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... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

You don't get female nerds. They'd be called something else.

No, I've never dated anyone. Not really interested in it.

You don't get female nerds. They'd be called something else.

No, I've never dated anyone. Not really interested in it.
gerds?

gerds?
well there are real girls there.they just dont match their pictures.its kind of like:'Yahoo chat,where the men are men,the women are men,and the children are police officers'
its real nerd girls with pictures of pornstars!

I've never done an online dating service, but I did meet my boyfriend of 2 years on this forum :)

I've never done an online dating service, but I did meet my boyfriend of 2 years on this forum :)

:eek: does he have gills and a fishy smell like the rest of us? :D

dating services? I would probly hang myself if I ever got that desperate (I got allot of pride and allot of lady powers ;) )

By lady powers I don’t mean the ability to find keys I mean am good time *goes bright red*

Never dated. Hopefully I will one day...

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

i did meet a nice young woman whose fiance dumped her after he tried one and found a girl who matched his "21 points of compatibility"

are you saying you have tried one or are you just thinking about it?

they seem OK to me as long as you meet your match in person as soon as possible and dont rely very much on them being good choice.

:eek: does he have gills and a fishy smell like the rest of us? :D

Only sometimes. Most of the time he just smells like boy, which is even worse. But I guess I have no choice. I love boys too much to shun them for their being stinky.

Besides, he's the only boy who doesn't have cooties.

I have never dated and have no interest in it, myself.

I have never dated and have no interest in it, myself.

Aren't you asexual?

I havent. When I was dating, I was always fairly aggressive amongst those available- school, work, my own group of friends. Then I married my high school sweetheart anyway.
I was never free to take a breath for a minute.

I'm actually IN a steady relationship, but still on two "dating" sites (if you can even count hotornot.com as one) just because I like attention.

Workin' great so far :D

Whenever I see some of my friends goind out, it's always like "This will last forever!" and crap. Then 2 months later the gentleman is depressed and the lady is sobbing. Sounds like more fun that a barrel of monkeys.

My advice: Don't get involved.

Rather, get laid but don't get involved :D

Aren't you asexual?

Yes he is.

Online dating, NEVER! That's kinda weird.

I prefer the real thing.

Aren't you asexual?
I don't know. I don't seem attracted to anyone at all, so I suppose so.


At least, anyone I'm willing to admit to. And no, I'm not telling you which NS posters. ;)

i never tried 1, but i gt 2 no alot o ppl on line, it bit risky coz dey could b makin stuf up + ud nt no. i was jus wondrin if true love acctually existed or if it a conspircy, either dat or im jus really unlucky and atracte all d girls who like to break guys hearts!

I don't know. I don't seem attracted to anyone at all, so I suppose so.


At least, anyone I'm willing to admit to. And no, I'm not telling you which NS posters. ;)
You once almost admitted to wanting me in a minimally sexual way, but a way that can be so viewed as sexual nonetheless. You may or may not remember (but if you don't, I'll cut somebody's nose off), but I take that to mean that, y'know.....you and me...... :fluffle:

Seriously, though, who WOULDN'T want me? (Girls' opinions are instantly invalidated 'cos I'm straight)

Simonist']
Seriously, though, who WOULDN'T want me? (Girls' opinions are instantly invalidated 'cos I'm straight)

I'm a female, and a straight one, but for what it's worth, I clicked the link to your picture and you're very pretty. You kind of look like Idina Menzel. If you don't know who she is, google her. She's super pretty. So that's my opinion. :)

Simonist']You once almost admitted to wanting me in a minimally sexual way, but a way that can be so viewed as sexual nonetheless. You may or may not remember (but if you don't, I'll cut somebody's nose off), but I take that to mean that, y'know.....you and me...... :fluffle:

Seriously, though, who WOULDN'T want me? (Girls' opinions are instantly invalidated 'cos I'm straight)
Hmmm...I wonder if you were reading a bit too much into it.

Anyway, I have no way of finding out, but I was somewhat attracted to your sadistic/egotistical tendencies, which reminded me of myself, and your sense of humor. (I've never seen a picture of you so I don't know too much else.)

And I suppose anyone already in a relationship with someone else wouldn't want you... or am I wrong there? *stern voice* Simonist, have you been tempting pure hearts down the dark paths of sin again? ;) :D

And I suppose anyone already in a relationship with someone else wouldn't want you... or am I wrong there? *stern voice* Simonist, have you been tempting pure hearts down the dark paths of sin again? ;) :D
Call it a hobby, darlings......

I'm a female, and a straight one, but for what it's worth, I clicked the link to your picture and you're very pretty. You kind of look like Idina Menzel. If you don't know who she is, google her. She's super pretty. So that's my opinion. :)
Well thank you very much! I actually know who she is because I'm a closeted Broadway fan, and fell in love with Wicked way early on, but knew her from Rent as well. My lesbian friend (TOTALLY in love with Idina) told me once or twice that in the right lighting I can look like Idina.....she'll be thrilled that somebody seconded that opinion.

Simonist']Call it a hobby, darlings...... It's not as though I mind particularly (;)) but still...

<wonders when she will pick up on the hint in my earlier message and post something remotely similar to a picture of herself>

It's not as though I mind particularly (;)) but still...

<wonders when she will pick up on the hint in my earlier message and post something remotely similar to a picture of herself>
Oh, how you flirt.... :D

(Um....ahem....have you checked that link in my signature? Or.....do you not view signatures? 'Cos the homepage works just as well)

Simonist']Oh, how you flirt.... :D Me? Flirt? That is a totally unfounded accusation! Impossible! :eek:

Simonist'](Um....ahem....have you checked that link in my signature? Or.....do you not view signatures? 'Cos the homepage works just as well)
Ah, that link.

*clicks*

Well.... your egotism seems to have a good reason to be there.... unlike mine...;)
Granted the Official Czardaian Seal of Approval. Signed, K.A., Leader of The Concordance
(It's a longer and more pompous way of saying, "<fluffle smiley>".)

(It's a longer and more pompous way of saying, "<fluffle smiley>".)
Superfluous, yet charming.....

Did you realize with all the time I end up wasting 'flirting' with you in order to get you to negate the existence of my enemies, I could be single-handedly negating the existence of my enemies?

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

no besides I'm too young to do those dating things

I have profiles on a number of dating sites, but I refuse to pay money just to send an email.

There is okcupid though, but even there, i have yet to recieve a single message from a female. TOLD YOU I WAS UGLY! :p

Maybe on the Onion's classifieds, but probably only to find friends.

You don't get female nerds. They'd be called something else.I describe myself as a nerd, and am proud of it!

And, yes, CW, I have. I met a bloke on one of the things, and we emailed back and forth for about a year. When we finally met, sparks flew and all that other love and lust stuff. Two and a half years after that initial meeting, we're still going strong, and I almost-but-not-quite live with him now. Although we've had a few problems now and again, I really couldn't have wished for anyone better for me and have no regrets at all.

There is a stigma attached to this way of meeting, but I don't see why that's the case. Surely it makes more sense, at least if you seek a long-term relationship, to get to know something of the person's personality and areas of commonality between the two of you, rather than meeting in some bar or noisy club, and basing your first liasion only on sexual attraction? OK, that works for many people, but I personally would find it more likely to find a meaningful, long-term relationship if I knew something about the person beyond their physical appearance.

The only problem is that I think you have to pay for the things these days. On the site we met on back in 2002, it was free :)

Edit: Mind you, one has to beware with online encounters too. There are plenty of freaks out there, and I met one a number of years back (though not through a dating site; just chatting). As my current situation demonstrates, the internet can be great for meeting people, but one does need to be cautious too.

The only problem is that I think you have to pay for the things these days. On the site we met on back in 2002, it was free :)
Is that site still around?

Is that site still around?Unfortunately not, and it was very localised anyway. It was run by the Belfast Telegraph and was called "Web Friends" - I think it came down in early 2003 or something like that.

Simonist']Superfluous, yet charming.....

Did you realize with all the time I end up wasting 'flirting' with you in order to get you to negate the existence of my enemies, I could be single-handedly negating the existence of my enemies?
Lol...What enemies exactly?

Unfortunately not, and it was very localised anyway. It was run by the Belfast Telegraph and was called "Web Friends" - I think it came down in early 2003 or something like that.
damn :(

*commits suicide* (like anyone cares anyway :p lol)

damn :(

*commits suicide* (like anyone cares anyway :p lol)Aww :( I care! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

damn :(

*commits suicide* (like anyone cares anyway :p lol)Don't do it! It's hard as hell and you always regret it afterwards...

Lol...What enemies exactly?
Shall I draw up a list of names?

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)
You're not a "bored, disfunctional nerd." I've tried several of them, with limited success, over the years. The best of the lot, IMHO, is Match.com.

Aww :( I care! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:
Oh. Sorry. :headbang:

Anyhoo, suicide's actually not my thing. I'm too lazy, plus, i'm deathly afraid of death anyway. lol.

You're not a "bored, disfunctional nerd." I've tried several of them, with limited success, over the years. The best of the lot, IMHO, is Match.com.
Yeah, but they make you pay "subscription" if you wanna meet someone online :rolleyes: :(

damn capitalists. :p lol

I've actually joined several of those sites, mianly because I'm bored in combination with being desperate... But I only bother looking at peoples profiles that live withing the yeild of the public transport system. :p

Today i also found out that I might be dead, so I think I'm going to stop looking until I validate my vitality.

My problem is I loose interest as soon as the other person returns my affection. Hence why I don't set foot outside my front door without waving a cardboard cutout of myself a few dozen times.

Well, I found one that's free of charge. There are not as many for Ireland as there are for the US, so it's a bit tricky to find a free one.

Anyway, while I am hoping to meet somebody to get serious with, I don't really count on it in any way. But personally, I find it a lot easier to meet people and to talk to people online, because as somebody already pointed out, you get to know so much more about their personality when online then you would in the same time in real life. I don't know why that is... maybe just because people have to talk.

Anyhoo, suicide's actually not my thing. I'm too lazy, plus, i'm deathly afraid of death anyway. lol.
I guess if you could have just ONE deathly fear, that's the one to go with :rolleyes:

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

Yes. I met my wife on Match.com.

We regularly meet swingers on Adult Friend Finder.

On both, you have to filter out a lot of people, but compared to doing it by meeting people the old fashioned way and filtering them out, it's far faster and better.

I don´t know what kind of service you mean....

I've never tried one, but I have met everyone I've ever dated on-line. So I suppose you could consider "AOL Chat Room" as perhaps being the name of a service.

It's not something I would do. It just seems too impersonal to me.

Hey, I went on okcupid.com and four days later this girl came over and used me for sex. Awesome.

Way to lose my virginity.

Well, I met two girls that way, one was a disaster as we both had kinda padded out our online personas a bit and it didn't get any farther than a first meeting. The second actually led to a relationship for a couple of months.

Personally though I think that the temptation to lie a bit is too much on those sites.

Personally though I think that the temptation to lie a bit is too much on those sites.I think this is a fair comment. I referred earlier in this thread to the pyscho I met online - it wasn't through a dating site, but I think similar principles apply. The internet can be so anonymous that the temptation to exaggerate - or in some cases worse - can be high.

Having said that, I don't think it applies to everyone. As I've said, I met my long-term partner on one, and I also made another very good friend (though it was never going to lead to romance). I think it helps to correspond with the person in whom you're interested for a good while before you actually meet. Of course there are still no guarantees, but there is less risk of simply being gullible and naive than if you just met them after exchanging two emails or something.

Met two fantastic women via an online service and had very satisfying relationships. You get to know people for their personality first and find if you are compatible, instead of just going for looks. Which is why i was pleasantly surprised both were cute.

I have friends who have tried it with some success. I also have a friend who has no ability to screen out the "users" (people who are looking for a target they can control). She is very wealthy incidentally.

Anyway, I did see an interview about a book on the subject that may be helpful. "Online Dating for Dummies." It was written by a doctor and a lawyer who met and eventually married via one of those services. Apparently, there are some do's and don'ts. Who knew?

At times. Generally when I need to amuse myself by reading stuff by people even worse off than I am.

Fear me, I'm a dysfunctional nerd who DATES.

I doubt I qualify as a nerd, though I plan on turning in to one eventually. I've never really tried an online dating service. I did sign up a couple of places, 'cos a friend told me to, but I never checked back & can't remember the details anymore..

I can see why a dating service is useful, and perhaps even preferrable, if aren't in contact with a large number of people in daily life. I'd use one if my situation was like that.
I have met several people online who're now close friends. I've even gone to visit some of them & had a couple visit me (I'm talking about forigners here). So truely, there's nothing wrong with making friends or finding lovers online. It's just a means of communication, exactly like a telephone. Stigmatising it is silly.

Finding people to fall in love with is what makes life worth living. No need to think twice about it, "go" meet people right away.

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

I actually met my wife through a fan club she had started for folksinger Nanci Griffith. She advertised the fan club in Goldmine magazine, and a friend of mine brought the ad to my attention. After exchanging a few letters, we started calling each other on the phone, and then decided to meet. The fan club has since folded, but nine years later, we're still happily married. :fluffle:

... tried one of those online dating services?

O am I the only bored, disfunctional nerd here? ;)

I did. That's how I met my purdy lady. :)