy? or maybe respected girls too much to run around talking about them behind thier backs?

so, basically because you are not running around letting everyone know which girls you like then they think you are gay? that's screwed up.

Yep. Welcome to my world. Well - the one I used to inhabit.

Though that is speculation on my part. I never cared to ask people why they thought I was gay. Though it didn't help that I apparently occasionaly acted effeminate (one of the wierdest comments I got was "you look really camp when you smoke." huh? :confused: )

couldn't they just assume that you were shy? or maybe respected girls too much to run around talking about them behind thier backs?

Teens being rational. pfft.

Though it bother me much, girls didn't think I was gay :)

Though it bother me much, girls didn't think I was gay :)

same thing for my friend in highschool that everyone thought was gay, he didn't like sports (too violent) he liked to hang out with me ( a girl who wasn't his girlfriend) and he didn't partake in the "she's hot, I'd like to have my way with her" conversations because he was uncomfortable "lusting" after girls, he thought it was disrespectful and kinda gross.

That's not to say he didn't like girls, he just didn't do the whole "imagining her naked" thing.

It didn't really stop him from dating, in fact he had trouble not dating once the girls found out that there was a guy who would be respectful, treat them like ladies, and not kiss and tell. :)

That's a good point. People advertise they like girls a bit too much. Then when you dont follow, they assume your gay. It's not that common that people feel uncomfortable when they are asked what they think of a girl and especially when she's listening in. I personally feel uncomfortable if theres a whole bunch of idiots around me. You sense it right away when somone is uncompfortable with talking about it but you know they're not gay.

"For you baby, I'd be anything you want." (actually I used that one and the other person reacted rather violently.)


For some reason lots of people thought I was guy (including my parents :confused: ). Its just a phase though, they'll grow out of it.
So you are a Girl?

I think it was that and a combination of the fact that I never appeared to take any interest in girls. It wasn't that I was still in the "girls are icky" at age 19, just I never saw the need to go around telling all and sundry that I found girls attractive and would really like to see more of them. (Especially not my parents anyway.)
Yes.

I had the same problem in high-school, except not many people actualy said much to me about it. Apparently some 80% of the school believed I was gay. Because I didn't date any of the girls at hat school.
It's funny because I was seeing still girls from my first high-school I went too.
I had a shyness issue and only dated girls that asked me out, non of the girls that asked me out at the second high-school were at all interesting to me. So I was 'gay', and the thing that scared me the most after I found out was that most students just accepted this and were non-judgemental. Only the truest arseholes said anything.

In my High School there is a kid who is openly gay. For the most part everyone at the school also accepts it and leaves it alone. They may say something in private or to a friend, but it's only the idiots who have no lives that make fun of him.