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How many people have you had sex with? No particular reason, other than wondering how high I rate on the "been around" scale. My magic number is 17. And now I'm married, so that's where it shall stay!

By 'people' you mean actual, living human beings, right?


...Just clarifying. No real reason... *backs away*

By 'people' you mean actual, living human beings, right?


...Just clarifying. No real reason... *backs away*
Let me put it to you this way. If you kissed it on the lips, it counts.
(of course, my count would go down to about 12 ;) )

surely its all relative copared to how long you have been having sex?

zero, zip, nada. big woop, wanna fight about it? ;)
(family guy quote there) (hmm maybe thats why :p

and to how many people were involved each time?

Let me put it to you this way. If you kissed it on the lips, it counts.
(of course, my count would go down to about 12 ;) )
What if it didn't have lips?

Ex. being a potato... ;)

Hundreds ....

Oh ... wait .... real people?

Nah... nobody would believe me anyway. But you may guess if you're bored.

Nah... nobody would believe me anyway. But you may guess if you're bored.

-3

not enough

zero:)

-3

-3????

How would that work? :confused:

-3????

How would that work? :confused:

Since you said nobody would believe you, I came up with a number impossible to believe. :D

I'll leave it to others to figure out just how one could sleep with negative people.

not enough

Be more slutty.

Be more slutty.
i can't, i'm seing someone :( someone who won't sleep with me

Since you said nobody would believe you, I came up with a number impossible to believe. :D

I'll leave it to others to figure out just how one could sleep with negative people.

Well, if you put it that way... I don't think it's that difficult to sleep with pessimits :D

i can't, i'm seing someone :( someone who won't sleep with me

Aw... :fluffle:
Doesn't sound very nice

i can't, i'm seing someone :( someone who won't sleep with me

Cheat.

Well, if you put it that way... I don't think it's that difficult to sleep with pessimits :D

Lol!

Aw... :fluffle:
Doesn't sound very nice
he's a teacher and he teaches people my age so he thinks it's weird and i'm gtting kinda frustrated about it now

Cheat.
no, i'm a good girl

how old are you?

he's a teacher and he teaches people my age so he thinks it's weird and i'm gtting kinda frustrated about it now

Why would he think it's weird? He might teach you a thing or two, who knows?
A friend of mine once said "The older I get, the younger my lovers get". Tell him to get used to it, it's a normal thing when you get older.

My tally is zero, I'm so upset :(

he's a teacher and he teaches people my age so he thinks it's weird and i'm gtting kinda frustrated about it now
FNAR, I feel the need to post this picture:

http://www.steve-p.org/sm/SM1.jpg

:eek:

And, much like tink, my score = not enough. Especially considering I'm at Manchester University, one of the biggest and most whorish universities in England.

how old are you?
me? 18 on Monday

Why would he think it's weird? He might teach you a thing or two, who knows?
A friend of mine once said "The older I get, the younger my lovers get". Tell him to get used to it, it's a normal thing when you get older.
cause he's a boy and boys are weird and stupid

cause he's a boy and boys are weird and stupid

Stop seeing him and see some girls, then.
Works for me... :D

cause he's a boy and boys are weird and stupid

As a man I agree :rolleyes:

Stop seeing him and see some girls, then.
Works for me... :D
lol, i would but i'd prob go crazy, i like him too much (which really sucks)

lol, i would but i'd prob go crazy, i like him too much (which really sucks)

Oh, don't I know how that feels... and I still looking for the easy solution of a situation like that. I start to doubt it exists...

Oh, don't I know how that feels... and I still looking for the easy solution of a situation like that. I start to doubt it exists...
lol, i've never actually properly liked a boy before, i don't like it, i dunno what to do

How many people have you had sex with? No particular reason, other than wondering how high I rate on the "been around" scale. My magic number is 17. And now I'm married, so that's where it shall stay!

You're only saying that because you're contractually obligated to say such. Well all know it probably up to at least 27 by now.

lol, i've never actually properly liked a boy before, i don't like it, i dunno what to do

As usual, there's two options : Giving in to the feeling and hoping that one way or another it will evnetually be returned (can be frustrating and there are no guarantees) or else cutting contact with the person and looking for distraction until the feeling will go away (downside here is that you will ask yourself for a long time "what if I had..")

lol, i've never actually properly liked a boy before, i don't like it, i dunno what to do

Go all stalkerlike and scare him away, that's always fun.

Go all stalkerlike and scare him away, that's always fun.

What if he's in to that sort of thing...you know, like some kind of role-playing?

As usual, there's two options : Giving in to the feeling and hoping that one way or another it will evnetually be returned (can be frustrating and there are no guarantees) or else cutting contact with the person and looking for distraction until the feeling will go away (downside here is that you will ask yourself for a long time "what if I had..")
i think it is returned, my best mate is seeing his mate and she went all bunny-boilery and read her boyfriends txts and he's been texting her boyfriend saying that he really likes me and stuff

What if he's in to that sort of thing...you know, like some kind of role-playing?

Then you're boned.

not enough
My wife and I are humanitarians, so I'm sure if I explain this situation to her, she wouldn't have a problem with me helping you out! ;)

I've had sex with the entire island of Madagascar.

I've had sex with the entire island of Madagascar.
No wonder lemurs are on the endangered species list...

I've had sex with the entire island of Madagascar.
Before or after the movie was made?

no, i'm a good girl

That implies cheating = bad.

Four. Nothing special.

That implies cheating = bad.
well yes, i think your wife would probably agree with me too

well yes, i think your wife would probably agree with me too

Different scenario. You're not married.

Different scenario. You're not married.
cheating is still bad though

12; but that does include a bindge of 5 guys in one night - ah, the magic that alcohol and bad lighting can bless an ugly fuck like myself to getting laid :p

cheating is still bad though

Meh ... if you're not married, you're under no obligations. Life is a Cabaret, old chum.

Meh ... if you're not married, you're under no obligations. Life is a Cabaret, old chum.

True, but if that certain person likes you that much, "cheating" is a really mean and thoughtless thing to do.

he's a teacher and he teaches people my age so he thinks it's weird and i'm gtting kinda frustrated about it now
Naw, I can understand where he's coming from.

The whole schoolgirl cosplay thing used to be interesting till I started teaching and now all I think about is English lessons. :(

True, but if that certain person likes you that much, "cheating" is a really mean and thoughtless thing to do.

Not if you tell them before hand.

Meh ... if you're not married, you're under no obligations. Life is a Cabaret, old chum.
but if he cheated on me i'd be gutted, you shouldn't do things to people that you wouldn't want done to you

Not if you tell them before hand.

Also true, but that's still a pretty crappy thing to do.

It's been Monday here for 28 minutes now, so...







Happy Birthday Tink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's been Monday here for 28 minutes now, so...







Happy Birthday Tink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

But her MSN screen name says tomorrow. :p

But her MSN screen name says tomorrow. :p

Tell her to have a timezone extended bday courtesy of NS :D

Only one. That one being your mom.


Seriously, none. My ladyfriend has said that she will not have sex with me until she is no longer dependant on her parents for lodging (so basically, at least a year). That's ok though, I don't think we're ready anyway. Better to wait and do it and then wonder why we didn't make love earlier than to have sex now and then regret it. Or at least in my opinion.

Tell her to have a timezone extended bday courtesy of NS :D

*gunshot*

*gunshot*

Put it away before you hurt yourself.

Put it away before you hurt yourself.

NEVAR!

It's been Monday here for 28 minutes now, so...







Happy Birthday Tink!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! i'm 18 in New Zealand

and thanks:fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

16.

12

cause he's a boy and boys are weird and stupid
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doesn't work

doesn't work

Really? works fine for me :confused:

http://www.popartuk.com/g/l/lgst3241.jpg

Really? works fine for me :confused:

http://www.popartuk.com/g/l/lgst3241.jpg
ah, it's cause i got Firefox, it works on IE *throws rocks at AC*

I think I have the most depressing number of all....1! I've had a taste (admittedly the same for 3 years), but now I can't seem to find some other poor mug who'll make my day! sympathy vote here! :(

Ah well!

ah, it's cause i got Firefox, it works on IE *throws rocks at AC*

*Ducks*

:p

Zero, I'm too young in my opinion.

How many people have you had sex with? No particular reason, other than wondering how high I rate on the "been around" scale. My magic number is 17. And now I'm married, so that's where it shall stay!
I lost track a long, long time ago! Heh!

ah, it's cause i got Firefox, it works on IE *throws rocks at AC*

It doesn't work on Safari either :( mind you, I'm probably not missing out on much :p

*throws a chair at AC*

1,695,503,482.7


Or...wait, did you mean at different times?

1,695,503,482.7


Or...wait, did you mean at different times?

...That makes no sense at all.

...That makes no sense at all.
Did the OP mean at one time, or at different times?

-3????

How would that work? :confused:
No the rule is Women undervalue it by 3 Men Overestimate by 3.

Me 0 so that equals.....o_O

zero, nada, niente...

I'm a loser:(

zero, nada, niente...

I'm a loser:(
Five bucks says you aint the biggest loser though.;)

erm *cough* 26 *cough*...

Although not sure how to count the threesome, 2 years ago. Two bridesmaids, and me. Not repeated since sadly. *sigh*

For the record I am not a player. Just 22-year old student with a high sex drive and a fair number of liberal/accommodating friends. ;)

Three cheers for alcohol-fuelled house parties! I seriously doubt I'd have got by on charm alone. Certainly not looks anyway.

Seriously though, a word of hope for you so-called 'losers'. I am a slightly over weight computer scientist. 5 years ago my number was 0. (Ok, back then a very overweight computer scientist, but still.)

I know people say it all the time, but its about confidence. Believe in yourself, you know you have value and others will respond to it. Also I like to think I'm proof nice guys can finish first.

And finally, its not about the quantity, its the quality. Of those 26 people, probably only 8 were really good. Why? Because I was dating them. There was time to explore, get to know each other's bodies. See what makes us 'tick' as it were.
If you just sleep with just one person, but the sex is great, why change anything? There are enough bar stewards out there cheating on thier girls/guys for no reason than they didn't want to feel 'tied down' (although being tied down in another way has its perks too... :D )
If you're in an 'open relationship' of course, thats a different matter. But I've yet to see a stable one. I'd be interested to see thoughts on that.

Anyway I've said my piece. :fluffle:

erm *cough* 26 *cough*...

Although not sure how to count the threesome, 2 years ago. Two bridesmaids, and me. Not repeated since sadly. *sigh*

For the record I am not a player. Just 22-year old student with a high sex drive and a fair number of liberal/accommodating friends. ;)

Three cheers for alcohol-fuelled house parties! I seriously doubt I'd have got by on charm alone. Certainly not looks anyway.

Seriously though, a word of hope for you so-called 'losers'. I am a slightly over weight computer scientist. 5 years ago my number was 0. (Ok, back then a very overweight computer scientist, but still.)

I know people say it all the time, but its about confidence. Believe in yourself, you know you have value and others will respond to it. Also I like to think I'm proof nice guys can finish first.

And finally, its not about the quantity, its the quality. Of those 26 people, probably only 8 were really good. Why? Because I was dating them. There was time to explore, get to know each other's bodies. See what makes us 'tick' as it were.
If you just sleep with just one person, but the sex is great, why change anything? There are enough bar stewards out there cheating on thier girls/guys for no reason than they didn't want to feel 'tied down' (although being tied down in another way has its perks too... :D )
If you're in an 'open relationship' of course, thats a different matter. But I've yet to see a stable one. I'd be interested to see thoughts on that.

Anyway I've said my piece. :fluffle:
Should it be expected for 17 year olds?

Zero, but I may have a relationship on the horizon. :)

moi=virgin

and I'm not ashamed of it:)

*shuffles feet and casts a sideways glance*

Fantastical fictional numbers aside, I am too ashamed to present the actual number of people I've been with. Let's just say it's in the twenty-ish range give or take ten or so.

Ah well... might as well own up here. It's more than 0 but less than 3...

Currently standing (no pun intended) at 1, namely my girlfriend.

Should it be expected for 17 year olds?

Well, in the UK the 'age of consent' is 16, and the average age of losing your virginity is probably closer to 15, but I wouldn't say there is a specific date when it should be 'expected' at all.

People mature differently, are ready at different times. The point I was trying to make is even if you feel like it is never going to happen for you now, it will do in the future. I mean, after my first time at 17 1/2, which was later than a lot of my peers, and I didn't have sex again until I was closer to 19!
And if I'm brutally honest, I wish I had waited. I mean it wasn't the most romantic way (one-night drunken fumble with a stranger on a beach in Korfu, Greece).

Would I do it all again? Probably, because at the time I was immature and stupid and was listening to peer pressure (as the only virgin on the trip), and believed that it some how made me 'less whole', which is just wrong!

Don't get me wrong, I love sex, can't live with out it. I just truely believe it is a whole lot better experience if it isn't rushed into.

1, soon to be 2 :p

I'm 16. And it's 3 for me. First was when I was 14. Started kinda young. Slowed down a lot since then.

Although not sure how to count the threesome, 2 years ago. Two bridesmaids, and me. Not repeated since sadly. *sigh*
Since we're counting the number of people, count them as 2.

Incidentally, I've seen a few stable open relationships.

I don't like these threads because it encourages bragging about how many people you have had sex with. Why is that something to brag about? We don't know who these people were. It's easy to find someone to sleep with if you're standards are set low enough. And having competions on how many sexual partners one has will only lead to problems.

Then there are the people who are made to feel bad for not having sex with anyone. Why does it matter? If any of you need encouragment think of what I said before. There is allways someone desperate enough. If you haven't had sex that just means your standards are high and/or you believe in waiting. If you believe in waiting and have been able to avoid having sex thus far, good for you.

Then there are the people who try to push morality onto others. Sure Christianity teaches one should wait, but you certainly can't force others to believe in Christianity or believe in waiting.

All that said. I haven't slept with anyone and don't plan to until I'm married. I'm not going to try to force others to believe the same. But I will point out that I have sort of a romantic notion about it. Doesn't it seem romantic to wait until you are with someone you truely love-- that one person who seems met for you? Wouldn't that make it all the more special? Well, that's how I feel at least you guys are open to your own opinion.

Oh and I do think I should point out that even with protection certain sexually transmitted diseases (I'm thinking of HPV in particular) can be caught simply by skin contact. HPV is the cause of cervical cancer and about 50% of woman end up catching it. There risk of catching it is directly proportional to the number of sexual partners one has. Again I don't want to push morality on people, if you aren't a Christian there is no need to wait, unless you share the same romantic notion about sex that I do. But I think this is good reason to keep your number of sexual partners low.

Hm, I see a lot of speculation about average age of losing virginity and stuff like that. I listened to a lecturer for the new HPV vaccine. (All of you should get it when it comes out. HPV is a real killer just people don't worry about it because you don't get cancer right away.) I'm a virologist, which is why I make such a big deal about viral sexually transmitted diseases (not because I'm trying to scare people) its just what I think about all day.

Anyway, HPV is so contagious that they are able to get very clear statistics on sexual activity based on HPV prevelance. Much more trustworthy then surveys I would think. Anyway. I'll post the statistics if I can find them if anyone is interested.

How many people have you had sex with? No particular reason, other than wondering how high I rate on the "been around" scale. My magic number is 17. And now I'm married, so that's where it shall stay!
I lost count.

I lost count.

Me, too, but I'd have to guess somewhere between 25 and 30.

So what's in "sex"? Really intercourse? Then 2

Me, too, but I'd have to guess somewhere between 25 and 30.
I don't even know all their names.

I don't even know all their names.

At one point, I knew at least first names. I've since forgotten some, though.

none.
I'm a 19 (almost 20) year old university student and the only virgin in my group of friends (both at home and at uni). The problem is I never had a proper girlfriend, and I'm not one for 1 night flings.
Sad? Maybe, ... I don't care.

Let's see...

Maybe 6 people including my wife...maybe 5...the one time I was drunk and I'm not clear as to whether we had the sex or not...

none.
I'm a 19 (almost 20) year old university student and the only virgin in my group of friends (both at home and at uni). The problem is I never had a proper girlfriend, and I'm not one for 1 night flings.
Sad? Maybe, ... I don't care.
Happens to the best....

*looks in the mirror*

*is proud*

How many people have you had sex with?Only my current boyfriend and an ex-boyfriend (who I actually cared for, though admittedly was not in love with). Although I have nothing against other people doing it (and even if I did it's none of my bloody business), I personally would never have been interested in casual sex, or amassing a string of notches on bedposts. Anyway, as I've discovered due to the difference between sex now and sex with my ex, sex when you're in love is so much better :)

It doesn't work on Safari either :( mind you, I'm probably not missing out on much :p

*throws a chair at AC*

:(


*Walks away singing*

Nobody loves me, everybody hates me...



(PS: Now that I'm using firefox it doesn't show up either.

*Hits own head with bottle of Sambuka*)

Yes, this is a tad bit personal, indeed. No comment.

<---------------Virgin
:fluffle:
i'm ever so innocent

intercourse: i think 6, if my memory serves correct

A lot more if I count hand and tonguework (around 15-20, but stopped counting since I find it not being very interesting to keep track anymore).

Only few of em were actually very good

4, and it looks like that's where it's gonna peak.

A solid 0. Nothing I have ever done could possibly be called a romantically intimate activity, let alone sex.

Of course, I am only 18 and I'd like to wait until I'm in my early 20's or so.

Zero, but I may have a relationship on the horizon. :)
Ooooooh. *tries to think of something silly to say* Hehe.

And here, its one, but our relationship has recently become... open(ish) so it depends what you consider to be sex really. :P

not enough
Dude, you're into nerds. To increase your number you just need one of those deli number despensors on your backpack and then just start counting.

Two.

Well, if we're only counting intercourse.

25, but only three in the last 24 months.

How many people have you had sex with?3

I guess I REALLY don't fit in around here.

1 - my husband. And that, not until we were married. Really, I don't see how you can want anything else. Particuarly since the sex only gets better as you get to know each other more.

zip zero nada

How many people have you had sex with? No particular reason, other than wondering how high I rate on the "been around" scale. My magic number is 17. And now I'm married, so that's where it shall stay!


Well this may come as a suprise to some....but...I am a virgin..Woohoo...now i have been involved in oral sex about 5 or so times before hand(with females of course). and i did recieve a hand job...but now i am a good boy and don't do those things anymore

So what's in "sex"?I would define sex as two or more people having contact with the genitals of one or more people with the intention of causing an orgasm.

6
2 of which were one night stands the rest were "serious" relationships. The better question would be how many times have you had sex, now that would be interesting.

None, and that's how it'll probably stay. There's a vague possibility of it rising to one, but eh.

The better question would be how many times have you had sex, now that would be interesting.:p Good question! With my ex, I'd guess at a total of 10 (we weren't together very long and didn't see an awful lot of each other when we were). With my current partner, Christ...we've been together over two and a half years, so using very rough averages over that time, I'm gonna guess between 600 - 700. Yes, it's actually a lot more interesting when you think about it like that :D