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It's true. I like this guy, and we were going out for a while. But then I actde stupid, and he was having a lot of problems in his life... so it ended. But now... I can't stop thinking about him. I still like him. I need to talk to him and explain to him that I've changed, that I can be myself now... So, what do you all think? Is this the right thing to do? Sorry, but I'm real bored and I thought this would be an interesting topic.

What do you have to lose? If he doesn't want to listen then at least you won't continue to waste your time thinking about what might have been.

I concur. Go talk to him.

Well, if he lives anywhere near you, I would just start to hang out with him more often again and see where it goes, maybe you two will get back together or maybe not.

What do you have to lose? If he doesn't want to listen then at least you won't continue to waste your time thinking about what might have been.

Yes. That's what I keep thinking. Because, as things are right now, we're just friends. But, we hardly ever even talk... I hate it. I don't really understand what's happening... I mean thought we wanted to get closer to each other and develop our friendship more before continuning on but how is that supposed to happen if we don't talk? Oh well, thanks for the advice. I am a shy person, although I am trying to change. I know how much not acting upon something can leave you scarred... And this time, I don't want that to happen...

Yes. That's what I keep thinking. Because, as things are right now, we're just friends. But, we hardly ever even talk... I hate it. I don't really understand what's happening... I mean thought we wanted to get closer to each other and develop our friendship more before continuning on but how is that supposed to happen if we don't talk? Oh well, thanks for the advice. I am a shy person, although I am trying to change. I know how much not acting upon something can leave you scarred... And this time, I don't want that to happen...

Sounds like you have your answer. Just bite the bullet, talk to this guy and see what happens.

As a fellow shy person, I find it's easiest to just start the conversation by blurting out the thing you most want to say. Perhaps not "I love you", but something like "I'm sorry I acted the way I did". Or, option the second, try a handwritten letter outlining most of what you want to say, and asking him to meet you to talk about it.

Sounds like you have your answer. Just bite the bullet, talk to this guy and see what happens.

As a fellow shy person, I find it's easiest to just start the conversation by blurting out the thing you most want to say. Perhaps not "I love you", but something like "I'm sorry I acted the way I did". Or, option the second, try a handwritten letter outlining most of what you want to say, and asking him to meet you to talk about it.


Thanks for the advice. The sad thing is, I've been thinking about this so much, I have an outline planned in my head. Creepy, but true. Yeah... and that's the other thing. I never really have the opportunity to tell him this. I mean... we see each other at school but only for like .05 seconds.... You know how it is. Should I just talk to him on the internet, or should I call him, or do something radical like meet him somewhere... I dunno? Lol.

Thanks for the advice. The sad thing is, I've been thinking about this so much, I have an outline planned in my head. Creepy, but true. Yeah... and that's the other thing. I never really have the opportunity to tell him this. I mean... we see each other at school but only for like .05 seconds.... You know how it is. Should I just talk to him on the internet, or should I call him, or do something radical like meet him somewhere... I dunno? Lol.

Ah the love bug. It comes again this year leaving me out of its trail. Oh well.

I'm not really shy, just cautious, but I can see your point. Honestly I think if he has family problems then it might be better to wait. He might be sensitive and he might hurt you or you might hurt him unintentionally. I hate to say 'wait' because I take risks but you might want to think about just giving yourself up as a friend to talk to. Chasing after someone is good in certain situations but if he is having problems he might not want a relationship right now because he's already emotionally worked, you might get rejected. Nobody ever said love was easy; it's great but its hell to get too.

Good Luck. ;)

Thanks for the advice. The sad thing is, I've been thinking about this so much, I have an outline planned in my head. Creepy, but true. Yeah... and that's the other thing. I never really have the opportunity to tell him this. I mean... we see each other at school but only for like .05 seconds.... You know how it is. Should I just talk to him on the internet, or should I call him, or do something radical like meet him somewhere... I dunno? Lol.

Overthinking things is the worst thing you can do, but it's a situation I can relate to. Oh, one other thing I thought of. I don't know how old you are (I'd guess under legal drinking age, but that never stopped me), but alcohol will not help your situation, no matter how tempting it seems to break the nervousness.

Ah the love bug. It comes again this year leaving me out of its trail. Oh well.

I'm not really shy just cautious, but I can see your point. Honestly I think if he has family problems then it might be better to wait. He might sensitive and he might hurt you or you might hurt him unintentionally. I hate to say 'wait' because I take risks but you might want to think about just giving yourself up as a friend to talk to. Chasing after someone is good in certain situations but if he is having problems he might not want a relationship right now because he's already emotionally worked, you might get rejected. Nobody ever said love was easy; it's great but its hell to get too.

Good Luck. ;)


Thanks for the advice. However, I believe he has most of his problems worked out. I think he's ok again. I mean... the big event that was going on with him and his family is over, and he isn't so depressed anymore. That was one of the original reasons for us ending it... Or, at least, one of the reasons he said. Personally, I think it was because I was being stupid and was never myself around him. I let my shyness get to me... ANd plus, it didn't really help that he was my first "real" boyfriend... which naturally made me more tense. I think we've both hurt each other a little through this whole thing. At least I know I'm hurting. But I think I hurt him too because I was never myself. But I've changed now. And I want to show him that. I want to make it up. And I think it's time now... since everything on his side has calmed down.

Overthinking things is the worst thing you can do, but it's a situation I can relate to. Oh, one other thing I thought of. I don't know how old you are (I'd guess under legal drinking age, but that never stopped me), but alcohol will not help your situation, no matter how tempting it seems to break the nervousness.


Thanks for the advice. I really can't help overthinking though... it's one of those things where I can't stop thinking about him! It tortures me day and night! lol. haha... Don't worry, though... I'll never start drinking. ;)

Thanks for the advice. However, I believe he has most of his problems worked out. I think he's ok again. I mean... the big event that was going on with him and his family is over, and he isn't so depressed anymore. That was one of the original reasons for us ending it... Or, at least, one of the reasons he said. Personally, I think it was because I was being stupid and was never myself around him. I let my shyness get to me... ANd plus, it didn't really help that he was my first "real" boyfriend... which naturally made me more tense. I think we've both hurt each other a little through this whole thing. At least I know I'm hurting. But I think I hurt him too because I was never myself. But I've changed now. And I want to show him that. I want to make it up. And I think it's time now... since everything on his side has calmed down.

It's great to know you changed and everything but don't make big changes or you'll end up hurting yourself and then him after. Every shy person gets tense, even the non-shy ones, just be yourself. Don't change anything about yourself except letting yourself out to him. If he doesn't like you the way you are then he has no idea what he's missing.

Well, I think that if you're just going for going out with him again, you can call him or what not. If your going straight for the biig three words, which i highly don't suggest, meet him somewhere nice and secluded...
Sorry, I right romance novels. My work gets in my way sometimes. But seriously, talk to him in person, but don't to much anxiety towards. He might get intimidated, and then scared.

I right romance novels.

I don't know if that's funny ha ha or funny wtf?

It's great to know you changed and everything but don't make big changes or you'll end up hurting yourself and then him after. Every shy person gets tense, even the non-shy ones, just be yourself. Don't change anything about yourself except letting yourself out to him. If he doesn't like you the way you are then he has no idea what he's missing.


Thanks for the advice. And I really think he did like me for the way I was. I am naturally a "unique" person, and he seemed to embrace that. It's just the fact that I was so closed off. That's the only thing I'm going to change... I been shy for too long... And I'm tired of it getting in my way.

I don't know if that's funny ha ha or funny wtf?

Why or how would this be funny?

Well, I think that if you're just going for going out with him again, you can call him or what not. If your going straight for the biig three words, which i highly don't suggest, meet him somewhere nice and secluded...
Sorry, I right romance novels. My work gets in my way sometimes. But seriously, talk to him in person, but don't to much anxiety towards. He might get intimidated, and then scared.


Thanks for the advice. I want to go back out with him because... well, because I really like him. I'm not going to use the "three big words", I think that's something that needs to come from an actual relationship... I guess I really should try talking to him in person... But I think in our case, an internet convo or phone call would be more feasible... We seriously only see each other in school, and I'm not talking to him then... Unless it's after school, where I can have as much time as I need. Anyways, what I'm asking is... would an internet convo or phone call work? Or would that be way too weird? Does it just seem like I'm hiding?

Why or how would this be funny?

you do not right romance novels. You might write them, though. Although, since they are romance novels, I doubt any of your readership would notice.

Thanks for the advice. I want to go back out with him because... well, because I really like him. I'm not going to use the "three big words", I think that's something that needs to come from an actual relationship... I guess I really should try talking to him in person... But I think in our case, an internet convo or phone call would be more feasible... We seriously only see each other in school, and I'm not talking to him then... Unless it's after school, where I can have as much time as I need. Anyways, what I'm asking is... would an internet convo or phone call work? Or would that be way too weird? Does it just seem like I'm hiding?

Do it after school.

Thanks for the advice. And I really think he did like me for the way I was. I am naturally a "unique" person, and he seemed to embrace that. It's just the fact that I was so closed off. That's the only thing I'm going to change... I been shy for too long... And I'm tired of it getting in my way.

Then don't let it kick you in the ass everytime. But don't make a fool of yourself. It's hard, but once you get over it then it won't come back. Sure it'll be in the back of you mind but don't let it bug you. I suggest you go somewhere that your very comfortable with. Not somewhere selculded and such because he'll look at you and you'll start stuttering and looking for a way out (I was shy once :P). As hard as it may seem look him in the eye and ask for friendship, don't go back to where you once were, it might strike bad memories. I really don't think you should chase him, but show him that you'll change to help him.

you do not right romance novels. You might write them, though. Although, since they are romance novels, I doubt any of your readership would notice.

Lol... If I read romance novels, I would be mad at you. But, since I don't, I can just laugh at those who do.

would an internet convo or phone call work? Or would that be way too weird? Does it just seem like I'm hiding?

It depends on the individuals involved. Are both you and he regular users of whatever messenger program or whatever you would use? Are you both comfortable with them?

Some people find it impersonal, and impersonal is not a good vibe for this conversation you want to have.

Do it after school.


Thanks. That is seeming more like a possible answer.

Thanks for the advice. I want to go back out with him because... well, because I really like him. I'm not going to use the "three big words", I think that's something that needs to come from an actual relationship... I guess I really should try talking to him in person... But I think in our case, an internet convo or phone call would be more feasible... We seriously only see each other in school, and I'm not talking to him then... Unless it's after school, where I can have as much time as I need. Anyways, what I'm asking is... would an internet convo or phone call work? Or would that be way too weird? Does it just seem like I'm hiding?

Call him. After school is ok, if you have time. I reaaly don't know either of you or your location, or anything other than what you have told me. so don't take my advice, take the advice of your friends, your loved ones, and your trusted officials. But I think talking to him on the phone would be good, maybe your best option.

Then don't let it kick you in the ass everytime. But don't make a fool of yourself. It's hard, but once you get over it then it won't come back. Sure it'll be in the back of you mind but don't let it bug you. I suggest you go somewhere that your very comfortable with. Not somewhere selculded and such because he'll look at you and you'll start stuttering and looking for a way out (I was shy once :P). As hard as it may seem look him in the eye and ask for friendship, don't go back to where you once were, it might strike bad memories. I really don't think you should chase him, but show him that you'll change to help him.

Thanks for the advice. Although... I think I have to try to mention us going back to where we were. We didn't really have a chance to get anywhere... And we are just way too compatible to discard all of what little we had. I have shown him that I am always ready to help him, I believe so anyway. I wrote him a poem about being there for him always, and have always offered to listen to his problems. Anyway... I think he's past that now. I don't think he really needs help anymore, at least not as much as he did. I think I have to try... or else I will seriously hate myself.

geesh please stop bothering me...:)

It depends on the individuals involved. Are both you and he regular users of whatever messenger program or whatever you would use? Are you both comfortable with them?

Some people find it impersonal, and impersonal is not a good vibe for this conversation you want to have.

Yeah, we both use the internet. In fact, that's actually how all of this got started... It's our main form of communication, which I know is so wrong... And I know talking in person would be a lot better... But... thinking back to when he told me he liked me... that happened online. Of course, though... we broke up in person... I'm definitely thinking I'll have to do this, becauseI don't know how much longer I can wait in order to get the opporunity to do it in person...

geesh please stop bothering me...:)

man, you suck. either for being an ass and posting that, or for being an ass and posting that. There are two different reasons, there, btw.

Yeah, we both use the internet. In fact, that's actually how all of this got started... It's our main form of communication, which I know is so wrong... And I know talking in person would be a lot better... But... thinking back to when he told me he liked me... that happened online. Of course, though... we broke up in person... I'm definitely thinking I'll have to do this, becauseI don't know how much longer I can wait in order to get the opporunity to do it in person...

Go for it, then. And I don't think having the internet as your main form of communication with friends (or even more than friends) is wrong at all. You don't need to be so down on yourself.

Call him. After school is ok, if you have time. I reaaly don't know either of you or your location, or anything other than what you have told me. so don't take my advice, take the advice of your friends, your loved ones, and your trusted officials. But I think talking to him on the phone would be good, maybe your best option.

Thanks for the advice. I do agree... I'm just not really a phone person. Although.. i know it would really be best to do it in a sort of more personal way such as the phone... even if the internet is more comfortable for me. The thing is... I've never really even called him before. We've always just talked on the internet. But now, we don't even do that. So do you still think it's my best option?

Thanks for the advice. Although... I think I have to try to mention us going back to where we were. We didn't really have a chance to get anywhere... And we are just way too compatible to discard all of what little we had. I have shown him that I am always ready to help him, I believe so anyway. I wrote him a poem about being there for him always, and have always offered to listen to his problems. Anyway... I think he's past that now. I don't think he really needs help anymore, at least not as much as he did. I think I have to try... or else I will seriously hate myself.

I never said you shouldn't go after him but you shouldn't cling. Go for it, just be cautious of what signs he's giving off.

Go for it, then. And I don't think having the internet as your main form of communication with friends (or even more than friends) is wrong at all. You don't need to be so down on yourself.

Ok, thanks alot. You've been a big help. I'm going to do it. :)
And, lol, I can't really help being down on myself. Haha. I'm just mad at msyelf for once again putting myself in such a dilema... But I'm not gonna let it happen anymore.

Ok, thanks alot. You've been a big help. I'm going to do it. :)
And, lol, I can't really help being down on myself. Haha. I'm just mad at msyelf for once again putting myself in such a dilema... But I'm not gonna let it happen anymore.

Best of luck with this, I hope it all goes well for you. Keep us posted.

I never said you shouldn't go after him but you shouldn't cling. Go for it, just be cautious of what signs he's giving off.

Ok, thanks. Trust me... if this little talk I want to have doesn't work... I'll accept it. I'll let go. I just... I can't go on like this without knowing what could have been... You know what I mean? Sigh... but yeah lol.

Best of luck with this, I hope it all goes well for you. Keep us posted.

Thanks again. Hehe... I really do hope it works out. And I will let you all know what happens... ;)

So... now that we've thoroughly discussed my love life... Anyone have anything else to talk about?

Sooo... Ya like--stuff?

the key to remember was his array of personal problems, be grateful move on
or just masturbate thank you dr ruth

If you can´t be with the one you love, love the one you with...

man, you suck. either for being an ass and posting that, or for being an ass and posting that. There are two different reasons, there, btw.

I entirely agree with you on this one

the key to remember was his array of personal problems, be grateful move on
or just masturbate thank you dr ruth

lol, but his problems are over now. its time to try again...
and haha, sorry, but im not into that kind of thing... im not ready to move on yet, not at least until i know how he feels...

It's true. I like this guy, and we were going out for a while. But then I actde stupid, and he was having a lot of problems in his life... so it ended. But now... I can't stop thinking about him. I still like him. I need to talk to him and explain to him that I've changed, that I can be myself now... So, what do you all think? Is this the right thing to do? Sorry, but I'm real bored and I thought this would be an interesting topic.
Are you a woman, or gay?

im not into that kind of thing...

You mean you don't masturbate? **gasp**:confused:

Go for it, then. And I don't think having the internet as your main form of communication with friends (or even more than friends) is wrong at all. You don't need to be so down on yourself.

I concur, though I prefer talking on the phone over the Internet (of course, being able to be together in person would also be better than both of those). Communication is communication. You use whatever form you have to.

Are you a woman, or gay?

haha... lol im a woman.

You mean you don't masturbate? **gasp**:confused:

haha... yeah, lol. im a good girl. im not into that kind of thing. im one of those people that are gonna wait until marriage... ya, i know, im weird. :)

haha... yeah, lol. im a good girl. im not into that kind of thing. im one of those people that are gonna wait until marriage... ya, i know, im weird. :)

Weird but possessed of admirable self control.

haha... lol im a woman.

Oh my. Watch out cause there are lots of horny men on this (I'm not one of them, to clear things up).

You mean you don't masturbate? **gasp**:confused:
Hey, it isn't that big of a deal. I don't do it, and I'm not a Christian religious freak. It just doesn't interest me...

Hey, it isn't that big of a deal. I don't do it, and I'm not a Christian religious freak. It just doesn't interest me...

Yeah, it really isn't... And although it is my religion holding me to that promise, I don't think I would do it even if I weren't religious... just because I'm not like that. ;)

Hey, it isn't that big of a deal. I don't do it, and I'm not a Christian religious freak. It just doesn't interest me...

But are you asexual or getting laid frequently/regularly?

But are you asexual or getting laid frequently/regularly?
Neither. I'm a heterosexual male, but I see very little—actually no—need for any kind of sexual activity or fulfillment at this time. I'm far too busy with other things. Such as school, work, NS... and so on.

Just BE THERE for him. Even if you end up being his close friend, it's better than nothing, right?

But are you asexual or getting laid frequently/regularly?

Banduria reproduces by budding.

There's got to be a Chuck Norris joke about wanking in there somewhere...

Banduria reproduces by budding.
Exactly, I'm Canadian. :D

But are you asexual or getting laid frequently/regularly?

Haha, no I'm not asexual. Wouldn't that belike maturbation anyways? And no, I don't get laid. Ever. Lol.. I refrain from all sexual activity. Like I said, I'm weird. But it's how I live... lol ;)

Banduria reproduces by budding.

Ok, I change my miind. I am asexual... I reproduce by nuclear fission.

Exactly, I'm Canadian. :D

Nooooooooooooooooo! It's a Canadian! Here's what I think of you, maple-leaf scum!
:sniper: :gundge: :mp5:

Hello, Secluded Trepidation. I am supposed to be doing an assignment right now, but I have numerous Nations to check up on, and I love NationStates *patriotic salute*.

I have been reading this whole post, and I just have to say how amazingly alike we are!! Don't get freaked out .. I'm just an Aussie girl on the net. :P

I feel like I could have written a lot of the stuff you say!.. morals, faith etc .. except that when this stuff happened to me it was ME who ended it with the guy ... and then somehow we didn't talk for THREE YEARS!!!!!! And you used the word 'compatible' .... I used to use the word 'soulmates'; I was so sure..
We were the closest and dearest of friends before we were together .. and he eventually made contact about a year ago ... now we are the best of friends again ...

Don't let your relationship fade ... I mean the friendship ... cos it doesn't just happen ....

Neither. I'm a heterosexual male, but I see very little—actually no—need for any kind of sexual activity or fulfillment at this time. I'm far too busy with other things. Such as school, work, NS... and so on.

it's your choice, in the end, and if you're happy with it, knock yourself out. Or, in this case, don't knock anything out. Your call.

Hello, Secluded Trepidation. I am supposed to be doing an assignment right now, but I have numerous Nations to check up on, and I love NationStates *patriotic salute*.

I have been reading this whole post, and I just have to say how amazingly alike we are!! Don't get freaked out .. I'm just an Aussie girl on the net. :P

I feel like I could have written a lot of the stuff you say!.. morals, faith etc .. except that when this stuff happened to me it was ME who ended it with the guy ... and then somehow we didn't talk for THREE YEARS!!!!!! And you used the word 'compatible' .... I used to use the word 'soulmates'; I was so sure..
We were the closest and dearest of friends before we were together .. and he eventually made contact about a year ago ... now we are the best of friends again ...

Don't let your relationship fade ... I mean the friendship ... cos it doesn't just happen ....

Sweet, it's cool how we're so alike.

WEll thanks for the advice. I really don't intend to let our friendship fade. I don't think that's a problem... yet anyways. I'm just worried about the relationship part right now :)

Sigh... I just cracked my neck real loud like 3 times in one swift motion and it felt soooo good.

Sigh... I just cracked my neck real loud like 3 times in one swift motion and it felt soooo good.

umm...w00t!, maybe (???)

I pity you.

Exactly, I'm Canadian. :D

Score! :D

umm...w00t!, maybe (???)


oh yeah... its a big w00t. i love cracking my neck... aaaaahhh... lol.

Score! :D


Oh yeah... You Canadian scum, all of you... I repeat again what I think of you!!! MWHAAHAHAHAHA!!!!

:sniper:
:mp5:
:gundge:

:sniper:
:mp5:
:gundge:

:sniper:
:mp5:
:gundge:


lol

Nooooooooooooooooo! It's a Canadian! Here's what I think of you, maple-leaf scum!
:sniper: :gundge: :mp5:
No, I was joking. :p I come from Europe, although I'm now living in the USA. Can't stand it, personally, but it might just be the place. ;)

Er, this is hijacking, right?

No, I was joking. :p I come from Europe, although I'm now living in the USA. Can't stand it, personally, but it might just be the place. ;)

Er, this is hijacking, right?

Haha... good, not Canadian scum. You shan't have to be slain, then. Lol. :)

Uh.. what do you mean by hijacking? Or am I just being totally stupid and not realizing something really obvious?

Nooooooooooooooooo! It's a Canadian! Here's what I think of you, maple-leaf scum!
:sniper: :gundge: :mp5:

:mad: Damnit, Trepidation, you had me feeling all sorry for you when I first discovered your thread, & you've thrown that back in my face! When you guys piss off China & they invade, I hope they nuke your house first! 'Cause it's intolerant ignoramuses (ignorami?) like yourownself who give the States a bad name.:upyours:

Signed CANADIAN & DAMN PROUD OF IT, BITCH!

:mad: Damnit, Trepidation, you had me feeling all sorry for you when I first discovered your thread, & you've thrown that back in my face! When you guys piss off China & they invade, I hope they nuke your house first! 'Cause it's intolerant ignoramuses (ignorami?) like yourownself who give the States a bad name.:upyours:

Signed CANADIAN & DAMN PROUD OF IT, BITCH!

Lol... actually, I think Canada is pretty cool. I actually think its better than the US... people are stupid here, and we idolize famous people way too much. And free healthcare is awesome! lol... :)

Oh, and if it makes you feel better, I can make a big sign that says "ATTACK HERE" and put it over my house. That way, whichever country decides to kill us first, they'll all know to attack me! MWHAHAHA!!!! lol

Wow... Im really missing him right now. Just an update... I have yet to tell him. Sigh. I have to do it. Next time he comes online, I will try to do it. Because I don't think I can wait this long Thanksgiving holiday weekend... Maybe I could invite him nonchanlantly to an outing with my friends tonight... ButI have to plan something first, lol. Sigh.................

Darn it!!!!! I just had the chance to tell him right now and I BLEW!!!! someone yell at me... please... uuuuuuuuuuuuuhhh...

I'm hoping I'll get another chance later... urghhhhhhhhhhhh......

It's true. I like this guy, and we were going out for a while. But then I actde stupid, and he was having a lot of problems in his life... so it ended. But now... I can't stop thinking about him. I still like him. I need to talk to him and explain to him that I've changed, that I can be myself now... So, what do you all think? Is this the right thing to do? Sorry, but I'm real bored and I thought this would be an interesting topic.
You're acting stupid now. The guy hates you because you go online and spew your emotion onto the forum like a pre-teen blogger after a night of heavy drinking and jabbing knives into their arm.

Get over it. Go study or something.


Or masterbate...

You're acting stupid now. The guy hates you because you go online and spew your emotion onto the forum like a pre-teen blogger after a night of heavy drinking and jabbing knives into their arm.

Get over it. Go study or something.


Or masterbate...


Lol... sorry if I offended you or something.

And no thanks. I'm taking a break from studying. I study enough. And plus, its Thanksgiving vacation here... woot! No school for 4 days... and no AP History!!!!

But I'm still mad at myself... ARGH!

Lol... sorry if I offended you or something.

And no thanks. I'm taking a break from studying. I study enough. And plus, its Thanksgiving vacation here... woot! No school for 4 days... and no AP History!!!!

But I'm still mad at myself... ARGH!
I'm not offended. I just think you need to get over it. If you keep latching onto petty bullshit like this you'll end up fucked in the head.

Do something else, to take your mind off it.

Go RP in II, those guys have steadily been loosing numbers since people stopped checking their nations...

I'm not offended. I just think you need to get over it. If you keep latching onto petty bullshit like this you'll end up fucked in the head.

Do something else, to take your mind off it.

Go RP in II, those guys have steadily been loosing numbers since people stopped checking their nations...

Sigh... I can't. It's that bad... seriously. This isn't just a little crush... I really like him. I'm going crazy... not that I already wasn't... but hey...

I guess I'll go read a book or something... that works for awhile.

Sigh... I can't. It's that bad... seriously. This isn't just a little crush... I really like him. I'm going crazy... not that I already wasn't... but hey...

I guess I'll go read a book or something... that works for awhile.
Or get drunk...

Or get drunk...

Yeah... that would work. I'll just sneak downstairs and break open my parents giant supply of alcohol and totally down it all... Then just come back updtairs like nothing is wrong at all! MWHAHAHA evil plan!!!

lol.

Yeah... that would work. I'll just sneak downstairs and break open my parents giant supply of alcohol and totally down it all... Then just come back updtairs like nothing is wrong at all! MWHAHAHA evil plan!!!

lol.
Works for me...;)

Works for me...;)


Yeah, it would work for me too if I didn't totally hate the taste of alcohol.. yuck. lol. :rolleyes:

Yeah, it would work for me too if I didn't totally hate the taste of alcohol.. yuck. lol. :rolleyes:
I'm not sure if I love you anymore...

I'm not sure if I love you anymore...

:( Hey, come on now... We can work through this!!! I don't want to lose you, my dear sweet! I... I can change for you!!! I can become the worst alcoholic in the world if its what you want!!! AAH!!!! lol.

:( Hey, come on now... We can work through this!!! I don't want to lose you, my dear sweet! I... I can change for you!!! I can become the worst alcoholic in the world if its what you want!!! AAH!!!! lol.
lol It's all I ask...:p

:( Hey, come on now... We can work through this!!! I don't want to lose you, my dear sweet! I... I can change for you!!! I can become the worst alcoholic in the world if its what you want!!! AAH!!!! lol.

Teach you I will. Yeeeeeessssss...

Teach you I will. Yeeeeeessssss...

*speaks in a monotonous, controlled voice*

Yes, masterrr.....

lol

guys like girls.....so go for it.....lol

guys like girls.....so go for it.....lol

Lol. Thanks, good advice there. Although, as I'm sure some people will argue, that isn't always true...

I want to do this today. It will be pretty romantic... Thanksgiving... and all. Sigh, but I don't know if I can... stupid family is annoying. They hover around the computer, and I need privacy! lol..

I want to do this today. It will be pretty romantic... Thanksgiving... and all. Sigh, but I don't know if I can... stupid family is annoying. They hover around the computer, and I need privacy! lol..

can't you explain to them (maybe not the "I'm in love..." part) that you have something a bit private you want to do?

can't you explain to them (maybe not the "I'm in love..." part) that you have something a bit private you want to do?

No... my brother is retarded. He seriously just sits in a chair right behind me and watches the computer screen. And then when I tell him to go away, he runs around the room screaming and throwing the dog in the air...

Yeah, and the sad thing is, he's not even mentally retarded....

No... my brother is retarded. He seriously just sits in a chair right behind me and watches the computer screen. And then when I tell him to go away, he runs around the room screaming and throwing the dog in the air...

Yeah, and the sad thing is, he's not even mentally retarded....

he's just weird, then. Hmm, that's annoying.

On the one hand, I want to tell you it's best to get this done, not to let it eat away at you.

But on the other, it might be better for you to wait until you have some privacy (I assume you can get internet privacy at some point) especially if you feel uncomfortable. The whole point of doing it via the net is so you can feel comfortable.

On balance, it might be better to wait, if you think you'll get the privacy you need in the next few days

he's just weird, then. Hmm, that's annoying.

On the one hand, I want to tell you it's best to get this done, not to let it eat away at you.

But on the other, it might be better for you to wait until you have some privacy (I assume you can get internet privacy at some point) especially if you feel uncomfortable. The whole point of doing it via the net is so you can feel comfortable.

On balance, it might be better to wait, if you think you'll get the privacy you need in the next few days


Sigh... well, you see, now that I have privacy... he's not on. :( . This sucks. Oh well. Maybe he'll come on in a bit... I hate my brother. Sigh. lol.

Well... thanks for the help, anyways. :)

*speaks in a monotonous, controlled voice*

Yes, masterrr.....

lol

Very good. Soon will you know the ways of the Booze. Yeeesssss...

Very good. Soon will you know the ways of the Booze. Yeeesssss...

Yay!

Currently practicing myself I am. Join me you should.

Currently practicing myself I am. Join me you should.

Yoda, you are.

Yeeeesssss...Drinking Master I am. ;)

Yeeeesssss...Drinking Master I am. ;)

Short, green man with beer can, you are. Bow down to you, I will. :)

Yes. That's what I keep thinking. Because, as things are right now, we're just friends. But, we hardly ever even talk... I hate it. I don't really understand what's happening... I mean thought we wanted to get closer to each other and develop our friendship more before continuning on but how is that supposed to happen if we don't talk? Oh well, thanks for the advice. I am a shy person, although I am trying to change. I know how much not acting upon something can leave you scarred... And this time, I don't want that to happen...
Drop him honey, you're to good for him!:)

Yeah, it would work for me too if I didn't totally hate the taste of alcohol.. yuck. lol. :rolleyes:
Dear God, is that even possible? :eek:

It's true. I like this guy, and we were going out for a while. But then I actde stupid, and he was having a lot of problems in his life... so it ended. But now... I can't stop thinking about him. I still like him. I need to talk to him and explain to him that I've changed, that I can be myself now... So, what do you all think? Is this the right thing to do? Sorry, but I'm real bored and I thought this would be an interesting topic.

Go talk to him, you're only allowed three greats in your life. Who knows, he might be one of them.

You are thinking about this way too much. STOP! do something to get said boy off your mind for at least 48 hours. I'm not sure if someone else has suggested this to you recently, but if they have, they're right. The way you're talking, this boy and his issues are becoming so much a part of your life that if he says no, or the relationship turns out to be anything less than you expect it to be, you'll be traumatized, at least for a little while.

If you're obsessing this much over one guy and he's not either getting the hint or showing any sign of thinking about you the same way, you need to take a deep breath, relax for a little while, and think VERY carefully about what you want to do and if you're really in the right state of mind to be going about asking this guy out.

Drop him honey, you're to good for him!:)

No, I'm not. He's too good for me :)

Seriously... he's a great guy! And I'm just a normal girl... weird, yes, but normal.

Dear God, is that even possible? :eek:

Yeah... I guess so :rolleyes:

Or maybe I just haven't had any good kind yet...

Go talk to him, you're only allowed three greats in your life. Who knows, he might be one of them.

Sigh... yeah, we seem to be sooooooooo compatible... lol. And he's the first guy I seriously CANNOT stop thinking about... I finally know what that means.

I want to do this today. It will be pretty romantic... Thanksgiving... and all. Sigh, but I don't know if I can... stupid family is annoying. They hover around the computer, and I need privacy! lol..
Since when is Thanksgiving a romantic holiday? I thought Thanksgiving was about getting your woman in the kitchen to make turkey and pie while you drink beer and watch football?

You are thinking about this way too much. STOP! do something to get said boy off your mind for at least 48 hours. I'm not sure if someone else has suggested this to you recently, but if they have, they're right. The way you're talking, this boy and his issues are becoming so much a part of your life that if he says no, or the relationship turns out to be anything less than you expect it to be, you'll be traumatized, at least for a little while.

If you're obsessing this much over one guy and he's not either getting the hint or showing any sign of thinking about you the same way, you need to take a deep breath, relax for a little while, and think VERY carefully about what you want to do and if you're really in the right state of mind to be going about asking this guy out.

AAHHH!!! I know, lol. It annoys me so much. But I physically cannot. Anytime I'm alone, my mind drifts to the topic... and even when I'm with my friends... I can't have fun because I keep thinking how much better it would be if he was there. It's a sickness... lol. And talking about it in this forum probably isn't helping either! Oh well, it gives me something to do so I'm not so bored!!!!

Since when is Thanksgiving a romantic holiday? I thought Thanksgiving was about getting your woman in the kitchen to make turkey and pie while you drink beer and watch football?

Well... it's more romantic than Black Friday, or the day after Black Friday, isn't it?

Black Friday is the first day of Christmas season...which as far as seasons go...is the most romantic season. Christmas is probably the second most romantic day of the year, only behind Valentine's. I'd say New Year's (eve/day, whatev) is probably third most romantic.

Then again...if I've got a girlfriend who is into football, I guess Thanksgiving would be pretty high up on the list of romantic holidays...

Have fun

Black Friday is the first day of Christmas season...which as far as seasons go...is the most romantic season. Christmas is probably the second most romantic day of the year, only behind Valentine's. I'd say New Year's (eve/day, whatev) is probably third most romantic.

Then again...if I've got a girlfriend who is into football, I guess Thanksgiving would be pretty high up on the list of romantic holidays...

Nah, he's not really into sports, and neither am I. But I do see your reasoning... Oh well, it doesn't matter. I didn't do it yesterday or today :( . lol.

Have fun

Oh, I will. Trust me.

Do you think it would be crazy to set my alarm clock for like 10 or soemthing so I can get a chance to get on the internet before the rest of my stupid family does so I can actually have a chance to talk to him? The only time I'm able to get on anymore is at freakishly odd times... like 2:00 in the morning or at 2:00 in the afternoon... seriously, who is on then?

Well...NSGeneral-ers, for one.

Here's an idea...call him. It's more mature. Plus, I think you could feel more comfortable requesting privacy from your parents for a phone call, as they probably more likely trust that you're talking to someone you know. Whereas on the Internet, you could literally be talking to anyone.

Well...NSGeneral-ers, for one.

Here's an idea...call him. It's more mature. Plus, I think you could feel more comfortable requesting privacy from your parents for a phone call, as they probably more likely trust that you're talking to someone you know. Whereas on the Internet, you could literally be talking to anyone.


Yeah... I see your point. I dunno... I'm just gonna wait till tomorrow. I'm too tired to think about this seriously right now.

Yeah... I see your point. I dunno... I'm just gonna wait till tomorrow. I'm too tired to think about this seriously right now.
He'll take you more seriously on the phone, and you'll be able to more accurately judge his response. Internet communication is extremely touchy when it comes to serious relationships (and I'm not just talking about romance, I'm talking about friendships too...)

He'll take you more seriously on the phone, and you'll be able to more accurately judge his response. Internet communication is extremely touchy when it comes to serious relationships (and I'm not just talking about romance, I'm talking about friendships too...)

Sigh. Everything you say makes sense. I'd really rather tell him in person, that would be ideal, but I don't think I'll ever get the chance. The phone sounds good... but it makes me nervous. Lol. Anyways... I think with the suspense and nervousness I've expressed to him about having this conversation... he's got to be expecting at least a little of what I have to say. SO hopefully, he won't react too bad... But you're right, really. The internet isn't good for communication.

Ah, love.

It tastes like burning.

Ah, love.

It tastes like burning.


That it does. That it does.

Let's hate love.


It sucks.

Abandoned thread?

Abandoned thread?

You just didn't say anything worth responding to

I can be myself now.
Just out of curiosity, could you not "be yourself" before? If so, why not? [ confused look ] :confused:

Just out of curiosity, could you not "be yourself" before? If so, why not? [ confused look ] :confused:

Lol. Yeah, I wasn't really myself before. I was just... nervous I guess, and acted really weird... not myself. And plus there's the fact that I'm always shy, which never really helps. So yeah, all of that added up to make me not myself. BUt now, I'm ready to be who I am.

Lol. Yeah, I wasn't really myself before. I was just... nervous I guess, and acted really weird... not myself. And plus there's the fact that I'm always shy, which never really helps. So yeah, all of that added up to make me not myself. BUt now, I'm ready to be who I am.
How old are you? I can vaguely remember a time when I wasn't myself, but I got over it. ;)

How old are you? I can vaguely remember a time when I wasn't myself, but I got over it. ;)

Well, I'm 16. But, I think I'm starting to realize I've never really been myself my whole life.

Hmm... I'm just being either philospohical or over-dramatic.

So.. um...

I think I am going to church tonight at his church. Maybe I'll see him? That would be relly weird though...

What do you have to lose? If he doesn't want to listen then at least you won't continue to waste your time thinking about what might have been.


I'll tell you what might be...shit. There is no relatinship which is worth starting over. Trust will never be fully regained, and its a sign of weakness of character to belive so little in yourself that you have to go running back to those who hurt and left you and beg for their forgiveness out of fear of being alone. Life goes on
as long as you let it, but if you try and regain what once was it will stop. And nothing good will come of it

Let's hate love
How can we hate something that doesn't exist?

I'll tell you what might be...shit. There is no relatinship which is worth starting over. Trust will never be fully regained, and its a sign of weakness of character to belive so little in yourself that you have to go running back to those who hurt and left you and beg for their forgiveness out of fear of being alone. Life goes on
as long as you let it, but if you try and regain what once was it will stop. And nothing good will come of it

But it's not that. We both still like each other... at least, that's what I'm led to believe. And I'm not running back to him... I've been alone my alone life. I can handle being alone. It sucks, but hey, that's how life is. I jst can't handle being without him. But anyway, thanks for your input.

How old are you? I can vaguely remember a time when I wasn't myself, but I got over it. ;)
Viet?

How can we hate something that doesn't exist?

Are you saying that love doesn't exist? What would you call it then?

I had a period of time when I thought like this too. One day, I just woke up, and wrote a whole story about how love was not really real, how it was all just a fabricated lie set to meet the needs of sociey. But, since then... I've realized, that was all a lie. Love is most definitely real.

I'll tell you what might be...shit. There is no relatinship which is worth starting over. Trust will never be fully regained, and its a sign of weakness of character to belive so little in yourself that you have to go running back to those who hurt and left you and beg for their forgiveness out of fear of being alone. Life goes on
as long as you let it, but if you try and regain what once was it will stop. And nothing good will come of it

Rubbish, don't listen to this bitter person.

You have three options:

1. Pretend it never happened, and let it bother you for the rest of your life.
2. Talk to this person and find that you are unable to make it work. You will be no worse off than you are right now.
3. Talk to this person and find it might be love.

You will spend more time regretting the things you didn't do than the things you did.

Rubbish, don't listen to this bitter person.

You have three options:

1. Pretend it never happened, and let it bother you for the rest of your life.
2. Talk to this person and find that you are unable to make it work. You will be no worse off than you are right now.
3. Talk to this person and find it might be love.

You will spend more time regretting the things you didn't do than the things you did.

Yes. thank you. That's exactly how I see it. It's how it has to be. I'm just hoping for option number 3...

Ugh! lol.

So.. um...

I think I am going to church tonight at his church. Maybe I'll see him? That would be relly weird though...

What is this? IRC Chat? Pft.

Clearly I agree with that one guy. You gots to talk to him, or you'll be pwned for the rest of your life.

What is this? IRC Chat? Pft.

Clearly I agree with that one guy. You gots to talk to him, or you'll be pwned for the rest of your life.

Haha... Yeah, I'd really hate to "pwn" myself...

Yea, you have nothing to lose. If he doesn't want to talk then its his loss.

Yea, you have nothing to lose. If he doesn't want to talk then its his loss.

Yeah...that's how it appears.

How can we hate something that doesn't exist?
Are you implying that love doesn't exist? You're wrong, it does. Just because it hasn't happened to you yet doesn't mean that it's never happened to anyone else...

Oh wait, I forgot, you think you're the only person in the world. My bad. ;)

Love was not true, love was only lust. Every soul who claimed to have found their soul mate had only really found a person worthy enough to fill their desperation. Desperation – that’s all love was. I had felt love many times, my entire life was love. Each second of my day I yearned for someone to hold me, to love me. How foolish I had been to realize I had felt love all along. Love was only satisfied when we found someone foolish and desperate enough to create passionate feelings and pretend to have found something that doesn’t exist. In reality, we were all just desolate, lonely creatures who could never really connect with anyone, never really feel their lust or their pain or their emotions.

^That's what I used to think. But now I realize that that viewpoint is totally and completely wrong.

Stop being a 'tard and just talk to him about it already.

Stop being a 'tard and just talk to him about it already.

LMAO!

Even if it was a little abrupt

LMAO!

Even if it was a little abrupt


Yes, yes... it was abrupt but true.

I'm just being retarded now. Haha.

soo... let me get this straight.

If 1+1=2... then does 1+1=3?

soo... let me get this straight.

If 1+1=2... then does 1+1=3?

Huh?

Huh?

Exactly!

Exactly!

But why would it?

But why would it?

I have no idea. I'm just being random.

I have no idea. I'm just being random.

I see.

UP THE IRONS!

I see.

UP THE IRONS!


:mp5:

So I came back a few days later to slam the door a little harder, in case anyone missed my tantrum somewhere back around page five, & found a more favourable response than I had expected. Three things:

1. Sorry 'bout the China thing, but that's how the sentiment runs up here in the Great White North. I hope you have about the same chances as any other American when you guys piss China off.
2. If you're gonna say things, ensure they don't hurt anyone 'less they're intended to. This may have some relevance to a certain other issue on the cybertable here.
3. I didn't mean to call you a bitch. It was more of an assholic exuberance thing. In the sense of, "I'm Rick James, bitch! You can hold my drink." :D
4. Philosophical question: if you've never been yourself, then just who the hell are you?

Anyway, hope the lifestyle comes together, before a modern teenage epistolary spontaneously forms from this thread & publishes itself.

(Actually, that might be kind of amusing to watch. Heh heh heh.)

I have no idea. I'm just being random.
Sounds like Procrastination to me....

:mp5:

:mad: :gundge:

So I came back a few days later to slam the door a little harder, in case anyone missed my tantrum somewhere back around page five, & found a more favourable response than I had expected. Three things:

1. Sorry 'bout the China thing, but that's how the sentiment runs up here in the Great White North. I hope you have about the same chances as any other American when you guys piss China off.
2. If you're gonna say things, ensure they don't hurt anyone 'less they're intended to. This may have some relevance to a certain other issue on the cybertable here.
3. I didn't mean to call you a bitch. It was more of an assholic exuberance thing. In the sense of, "I'm Rick James, bitch! You can hold my drink." :D
4. Philosophical question: if you've never been yourself, then just who the hell are you?

Anyway, hope the lifestyle comes together, before a modern teenage epistolary spontaneously forms from this thread & publishes itself.

(Actually, that might be kind of amusing to watch. Heh heh heh.)

:confused: *goes back and checks page 5...*

Oh, yeah, I remember that. Haha. Yeah, sorry I offended you... And thanks for hoping I stand the same chance as the rest of the US when China decides to take over... :)

Hm... very good question. If I've never been myself, then who am I? Well, that's what I'm trying to figure out. But I think I've got it under control. I've spent a lot of time contemplating who I am and who I want to be... and other important life issues. And I think I know who I am now. I don't know if that answered your question at all, haha. But it's the best answer I could come up with.

Sounds like Procrastination to me....

Yeah... well, it would be... but... nevermind, I'll come up with a witty response later. ;)

Oh, yeah, I remember that. Haha. Yeah, sorry I offended you... And thanks for hoping I stand the same chance as the rest of the US when China decides to take over... :)


No problem. Least I could do after my remarkable display of childishness.

& now, on a completely unrelated note:

LEEROOOOOY JENKIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINS!!! :mp5:

LEEROOOOOY JENKIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINS!!! :mp5:


AAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAH!!!!!!!!!!!!.......

erm..., who is that? Haha.

I feel sad. I need a witty comment to put in my signature... The one I have now has gotten old.

I feel sad. I need a witty comment to put in my signature... The one I have now has gotten old.

Okay, here's what you do.

Right click my name, open my profile. Then find my last 100 posts. PIck one at random. Quote it in your sig. Then, after a few posts, whatever you put there next will look great by comparison.

Okay, here's what you do.

Right click my name, open my profile. Then find my last 100 posts. PIck one at random. Quote it in your sig. Then, after a few posts, whatever you put there next will look great by comparison.

Good idea! MWHAHA...

This place is dead anyways.

Well, I'd like to thank everything who has contributed to this thread in a positive way.
I finally did talk to him. And it turns out, he had no idea what I was even talking about when I said I could be myself now. It appears I mislead myself. I thought the reason we broke up was because we weren't really close enough. And I thought that he still liked me, but was just waiting for me to be myself. Well, I guess I was wrong. He already has a crush on some other girl... So I guess it's over. It's kind of a sad ending, but I'll get over it.
Thanks again!

Well, I'd like to thank everything who has contributed to this thread in a positive way.
I finally did talk to him. And it turns out, he had no idea what I was even talking about when I said I could be myself now. It appears I mislead myself. I thought the reason we broke up was because we weren't really close enough. And I thought that he still liked me, but was just waiting for me to be myself. Well, I guess I was wrong. He already has a crush on some other girl... So I guess it's over. It's kind of a sad ending, but I'll get over it.
Thanks again!

Well, that sucks. Still, at least you know now and can move on.

Well, that sucks. Still, at least you know now and can move on.
hmmm think i said sumthin along those lines anyway masturbation is mandatory in my country canada is a fine place or at least they dont have a bush is this too random sod it if it is i think these here remote controlled loos are the next big thing im flushed with excitement