Damn... Things like this suck
(Basically, any similar situations anyone wants to share?)
Today, I was able to get in touch with an old friend, through myspace. I was overjoyed, and still am, that I was able to talk to her again, after about 5 years of not hearing from her at all. I figured I still knew her pretty well.
What sucks, you ask? Well, reading her myspace, I found out she is basically my opposite religiously, politically, and drug-wise. And thats the only opposites I know of, so far.
I still really like her, even if I hate alot of what she believes. Which sucks. Why can't I have my cake and eat it too? ;)
Well, you'll have a lot to discuss since you're opposites. Doesn't mean you can't be friends.
Well, you'll have a lot to discuss since you're opposites. Doesn't mean you can't be friends.
I'm afraid that she will think less of me though, because I do things she doesn't approve of.
The Nazz
02-10-2005, 08:11
Maybe offering to "eat cake" will be the thread that binds you to each other. :D
Maybe offering to "eat cake" will be the thread that binds you to each other. :D
Well, she is a bit bigger than I had hoped ;)
(A. I know thats not what you meant.
B. She isn't really fat, and I do have high standards, so me saying this effectively says nothing
C. I bet she does like cake.
D. As a strong christian, I don't think the intended message would go down.
E. I wanted a nice, 5 letter post. Why am I in parenthesis?)
PasturePastry
02-10-2005, 08:22
It is possible to respect a person's beliefs and ideas without having to adopt them yourself. Could your anxiety stem from being unsure about how strong your own beliefs are?
Outer Munronia
02-10-2005, 08:23
dude, people (especially intellegent, thoughtful people) whos beliefs are the opposite of your own rule. argument is a fantastic way to examine and focus your own beliefs and discard the ones that don't turn out to survive scrutiny. plus, it's just interesting. don't let it bother you.
It is possible to respect a person's beliefs and ideas without having to adopt them yourself. Could your anxiety stem from being unsure about how strong your own beliefs are?
No, my anxiety comes from statements like "I don't hang out with stoners, because I don't approve of what they do". Its a rock and hard place situation.
Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely in a 17 year old girl? Probably not.
dude, people (especially intellegent, thoughtful people) whos beliefs are the opposite of your own rule. argument is a fantastic way to examine and focus your own beliefs and discard the ones that don't turn out to survive scrutiny. plus, it's just interesting. don't let it bother you.
Thats what people on NS are for, not real people :P
Grave_n_idle
02-10-2005, 08:27
Well, she is a bit bigger than I had hoped ;)
(A. I know thats not what you meant.
B. She isn't really fat, and I do have high standards, so me saying this effectively says nothing
C. I bet she does like cake.
D. As a strong christian, I don't think the intended message would go down.
E. I wanted a nice, 5 letter post. Why am I in parenthesis?)
You are deluded if you think judging someone on their weight is 'high standards'. You are putting yourself on something of a pedestal, my friend.
Oh, and you said "go down"... :D
PasturePastry
02-10-2005, 08:30
No, my anxiety comes from statements like "I don't hang out with stoners, because I don't approve of what they do". Its a rock and hard place situation.
Is it possible? Yes. Is it likely in a 17 year old girl? Probably not.
So, it sounds like you won't be getting stoned together. I think what I'm getting at here is looking at it from the point of what you can do rather than what you would like her to do. You have all the control over your own decisions. You have no control over hers. More importantly, how you feel about yourself is more important than how anyone else feels about you.
PasturePastry
02-10-2005, 08:32
dude, people (especially intellegent, thoughtful people) whos beliefs are the opposite of your own rule. argument is a fantastic way to examine and focus your own beliefs and discard the ones that don't turn out to survive scrutiny. plus, it's just interesting. don't let it bother you.
Especially religious arguments that center around how compassionate one's religion makes them. It's difficult to maintain that stance if you are going to be bashing the other person for their beliefs.
More importantly, how you feel about yourself is more important than how anyone else feels about you.
With BS like that, who needs lies?