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During the summer, I was introduced to a rather physically-attractive male neighbour of mine. I've seen him a few times since, mostly in the company of some of our older neighbours, and he's always appeared to be very nice, although a bit quiet; we don't talk much, but he's never been rude to me (the way most guys are), and he loves our mutual neighbours baby daughter as much as I do. I got a bit of a minor crush on him, and figured it was safe to mention that casually to some of my friends, as he is at the University, and never attended our high school. However, another student overheard me and said that she, a friend of one of my neighbours, had known him some summer or another, and that he had had a crush on her and my neighbour, but had slept around alot with other girls. I was shocked! How could my lovely, well-mannered neighbour be a manwhore? Now I don't know what to think. Do I assume that he is as all other attractive males I have met and did whore around last summer, or do I give him the benefit of the doubt and trust that either my schoolmate is lying or that he has changed his ways?
Note: I really don't know why this is such a delimma to me; after all, it was never a serious crush. I suppose it's just a sort of metaphor to represent my constant failures in all things romantic.
Oh yeah, it's my birthday tomorrow! :)

and that he had had a crush on her and my neighbour, but had slept around alot with other girls. I was shocked! How could my lovely, well-mannered neighbour be a manwhore? Now I don't know what to think. Do I assume that he is as all other attractive males I have met and did whore around last summer, or do I give him the benefit of the doubt and trust that either my schoolmate is lying or that he has changed his ways?

Oh, for crying out loud, what business is it of yours, and who gives a shit if he's fucked around? That does not make you any worse of a person.

Oh, for crying out loud, what business is it of yours, and who gives a shit if he's fucked around? That does not make you any worse of a person.
not only that, it may mean that he's experienced, which is something you may like

not only that, it may mean that he's experienced, which is something you may like

I'm suspecting this is one of those persons who think sex is "special." :rolleyes:

I'm suspecting this is one of those persons who think sex is "special." :rolleyes:
ah, fair point. that would be a problem then.

Oh, for crying out loud, what business is it of yours, and who gives a shit if he's fucked around? That does not make you any worse of a person.

I don't think he's a bad person; I just don't want to get involved with him if he's going to cheat on/use me.

I'm suspecting this is one of those persons who think sex is "special." :rolleyes:

Well I'm a far cry from a slut, if that's what you mean.

I don't think he's a bad person; I just don't want to get involved with him if he's going to cheat on/use me.

Why do you think he would?

I'm suspecting this is one of those persons who think sex is "special." :rolleyes:
To some of us it is. You're welcome to your own views, but please don't disrespect ours.

Me personally: I don't now how I would feel knowing a potetial partner/crush had slept around. Probably only a very mild point against (if anything) them if they're generally a good person. Even though to me it's special, and for special people at special times, it may not be to everybody. NOTE: Never had this problem, this in only hypothetical knowing me. I know I have had crushes on sexually active people, and it never bothered me, but never anyone that had had lots of partners.

Well I'm a far cry from a slut, if that's what you mean.

Pity.

Why do you think he would?

Because it sounds like he's done that in the past.

Why not just ask him? If he says "yes, I am a pervert" then he is joking. If he says "no, I am not a pervert," then he is probably lying.

Why not just ask him? If he says "yes, I am a pervert" then he is joking. If he says "no, I am not a pervert," then he is probably lying.

Hmm...interesting idea.

Because it sounds like he's done that in the past.

Because of what some teenage yenta-wannabe says? Please. :rolleyes:

Why not just ask him? If he says "yes, I am a pervert" then he is joking. If he says "no, I am not a pervert," then he is probably lying.
just because he says he's a pervert, doesn't mean he's joking and even if he is joking, he still could be one. i'd probably make jokes like that

Because it sounds like he's done that in the past.
He's a guy, guys sleep around. Get over it.

--snip--
I was shocked! How could my lovely, well-mannered neighbour be a manwhore? Now I don't know what to think.

I'm not sure you're really thinking to begin with, so I wouldn't worry about what to think. Remember Ted Bundy? Really attractive, quiet, nice guy who was a serial rapist/murderer. You make very dangerous assumptions when you assume that someone who is comely is somehow pure of heart, innocent, or in any way good -- WITHOUT PROOF. Seeming all nice and attractive on the outside is one of the oldest tricks in the book. That said, is it any business of yours if he's sexually active? How do you even know if any of it's true? And what if it is? Are you a close enough acquaintance to ask him whether or not he uses protection and is careful? If not, then you're only wasting your time with speculation and writing off a potentially experienced lover -- someone of which everyone should have the benefit at least once.

Do I assume that he is as all other attractive males I have met and did whore around last summer, or do I give him the benefit of the doubt and trust that either my schoolmate is lying or that he has changed his ways?


If you're going to live your life based on the specious reports of other people instead of finding things out for yourself, then you'll get the relationships you deserve -- crappy ones devoid of any meaningful communication. C'mon, think for yourself and get your own information from the source and then make your own judgments. Live a little.

Because of what some teenage yenta-wannabe says? Please. :rolleyes:

The whole point of this thread was to help me gain perspective on the situation, which was troubling me. I know you're trying to help, but not every teenager girl is a liar and a gossip-monger. She could be telling the truth. After all, what motivation would she have to lie?

It's been my experience that you should never believe anything negative that someone says about a person unless you ask that person yourself.

I would say you should ask your neighbor about these accusations before you believe some girl at the university.

But I'm just speaking from experience, and I've only had to deal with high schoolers, but I assume that some people are lying, jealous, over-sexed fools in college, too.

It's been my experience that you should never believe anything negative that someone says about a person unless you ask that person yourself.

I would say you should ask your neighbor about these accusations before you believe some girl at the university.

But I'm just speaking from experience, and I've only had to deal with high schoolers, but I assume that some people are lying, jealous, over-sexed fools in college, too.

No, he's at the University. We are at the secondary school.

Me personally: I don't now (sic) how I would feel knowing a potetial (sic) partner/crush had slept around. Probably only a very mild point against (if anything) them if they're generally a good person. Even though to me it's special, and for special people at special times, it may not be to everybody. NOTE: Never had this problem, this in only hypothetical knowing me. I know I have had crushes on sexually active people, and it never bothered me, but never anyone that had had lots of partners.

What the hell did you actually say here?

The answer, as it always is within human connections, is communication with the actual person in question. Why is it so hard to just start up a conversation and admit some kind of attraction? It doesn't mean you have to fuck the guy. Hell, you don't even need to go there! Why not just start a conversation to find out if the guy's got any common sense or brain cells to rub together? Speculation is dangerous at worst and inaccurate and annoying at best. Why guess blindly when you can educate yourself? Sure, he may try to lead you on or lie, but how else will you discover how that game works unless you play it once or twice in order to learn the signs? Once you know when you're being jerked around, it's far easier to prevent it from happening again. Certainly far easier than just taking the word of friends or assumptions.


Why am I bothering?

I'm not sure you're really thinking to begin with, so I wouldn't worry about what to think. Remember Ted Bundy? Really attractive, quiet, nice guy who was a serial rapist/murderer. You make very dangerous assumptions when you assume that someone who is comely is somehow pure of heart, innocent, or in any way good -- WITHOUT PROOF. Seeming all nice and attractive on the outside is one of the oldest tricks in the book. That said, is it any business of yours if he's sexually active? How do you even know if any of it's true? And what if it is? Are you a close enough acquaintance to ask him whether or not he uses protection and is careful? If not, then you're only wasting your time with speculation and writing off a potentially experienced lover -- someone of which everyone should have the benefit at least once.



If you're going to live your life based on the specious reports of other people instead of finding things out for yourself, then you'll get the relationships you deserve -- crappy ones devoid of any meaningful communication. C'mon, think for yourself and get your own information from the source and then make your own judgments. Live a little.

Why are people being cruel about this?

The whole point of this thread was to help me gain perspective on the situation, which was troubling me. I know you're trying to help, but not every teenager girl is a liar and a gossip-monger. She could be telling the truth. After all, what motivation would she have to lie?

She alleges he was in love with her, no? That's all the reason people need. You know what? Find out for yourself! If he fucks around, then he fucks around, but at least he will have fucked you, and you will not go on in life with the regret of having let this opportunity pass you by because of what some jilted bitch said.

--snip--

But I'm just speaking from experience, and I've only had to deal with high schoolers, but I assume that some people are lying, jealous, over-sexed fools in college, too.

A very, very valid assumption. There still exists the need to suss out each individual and give the benefit of the doubt (once), but yeah, that's a valid starting point.

Decide your feelings, and talk to him. That is the only way to know what he is.

And Fass really does erode the human soul (and may be a darn good tennis player). Sometimes it is best to not bother.

I would think there is probably a better avenue of obtaining relationship advice...............but maybe that's just me.

She alleges he was in love with her, no? That's all the reason people need. You know what? Find out for yourself! If he fucks around, then he fucks around, but at least he will have fucked you, and you will not go on with your love with the regret of having let this opportunity pass you by because of what some jilted bitch said.

That would be a good idea, if all I wanted from a guy was sex. But, suprisingly, I actually want to be treated with respect.

He's a guy, guys sleep around. Get over it.
Unfair stereotype.

And people who stereotype are stupid!! Hey... wait a sec..... D'oh.

Why are people being cruel about this?

You think this is cruel? Sweetness, you have no idea. Look, this isn't the flowery meadow of advice for the lovelorn, this is NationStates. We're trying to disabuse you of your naive notions about what sex and the politics (which in this case means any of the customs, niceties and protocol surrounding any human endeavor) surrounding sex. You don't like the responses? Don't ask. We are trying to help, whether the advice is sugar-coated or not.

That would be a good idea, if all I wanted from a guy was sex. But, suprisingly, I actually want to be treated with respect.

You must give respect to get it. Give this guy the respect of hearing him out before you lend too much credence to the opinions of a jilted other.

She alleges he was in love with her, no? That's all the reason people need. You know what? Find out for yourself! If he fucks around, then he fucks around, but at least he will have fucked you, and you will not go on in life with the regret of having let this opportunity pass you by because of what some jilted bitch said.

Cutting to the heart of the matter like a skilled surgeon with a laser-honed scalpel. Fass, I may not always agree with you, but your economy and logic are admirably solid.

That would be a good idea, if all I wanted from a guy was sex. But, suprisingly, I actually want to be treated with respect.

Haha! And sex is disrespectful? Somehow that precludes respect? Please. I'd ask you to grow up, if I could muster the sentiment.

By the by, it's nice and ironic how your prejudice precludes you from respecting him enough to actually ask him yourself, instead of listening to this other skank.

Haha! And sex is disrespectful? Somehow that precludes respect? Please. I'd ask you to grow up, if I could muster the sentiment.

Sorry. I'd like to apologise for actually having feelings.
Sex is not nessacarily disrespectful, but I want something deeper than that, which is something I can't get if he will sleep around/ only date me because he wants to bed me.

Unfair stereotype.

And people who stereotype are stupid!! Hey... wait a sec..... D'oh.
I prefer "fairly accurate generalisation".

Haha! And sex is disrespectful? Somehow that precludes respect? Please. I'd ask you to grow up, if I could muster the sentiment.

Dude, listen up. You really need to relax....This girl came on here looking for advice, not a new asshole. If you are just so all-knowing with your ideas, well, heres an idea for you. Why dont you take all those great social-relationship skills of yours..get off your computer where sit back late at night and make fun of others (it says over 7,000 posts!!), and get out into the Swedish nightlife....Your a loser, plain and simple. Leave this girl alone. Just go grab a horse, live in the mountains, and dont bother anyone.

I prefer "fairly accurate generalisation".
I can live with that.:fluffle:

Dude, listen up. You really need to relax....This girl came on here looking for advice, not a new asshole. If you are just so all-knowing with your ideas, well, heres an idea for you. Why dont you take all those great social-relationship skills of yours..get off your computer where sit back late at night and make fun of others (it says of 7,000 posts!!), and get out into the Swedish nightlife....Your a loser, plain and simple. Leave this girl alone. Just go grab a horse, live in the mountains, and dont bother anyone.

Thanks for that. :)

Thanks for that. :)
Like I said, Fass really does erode the soul. It may be best to not read his posts. He speaks of his world, and while what he says may be valid there (I don't know, I'm not Fass) it isn't everywhere.

Thanks for that. :)

lol, no problem....that Swede was just pissing me (and from what I could tell, you) off

I think that you should just talk to him...save all judgements and just go up and ask him what you want to know.

Dude, listen up. You really need to relax....This girl came on here looking for advice, not a new asshole. If you are just so all-knowing with your ideas, well, heres an idea for you. Why dont you take all those great social-relationship skills of yours..get off your computer where sit back late at night and make fun of others (it says of 7,000 posts!!), and get out into the Swedish nightlife....Your a loser, plain and simple. Leave this girl alone. Just go grab a horse, live in the mountains, and dont bother anyone.

Haha! I am a gay man. Getting sex is but a phone call away. If my insomnia - and the fact that Tuesday nights aren't exactly the most popular time for clubbing - make me a loser, so be it, but coming from you, I really attach as much weight to your own homophobic and vendetta-induced advice (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=9892270&postcount=257) as I do to the King's bollocks.

I think that you should just talk to him...save all judgements and just go up and ask him what you want to know.

Okay. It wouldn't exactly be nice to ask, "Are you a manwhore?" so I guess I will just continue to treat him as I did before, and ask him gently if we ever become friends or anything.

Haha! I am a gay man. Getting sex is but a phone call away. If my insomnia - and the fact that Tuesday nights aren't exactly the most popular time for clubbing - make me a loser, so be it, but coming from you, I really attach as much weight to your own homophobic and vendetta-induced advice as I do to the King's bollocks.

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again. Second off, I dont really give a damn if how much weight you give my advice, however; she does because you were obviously bothering her with your bitchy replys...So again, R-E-L-A-X. God, you live in a freakin welfare state, thats all your people know anyway. Why are you so bad at it?

Haha! I am a gay man. Getting sex is but a phone call away. If my insomnia - and the fact that Tuesday nights aren't exactly the most popular time for clubbing - make me a loser, so be it, but coming from you, I really attach as much weight to your own homophobic and vendetta-induced advice (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=9892270&postcount=257) as I do to the King's bollocks.

Ok, and I still stand by what I said

Okay. It wouldn't exactly be nice to ask, "Are you a manwhore?" so I guess I will just continue to treat him as I did before, and ask him gently if we ever become friends or anything.

Lol, you dont have to put it in such a blunt manner....Just be smooth about it and you will eventually get the information out of him. Men are suckers for women, remember that....except people like Fass because, unfortunatly, they are raging homos.

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again.
Come on now, you just did it.

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again. Second off, I dont really give a damn if how much weight you give my advice, however; she does because you were obviously bothering her with your bitchy replys...So again, R-E-L-A-X. God, you live in a freakin welfare state, thats all your people know anyway. Why are you so bad at it?
Seeing as s/he's (gender?) not giving advice to you, I don't think it matters to anyone how much weight you attatch to it.

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again.

Tough titties, sweetheart. Gay sex! See, I did it again! Just guess how much I care what you don't want to see me put in the same paragraph?

Second off, I dont really give a damn if how much weight you give my advice,

Why do you hand it out then? I suggest you stop being fauxdignant on the behalf of others. She can tell me to fuck off herself if she wishes. She, unlike others, I assume, has a rudimentary spine.

however; she does because you were obviously bothering her with your bitchy replys...So again, R-E-L-A-X. God, you live in a freakin welfare state, thats all your people know anyway. Why are you so bad at it?

Is that supposed to read as stupid as it does?

Lol, you dont have to put it in such a blunt manner....(A)Just be smooth about it and you will eventually get the information out of him. Men are suckers for women, remember that....(B)except people like Fass because, unfortunatly, they are raging homos.
(A)Especially if you're genuinly nice, and friendly.
(B)Uncalled for. Fass may be homosexual, no reason to bash him for it

Seeing as s/he's (gender?) not giving advice to you, I don't think it matters to anyone how much weight you attatch to it.

What? Either I'm not understand the way you said that or it didnt make sense. Could you explain.

Come on now, you just did it.

Hahahahah lol..... I'm sorry....starting....NOW I never wanna see them in the same paragraph lol...good catch

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again. Second off, I dont really give a damn if how much weight you give my advice, however; she does because you were obviously bothering her with your bitchy replys...So again, R-E-L-A-X. God, you live in a freakin welfare state, thats all your people know anyway. Why are you so bad at it?

Guys! Take your debate on sexuality/scandinavia elsewhere...

First off I dont ever want to see you put Gay and Sex in the same paragraph again. Second off, I dont really give a damn if how much weight you give my advice, however; she does because you were obviously bothering her with your bitchy replys...So again, R-E-L-A-X. God, you live in a freakin welfare state, thats all your people know anyway. Why are you so bad at it?

What's wrong with gay sex? I certainly think that a lot of gay people have gay sex quite often. After all, gay sex is just fine. Gay sex!

I'm going to take a page from Fass and no longer give any weight to your comments - and I'd advise the topic poster to do the same.

P.S. I hope I made you uncomfortable with the first couple of sentences there. :)

What? Either I'm not understand the way you said that or it didnt make sense. Could you explain.
Fass isn't the one who advice is being givin to, so who cares how much weight Fass attatches to it.

(A)Especially if you're genuinly nice, and friendly.
(B)Uncalled for.

It may be uncalled for, but so was the attitude he displayed when verbally abusing her when all she asked for was some friendly advice.

It may be uncalled for, but so was the attitude he displayed when verbally abusing her when all she asked for was some friendly advice.
Agreed, but doing the same thing doesn't things better.

Come on now, you just did it.
He was talking to Fass though. It's fine if anyone else uses "gay" and "sex" in the same paragraph...isn't it? :p

Tough titties, sweetheart. Gay sex! See, I did it again! Just guess how much I care what you don't want to see me put in the same paragraph?



Why do you hand it out then? I suggest you stop being fauxdignant on the behalf of others. She can tell me to fuck off herself if she wishes. She, unlike others, I assume, has a rudimentary spine.



Is that supposed to read as stupid as it does?


Ok, I'll say this: You were a bit of jerk, and Atlantian defended me, which I needed. But the anti-homosexuality stuff was out of line. I'm mad at you because you're insensitive, not because you are gay.

I'm going to take a page from Fass and no longer give any weight to your comments

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO:rolleyes:

Guys! Take your debate on sexuality/scandinavia elsewhere...

See? She can herself tell even Atlantian Islands to fuck off. Good girl! Now use that spine and talk to this guy, and don't attach that much importance to what this other, jilted person said.

See? She can herself tell even Atlantian Islands to fuck off. Good girl! Now use that spine and talk to this guy, and don't attach that much importance to what this other, jilted person said.

"Ok, I'll say this: You were a bit of jerk, and Atlantian defended me, which I needed."

He was talking to Fass though. It's fine if anyone else uses "gay" and "sex" in the same paragraph...isn't it? :p

lol:headbang:

Ok, I'll say this: You were a bit of jerk, and Atlantian defended me, which I needed. But the anti-homosexuality stuff was out of line. I'm mad at you because you're insensitive, not because you are gay.

Not to worry. I knew perfectly well why you were being upset, but I do urge you to look behind the lack of sugar in my posts to the see the sound advice.

**Crossing Sweden off my list of places in the world I would like to visit**

Not to worry. I knew perfectly well why you were being upset, but I do urge you to look behind the lack of sugar in my posts to the see the sound advice.
Some of your advice is sound.
Some of us have disallusions about sex, and what it means, and love and what it means. But as long as at least two of us have them, they are real, and some of your advice is not applicable.

That sounded a whole lot more profound in my head.

**Crossing Sweden off my list of places in the world I would like to visit**

Our tourism board is crying itself to sleep over having lost you and your ilk, honey.

"Ok, I'll say this: You were a bit of jerk, and Atlantian defended me, which I needed."

And she denounced you in the next sentence, and had previously asked you to fuck off.

Nice going there - you almost totally fooled me with that copy&paste. :rolleyes: Now, if you care to stop hijacking this thread with your little homophobe vendetta, and let this be about her again, I will grant you some more "gay sex" in the same paragraph, hmm?

And she denounced you in the next sentence, and had previously asked you to fuck off.

Nice going there - you almost totally fooled me with that copy&paste. :rolleyes: Now, if you care to stop hijacking this thread with your little homophobe vendetta, and let this be about her again, I will grant you some more "gay sex" in the same paragraph, hmm?

Trying to fool you? What the hell are you talking about? And would you stop saying " homophobe vendetta." God, you like live on this site (over 7,000 posts, remember) I would expect you to come up with some orginial material...

By the way....Just because your gay doesnt mean you have to try to sound like a woman. Dont call other guys honey....Its disgusting and disturbing....I question the world when I know people like you live in it. Ugh. Well, atleast I got the majority of my country's (which is far superior to your wanna be communist country) beliefs behind me.

Please, everybody, knock off the flaming and trolling before a mod makes you. And I can promise you it won't be pretty. ;)

Trying to fool you? What the hell are you talking about? And would you stop saying " homophobe vendetta." God, you like live on this site (over 7,000 posts, remember) I would expect you to come up with some orginial material...

Something more original than the "omg u have no life" defense when beaten in an argument?

Annnnnyyyway, to the original poster: I would try not to listen to people who may not be telling the entire truth. If you really like this guy that much, you should probably get to know him. Then if it ever seems important, you could ask him.

Trying to fool you? What the hell are you talking about? And would you stop saying " homophobe vendetta." God, you like live on this site (over 7,000 posts, remember) I would expect you to come up with some orginial material...

Oh, baby, you yearn for original material from someone after 7000 posts when you can't even muster it after a measly 300? Oh, that's hilarious. But, really, this hijack of your does stop now.

By the way....Just because your gay doesnt mean you have to try to sound like a woman. Dont call other guys honey....Its disgusting and disturbing....I question the world when I know people like you live in it. Ugh. Well, atleast I got the majority of my country's (which is far superior to your wanna be communist country) beliefs behind me.

I'll let this speak for itself. I cannot possibly add anything to this to discredit you further than you have yourself. Do run along now.

Please, everybody, knock off the flaming and trolling before a mod makes you. And I can promise you it won't be pretty. ;)
Wow, this must be getting serious if both me Czadras stooped to being serious, and we agree.

I'll back later, when their is a less hostile envroment to this thread. In the meantime, I need to find something I won't feel bad spamming (word used loosely).

Oh, baby, you yearn for original material from someone after 7000 posts when you can't even muster it after a measly 300? Oh, that's hilarious. But, really, this hijack of your does stop now.

Rule #1: You cant use my own comments against me. This is 1st grade stuff...come on now.

I've created a monster.

Annnnnyyyway, to the original poster: I would try not to listen to people who may not be telling the entire truth. If you really like this guy that much, you should probably get to know him. Then if it ever seems important, you could ask him.
Sound advice.

Something more original than the "omg u have no life" defense when beaten in an argument?

Annnnnyyyway, to the original poster: I would try not to listen to people who may not be telling the entire truth. If you really like this guy that much, you should probably get to know him. Then if it ever seems important, you could ask him.

And you...why are you talking? Whatever happend to ignoring my comments? Shows how much you stick to your word. Your a John Kerry man for sure.

I've created a monster.
You have. Sorry. Welcome to NS. *cries* Everything (almost) turns into flaming about politics, sexuality, nationallity, or god. We've already covered two of those bases. But usually if you pick around, there is decent stuff.

And you...why are you talking? Whatever happend to ignoring my comments? Shows how much you stick to your word. Your a John Kerry man for sure.
Dude, that's enough.

Dude, that's enough.

Your right, it is. I'v had my say, and as long as they dont say anything back...Im fine.....To the poster, I'm sorry.

And you...why are you talking? Whatever happend to ignoring my comments? Shows how much you stick to your word. Your a John Kerry man for sure.

You know, I never said I'd ignore you, I said I wasn't giving your comments (for example, on homosexuality, or advice given to this girl) any consideration. Also, I think you mean "you're".

At multiple requests however, I'm now ignoring any comments in this thread not relating to the original topic. Good day.

You know, I never said I'd ignore you, I said I wasn't giving your comments (for example, on homosexuality, or advice given to this girl) any consideration. Also, I think you mean "you're".

At multiple requests however, I'm now ignoring any comments in this thread not relating to the original topic. Good day.

Hey Branin, check this out...I stopped and this cool kid just kept going....they know no limits....

Wow, this must be getting serious if both me Czadras stooped to being serious, and we agree.

I'll back later, when their is a less hostile envroment to this thread. In the meantime, I need to find something I won't feel bad spamming (word used loosely).
We agreed?

Wow. Must not have read the whole thread. ^_^

We agreed?

Wow. Must not have read the whole thread. ^_^
Agreed.

Texas just passed an amendment to make gay marriage illegal now, and in the future...And it has been the 19th state to do so.....WHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D

Tehe...
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"NeighbOU" You and your OUs and your Ys and your metric systems and expensive gas which you buy by the pound! Theheheheeheheheheheehehehehehhehehehehe

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hehe!

:D

Texas just passed an amendment to make gay marriage illegal now, and in the future...And it has been the 19th state to do so.....WHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D

It's funny because you don't live in Austin. Unless you live in Austin or Ozona I get to laugh at you! haha!

Agreed.
I didn't mean to! :(

Texas just passed an amendment to make gay marriage illegal now, and in the future...And it has been the 19th state to do so.....WHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D
Enough. Please, for my brains sake.

I didn't mean to! :(
:p

During the summer, I was introduced to a rather physically-attractive male neighbour of mine. I've seen him a few times since, mostly in the company of some of our older neighbours, and he's always appeared to be very nice, although a bit quiet; we don't talk much, but he's never been rude to me (the way most guys are), and he loves our mutual neighbours baby daughter as much as I do. I got a bit of a minor crush on him, and figured it was safe to mention that casually to some of my friends, as he is at the University, and never attended our high school. However, another student overheard me and said that she, a friend of one of my neighbours, had known him some summer or another, and that he had had a crush on her and my neighbour, but had slept around alot with other girls. I was shocked! How could my lovely, well-mannered neighbour be a manwhore? Now I don't know what to think. Do I assume that he is as all other attractive males I have met and did whore around last summer, or do I give him the benefit of the doubt and trust that either my schoolmate is lying or that he has changed his ways?
Note: I really don't know why this is such a delimma to me; after all, it was never a serious crush. I suppose it's just a sort of metaphor to represent my constant failures in all things romantic.
Oh yeah, it's my birthday tomorrow! :)


Whatever is in his past is in his past, and is of no concern to you, nor any business of yours. Only what happens when you two are committed to each other matters. You have no way of knowing his past, unless he chooses to tell you.
You indicated this is nothing serious at this stage. You need to decide for yourself if your own impressions are more reliable...or the stories that others will put out are more reliable. And then decide if you want to pursue this further.

If you do, then you need to remember that what is in his past...he owes you no explanation for, as he had no committment to you at that time. You can only hold him accountable for anything he does when you two have a committment to each other...if you ever do.

In short...you need to decide if your own impressions are more reliable than the stories of potentially poisonous and jealous people. And, you need to proceed at your own pace. For now, since there is nothing serious, you need to quit worrying about it. If it is meant to be, it will be. If not, it won't.

And you...why are you talking? Whatever happend to ignoring my comments? Shows how much you stick to your word. Your a John Kerry man for sure.

And you, sir, sound like a raving, foaming at the mouth Bushevik to me.

Texas just passed an amendment to make gay marriage illegal now, and in the future...And it has been the 19th state to do so.....WHOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D

On a random aside: Why does gay sex bother you so much? You're not being asked to watch or participate.

To the original poster: Stop being so judgemental. Maybe this guy had deep feeling for every woman he fucked, maybe not. Either way it doesn't matter at all towards what you feel for him or hopefully he'll feel for you.

You know what is sad in this whole entire flame war?

Nobody took the time to wish you a happy birthday!

SO HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! :D

(and if someone did, I sincerely apologize)

You know what is sad in this whole entire flame war?

Nobody took the time to wish you a happy birthday!

SO HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! :D

(and if someone did, I sincerely apologize)
Somewhere in this I missed that it was a birthday:embaressed:

*sings*

*ropes czadras into singing along*

Somewhere in this I missed that it was a birthday:embaressed:

*sings*

*ropes czadras into singing along*
*sings* Aaaaaakkkggggkkk!!!! Gaaaah! *chokes*

*dies*

*everyone rejoices*

Lol, you dont have to put it in such a blunt manner....Just be smooth about it and you will eventually get the information out of him. Men are suckers for women, remember that....except people like Fass because, unfortunatly, they are raging homos.
Chill with the homophobia, and in all honestly alot of Fass's advice was pretty good if rather bluntly stated.

By your own admission TC, you know very little about this guy, if you're interested in him, talk to him.

Fass, when I visit / move to Europe, we'll have to get together for a drink or something.

You're advice to Terrorist Cakes is spot on. Myself being a former "man-whore," that doesnt mean I ever cheated on any woman I was ever with.

Talking to the guy straight up, instead of listening to the grapevine, is most definately the more mature way to approach the situation.


Terrorist Cakes: Face it, every relationship is built on attraction - vis-a-vis sex. Whether you like it or not, every guy you date will want to bed you. The difference is their method of seduction.


As to his past, it has no bearing whatsoever on his future with you unless you make it an issue. Just because he was a man-whore does not mean he's a cheater.



Edit: almost forgot to spite Atlantian Islands: GAY SEX is not for me, but hey, GAY SEX is fine for those who enjoy it.

On a random aside: Why does gay sex bother you so much? You're not being asked to watch or participate.

To the original poster: Stop being so judgemental. Maybe this guy had deep feeling for every woman he fucked, maybe not. Either way it doesn't matter at all towards what you feel for him or hopefully he'll feel for you.

Gay sex probably DOESN'T bother The Atlantian Islands the way you might think. More likely he is a mean-spirited, hateful person who just wants a chance to rub his hatred into some people he considers "inferior" to himself. most of the people who try to enact laws like the one in Texas are of that breed.

Guys like Fred Phelps and so on...they are not religious...they are not christian. They are syuffed full of hatred, and they need to spew that hatred onto enemies of their own choosing, in order to make themselves feel better.

Too bad so many people end up getting hurt this way...instead of the person spewing the hate...which, in my opinion, is the only one who OUGHT to be getting hurt. We, as a society, should come together to make hate hurt.